LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn shares why she was glad to throw the parties for Jill and Victoria

on Jun 23, 20110

In this episode, you can see why they call a girl's sixteenth birthday the Sweet 16! Victoria was so enthusiastic and easy going while we planned this party. Victoria's poise and grace is unusual in someone so young. I was very proud of her.

I never had a Sweet 16 party for myself, so it was fun to plan this party with Victoria. She's an incredible girl who appreciates the things that I do for her and the years have just flown by.

I thought Jill and Jill's lawyer sister, Lisa, gave Sonja great financial advice and they did it in a way and at time when Sonja could take it in and I hope it was helpful to Sonja. As for Jill's facelift, I now understand why they say no pain, no gain! Ouch. Jill looks fabulous.

Chez Josephine was a great choice for Jill's birthday party because it's theatrical, red and opulent! Our objective when planning this soiree was for Jill to be surrounded by her family and friends and for her to have a great time, which I think she did. Ramona's impression of Jill was over the top and pretty funny, but I don't think Jill thought so. I guess she couldn't resist once she had the red wig on her head. I loved Bobby's toast to Jill, which was brief and heartfelt.

I wasn't upset that Avery's party was the same night as Victoria's because they have different sets of friends and the party was for Victoria, not for me.

45 comments
Viewer90812
Viewer90812

I loved victoria's dress! Where did she get the one she ended up wearing to the party???

New Yorker
New Yorker

Oh Luann,

I bet filming is all wrapped up for this season so I do not want you to worry too much about this. In time you will have the chance to repair the damage.

But next season you should be more careful about appearing so unkind toward others. Yes it is true that Ramona is very successful and the obvious star of the show. But that does not mean that you cannot shine, too.

Try to find things you like about yourself and focus on those traits. Bashing others to make yourself feel good is unbecoming...not to mention a very questionable tactic.

We all understand you have had a trying year. Who has not? But your ugly attitude is inappropriate. Be you. Be happy. Be kind. Think of ways to show the you that is pleasant.

If you need guidance ask Sonja or Alex for help. They have a lot of wisdom to share and they are always kind to people who need assistance in navigating relationships.

Jill and Kelly mean well. But they are definitely not good at figuring out polite society.

Keep your chin up, Luann. You can turn this around.

Sara Beamer
Sara Beamer

You are my favorite on this show. You do have class and I just love watching you be you. You come out as a very strong and independent person. I enjoyed your music video with Jill and Kelly. It's a fun and upbeat video and it's too bad the others didn't partake in it. I would also like to say I think you're a terrific Mom!

ejoy390
ejoy390

An older southern woman told me one time," A bird don't fly so high what it don't have to lite sometime". I often thing about that saying when I think about you...

Ruth L
Ruth L

You seem like you are actually a very nice lady; but it appears that you are seeking a unique identity. Unfortunately, the one you have picked paints you as a supercilious etiquette hall monitor. Etiquette is is supposed to facilitate civility, not to substantiate nitpicking and making others uncomfortable ... despite all of the liberal "dahlings" and air kisses. As a Southern lady, I am uncomfortable watching you, as you don't seem either very gracious or well-mannered. I can't imagine that this is what you intended, so I wish you all the best in finding your balance.

wowwy
wowwy

Not sure if you are watching the same show. I think you are the one that needs to stay out of people's business. You may think bad about Ramona and Alexis, but at least they are real and will approach you with a problem instead of bad mouthing you behind your back.

concerned parent
concerned parent

Thank you for being an example of how a Lady should act in all situations. You have faced some real interesting ones this past season. As a mother of a recent teen - I truly appreciated your ability and focus to ensure the Sweet Sixteen party was appropriate and centered on the guest of honor. Please continue to use your "Cotillion Position" (which is the same one I learned) - smile, sit/stand demurely, listen intently, do not let any emotion show (per se'), and never, ever let them know what you are actually thinking.

PaulainVa
PaulainVa

Loved both of the girl's sweet 16 parties. Both were different in vibe and feel, as are both the girls; and I think the parties were a reflection of each one's personality and family dynamic. That they were on the same night should not have been an issue to anyone. It's about them . . . not the adults. However, I do not agree with your assessment of Bobby's intervention with Mario - pretty hamhanded and inarticulate. What was it that he actually said? What is it with you people with wives going to other wives about their husband's words/deeds, and husbands going to other husbands about the same? When I have an issue with someone, I raise it to that individual; if not at that precise moment, then when it is appropriate. Noone, including a spouse/girlfriend, should be going to battle for you. Bobby's odd little speech was no different/better than Alex going to you about your treatment of Ramona. This entire dynamic is a little juvenile, and one of the primary causes of discord amongst all the women (calling them "housewives" seems odd, as Simon pointed out last episode). Speak for yourselves, ladies, and do it sooner rather than later.

Not a Fan
Not a Fan

While not a big 'fan' of any of the New York "ladies", I must say Luann has clearly done a wonderful job of raising her daughter. Her daughter truly exhibits "CLASS"

Team Luann
Team Luann

Always a Lady Luann !! I'm so glad you told off Alex she needs to mind her own businees and stop trying to act like she does not wrong. Your daughters party and dress were brilliant !!! Kudos you you for being the great mom that you are it shows !!

Chris in Florida
Chris in Florida

You, Jill and Kelly are definitly birds of a feather, flocking together! That's not necessarily a good thing! You need to get outside of yourselves and NYC more often.

Eclipse
Eclipse

Loved your parties, they were chic and hip, especially Jill's birthday venue.

TPDJ
TPDJ

I love you, stay strong and fierce,

deeharvey
deeharvey

I really love you this season.

Diane Lyzen
Diane Lyzen

Hi LuAnn! I just want to comment on Alex! I loved when you said she had Frankenstein shoes! That was so unexpected from you and a real laugh out loud moment! You handle these situations extremely well. You state the facts and remain calm. Alex was very ungrateful to you after you invited her to Morocco. What a wonderful, once-in-lifetime experience! I do not like Alex at all and I don't know how or why she got on this show! Where did she come from? And Simon? Where in God's green earth did he come from? Keep up the great work Luann! I have great respect for you!

Hanna Saleh
Hanna Saleh

You are a real woman! LuAnn, you attitude , your way of life, the way you carry yourself has changed the way I see life. I have gradualy changed from a little girl to a real woman... Thank you! Keep up whatever you are doing because it has a positif impact.. Tu es la femme ideale!!!

bakerygirl
bakerygirl

gee, i must be watching a different luanne than everyone else..alex is right about you.

Lady K
Lady K

LuAnn you did a fabulous job on both parties honestly! Too bad you couldn't throw Avery's party too because from what was shown on the show it seemed like an adult party for Ramona's friends. Speaking of Ramona please ignore her negative comments. Keep being the great person that you are. Oh yeah before I forget ignore Alex!

miami viewer
miami viewer

the dig at ramona's sweet 16 party about having adults at the party was SO uncalled for, you call that grace? Bethany was right when she called you out, you are a snake! and you were SO incredibly rude with Alex, it looks like you women only go on the show to put each other down, at least the others don't pretend to be etiquette queens, you are toxic and dysfunctional!

Nick88
Nick88

I would be so grateful if someone could tell me the brand/designer of the the glasses one woman at LuAnn's daughter's sweet 16 party had on...they were black frames with gradient violet or grey lenses, kind of retro 1950's design.. thanks

Texas Girl
Texas Girl

Luann I just have to complement you on the wonderful job you have done in raising your daughter. She is beautiful, gracious and carries her self with such class, I just love watching her interact with you...it's awesome, great job!

YLR in Texas
YLR in Texas

Your daughter is a beautiful, young well mannered girl and I love how thankful she was for her party and did not act like a spoiled brat. Good job to you for raising such a wonderful girl!

Walt's Wife
Walt's Wife

Your daughter is beautiful. Though this episode highlighted your daughther both of your children are gorgeous. You're a stunning looker too.

girlluvspalms
girlluvspalms

LuAnn- How disappointing for a fan to watch you call out Alex for speaking for Ramona in Morroco after the Jill and Ramona fall out. Honey, hit the rewind button because I seem to recall that you did the EXACT SAME thing to Ramona and spoke for Jill after their falling out at Ramona's party. Seriously LuAnn?

Can't you women be real and stop for a minute to realize that you are wrong on occassion?

Amy from Nebraska
Amy from Nebraska

Loved both parties! New York would be a great place for a sweet sixteen or surprise party of any kind!

lynnipye
lynnipye

I agree with Kelly, Victoria is a very special young lady. Good job.

zocola
zocola

I love the way that you handle yourself. You are so lucky to be you. You are so generous with yourself and your friends and family.

 HOUSEWIFE IN THE COUNTRY
HOUSEWIFE IN THE COUNTRY

What lovely parties! You were a wonderful hostess for both your daughter and your friend. You made each party about the birthday girl and not about yourself.

miami housewife
miami housewife

LuAnn loved both parties!! You could tell the guests sincerely enjoyed themselves.

Aine05
Aine05

LuAnn, I loved the talk you had with Alex. She seems to want to get in the middle of everyone's business. I am reminded of last season with Bethenny. She should really focus on her own life and not try to get in the middle of everything. It is amazing she has become the best of friends with the two people who made fun of her in the beginning. You are a great mom to your kids and Victoria had a great party! Keep being you and a good friend to Jill!

jennifersays
jennifersays

You are one wonderful mother and a wonderful friend!

Rachelk
Rachelk

Loved the party at Chez Josephine!!

maryg brooklyn
maryg brooklyn

You did a great job on both parties, everyone had fun! Thumbs up to you LuAnn! I wish I had a friend like you!

viewer
viewer

LuAnn you are always such a gracious host and wonderful friend! Jill loved the party! And you are the wonderful mom!

pinotgrigio
pinotgrigio

luann just have to say your outfit for jills party was hot and you look fierce! Team luann! keeping it classy .

southernviewer
southernviewer

LuAnn-the full hypno session could not be shown on television-some viewers may have went under-DUH!!!!!

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

I adore you, LuAnn. I think you're the epitome of grace & poise, and it's obvious you're raising your daughter to be the same. I think you're getting a bad rap this season. I, actually, think you've handled much of the craziness better than I would've! I also think many of the posters, if put in the same situations as you've been put into, would've reacted the same if not worse....so don't listen to them when they bash you for acting as a normal person would. If Alex had confronted ME the way that she did you, I would have told her to kiss my a*s!!!! I know the reunion was taped yesterday...I hope you & Jill gave Alex & Ramona a few good verbal slaps! They need it!

Car Day
Car Day

Your daughter's Sweet 16 was great.

Courtney L
Courtney L

Your daughter is so gorgeous!!! She is a very lucky girl to have such a cool mom like you!

Tatyana
Tatyana

Lu ann I love you but honestly I would be extreamly scared to be around you because evrything has to be perfect with you and I'm not perfect and in fact I dont think anyone is. I'm really sorry if my typing isent perfect

LuvsU
LuvsU

LuAnn, You are such a GREAT MOM! I'm sure your daughter loved her party. You behaved as a Mother who puts her children FIRST should! So Cheers to you. And by the way. As always you showed great class with your boyfriend last week!

EMAY
EMAY

The party you threw for Jill was very nice. A belated Happy Birthday to Victoria.

MIddie
MIddie

First of all, your daughter's party was fantastic. You could tell how much she appreciated you hosting the party for her and allowing her to have a party for her and her friends and not for adults. Good going, Mom!!!

Also, you are being too kind to Ramona. Her "impression of Jill wasn't funny and she didn't mean it to be funny. It was nasty. It was Pure Ramona.

BTW - SPOT ON comment regarding Bobby. He is a gracious gentleman and truly loves JIll. Some of the other men on the NYC show could learn some manners from Bobby.

A Sane Person
A Sane Person

Based on the footage, I thought Victoria's party rocked! You made it about her and you weren't competing with anyone else's party!

I was very impressed wtih Bobby, Jill's husband. He is a true man! His encounter with Simon was non-confrontational, succinct and clear, and he put Simon on notice. It was lovely that he said he was there to protect Jill. Simon is a piece of work. On a women's show, what kind of man blogs about cast members? Doesn't he have anything better to do, like work? I somehow think that his new business venture is not going to succeed.