I feelo you should never take LuAnn's advice. She says she stays out of dramam but she stirs so much of it up. Tomtell someone to confront a situation at a mbirthdaynparty, where it's the birthday's girl brother is lookinf for trouble for sure. Ramona you speak your mind, yes a little quirky at times but your real and thatbis whatbnis important.

Ramona,

You looked upset tonight. Felt so bad for you. Just keep being you. Everyone loves you.

Apple Pie

Ramona,

It is very hard loosing someone. I know this because I just lost my sister in December from leukemia. Many people that never felt this pain just don't get it. They have that luxury. But thank you for sharing. I know exactly what you mean. You are a very honest and sincere woman with a big heart. Keep being you!

Hmmm,first of all Ramona, maybe her brother was smoking as a tribute to your friend. Not everyone acts of feels the same when someone dies. We have all lost people we love and getting thur it is really hard. I lost both my parents when I was only 23, I recently lost my brother in law to a teenager texting and coming across the yellow line hitting him head on. I get angry everytime I see anyone texting and driving. I just think you have to learn when and where to fight your battles. Luann's kids seem fine to me. she isn't leaving them alone all week. She has to have some time for herself and if they were little, I could understand your concern. They are teenagers, and are prob. doing their own thing and enjoy her when she is home. Avery seems to want her space too. Whose to say you aren't crowding her...Unless you are seeing abuse of a child, never tell another parent how to be a parent. You wouldn't like it, and Luann clearly loves her children, but she has to have a life or she is going to be really alone when they leave home. Look how you feel about Avery going to college and you have a husband to spend your time with. Give Luann a chance to be happy too.

Ramona you are a wonderful woman, wife and mother. I am amazed that the others cannot see that. I thought Cindy's brother was a wimp for not taking a few minutes to talk to you. Then Cindy had to come over and defend her wimpy brother. You are the bigger person for putting this behind you. The next time you go to a party, just bring your own wine. I am sure it is better than anything they are serving because you have good taste!

Your comments to the countess were harsh but if you had started the conversation with "You know Avery is going away soon ( 2 years from now) and I thought you could help me" bla bla bla it would have gone better but you sounded very judgemental. Her Children have turned out amazing so who are you to Judge. I think she is doing a remarkable job and has come through her ordeal stellar.

Ramona; I really like you; you are passionate and full of life and I think people misunderstand you; you want to clear the air with Cindy's brother I don't think you meant any harm; so you called the Countess out; maybe she needs to be?

Keep rockin!

Love you! Your a little chaotic but thats why i love you! You go girl!

Ramona I was glad to see that you wanted to try to make amends and try to get him to understand where you were coming from. I agree that what he said to you at the wedding was very disrespectful and I felt he was like saying "in your face" but also the gf was rude to give hime the cigar in the first place. As far as the other ladies.....WOW!!! they talk the talk but never walk the walk. Luann is definitely coming off prudish this season and Sonja is becoming a snob. Please tell Luann she needs to read her own book because she is just as classless as she claims you are.....just sayin'

Ramona you need to talk with your friend wife about the cigar she the only one that should matter if someone smoke them they were her husbane an she did not mine giving theme to her new man period

I do believe that you were actually upset about the loss of your friend and that those tears were genuine. However, that was not the time or place to bring any of it up. Also, I think you and Kelly need to settle your issues. She mentioned in her blog sending you hand written notes to meet at her place, why didnt you take her up on that offer? Its better you settle your issues off camera.

Ramona, it is easy to see why you got so emotional and kept going on and on trying to be understood and heard, and it is easy to understand that you were being blunt and to the point suddenly out of nowhere with Luanne about her children ...and I could even understand that you were fed up with that strange party at the horse ranch. I dont think Cindy fits in with the housewives and I find her comments and behaviors ....and choices....odd. You are the best and I really enjoy so much seeing you with Mario and Avery....such a sweet family!

Ramona,

I haven't always been your biggest supporter, but as the seasons have progressed and I've gotten used to your......"unique" personality, I have to say that your most endearing quality is your inability to "mask" your emotions. When you're upset, you're upset and you let people know. You don't paint a smile on your face and wait until the camera's are rolling to say something rude and snarky behind your co-star's back. I really respect that about you.

I agree with Cindy that her birthday party was not the place to do this, but given that all these months have passed and her brother still has not acknowledged the pain he's caused you kind of tells me a little about his character.

Stay strong and know that when the cameras stop rolling you have a wonderful life. A loving husband, a beautiful (well adjusted) intelligent daughter, and a (real) career.

-John

Ka-doos to you Ramona for all you deal with :) You're a delight. I look forward to seeing you in action every week. I enjoy hearing your individual interviews and reading your blog because you're a straight shooter and speak from the heart - instead of making mean comments in an attempt to be witty. I'm SO glad you and Alex are on the show so there are real women that call things like they are!!

LOL, Ramona! I read Luanne's blog before I read yours and that is exactly what I told her in my comment. Your paragraph three is just what I told her, almost word for word. Too funny! Great minds think alike, and I totally agree with your perspective on raising teenagers! That is when they need our guidance the most!

You're an inspiration to all women! I "get" you!

ramona, i'm so sorry. i don't know why kelly and luann are so angry at you. you are my favorite housewive and now i also love cindy. you're both the most down-to-earth, businesswomen, and confident. all the other girls lack these qualities. i wonder whether you are getting a bad rap for having accepted alex into your circle...

Ramona, we (your fans) love you. Don't worry about Cindy or her brother. Hopefully, we won't even see them next season!

Ramona

You need to learn some tact . For all the advice you give you need to listen to it yourself. There is a time and place to do things Dont blame LuAnn you are a big girl and the world does not revolve around you

Ramon, Cindy's brother said not at this moment. All you had to do was call him later. You do not listen, evething has to be your way or the high way. Please leave Luann alone, you are a fifty something year old woman who blames somone for giving you good advise, but the way you delivered it, is not the right way. Hope you will learn , but it looks like it is always somone's fault.

my mom is a lot like you, a person who wears her emotion on her sleeves and must deal with them at the time she needs to deal with them, or else. I know you're a bit set in your ways, but this isn't the way to go. You really do say rude things to people sometimes, and for you it is what it is, but for other people, it just makes them not want to be around you. Cindy's brother didn't want to deal with you at the moment because he's seen first hand how you can say things that aren't very nice, and he didn't want to have to deal with another rude commen, so he just said he didn't want to have the conversation. The same thing with Kelly, she didn't want to talk to you in front of her child because she knew you can say things without even thinking about it first. This is NOT okay, and there's no excuse for continuing to behave that way. Being on a reality show gives you the unique opportunity to see yourself from an outside perspective. Take the things that are good, and leave behind the things that are bad. Saying things outloud just because you "feel" them is bad, but choosing to say only courteous things to people around you because it's better to say something nice or than something rude is good. I know you're not a bad person Ramona, just like my mom. she's quite possibly one of the sweetest women in the world- when you're able to get past the rude comments she'll say to you just because it's what she was feeling at the time.

I feel so bad for you this season. You really have no one in your corner this season except Alex, thank goodness you have her. With bethenny on the show she often had your back and would shut the other women down when they would start badmouthing you, without her this season it seems the claws are out and everyone is full attack on you. Hang in there, your tough as nails I know you can get thru this and show them what a real woman is made of. :) Always my favorite, hope you heal in time over the loss of Jeff, it takes awhile.

Boy, Cindy is not a very good friend to you- the way she talks about you behind your back. Sometimes emotions and pain don't make sense to anyone else... I agree, teenagers need to be supervised especially when they are prone to sneak out of the house at night. ;)

Ramona why did you listen to LuAnn, you should have known better.Also you came into the party looking for your pinot grigio wine.You should have just had whatever they were serving.

Ramona: I am sure that Jeff was a wonderful person as you say. Perhpas, it was in poor taste for Howie to broadcast that he smoked Jeff's cigars. Nevertheless, the fact that Howie enjoyed them is a testament to Jeff's good taste in cigars. Also, I am sure that Jeff would want the cigars enjoyed rather than lying a box some place. Stay positive. Love you in Georgia.

I am sorry. You seemed confrontational at the party and even when he asked you to talk another time, you were still insistent on him hearing you out. A birthday party for a friend was not the best place to hash this out. You went over the line and you were acting crazed. Cindy handled you like people handle people in a mental hospital. She spoke to you in a nice tone. Someone else would have cursed you out and sent you packing for that type of prima donna behavior. We get that you miss and loved your friend, but you have taken things too far. Get over yourself and get on with living. I hope by now you have gotten past this. You were the one acting self-centered. What you said and what you meant to Luann came out in two different ways. What works for you works for you and what works for her is what works for her. To say that someone is a "Weekend Mom" sounds like a swipe. If what you meant was how does she handled the separation time, it came out in a judgemental way. But you apparently you still don't think you said anything wrong, judging from your blog. You need to think before you speak because some of the things you say to people are very hurtful.

Yes, you did dig at Luanne's parenting skills. You have to realize that just because you do things one way doesn't mean that everyone must follow suit or be wrong.

At Cindy's party, it wasn't that Luanne's suggestion was bad. It's the way you went about it. When Cindy's brother said he didn't want to discuss it right then, you should have let it go. You have to realize when is the right time to bring things up. Just as you brought up the issue with Luanne's ex-husband being an old man in front of her daughter. Just because you think something doesn't mean you have to say it. And if you must say it, then at least wait until you are alone with the other person.

Ramona, I love you but you need to chill out and just let stuff go. Who cares what her brother did. He wasn't rubbing it in your face and if that's the way you took it, then don't. Maybe that was his way of celebrating his friends death. Really you need to chill out and quit letting stuff get to you. You're much better than that.

Not your best side Romona...Eeek! this episode was sure hard to watch at times...I know we're in for the drama but learn to pick your battles and one should try to be a good guest.

Ramona, I am a fan of yours but you do need to take it down a notch and relax. You were in the Hamptons for a beautiful weekend. Take a deep breath and listen to others when they say not now. Totally agree with you about Cindy's party, the horseback riding looked so lame. Don't blame you for getting off the horse quickly. Cindy thinks it's her way or the highway.

While LuAnn did give you the advice to speak with him at the party, she did not tell you to chase him like a puppy or five year old child demanding his attention on a subject he clearly did not want to speak about at that particular moment. Whether he was in the wrong for avoiding you or not, he may be more willing to speak with you about the subject in the future if you act more rationally and take the hint (or the fact that he flat out told you numerous times to stop) and plan a meeting, or simple phone call. You can not blame her for the advice on how the situation went.

well Ramona, I guess you learned that you probably should have let the cigar thing go a while ago. We can't expect anyone to behave the way we wish they would or how we do....we can only control ourselves. yes it was hurtful but i know you can move past it and not even let it bother you again. as for LuAnn and her kid situation.......I think you meant well but it did sort of come off as a criticism....what is good for you may not be good for others. so enjoy your time with Avery (i understand, my twin girls will go away to college in 2yrs as well) and don't worry about others. ;-)

Ramona, I am so sorry for your loss. I had a great friend who took his life and the guilt and sadness can be so overwhelming. You and your friend Jeff are in my thoughts and prayers!

Not your finest moments, but I understand where you are coming from. To me you are the most real of the New York ladies. You say it, then think about it. But that's you, and all the ladies know it. The back talking must be hard. For what it's worth, I didn't think you meant anything negative about Luanne's living arrangements. You are the most real of the bunch. I also like Alex and Simon, and Bethenny. Keep your chin up. Team Ramona!

Ramona I just want to say that I love your quirkiness it really makes the show entertaining. However I really do think you let your emotions get the best of you when confronting cindys brother. Her brother was right when he said "not now" being his elderly parents were sitting there, you should of said no problem let's talk soon. Instead you made it an uncomfortable and awkward scene and embarrassed yourself. In my opinion what makes a great friend or associate is being kind even when you dont have to.

Ms. Ramona, this fan loves you and I can see you have a good heart. I think Howie should listen to you, he was very callous about the cigar but maybe if he knew how much Jeff meant to you he could see how he came off as a jerk. If he were a reasonable person I believe he would 1) listen (obviously you cared about this person and he is not acknowledging your feelings. 2) He would see were you are coming from and apologize. So far, I am not feeling Cindy, however, Cindy has the darkest hair. I am curious how Cindy and Jill scenes will play out. Also, Ramona, Luann is no one real friend, she cold hearted discriminating oops. Much love to you. You have earned your right to party.

This blog was right on point. You should not feel bad about what you said to LuAnn. Like you said, it is her own guilt and embarassment talking....she knows her living situation is not best for her kids. That is why she got offended. You are so BLUNT and you hold NO punches. Good for you. I find that refreshing!

Ramona- I love you! You are so sweet and genuine and I completely understand the things you do and say. Although many of them are misconstrued by others, I know you are reacting to things from your past for the most part. Sometimes you are just trying to give back what the others give you- judgments and other comments. This will not work though and unfortunately will confuse things more.

I hope you take this as a suggestion of pure friendship. Please find a great therapist and talk a lot of this stuff out with him or her. It is very good to have a completely unbiased person to bounce things off of and they can help you think of strategies to deal with this group and not be so reactive emotionally. Therapy is not for crazy people, but for those who want to find a better way to handle people and emotions. You are an emotional person (as am I) and I think the rest of the women use this as a weapon against you. You need to fight back, but not using their tactics- instead from a place of peaceful strength. I know you can find this- just give this idea a try and see if it doesn't help. You owe it to yourself- you are truly a genuine person.

Good luck with all you do- xx Kiki13

I LOVE YOU!!!!!!! you are my favorite. I am going to buy some Ramona Pinot Grigio......brilliant business move. You really are on your game in that area. You are honest and to the point. I love it when so many are vague and put on masks like they are royalty.....hmmm hmmph. Don't stop being you......you, Sonja, and Alex are making the show for me this season. Can't wait.

Ramona, do not blame Luann for your actions. Mind your own business, who made you judge and jury on being a mom? Leave Kelly alone give her space and you two can eventually work on the future.. RESPECT!

BRING HER OWN WINE? THAT'S RAMONA'S BIGGEST PROBLEM IN MY EYES THOS SEASON! SHE CAN'T HANDLE WHAT SHE IS DRINKING AND EVERYONE GETS IT SIDEWAYS! GO TO THESE EVENTS SOBER, EAT SOMETHING AND THEN A LITTLE WINE...YOU'LL BE MORE WELL RECEIVED AND BETTER UNDERSTOOD!

Ramona, from what I've seen of you on RHONY, you're not a very nice person. You're constantly are trying to stir up drama, gossip, pass judgments and make everyone else's business yours. I'm not sure why you don't focus more of your energy on your hundred businesses or as you say, the "love of your life", your daughter. I would think that you would want to set a far better example for your her other than frolicking around starting drama everywhere you go. Sonja mentioned that she has known you for over 20 years which wasn't surprising to me at all. For someone to be friends with a women like Sonja for that long would have to be as shallow and self centered as she is. I really hope that you try to work on yourself and be a better, more open minded individual instead of the close minded, judgmental and harsh person that you are on this show.

Ramona,

If these women where your true friends they would suggest you and Sonia attend a couple of AA meetings. It is quite apparent that the both of you are alcoholics. Try a couple of meetings and see for yourselves.

ramona - you really should be ashamed of your behavior at times. you are a classic narcissist and cannot understand anyone's point of view but your own. you deceive yourself when you say all you are doing is speaking the truth; you are actually being rude, hurtful and intentional and then attack someone else if they are rightfully upset with your inappropriate remarks. i actually believe you intend to hurt people, but maybe you are just intoxicated. you need help with your drinking, especially when it causes behavior that is regrettble.

You can't blame Luann. You have to judge for yourself if it is an appropriate moment for a delicate conversation. Cindy's party might have been the perfect time had you caught Howie off to himself, rather than holding the arm of his 85 year old father. When he indicated it was not a good time, you should have said, "well I'll call you for lunch then", in a friendly manner. Hindsight is 20-20, but you shouldn't blame Luann! Also, you could learn a lot from watching yourself and your patterns of behavior -- learn and grow instead of deny, deny!

Ramona you really need to watch the episodes carefully and take notes on your behavior. You are like a five year old child who has not learned to think before speaking. To keep on and on after Cindy's brother about needing to talk about the cigar thing when he clearly did not want to talk was just plain crazy! His sister's party was obviously NOT the place to bring it up. It was like someone needed to slap you to get you finally get it. You complain about the lack of you r favorite wine, about how much food there is, really? Do you not know that is just plain rude? Just follow the old saying, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!

Hi Ramona! I have an eye out for your wine; it hasn't made it out here yet :( Love ya!!

I have to agree with what you are saying about our teenagers. They do need to know their parents are home for them. Parents need to be reliable not three and half hours away. For several nights every week. Teenagers are at a scary age. It wasn't that long ago I was a teenager. And if it wasn't for my dad who passed away when I was 24 I would not be a successful woman that I am today. I always knew he was there to answer his phone for me any time. The good times and the bad. Imagine if he wasn't there when I called him for help. Where would I be right now? And thank god for all that my mom did for me to. I am greatfull that I had both of my parents at that scary time in my life.

Ramona, from your blog it makes sense that you were inquiring to seek perspective if you are spending enough time with Avery although with the editing from Bravo it presents that you just barged in and started drilling Luann on her schedule with her kids(I thought it was because you were going to confront her why she did not go to your award dinner) Anyhow, I think when LuAnn offered advise she was just stating that it is feeling between you and this brother and it should not be made from a mole to a mountain...with that being said when asked you that this is not the time or place you should of just walked away....it just made you look bad with the parents being present. It is not right what he did but opportunities present itself and I am sure with your social calendar there would of been another place another time. Again as you stated karma comes back and he will get it. So just move on...Do not take it out on Luann I truly think she comes from a good place.

I don't think this will be posted as none of the ones I make are. But I will try again. I don't think there is any reason to continue to try to make things right with Kelly. She seems to be so unsure of herself and relies on people like Cindy and Jill to make her choices for her. Stick with Alex and Sonja and you will be fine. I think many are jealous that you make your own money and don't need anyone to take care of yourself. Good luck with all your ventures!!