Sonja Morgan

Sonja shares the truth about the marriage march, her fight with Alex, and her portrait.

on Apr 14, 20110

Oh my! I'm watching Episode 2 and my palms are sweating! Where you hardly saw me first episode there is too much of me in this episode! I'm sick of myself already and the season just began!

Alex and Simon were so keyed up on this single charity event out of so many that we all support in so many different ways. Sometimes you speak. Sometimes you send cash, food, clothes, toys. Sometimes you just lend your name, or your mailing list. Sometimes you go to a charity to show support for the host, and, of course, the charity is always No. 1. This goes without saying.

Let's be honest, my dear friend Alex has had her knickers in a twist about this charity event since Ramona's rooftop party, then at the wedding in Southampton, then when we are getting ready together at my home. She's acting like the head of the organization! I finally had to say, "Now it's about me." When the girls were zipping my dress, doing my hair, and giving me pep talks and she was like a broken record with the same advertisement. I was a nervous wreck. I wanted to make a speech that made MENY, the marchers, and all who showed up for the cause feel inspired.

Marriage Equality of NY did not cancel Simon after booking him to speak. I would never muscle someone out, and push my way in. Not my style. He was NOT speaking when MENY first asked me to speak in the spring, and they made that clear to me when I asked who I would be slated to speak with and who my company was. They told me that I would be the only one from our show. MENY had let me know that Alex planned on marching and that Jill would be on the printed materials. They had said they would be happy if I marched, but it was not necessary.

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Jady
Jady

Kudos! What a neat way of thiinkng about it.

lovetheladiesofnewyork
lovetheladiesofnewyork

Sonja- Please doesn’t make the mistake Jill did after Season 1 in letting the show and fame go her head. You rock girl! I love your human spirit and never change that. Thank You for being the Grand Marshal in the Equality Parade it shows you really give to great causes.

The argument with Alex that lead you to throwing her out of your home was totally class-less act. While editing didn’t allow viewers to see the entire argument it was clear Alex pointed out the truth which it seemed hard for you to hear. The day was not about you, which seemed to be what you made it when you told the Equality Parade Development Team that you wanted to be the only one to speak from your group. It would not hurt anyone to let Simon speak for few minutes. Alex never asked any more than just a few minutes for her husband to speak on something he feels passionate about. If the shoe was on the other foot I am sure you would feel the same as Alex.

CuriousMe
CuriousMe

Sonya, this day wasn't about you. As a lesbian and big supporter of gay marriage, you were so disappointing. People make mistakes, I hope you make up for this one as the season goes on.

Kerrie G
Kerrie G

Sonja had a speach prepared until Alex came to her house before the MENY March. Then the notes mysteriously dissapeared off her dresser......hmmmm.

Gigi Roger
Gigi Roger

you got it right. sonya on the attack and luanne siding without hearing from both sides.

starlett 2011
starlett 2011

I just wanna say that Sonya I am a huge fan. You have a great fun personality and good since of humar. You really add something diffrent to the show. Regardless to the diffrences with Alex. I am from Indianapolis,Indiana you have fans here....lol

Miss. Jinny
Miss. Jinny

Sonja

Why did you do that, I need a favorite Housewife since Bethany is gone! I appreciated your class, tact and ability last year to make light of the insanity. Maybe you shouldn't hang out with Kelly to much,..It might be catching. I really think Alex has a good heart and seems a little out of her element when she is around you girls. It appeared that you had a little to much to drink and that it was not an appropriate time for you to speak on a subject that had already annoyed you. That is drinking 101. So, I guess this time you can "Blame it on the Alcohol".

lexay
lexay

I loved the red boots you were wearing at the spa. Where can I find them? Please share!

THEOC
THEOC

TEAM SONJA- So love you!!!!!!!

Adele K
Adele K

You know, GabbyB, your comment shows who is the real lady on this whole issue: YOU are! Thank you for your gracious remarks. You set a good example for the rest of us, including all the cast members of RHONY!

Nancy brown
Nancy brown

Sonja- I adore your look and you always look fab. What is the name and color of the pink lipstick you wear. You wore a beautiful shade while talking to Alex in your yoga clothes and the black fur hat. You looked stunning as usual. Please share the lipstick info! Thanks! Muah!!

IHeartART
IHeartART

It is already in the can, as they say, but I hope the outcome of your talk with Alex is much better than the promo implies. Sonja, take to heart what your many fans are saying. Alex may be a bit too straight forward for your taste, but that doesn't change that you were wrong. It is getting you more screen time, but ask yourself if there isn't a better way for next season. That episode had my stomach in knots rather than it being a guilty pleasure.

Aloha808
Aloha808

Find a much more talented painter! That portrait did not do you justice.

Chyna G.
Chyna G.

Completely disagree with you, I think Alex repeated the confrontation to Simon accurately on the phone, while Sonja's version was made to make her seem like she was the one being attacked. I think LuAnn is wishy washy, says one thing and then says another when with that person.

Leigh Perkins
Leigh Perkins

I really liked you. I thought finally we have someone funny and fun. Then I watched you on this episode. You are still fun to watch but this ones on you girl!! Come on!! Really??

Pati
Pati

Sonja, Really???? You and Alex are BOTH self absorbed egomanical women. YOU however, are much more adept in the art of manipulation. Not a compliment my dear. You are devious, not intelligent. You are superficial, not gracious. You are not even bright enough to develop your own "signature style". Stop trying to channel Barbra Streisand. You haven't even one iota of her charm, charisma, style or grace. You ought to be mortified and oh soooooo embarrassed. I doubt that you are.

SuziqATX
SuziqATX

Wow, what happened from season one to season two? You are like a totally different person. You can spin this episode in your mind and on your blog however you like, but, you were seriously out of line with Alex at your party. Who treats a "friend" like that? You were being passive agressive and had every intention of upseting Alex with your "Simon...is that his name" comment. Really Sonja, you are fooling no one but yourself...and maybe LuAnn.

Baltimore
Baltimore

Okay what happened between last season and this season that has you gunning for Alex now? Something must have happened. You've got it in for her. Go back to being the person you were in your first season. You are very likeable, kind and compassionate. Now you are just meanspirited, egotistical and manipulative. I think it's your dark side coming out. Just go towards the light, Sonja... Go towards the light....

Lilythesnowcone
Lilythesnowcone

Sonja:

I had really good impression of you last season. However, I feel that you have your true self revealing slowly now. The event was not about you at all, Alex is right, it is about marriage equality. The fact that you kicked Simon out of his speaking spot just so that you could speak is really selfish and arrogant. I think the viewers all know what is going on right now: you kicked Simon out of the spot, Alex tries to talk to you so that you admit you are wrong at NOT LETTING OTHER PEOPLE TO SPEAK. You know the truth too, that is why you insist on them being rude or talking at the wrong time, meanwhile starting your own drama at your own party so that you could make Alex feel bad. First of all, you wanted to talk to Alex initially. Secondly, you never gave Alex a chance to speak, instead, you raise your voice first to create a drama, so that you could kick Alex out with the accusation of rude manners. Alex was all calm and trying to speak to you, I say she has a better manner than you do. Sonja, an event not about you is not that scary. Stop creating a drama and making everyone look bad so that you could get the good fame and reputation. You own Alex an apology.

so cal
so cal

Sonja, this one's on you. You clearly stated that the MENY event was "all about me today", and then you were the one who brought it up at your party and basically were rude to your guest from the moment she walked in the door. You think you are artful at steering away from the truth, but you are, in fact, a bully and you need to look at your own behavior. Your "spin" on events is so far from the truth, I am frightened for your sanity. Please, please get with a therapist to review the films, and learn to tell the truth before it is too late, darling.

ADDICTEDhousewife:)
ADDICTEDhousewife:)

You are beautiful, and offer so much glamour and class to the show, despite getting into a brawl every time you are with Alex. Does she have to be in all your scenes? :(

nan111
nan111

Sonja - This MENY event was never about you even if you were asked to be the grand marshal, so I was surprised to hear you say more than once that the RHONY support of this issue/event was all about you. Really??? Why didn't you just offer to share the stage with Simon? He is clearly passionate about gay marriage and this was obviously very important to him. Was there room only for you on that stage?

Like others here, I think what you said to Alex at your house was inappropriate and to pretend that you forgot Simon's name is childish. What makes it worse is that you relayed the incident without describing your part in its creation.

Sorry about that painting - you are a very attractive woman and it was unflattering to say the least and it didn't look like you to me. It just doesn't look like the painting of a woman who is loved.

Stephanie Rizzo
Stephanie Rizzo

I totally agree! Not your finest hour. That was a terrible way to treat a guest in your home!

CAROLK1
CAROLK1

Sonja, Come on I loved you on Scary Island and you were great and not on anyones side Alex needs a strong friend to have fun with and she just doesnt know how to act sometimes. Your fun gorgeous and better than that. You look fab love your new guy yummy!!!

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

Sonja, LOVE YOU FOR PUTTING ALEX IN HER PLACE. So glad you are standing up to HER this season. She started out @rhony as a somewhat insecure, but real, person. She got herself caught in the middle with a silent tongue, not knowing how to communicate her feelings. Now she thinks the only way people will listen to her is if she bombards them, screams, yells, intimidates. I LIKE HOW YOU WILL NOT TOLERATE HER BULLYING TACTICS.

JOHNNA
JOHNNA

I totally agree and couldn't have said it better.

ina
ina

i agree

JKPROD
JKPROD

I am an event coordinator and just because someone is "chosen first" doesn't mean that plans don't change and if, as planners, we feel that we could add someone that has something pertinent to say, we will add them because it is about what we can do for the cause, not a popularity contest or who can be the only one in the spot light. I have had many gracious celebs share a stage for the cause, even though they didn't really connect on a personal level. Sonja should have just let him speak in the moment if she really thought it was about the cause.

lhouse9
lhouse9

Sonja, you were in the wrong. How would yiou feel if you had written and practiced a speech just to be told at the last minute that Alex didn't want you to speak, so you couldn't. Simon was in your ear because he was trying to ask you queitly if he could speak, and you refused to answer him. Alex and the viewers thought you liked her, and we could all see you plunge a knife in her back. Then you decided to twist it by pulling her aside at your home to belittle her husband. Of course she was defensive; who wouldn't be? Your true colors are comming out this season and they are not very pretty.

hulali
hulali

Brians other painting was from the heart and you can tell by the effortless strokes coming together to make a work of art. Unfortunately his portrait of you was not from the heart and seemed to be what he thought you wanted. His brush strokes were pained and forced. There was no fluidity to this piece. I'm sorry but if this is how he see's you he is not the one for you. It seems like he is overwhelmed by your personality and is trying too hard to please you.

As as far as the Alex situation goes... She was completely out of line to accost you at the parade the way she did. Her hostile actions completely ruined your train of thought for this most important event. At the house you did throw a littel gas on the fire by insulting her husband, but she should have been able to handle this without barking like a dog in your face. You did the right thing for everyone involved when you asked her to leave. She was starting to froth at the mouth and thats never a good thing to do while being filmed for TV.

BRAVO to you Sonya for showing us how a woman can stand up for herself and still conduct herselt with grace and dignity when confronted with uncomfortable situations. I hope a little of this rubs off on Alex!

kibasara
kibasara

I think both parties were wrong in this situation. I don't think alex and simon should have approached you right before your speech the way they did. I understand why they were clearly upset but i think alot of that has to do with the event organizers handling the situation very poorly. I also think you were wrong to approach alex the way you did at your party. I agreed with the comment earlier that it should have been a private lunch that you two should have cleared the air and not a party in front of alot of people.

labish
labish

Both encounters with Alex and Sonja show them in an unflattering light. Their problems with each other should have been handled some other time, over a drink perhaps, and with dignity.

Denise Urban
Denise Urban

Hey Sonja!

Get yourself another boyfriend that can actually paint a decent portrait of you! It looked like a high school student's first portrait. You my dear are such a flirt, I bet there are a number of artists that would love to paint you either on canvas or sans canvas! :)

bravosimo
bravosimo

Sonja, I think you are a lady and often the voice of reason...but...this one's on you. You were not acting like a lady at your house when you approached Alex about Simon, "is that his name?". C'mon you tossed gas on those flames. As for the event, I could SEE the passion for the cause in Alex and Simon...you...not so much. If you had anything with blocking their appearance I say "shame on you". If it was a misunderstanding, then maybe you should try to understand their disappointment.

Still love ya Sonja, but not your finest hour.

David Hughes
David Hughes

Loved you previous to the gay marriage episode. Hated you on this one. What happened to the previous you, I wonder? The event was not about you and all you could say on this episode is that it was about you. I'm not an Alex and Simon fan, but they seemed to be the ones who really understood what the event was about. And surprisingly, that crazy Kelly also seemed to have gotten it. She was the only one with manners who was trying to hear the other speakers who, by the way, knew what they were talking about, unlike you. And I don't think the painter is attracted to you sexually. He painted you as an old broad because that's how he sees you. He seems totally uncomfortable with your flirtations. I think he might actually be gay. I totally disrespected you in this episode and thought you appeared the total fool.

Lisa R
Lisa R

Sonja I am less than enthused with you. You appeared selfish and egotistical!!! I think that you were so nervous about speaking that you didn't want to let Simon speak so you could get it over with. If you had told Alex and simon that there probably wouldn't have been such a HUGE blowout.You should apologize to Alex and Simon and never insult someone else's husband. I am surprised she didn't knock you out. Luanne is not your friend she is too faced she said at that march that she didn't agree with you, but then agrred with you to your face.

ccjs
ccjs

Brian- painter? I can't stop laughing. The painting was awful. Technique? where? Awful brush strokes. The foot that was sticking out looked deformed. If that man really sees you that way then run.

hokiepokieshepalepa
hokiepokieshepalepa

I agree with Danny! If Sonja had really realized the meaning behind this march, she would have "gotten" Simon's speech about his Alex. I am straight, and I got it. But then again, I am not lost in thinking the world evolves around me, as apparently Sonja was.

Sandy2011
Sandy2011

Team Sonja all the way. Good job Sonja. I saved that episode on my DVR so I can replay you kicking Alex out over and over. Alex admitted that she was a user from the very first episode a few season ago. Alex's argument was all because she felt put out because she could not draw more attention to herself. People need to watch the show again and actually pay attention to how vain Alex truly is. Alex is really ugly and selfish person on the inside. All anybody paid attention to was you saying "This is my day." I get it. You were begging for your friends attention at something that really scared you. Don't let that stupid poll bother you. I support your side all the way.

mrs belanger
mrs belanger

Disagree. Alex always felt railroaded and overpowered by some of the other women. So she finally starts defending herself, but tends to come off angry. That's because she has been walked all over since this series started. And she wears her emotions on her face. Some, like Jill, are very good at disguising what they are actually thinking; Alex is not. And I truly doubt she is after a spin off....the most likely to be after a spin off is Jill.

happyC73
happyC73

Dear Sonja,

You are a great and fun person. I do think that the blow-out with Alex (and Simon) resulted originally from a miscommunication and I do understand that being belligerent just before a big speech is bad timing. However, egos were bruised further and tempers flared over each party's handing of the situation: Alex and Simon - while I understand their positions if they were told that you had kicked them off of the podium (WHO said that, anyway? THAT is who should be in the line of fire...) -- they should have expressed their dismay and anger with you privately. Yet, the way that you expressed to Alex that her husband was intimidating was rather rude and unintentionally ended up adding salt to an open wound. Neither party to this dispute actually considered that they were (unintentionally) misinformed by organizers, who were likely very very busy preparing for this huge event.

I say: Both of you must now just put it behind you. You don't have to like each other, but this type of 'caca' happens all of the time.

Have a very lovely week - I enjoy all of the Housewives!

quinne
quinne

Sonja, You instigated the conversation with Alex at your home and acted like a complete child. Yet you lie and tell everyone she ganged up on you, why are playing poor me and the victim. You kicked Alex out of your house for responding to YOU and telling her side of the story. While I am not a fan of Alex at all this year (she definitely needs to relax) however it would appear that in this situation you are a liar and possess the worst manners. In the beginning of this episode when you are all getting ready for the march, you are the epitome of narcissism and ugliness. On the outside you are a beautiful woman but proved in this episode how ugly your really are inside.

sanray
sanray

Really Sonja the event was NOT ABOUT YOU and you made it all about you and why the girls were there to support you and you had to make the speech (what speech) the one you gave which said nothing about equality in marrage for gays. so yes I am on Alex's side and you are a very vain women for your age really you brought the argument about at your party and blaimed Alex for responding to your remarks about her husband the show is not at all about SONJA if it was I would not watch it at all.

Viewer550
Viewer550

With all due respect a lady is never afraid to admit wrong. You clearly blocked Simon from speaking. Joining this cast means the world sees you, don't embarrass yourself further. You did not treat Simon in the same manner you want to be treated. Just admit you were wrong and get on with it. The public always forgives this sort of blunder when they see contrition, try and at least act a bit humble.

Jojolove
Jojolove

OMG!!!! Simon should become a housewife! U handeled urself beautifully and I would have kicked Alex out if my house too!

GabbyB
GabbyB

Sonya, you seem to be a nice woman. I don't know if it was the editing but in the whole Alex incident you did not act like the lady that you are. Again, it must be the editing.