Cast Blog: #RHONY

Women Behaving Badly

Aviva is disgusted by the ladies behavior (and attitude about Reid) in St. Barths.

I find this trip appalling for so many reasons: Women abusing themselves with alcohol and god knows what else. Women behaving like mean teenagers thinking only of themselves and bullying others whenever they get the chance. Watching this episode makes my stomach churn. I would have hoped that women in their 40s and 50s had evolved to a place of kindness, compassion, and decency, having had children and some life experience.

Here is some backstory. I did not want to go on this trip to St. Barths. OK. . .maybe you knew that part. I was petrified of the small plane, blah, blah, blah. I know people who don't have a fear of flying don't get it. . .but it is very real to me. Fortunately, at last minute I was able to get some family members to watch my children and Reid was able to come for the weekend and fly with me. Ramona thinks that this makes me too dependent on Reid, but aren't you supposed to be able to depend on a loved one when you need help with something? It was simple. Reid would fly with me to St. Barths and then go and do his own thing while I spent time with the ladies. (Note: the ladies knew very well that Reid would NOT be spending any time with them. He would rather drink paint.)

Next, Carole insisted that Reid and I stay in the house (we could have just as easily stayed in a hotel). I was so excited to go on the trip and fight my fear of small planes. With Reid at my side, I was still petrified but it felt doable. Not to mention that one of the women I counseled recently lost her limb in a boat accident in St Barths (no doctor or hospital to be found during a horrific accident -- terrible story).

What is most disturbing is, if some of the ladies felt so strongly about Reid not being there, why didn't anyone call me??? Why didn't someone call me and tell me that they felt uncomfortable rather than sitting around and hatching a plan to hurt me? Then at least I would have had the choice to come alone or not come at all. It was as if some of these women were setting me up.

The real issue is what were the ladies so worried about? Wasn't the dynamic of a female trip altered from the start given Russ' presence and random local guys, invited by some of the ladies, coming and going? This was not some trip about women coming together and bonding to discuss intimate female matters.

How could those women possibly be so selfish and mean to debate as to WHO was going to ask my husband to leave this house? These are supposed to be my friends? Talk about being void of manners and graciousness. What happened to welcoming people with warmth and generosity no matter what? What happened to common decency? What happened to compassion? Would you, under any circumstances ask a friend's husband to leave a home or vacation spot? Once he is there? Who does that??? And Reid was invited by Carole, our hostess. . .

Who were Ramona and her sidekick to utter a word at all??? And let's not forget that Ramona KNEW that Reid was coming before I ever left New York and, believe me, he was not interested in being around this group of pent up cougars. We had discussed it! The house was HUGE with separate entrances/exits for each room So what was the problem? Why such insensitivity towards me and my family?

The ganging up on LuAnn to shame and intimidate was terrible. Did you see Ramona berate Carole for having Russ over??? Ramona was concerned that it was HER first night??? This was Carole's trip, and she hadn't seen her boyfriend in months!!! Does Ramona ever stop and think of others? Who behaves this way to a friend? To a hostess??? This looks like spring break for cougars. Not my style and certainly not worth dragging my husband on the plane for.

This trip was trashtastic filled with immature, selfish women. What didn't Ramona and her sidekick want Reid to see? Their selfish, partying, hedonistic behavior? There were guys flying all around this house from all different angles. Obviously some of the ladies did not want my solid marriage interfering with their debauchery.

Hindsight is 20/20, and I succumbed to peer pressure. I should not have gone on this trip. Who would want to be on this trip? Yes the island and house were beautiful, but who would want to be there where peoples' behavior was so gross? The inmates had been let out of the asylum and I was headed to a golden prison.

With regards to last week, thank you for all your love, tears and support for Jake and the children of One Step Ahead. Your comments, contributions, love, and generosity make it all worth it.

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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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