Tonight's episode should have a Surgeon General Warning on it:
Watching this episode could be hazardous to your sex life; might cause impotence, and may ruin any chance of becoming pregnant.
Tonight's episode, in fact, might do for sex what Mad Cow disease did for the hamburger. What was going on over at the Dreschers?
First, my family. My sister-in-law, @teresadifalco learned a hard lesson about television in the opening scene, and also -- because they're one and the same -- about life. That lesson is: you don't always get quoted right, or in context, just like you don't always walk first into the room.
Teresa's very first line in television was this: "I'm just doing my morning meal."
While it's not damning, it's also not what she said. What she said was “morning deal.” She was doing her morning deal -- alarm clock, shower, kids. She was not doing a morning meal. These things happen, but she's a writer, like me, and so like me is obsessed with words. I bet she freaks out about the "meal." She barely eats.
Carole, Just tell me where I can get my hands in/on those driving gloves. I've developed an unhealthy obsession with the green hued ones you sport on the regular, and let's face it the black ones too. I've been all over the web, no dice. Thank you in advance.
Every time I hear Luann boast about her Native American Indian heritage, it makes me sick to my stomach. As if she's come from those reservations. Oh please, she knows nothing about being an American Native.
Carole, you're what I've been waiting to see on RHNY, so much so that I don't even think you belong with those pirates! You've got the brains, class, and real talent! A New York beauty that reflects a smart, hip, and feminine style that lends itself to native New Yorkers. NO one compares with you on the show. You're so hip and cool, you let all the others look so stale and mildewy, they are far behind you, left in the dust! If you want to use my quote please use my name Cathy Salinger.
Walterscott Carole said a few weeks ago that her late Mother in Law had the couch custom designed and built in the 1960's and that she had been offered a ton of money for it throughout the years and would NEVER part with it! Famous couch!
Carole, I thought it was kind of rude of you to correct someone about their own heritage. I would think LuAnn would know about her own heritage and what is right or wrong. She may have her faults but I notice everytime you are in her presence, you look at her with a smirk or disdain. You seem to relish in reprimanding her at every turn.
Carole -- you know I like you for a Democrat! But you have to lighten up a bit. What you think is politically correct may not be somewhere else in the country. New York is a separate entity that most people in American care to have little to do with, and I live in California! There are ways to express yourself that may not coincide with your way of thinking but be perfectly correct and acceptable elsewhere. Maybe LuAnn was out of line in your book, but not someone elses. Be a little bit more open minded.
I think the Kahn's genuinely like Luann, who wouldn't? They can handle themselves, and have no need of your 'protection'. Luann owns her ethnicity and has a great sense of humor. For you to create a political issue of this was a ridiculous ploy to demean her. It really is a pity, as it appears that she genuinely likes you and would be a good friend.
Hi Carole ! Thank You for sticking up for the Native American Indians. you a real, true person. not like the countess who like mario said said was countless. now I no why he said that. I think u will be the best houswife. love u always..
I am a Native American Indian from the San Carlos Tribe. I want 2 say Thank you, at lest u stood up for us people. I was watching the show an my family was outside. when the lueann started talking about her dad. rite than my whole family walk in. I was like what is going on here. You are right we don't teach kids that anymore. I was so mortified...
You are a rose in a room full of weeds and thorns! I am so pleased that Bravo brought you in, but I'm afraid you are going to get tired of the nonsense and leave!
Being 1/8 "American Indian", that IS the proper terminology to use. I, personally, do not like "native" referenced. This is America, we are of Indian decent, and we are NOT natives here. Therefore... American Indian IS the proper use.
Being 1/8 "American Indian", that IS the proper termanology to use. I, personally, do not like "native" referenced. We are NOT natives here. Therefore... American Indian IS the proper use.
Thanks for trying to defend our Native American Indian ways with respect after watching LuAnnes WOWO and being called savages. There is a huge population of Native Peoples in NYC area to show her the way.
Carole you hold the flag of coolness and sanity on this show. (You and Aviva.) Clearly not bad people... they just have extreme egos, pettiness/cattiness codependency, drinking issues and the list goes on. I can understand the interest as it's like a science project unfolding. Thank you for your voice- what a breath of fresh air.
Agggghhh, sometimes its best to make sure your own house is in order before you go slinging unnecessary comments. As an American Indian, I can assure you that Luann used the proper term. Native American is fine as well, however I prefer the former. I get the sense that Luann gets under your skin. That happens with people sometimes, we don't all get along!
How can you like the term American Indian when the term was falsely coined by Columbus when he though he had made it to India? Native Americans were here long before he got here and GAVE them that name. I too have Native American heritage and resent the fact that people think our heritage started when the Europeans landed here
Hi Carole! Not a blogger usually, but just finished watching tonight's TRHONY episode, just had to say something to you - here goes - I find your intelligence rather hugmyselftheyfinallyfoundsomeonewithanoperatingbrain fabulous ~ I find your candor TOTALLY refreshing ~ and the fact that you own your words and actions completely wonderful.
Keep on doing what you do!!
I really enjoy what you bring to the show. You are one of my favs!! That being said, I think the whole Indian issue was a little much. I don't think LuAnn was being disrespectful.
Although I believe that many of Luann's comments were ignorant, I must say that you sounded a bit pretentious on tonight's episode regarding the Native American vs. American Indian discussion. I, for one, prefer to be referred to as American Indian and not Native American. There has actually been some debates and many who prefer not to hear that term (Native American). Here's a little tip... Don't get so caught up in trying to make someone look ignorant. You may, in the end, make yourself appear ignorant instead.
You're my fav NYC hw... Very down to earth! Just one thing I had to say after tonight's episode regarding the whole Indian native American discussion... If you speak directly with a "native American", especially ones that still live on reservations, they actually prefer the term Indian over native American. These native cultures are as different and diverse as European countries, and they find it offensive to be lumped under one large umbrella. I have married into a family of native descent and they all use the term Indian in reference to themselves. What most label as "PC" is not always correct.
Agree about the Indian name.....I too have a lot of Indian friends and said that they weren't the ones who came up with the native american designation. They've always identified themselves as Indians until some PC=police invented native american.
Carole you are my favorite new housewife, please do not change who you are. You have so much more class and grace than all the other ladies combined. Don't ever let them bring you down.
When you say "you are no drama queen" in the opening, it is true!
You need to come down to the real world and get off your high horse. We get it that you don't like LuAnn. You confronted her about "speaking" to your friends - so I guess she needs your permission to talk to anyone that knows you? She apologized for what you felt she did and you still didn't even acknowledge the apology and kept trashing her. Based on your behavior its obvious that if anyone is jealous it is you about LuAnn. You don't give her a break - she can't speak correctly, she talks all the time, she talks to your friends (Heaven forbid). She's reached out to your in friendship many times and you constantly demean and criticize her - get over yourself - thw world does not revolved around you. So you don't like LuAnn - so what - I'm sure her life will go along perfectly well without your considered opinion. One wonders why you're on the show at all since you're so far above everyone.
Your so intelligent, and level headed, which is why I'm totally mystified that you not only tolerate Ramona, but like her.
Carole, Its wonderful that you have many friends but I notice that they are friends at a distance. I find this is sad because you can't seem to make friends with any of the women who are close to you on a daily basis. You seem to talk behind everyones back. You talk about Ramona, Luann, Sonja and even Aviva. I don't think I would want a friend that is sos two-faced. I would suggest you stay with your plan of just hooking up with the males in your life.
@Barbarajean To be on this show she has to talk about them. It's part of the job. Read her book, she does have great girlfriends. Just because these "housewives" aren't her friends doesn't mean she isn't a girls girl. Google her. She's had a very interesting life. Full of friends.
UThousewife Barbarajean I suppose you might be right. Afterall, this is reality TV. It just bugs me that they can change their character so much and just can't be themselves. We never see the other side of their lives unforftunately and what they portray on the program only makes them look bad if not badder. I still don't like the way Carole treats women that are her equal. She seems to have let the princess go to her head.
Barbarajean I agree. Carole is arm's length with the ladies and her friends who are supposedly like family. Even though she flashes her veneers with her barbs, her acidic comments are still insults.
carole...i'm currently on maternity leave and have been sucked into the real housewives of nyc. week in and week out, i'm impressed by your character, intelligence, wit, humor and yes, that badass style. it's clear to me, you're just too cool for this gig and i think that in good due time, you'll fly the coop. considering your personal achievements & life experiences - hills & valleys, you've made strides that the other women on the show could only dream of. my best to you and all that you embark on, i'm looking forward to picking up your book for further nuggets of wisdom. keep rockin' the snow hats, leather, knee socks & yes, headphones! it's so nice to see someone on these predictable reality shows stay true to themselves. maybe just maybe, those other ladies will learn a thing or two. no promises. be well! - js
Carole you are soooooo funny. "Friend jumping" and "one uping" should be included in the dictionary. Love it!
Your blog is hilarious.
I believe that I totally get your side of the situation. You have a very high regard for your friends and now you are painfully aware they you have exposed them to some crass behavior. Who wouldn't be embarrassed by such behavior? Oh, I guess Luann, Ramona and Sonja wouldn't be! Lol. Btw, did you ever notice that the last two syllables in the word 'embarrass' sounds like "bare ass"? Something about feeling exposed, I suppose.
Rajanah seems to be such a lovely soul and Naeem's clothing designs are out of this world. Personally, I wouldn't be able to speak much less ask him for a loaner but then, maybe that's because I'm not a diva. ;)
I don't know how you can possibly enjoy being on this show but I enjoy watching you. I'll quit watching when you quit the show.
Carole- You are now my favorite HONY. Shame on Ramona for those atrocious manners in the pool in Miami, followed by her shameless attempts to be flirtatious with Aviva's overtanned Dad (and hence once more manipulate camera attention away from everyone else) even though I suspect Sonia probly appreciated it. Aviva- some family members are best kept off national television. And we all have at least one in every family..some of us with many more than others. FYI, CelebrityNetWorth.com has you (Carole) as the richest HONY at $50 million dollars. Heather-10 million. Aviva- 20 million, Ramona 18 million, LuAnn at 2 million and Sonia at a negative 20 million. I am sure these figures are wildly inaccurate but thought you and readers might get a hoot.
@ What Remains was wonderful and I will be reading your next book and watching the TV show. LOVED the shopping conversation with LuAnn. She WAS embarrassed, or at least surprised anyone would point out to her how ungracious and ill-mannered she is and she could not say a real word about it.
Carole...I love you! There is such a sense of normalcy and fairness about you...As far as the Miami show...My God, Ramona was out of control. First of all, that behavior in the pool, then desperately trying to flirt with that overtanned Dad because she cant stand anyone else getting any kind of attention. BTW, Celebrity Net Worth has you as the richest HONY at $50 million. Ramona is at 18 million, Heather is at 10, Aviva is 20 and LuAnn is at 2. Poor Sonia is at a negative 20 million. Know those figures are wildly unpredictable but thought you and readers might get a kick.
I am not a fan of Luanne's but I just watched the native, indian, aboriginal clip and have to say that while political correctness has deleleted the "Indian" word from children's books -- literally; my son's second grade reader had the word whited out-- the term is not the same as other racially charged words. I had asked my husband years ago what he preferred to be called (he is a "treatised" Plains Cree member of the James Smith Band in Canada) and he said Native American, American Indian, etc. it didn't matter to him and neither reference bothered him. There is, however, a lot more predjudice against the aboriginals in Canada than in the States as they make up a much larger segment of the population.
Luann asked about possibility of borrowing a dress from a DRESS MAKER, she did not ask stranger for a kidney! What is your problem? You designer friend came off as a snob. Nobody is good enough for Naeem Khan with exception for the first lady, not even you who is Like a family…but never got his dress…hmmm…
You don’t seem very happy and I am convinced your ironic approach is your cover for bitterness. I really hope you find happiness in life again. And please, stop comparing anything you do to birthing a child. No need for Freud’s analysis here…
Geneva115 @ you could not be more wrong. Carole is absolutely spot-on. LuAnn was a friend jumper (which I thought was a good new phrase that I will use) and completely out of line morally and showed no manners or attention to protocol that she claims to know so well. Yeah, LuAnn, some people are born with elegance and it was not you!
@Geneva115 Well, that's just silly. Carole is clearly much brighter and imore articulate than any of the other women. She doesn't sound bitter at all - she just shares her musings about the previous episode, as all the housewife bloggers agree to do, and she Is bemused by much of the behavior she witnesses. She doesn't sound bitter at all, although given the losses she's endured, I'm sure it would be easy to fall into that trap. She's very honest, and is a clear eyed observer of human nature. I find it amusing that so many women got honked off when Carole casually compared the difficulty of whelping a child to whelping a book. I thought her tongue was firmly in her cheek - she was simply making a point - and if you read the beautifully rendered first chapter of her memoir (free on her website - no investment required!)- you'll discover that she's a terrific writer. I'm sure you'll agree that it's impossible to compare that single chapter to Luann's entire Klassy Kountess book (written with the help of a ghost writer, to boot). The former can be classified as literature. The latter is simply one of AC's scary Bravolebrity's vanity projects. But heaven forbid anyone dare imply that ANYTHING is as difficult as childbirth, even if they're mostly joking...
Carole. As a native New Yorker I want to give you the highest compliment. YOU ARE A PISSER. Enough said.
I, too, heard "morning meal," but I thought she was just being facetious-- you sleep until noon and have your "morning meal," or grab a piece of toast and a Diet Coke and call it your "morning meal" (or as I refer to it, "breakfast of champions.")
Carole, you are new to the show so I don't know that much about you. I read all of your blogs and you write SO well! I enjoyed reading your point of view regarding episodes.
I must ask the question, not that you have the answer, is WHY did Aveva try to fix her dad up with Sonja? Was she getting back at her for the "tasteless" entertainment at the anniversary party?
I HAVE to tell you that you looked absolutely gorgeous at the party in which you wore your hair up with the large earrings. You looked stunnng, very bohemian!
I do not understand LuAnne. Until this season I never realized she was so insecure. You picked up on it right away. You seem to be able to read people quite well.
Oh, I must commend you on your poise with Aveva's Dad at the dinner table.
Brava, Carol. You are a breath of fresh air on RHNY with your TIC yet down-to-earth style. I was appalled when Ranjani told you what LouAnn did. Odd..she sings about "class" yet has none. I'm delighted you joined the show and I certainly second the comments of Soccer74.
You are a nice break in the show to even things out. I enjoy you and Avivia and I think you have it all together but seem very alone and protected at the same time. I like that you can diffuse a situation a bit but also give it back in a subtle way. I think you handled the Luann issue very well and yes you introduced your friend to another, but that didn't mean that Luann could take advantage of the situation, especially after one meeting. That seems rude to me, model or not! Keep writing, you do it so well.
Having known you before your addition to the Real Housewives, I can tell you I have always enjoyed your past interviews I've read and/or watched, and have enjoyed you thoroughly this season.
I've especially admired your "handling" for lack of a better term of the other ladies in the cast. You have taken people for who they are. You aren't trying to change them, nor are you confronting them on their behavior every other second for having committed some sort of "offense" to you.
Coming from a life that's included a series of matters that greatly outweigh the importance or drama of what can happen during a Housewives season of taping, you are clearly comfortable with each of the ladies and seem to take their personality quirks or occasional offensive behaviors with a grain of salt. And that is soooo refreshing on these shows...too many people take too much too seriously. It's awesome to see someone I can relate to, in that it's clear to you what in life is really a big deal and what is not so much of a big deal.
This is where LuAnn comes in. Because you're new to the cast, and maybe you weren't a viewer, perhaps you were unaware that LuAnn does have a history of these types of situations with the other ladies in the cast, including a spat with Ramona over what? A designer not dressing her!
And maybe you don't bother to read her blog but the paragraph covering the dress situation was humorous to say the least. She slams you for not "saying it to my face" immediately, the all too familiar siren song of the reality television show. "Say it to my face." Furthermore, she takes basically ZERO responsibility for her doing in any of this. And THAT'S classic LuAnn. You likely won't find her making herself accountable for much of what she says or does to you or any other NY Housewife that is taken offensively. She couldn't bring herself to just SIMPLY take the bullet for the dress thing, she had to zing you and your friends. In the end, you might find that while Ramona is herself her own issue, you'll likely discover she is at least an honest friend. Not sure all of the other NY Housewives would credit LuAnn with the same.
I hope we continue to see the same of you this season. Again, it's so nice to see someone so genuinely accepting of everyone's personalities and issues while at the same time, not allowing yourself to be intimidated or manipulated.
I'm sorry, but if you're so protective of your friends, then don't introduce them to your friends. Although Luann is not one of my fav's, I thought your comment about her being a "friend jumper" was just rude. You seem to have a lot of "not nice" things tosay to the women you your around, however you are ever so flirty with the men.