Cast Blog: #RHONY

The Art of Seduction, Yoga, and Dirty Ole Dads

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

The Art of Seduction, Yoga, and Dirty Ole Dads

Carole laments Sonja and George's failed romance and discusses her confrontation outfit.

Tonight's episode should have a Surgeon General Warning on it:

Watching this episode could be hazardous to your sex life; might cause impotence, and may ruin any chance of becoming pregnant.

Tonight's episode, in fact, might do for sex what Mad Cow disease did for the hamburger. What was going on over at the Dreschers?

First, my family. My sister-in-law, @teresadifalco learned a hard lesson about television in the opening scene, and also -- because they're one and the same -- about life. That lesson is: you don't always get quoted right, or in context, just like you don't always walk first into the room.

Teresa's very first line in television was this: "I'm just doing my morning meal."

While it's not damning, it's also not what she said. What she said was “morning deal.” She was doing her morning deal -- alarm clock, shower, kids. She was not doing a morning meal. These things happen, but she's a writer, like me, and so like me is obsessed with words. I bet she freaks out about the "meal." She barely eats.

After our phone call, I packed for Miami and watching me pack made me dizzy. But rest assured. I can take those stairs two at a time in five-inch heels, they're my stairmaster. Most days it's the only exercise I get.

Please, don't look closely, though. I designed them myself and they're not up to code. Apparently a banister is required -- something about safety, kids.

Going Down. . .South
I have another early morning with Sonja, who is all pretty in pink and reading Glamour (gratuitous plug) -- it's the issue with my Kardashian story in it. Remember that? And speaking of Glamour, their September Fashion issue is out and I'm profiled in the Obsession section, "How to dress stylish for TV."

Here's a teaser:

"Whenever I felt nervous about a scene I put on my black leather motorcycle jacket. You have to have a piece that you just feel knockout in. And not knockout glam but knockout like 'no one can mess with me.'"

The funny thing is that I'm wearing that exact jacket in my scene with LuAnn in this week's episode. I wore the jacket and my driving gloves. I guess I was nervous! Don't mess with me.

Down in Miami, more than the weather is heating up.It kicks off with my wraparound hug. Did you see the hug I gave Aviva? I did it to Ranjana too, but it wasn't on-screen. It's my signature hug. I’m famous among my friends for it. Don't try to copy me, I've had it trademarked.

When Sonja arrives at Ranjana's, she's so gracious -- commenting on the chandelier, complimenting the beautiful room, and then watch Ramona. Bunny, sweetness, stick to Pinot. Ramona on real estate is like Donald Trump going on about toaster ovens. Who cares what he thinks?

Ranjana is not only a fabulous face yoga instructor, but an impeccable host. We are so spoiled to be lounging in a pool on top of Miami, drinking champagne and making our faces young. Yes, we look like guppies, but try these poses. You can really feel them. Face yoga is a science and it works.


Beginning here, with face yoga, things take a turn. You can see signs of it. Ramona and Aviva, for instance, might need a little break. It sometimes happens when you live under the same roof.

If there's one thing all of us know about Aviva by now it's that she has a fake leg and she doesn't like to draw attention to it even when she falls at a party. What’s the point? She also knows what she can and can't do with it, because she's had it since she was six. She will entertain attention when it is for a purpose -- for instance, dispelling ignorance or stigma around prostheses. But in a social setting, with friends, the last thing she wants to talk about – much less dwell on -- is her leg. Especially when she can talk about her sex addict dad which, let's be honest, is much more fun.

And about that. . .
Cue The Dreschers

Sonja and Ramona are like an MTV Behind the Scenes Special of Laverne and Shirley. They're giggling and dressing, and wrestling in the shower. Mario is contemplating an unusual threesome, and at dinner, fluids are sprayed, both literally and suggestively.


George likes girls with tans, ice cream asses and sex the new age way with horny goat weed. Sonja likes boys with money, real estate, and sex the old-fashioned way, doggie-style.

It was all too much for Reid; he had to add another house rule: No international face signal for blow job signs. At least not before salad.

Reid's button-up white shirt like he just walked out of Yale is a fresh and sexy departure in this bacchanalian little scene. And I love his facial expressions throughout dinner. It moves so fast, orgasms flying five at a clip. Reid can barely take it all in, but he says a lot by saying little. He's subtle like a Rothko painting – cool and controlled.

Sonja looks very pretty and sweet. Red Riding Hood, meet your wolf.

George seducing Sonja on the beach will, for me, go down as one of the all-time great love scenes. Think Deborah Kerr and Burt Lancaster's famous beach grope in From Here to Eternity. You can't really hear them saying much in that scene, what with the sand and the surf and Burt Lancaster's heavy breathing, but I have a copy of the original script and Lancaster is actually whispering this in Deborah Kerr's ear:

LANCASTER: "Do you know why you should sleep with me?"

KERR: "No."

LANCASTER: "Because it would be the kinkiest experience you’ve ever had. Have you ever slept with your friend’s father?"

KERR: "No, but I’ve had the Kobe beef hot dog. Same?"


It seems, however, as is the case in all great love stories, that George and Sonja are, perhaps, star-crossed. Like two ships passing in the cabana bed at Art Basel. It was a bittersweet glimpse of what might have been.

Meanwhile, back in the city, LuAnn and I go shopping. Unlike lunch, which is reserved for talking about friends who aren’t there, shopping is where we go to have "a talk." (Notice the leather motorcycle jacket I am wearing!)

Behind her tinted Jackie Os, I can sometimes see LuAnn's point of view. The problem is, I don't wear Jackie Os, it's strictly aviators for me. This makes it a challenge to follow her logic. Movie stars and international high-profile women do often borrow or are offered garments from high-end clothing designers. It's a common practice that benefits everyone. The women get to look beautiful, the designers get to see their work on a fabulous showcase, and the clothes get press attention in fashion magazines. LuAnn, though, is not any of the above nor is she sitting for Vogue.

These are very dear and close friends, more like family. I simply thought it bad manners that after setting up an introduction and asking the Khans to take the time, that under the guise of browsing Ranjana’s jewelry, LuAnn asked Naeem for a dress. It put him in an unexpected and uncomfortable position. I don’t put my friends in those positions, nor do they do it to me. If LuAnn had asked me first, I would have considered asking Naeem for the favor for her. I hope that was the point that came across, because I do not want to one day find myself chasing LuAnn around an anniversary party with glasses of wine.

Well, we're almost halfway through the season, kids. I'm going to leave you with a line from my new book, it seems to fit tonight's theme. Coming soon to a bookstore near you.

"Some girls want candles and wine, and that's OK. Some like to be whisked out of town, some are fine getting fucked in a room at The Standard. Charles Byrne covered methods of seduction at length in his books. Generally speaking, in almost every species from the Bonobo to the fruit fly, there's a template the male follows: Show confidence, empathy, self-deprecation, then go for the kill." -- The Widow's Guide to Sex & Dating

George, I think it's clear, goes straight for the kill.

Check out Face yoga here. As always, you can buy What Remains here. Contact me on my website here. Follow me on Twitter here, Facebook here, Pinterest here.

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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