Heather Thomson

Heather discusses her problems with Ramona.

on Jun 4, 20120



A couple of days before I was expected at Ramona's dinner party, she tagged along to Sonja and my drinks date. My dad had died just a few days before we started filming, and it was a lot, as you can imagine -- lots of change, lots of responsibility with Dad's dealings and, overall, my emotions were definitely on the surface.

Ramona's comforting take on that was that I have "issues," lumping the fact that my son had a liver transplant into my dad’s death, with no warmth or concern and so I figured, why not also take the opportunity to really send her over the edge of real life struggles and share my dear friend Alexandra Elman's story? Like Ramona, Alexandra is in the wine business, but unlike Ramona, Alex lost her vision and ultimately two of her organs to diabetes in her late twenties. I probably don't need to tell you what an inspiration to us mere mortals Alex Elman is! (Go blind wine chick! She is a fabulous and fiercely strong woman who deals with her disabilities head on. This just pushed Ramona over the edge! LOL! Too much reality for Ramona to handle!

Anyway! There is no good time to tell someone who you've just met that you are going through some of life's bumps, but I can tell you the reactions I got were far from caring and supportive. I was incensed, but I figure some good old karma will make up for that!

What I didn't realize is that when I left the bar that night, Ramona had attached a target to my back. At dinner the next evening, I certainly felt the darts from both Ramona and Mario starting to fly but thankfully my shapewear pieces not only slim your line but they deflect haters too! Can you believe they invited me into their home and then attacked me? Ramona and Mario, shame on you!

Well, I am excited the new season has started and I can't wait for everyone to see all of the drama we get into during the upcoming weeks. Stay tuned and stay yummie!

xoxo Heather

246 comments
heatherfan13
heatherfan13

Excellent addition to the show, you are the reason I watched RHONY this season! Bravo was very smart casting you on the show!

Esposa
Esposa

New and good to the show!

sassysangria
sassysangria

I just watched the episode with Aviva's party, and I cannot believe that you followed Ramona around, even after she asked that you not push the issue at this particular event. I think she actually said, "I don't want to do this here." And you did discuss your issues with Ramona with pretty much every other housewife (when you claimed that you never spoke about her behind her back). You are not a favorite addition to the show. I'm not sure what your objective is with Ramona--it's clear that you are not sincerely trying to mend and sustain a friendship.

donfayee
donfayee

I feel you have come on the show with an agenda and you have started off by trying to exclude Ramona as i feel you are threatened by her success and you are intimidated  by her she may be a handful but she is not as bad as you are trying to paint her out to be and to try to be mean wont land you anywhere as it will come back to bite you 

shoes33
shoes33

I feel you are a very icky person on this show.  I have watched this show since the very first season and I have been a huge fan until now.  I am very disappointed in Bravo for casting someone like you. I hope to not see you on another season or they will lose a loyal viewer. makes me sad.  Can someone please tell me why my comment keeps getting deleted? I am saying nothing inappropriate.

Erin_CA
Erin_CA

I enjoy listening to you! The NY cast - especially these newbies - by far has the best vocabulary and most articulate cast. I was very impressed by how you chose your words in several awkward situations. I also dislike our culture's relationship with death - in that we are supposed to pretend it doesn't (and hasn't!) happened. I'm sorry for your loss, and what crappy timing! Looking forward to watching you this season - good luck!

Grageo
Grageo

Heather, after that motorboat "yeahyeahyeahyeahyeahyeahyeahyeah" you threw at Ramona during your conversation at her home in the Hamptons, you're in no place to chastise someone for being rude. Just sayin'.

Viewer from Minnesota
Viewer from Minnesota

Dear Heather,

We think you are a solid, cool, smart, successful woman who loves her babies, husband and work. Screw Ramona. She's an idiot.

Sincerely,

The State of Minnesota :)

TanyaFrmNJ
TanyaFrmNJ

Heather, do you EVER stop smiling? You remind me of the Cheshire cat.

Lancer
Lancer

Hi.... This should be an interesting season with the Fab new additions to the cast. Loved all of you. I hope you get over the Ramona thing. Love her to death. She may put her foot in her big mouth sometimes, but I never get the impression that she is a rotten person. Please don't turn into Jill, or Luann . UGH.....

RHADDICT71
RHADDICT71

You slammed Ramona as soon as she came into your office, first saying how you were excited to see her then making fun of her for being on The Learning Annex! HELLO Now I'm not a huge Ramona fan but you would say things through out the whole show (nice things) then turn to the camera & then slam people behind the camera. Classless! LOL Bravo's in trouble yet again with this new bunch of RHONY.....I think I like Kelly better, & that's saying a lot!

miami viewer
miami viewer

the new girls are so great this season, i like you especially, seem so together especially next to Ramona hehe

eileen062
eileen062

Heather-congratulations on your success-that success and mney will help in caring for your son-if you are considering charity work -consider health care issues of those who need transplants but are impoverished-not to be a downer but to put out thanks to the universe for your son's current health and your abillity to care for him!

loveyourshow45
loveyourshow45

What a nice addition to the NYC Housewives representing my Home state!:) Looking forward to watching future episodes.

Michelle613
Michelle613

Hi, I am so happy that you have joined this season. Its boring and somewhat annoying to see the rich and famous have silly cat fights. i look forward to seeing you and aviva. You bring the real women- one which most viewers can relate to - into the picture. I must compliment you for being so open about your sons health issue. My first cousin had twin girls last year and at 2 months old- one twin was diagnosed with biliary atrisia. it was devastating and scary......we knew nothing about it......after a failed kassai surgery...she was almost at the brink of losing the battle. She was on the top of the list for a liver and Thank G-D, at the last moment- hours after the doctors have told my cousin that her daughter may not make it (poor innocent 6 month old..) a liver miraculously became available.....after a long agonizing transplant surgery and several months of recovery, she is getting stonger each day. The twins celebrated their first birthday last month and although she is not developmentally up to her twin, we hope and pray that she will catch up real soon and keep her mom and all of us extended family very busy with healthy childhood related fun. My entire family gained so much inspiration and strength from your story. It is great to see real people struggling with real issues on TV. People like you have so much power to help and inspire so many viewers. Thank you so much!!!

cehemise
cehemise

You strike me as smart, open, and happy. I saw great effort expended to be friendly with the previous cast members. Too bad all of them did not take you up on that generosity. Good luck with the season. Don't take their treatment of you personally. You were simply a convenient target.

Dwight's Nose (The old one...)
Dwight's Nose (The old one...)

Go Heather! Finally someone who can talk over Ramona!...so, of course, she isn't happy! I can't believe people are complaining you talk too much...at least you talk! Carole didn't really talk at all this first episode!

Gigi31
Gigi31

Dear Heather,

Thank you so much for being so open about your son's illness. I have been a pediatric surgery nurse/case manager for many years and have seen many brave parents and children struggle and deal with biliary atresia. Many do not survive long enough to receive a life-saving liver transplant. It is so vitally important for people to realize the importance of being an organ donor! Your willingness to share your amazing child's story will help bring awareness to this important issue!

RN in Ohio

ViewerinPHX
ViewerinPHX

Yes, well, I tend to talk alot too if I feel uncomfortable, or am around really weird, pushy people. I don't blame you at all trying to smile and keep talking so they wouldn't lure you into some weird dance. Ramona and Mario were circling you like 2 half medicated vultures.

You'll be just fine, just watch out for the freak-eyed, bipolar mess from Rhinebeck NY (which actually explains ALOT... and her severe addiction to pinot grigio... bet it was to white zin before she went to Manhattan....)

Good luck!

malibu princess
malibu princess

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY DARLING. DON'T CHANGE FOR ANYONE. IT'S REFRESHING HAVING YOU ON THE SHOW!!!

Kay Jay
Kay Jay

I hope I'm wrong and that you just had a bad start, but sadly you seem to be just a younger, more morose version of Jill.

Shocked and Dismayed
Shocked and Dismayed

Heather - so far, you're one of the most like-able of the new housewives. I truly felt sorry for you when you mentioned your dad's passing. It' must have been difficult to keep it together while filming when you probably preferred have some quite time alone with your family to deal with your grief. The reaction from the other ladies (and I use the term "ladies" loosely) was that "this isn't appropriate conversation for cocktail party" -- I didn't see one iota of sympathy. Nice bunch of "classy" ladies. Appropriate conversation as far as they are concerned is to have people fawn over them and tell them how fabulous look and are while they, in turn put everyone else down.

Viewer From Pittsburgh
Viewer From Pittsburgh

I'm sorry about the loss of your father. The way many of the women reacted to you about it disgusts me.

ElizabethP
ElizabethP

Happy for your success, Yummie Tummie is great.. have a few of your pieces. I always love seeing successful women in business. Just wish you were not so fake. You present yourself as very kind and easy going but are not. You say everything with a smile but your thoughts and intentions do not match. Ramona is very hard to take, I am not a big fan but at least what you see is what you get.

Doctor's Wife
Doctor's Wife

Ramona makes me want to take a Xanax, so I feel for you there. Also, my condolences on the loss of your father. After I lost my mother, I mentioned it (unintentionally) while having drinks at the home of an acquaintance - which started her crying at the loss of her father. After that, I learned to avoid the subject except with close friends. And even then, it can still be awkward because people often don't know what to say.

That said, I do feel that medical issues are conversation killers at cocktail parties. As soon as other guests hear that my husband is a doctor, he is bombarded with their maladies. That is often when I excuse myself to get another drink. If I must stay, I immediately tune out. My poor husband doesn't have that luxury. For future reference, you may want to save those conversations for good friends, not people you just met. Initially you've come off as a Debbie Downer, but it could be the editing.

PS: The "yeah yeah yeah" and "right right right" is quite dismissive, but it's not as bad as the passive agressive smile when insulting someone. Something to consider, if you're at all interested in self awareness. But since you're under the impression there was a target on your back, I suspect otherwise.

geor
geor

Did Jill Zarin personally pick you as her replacement??

RLV
RLV

Reading these comments, I am thinking I did not watch the same episode as all these viewers who are complaining about you talking too much. I did not find that you talked too much, nor that you interrupted people - and what you did say was extremely interesting. I stopped watching the New York Housewives because I could not stand Ramona apparent (and completely unwarranted) star status. I am looking forward to watching this year because of you and Aviva.

Natasha R
Natasha R

Also - condolences on the loss of your father.

Natasha R
Natasha R

Loved your intro to the group. Ramona... in the South, we say, "Bless her heart." Looking forward to seeing more of you.

ssammy
ssammy

Heather you seem like a nice woman. Instead of defending yourself about talking too much or talking over others take a moment to watch your self and reflect. You constantly over talk and (for instance with Mario) keep interrupting and changing the direction of what they are trying to say. Most people would just be polite and then avoid you. Romona's may have been blunt but she speaks her truth.

West Palm Bethy
West Palm Bethy

Mario and Ramona are both a bit quirky and off...we're used to seeing it with Ramona, but not so much from Mario. In past year's checkout his interactions with Jill and Luann. He comes off very demeaning towards some women and finds a stereotype with them and never lets go. It's almost an automatic defense to anyone that he finds off putting to his wife. I've never seen a man put down a woman, especially after inviting you to their house. You were like a sitting duck and didn't have a chance. Fascinating to watch-even though they have all the trappings of wealth, "money can't buy you class" for this couple. How rude! I love Aviva's/Reed's line in the upcoming episode. "Mean what you say, but don't say it mean."

hotcawfee
hotcawfee

Heather --looking forward to seeing you this season. Ramona Singer's problem is that she thinks the world revolves around her and her mouth. Mario is looking for face-time this season--so keep your eyes peeled. And Bravo (pun intended) to you for calling out the misplaced and inappropriate use of bashert

Stef2988
Stef2988

Heather, first impression is everything. I really hope you watched yourself & were able to realize some things about yourself. No one attacked you, they were only telling you how it was. To keep repeating "I was attacked, I was attacked by Mario" & then Ramona is a bit much. It seems like you tend to make things bigger in your head than they really are. I hope in the following episodes you're attitude picks up because you'll just end up being disliked. You gotta be honest. If you remain the same, then the fans will dislike you and you'll be like all the other housewives that had to change their character because the fans told them how it was.

Sandra Bush Bienvenu
Sandra Bush Bienvenu

Heather, I had been a huge fan of the NY Housewives but after last season thought I might not watch it again. I watched the first episode and I'm so glad I did. You may be best known for your brand but I was much more impressed with your involvement with Organ Donation. My grandson, Andrew, was diagnosed with biliary atresia at 6 weeks old and after a failed Kasai procedure didn't help him, he received a liver transplant at 13 months old. He is now a healthy, happy and very active 5 year old who isn't limited by the "train tracks" on his stomach. The first year included numerous trips to the hospital for infection scares but the doctors explained that the further out from the transplant he gets, the better he will be. He is our Miracle Child. Thank you for putting Organ Donation as a priority in your busy schedule and for letting others know about this condition that has no known cause nor a true cure. I wish you and your family the same type of success we've had with Andrew. Dr. Kato, the surgeon who performed Andrew's surgery, is now in New York at the Presbyterian Hospital. If you have issues, he is the best in the world.

Viewer23442342
Viewer23442342

Whatever your issues with Ramona are, remember this: you looked ah-maze-ing in the first episode. Vibrant, smiling. Your makeup, outfits and hair was fabulous and you're my new fave!

StephTN
StephTN

I think you had a rough start in the first episode, but you were also stuck in a lot of scenes with Ramona. I am also a mom of a special needs child, so I look forward to seeing more of you!

Mary87
Mary87

I think people need to took up the word "AttacK" because it is being miss used. NO one was attacked.

MissMisty
MissMisty

Hi Heather. :)

And, "yes" I can top it too! You can't out run Ramona's mouth").

I love this.

Don't try to "out talk" Ramona! When she opens her mouth the rest of the world just disappears in her mind. LMBO!! :D

Love you H! :)

glitzymama
glitzymama

You most certainly did interrupt!!!!!!!! And please give Ramona a chance. She is wierd but she really doesn't intend to be mean, unlike the classless countess who thinks she is so high and mighty. I was prepared to like you. You are beautiful and smile allot [so nice to see] but when you started taking offence at everything I thought OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! another Luann, making mountains out of mole hills.

bonnie bluebell
bonnie bluebell

Sorry to hear of the passing of your father, that indeed is a difficult thing. You are a pretty young woman, I love your hair, & I enjoyed hearing about your son. It's very natural for Mother's to share thier birth & new baby stories. Why be so snide about Ramona's class she is teaching & the cover story. It seemed way to soon to be so rude about that. Apparently you guys never made up! Ramona's got a good heart, & yes she is quirky, but relax! If I have just met someone I try to give them a few passes, before I set anything to serious in stone about their character!

Pat Goldberg
Pat Goldberg

Wow I hope you slow down with your having to tell everyone your nightmare stories. Your not just sharing with the girls your with, but ALL viewers. It seems like you feel a need to get your feelings in no matter what. You and Ramona probably have more in common than not. Beware of LuAnn, she is a snake!!

D. Phillips
D. Phillips

Heather,

Ramona was wrong for dismissing your stories - that' real life! She obviously couldn't handle it. However, if I had a friend that cut me off and said "yeah, yeah, yeah" all the time - I would be driven to insanity! Cut it out, girl!

Kerrik
Kerrik

I hope you actually watched yourself in the first episode as I think you might change your opinion about yourself. You do talk over everybody and don't even listen or respond to what someone is saying but go off on your own tangent - mostly about yourself.

eva18
eva18

Heather, rapidly saying "right, right, right, right, right" while someone is talking is very annoying--to the talker and the viewer.

Jackie T
Jackie T

Your talking over people was annoying enough, but the expression on your face when you talk is even more annoying. Please practice in front of the mirror and you will see what we all are seeing. Just saying!!!!

perksandpieces
perksandpieces

Ramona can't handle anyone at her level of success (or higher). She judges everyone instantly and decides where they stand in her life based on first impressions, never giving anyone a second chance. The whole "you interrupt people" thing is ridiculous. It seems that Heather was just nervous about being in a new group and a new setting. Anyone who is nervous is going to talk a lot, especially about things they know (meaning it would seem Heather kept turning the conversation back to herself). It was a natural reaction. I was weary about the new season and now can't wait to see how it plays out.

marshamellow
marshamellow

You have a beautiful smile and look like you could be a Miss America. You look like you're enjoying yourself while interested in the person you're talking to at a cocktail party or in private. Your bright smile doesn't give you away. In the personal interview, the smile is gone and we hear what you're really thinking behind that broad smile. Wow. You're a great actress! I think I heard you talk about your son's health 3 times in one episode....I thought he must be a baby, still recovering, and in walked this robust child. Why are you leading off with an old story that will bring people down...are you looking for sympathy? You'll get it from a close friend but this is not what you say as an introduction. Your son is fine, he's healthy, find something happy to talk about.

Marissa18
Marissa18

You are great. You were not talking too much, that is silly for Ramona to think that everyone should listen to everything she says and then not add anything themselves. Ramona talks a ton and is not sensitive,i'm getting tired of her

Real IL Housewife
Real IL Housewife

I really think you could be a great addition to the RHONY BUT SLOW DOWN!!LOL! You don't need to share so much so soon. And you do talk over people, but maybe you were nervous? Or excited? I think if you just relax be yourself and share some of your sad stories over time, not all at once you'll do fine. Good Luck !! And don't let WINO Ramina get to you.

dilyntn
dilyntn

It seems a shame that you believe your life experiences and point of view are so much more important than any one else's. When I am thrown together socially with a person such as yourself it is much easier to nod and try to get away as soon as possible. Ramona should have done the same instead of trying to have a conversation with you.