More catching up. . .Carole and I head to dinner with Aviva to check in on her. Before we go, we stop by my friend Helen Yarmak's showroom to see her latest collections of furand diamonds -- I mean what a combo! After having tons of fun with the girls trying on her beautiful pieces, Helen exclaims that we just look too glamorous and insists we borrow the pieces and wear them out to dinner. So fun!
But the mood soon changes as Aviva quickly turns to her favorite subject. For someone who hated the trip to St. Barths as much as Aviva did, she sure does love talking about it. She is grinding her ax and Carole and I get an earfull again. I really care about Aviva and I know Carole does her too, she is our friend and we enjoy and adore her, but we need some new material here. Next time, I think I am going to recommend we go to a movie!
Later, Aviva asks me to dinner and she continues to talk about the trip. I am starting to feel really bad for her. It is becoming obvious that she is struggling with it and I want to support that and listen to her feelings. I was expecting she may finally confess that she behaved badly and that the horrible things she said are weighing on her. But no, she goes on and on more about the bad behavior she witnessed and defending her actions rather than opening up to the possibility of admitting the part she played in the vacation fiasco. As I listen to her go on about what she wanted the trip to be, I have to break it down for her. We had that trip, she just missed out on it because of her hostility toward Samonja.
Wasn't sure about you at the beginning of the season but liking you more now. I think you do try to understand Ramona and give her a chance and try to get along with her and the other ladies.
Heather: In the beginning i wasn't a fan, but you have quickly changed my mind. You are an honest, intelligent woman who "usually" speaks honestly and directly. I know you started on a bad footing with Ramona and she was totally out of line saying what she did. It was a major dis you didn't invite over..but i think and hope you have both moved forward. I know (laughing) R can be extrememly annoying at times, but you have dealt with it graciously. I am a true fan. I feel though, knowing how close you are to Aviva, you overlook much more with her than you every did R and with R it's just her bluntness and zaney personality whereas with Aviva..she's just "mean spirited." It's all well and good to say to her "Aviva stop all the obsessing with R" and i think she respects you ( i say think because i really don't think she cares about anyones opinions but her own) and basically let her know how self absorbed and unkind she is. I see your friendship with Carole as she has class but truth be told, prior to Aviva showing up at clutter island, you girls WERE having fun with no drama and just enjoying each other for who they are.
You seem to be the only "voice of reason" on the show and quite frankly, I don't know why Carole doesn't step to the plate more to address Aviva's horrid behavior which was 10 times worse than i've every seen from anyone else on the show the whole time i've been watching. It just seems like no one defends Ramonia when the 3 of you are discussing them and constantly just seem to support Aviva who God knows supports herself enought! I'm a huge fan heather..keep just being yourself and you will keep your fans!
BTW.. I love your fashion, share where you shop for clothes or start your line of clothes : ) Ill help you
You are such a great person and you seem like the mature one in the group. Level headed. I have really grown to love you on the show. You are very classy and graceful. Your awesome!
Congratulations on your award. I've come to really admire you over the past few episodes. You really let go of your grievances with Ramona, and moved on. And you are a workaholic like no other -- you get things done. You and Carol really are the peacemakers! I have to admit that I had reservations about you at the beginning, but your real character has really come out. So glad you are around.
Okay, I was kind of with Ramona on the fake smile at first. But then I think maybe you are one of those that smiles when nervous. Since I do that as well, I can't really fault you on that.
However, after St Bart's, I think you are great. I loved the attitude of let it go and enjoy the funniness that is Sonja and Ramona. Though looking at the previews, LOL.....
I wasn't sure I liked Heather in the beginning - leaning towards no - but now I truly think she is an honest person with good intentions that just doesn't take bull. Verdict still out but - liking her so far
Heather, really enjoying watching you, however, I really wish you would lay off Luann with the whole Tomas incident. And I think if you were all friends you would support her relationship with Jaques as opposed to trying to incriminate and judge her. (Or we should all see the footage of her coming back with Frenchie?? :) )
I love you!!! i am so Happy that you are part of the NY cast i watch just to see you and Carol.. I am so glad that there is someone on the show that can put Ramona or anyone else in their place instead talking behind their back.
Welcome Heather! You truly seem to be a great individual and a breath of fresh air. I love the Housewives series because it is very entertaining and in my busy life, it is a nice hour to unwind and be entertained by, but also, relate to other women. I am all about being able to relate to someone else! You are extremely relatable! I find your communication skills and self expression, as well as your sense of humor and intelligence a great addition to the housewives. Sure, the drama is okay but you add an edge that supersedes drama and still, makes you a pleasure to watch. Can't wait to see more and hear more of your one liners...they--and you are absolutely yummie!
Heather you are the conscience of the group of woman, I very much the relationship you and Carole have developed. I wrote a blog to LuAnn telling her that truth will set her free and that she should at least always tell the truth to you and that you would give her the proper suggestion for her to use. Wow your relationship with Jon, remind me of mine with Claudette, she was beautiful, the 2 of us were volatile together but we stayed together for a few years until she punched in the back window of her car in an angry episodes, so please no physical anger just argue, no hitting. You do analyze each and every situation, and for the most part you are correct in your deduction. Ramona was pushing into your business with Sonja, Ramona has to always be the mother, and you do understand what a stage mother is, that what she presented in her eyes she was not butting in, just giving her own opinion, that you were suppose to take, 100%; but I know that is your expertise not hers so you were correct as an expert, but we all know the motto "the customer is always right, even when they are wrong". All of you makes some group, and I must say the best group of housewives on TV today. Hunter
Mind your own business on Luann and Jacques.. you are not her mother.. Don't ruin it for yourself, people like you now..
I'm a Heather Cheerleader!!! You fun to watch and seem to have a grip on everything going on around you. It was such a treat to see you and Carole on your girls night out. It's no wonder that you two get along so well. And the way you handled Aviva, brilliant. I have never seen someone on Bravo tell someone else to "shut it" with such grace. Bravo Heather...Bravo!
Heather, Did you major in psychology? You would make an excellent therapist! Although, you can be judge mental when it comes to LuAnn. As much as you want Aviva to let go of St Bart's already, let go of the Italians with LuAnn. Even if Jacque doesn't turn out to be the one for her, you can't force her to come to that conclusion or to discuss things with you she doesn't want to. You had to out her on national tv when you don't even know exactly what did or didn't happen behind closed doors. Closed as in none of your business. A friend doesn't blast to everyone in these situations. A friend watches the behavior of her friend, lets some time go by and discuss it one on one without first discussing with everyone behind her back. I was really surprised by your actions. Overall, you are quickly becoming a fav!
Balthousewife Judging people and involving yourself in people's relationships and telling them what to do does not make one an excellent therapist. It actually makes for a very BAD therapist.
Thank you for telling it like it is. Straight-talk, a common sense approach to the issues at hand. Aviva seems to be isolated and needs to get out of her small world. I'm glad you and Ramona are getting along! I never understood why she was always angry around you... must be envy.
I think you nailed Aviva's issue on the head: self importance. YES!! She is the center of the universe. She is also very mean spirited and relentless when challenged. And like Carole said, these are not good qualities... oy vey.
Luann has a lot of the same qualities as Aviva but she is less emotional about expressing her feelings; she just cuts people off.
Dear Heather, Thank you for confronting Aviva about her UNSTABLE BEHAVIOR. Hope we see you next season.............I LOVE YUMMIE TUMMIE !!!!!!!
Hi Heather! I really enjoyed your blog. I can tell you are trying to set Aviva straight, but she is just not getting it. You are very diplomatic, understanding and compassionate. A nice addition to this cast. Please fill Carol in on your take, she seems blinded by Aviva's contribution to the spiral downfall the vacation took. I don't think Aviva will ever get it. She seems more interested in explaining and defending her behavior than actually owning it, and sincerely apologizing for it. I am glad you now see R & S as entertaining and having a good time on vacation, they did not deserve to be called names on that vacation and again in NY. I like the way you rise above it. I look forward to watching the others learn from you. Lu lu included. Take care!
I fell sorry for Sonja and Romana. Adiva is the one that showed out and all you guys can do is talk about how bad Sonja & Romana was. Hell, Adiva was CRAZY. So what she flew on a small plane, so what she lost a leg when she was a child. She is still alive, thats what counts.It time she grew up.
You're pretty cool! I think you should be open with Luann and just tell her point blank how you feel!
I just wanted you to tell Aviva to shut the hell up already. With all her anxities, phobias, etc. you are correct in saying her main problem may be that she is self absorbed!! She still fells she did nothing wrong and wants to point her pointy, skinny finger at Ramona and Sonya when she should be pointing it at herself. I'm so over her and just want her to go away.
Heather, of all the Housewives, you demonstrate the least drama, the most reason, and the most honest backbone. I'm glad to see at least one female role-model for young women out there. It's tough enough making it in the business world. The last thing we need is catty fights among women. Holla!
Re LuAnn and you “being in a horrible position” LuAnn didn’t put you in a horrible position. You’re putting yourself there. If approached by Jacques, you tell the truth: you didn’t see anything. Did you see LuAnn actually having sex with these men/man? If you didn’t, then you know nothing.
Carole seems like a lovely woman, a gentle soul.
Aviva? Her “self-importance” goes beyond bounds. She was hateful and vile to both Ramona and Sonja. She owes them both an apology. Say what you will about Ramona but never, ever has been anything like Aviva. Never. Ramona & Sonja were in the pool when Aviva arrived; they yelled out a Welcome to her. Aviva not only wanted every one of you to stop everything you were doing, she then screams she expected a party for her and her husband. Is she joking! Let’s remember one key point about that “girls” trip – everyone was getting along, no fighting, no screaming. Everyone was having fun.
By the way, don’t let Aviva ever see you and Carole or anyone else sitting in a bar drinking and throwing back shots – she’ll attack you and whoever you’re with the same way she attacked Ramona and Sonja for letting loose on vacation. Don’t most of us let loose on a vacation and just have fun.
So be friends with Aviva but know her true personality. She tries to portray herself as this victim who’s made it through – which she surely has – but it’s clear to see, she’ll attack you in a heartbeat if you don’t meet “her” expectations. People only take so much so that apologies won’t help. She makes Ramona look like a saint. Ramona and Sonja may forgive Aviva but they will never forget nor will any friendship that was beginning to grow ever go forward. Aviva has shown she has a toxic side. Very toxic side.
We’re all equals in this world. Yes, some may be much more wealthy, some more beautiful, some more thin. At the end of the day, we all fight the same fights and have the same struggles. Neither money nor beauty can help.
Congratulations on your award at the AFL Gala. I’m sure it was well earned. Giving back is one of the greatest gifts we give ourselves, isn’t it.
I cringe when you say "HOLLA" ! Stop it....it doesn't fit you & quite frankly, I feel embarrassed for you.
It was nice of you to help Sonja, for FREE with the toaster oven thing. I can't believe what a diva she was when she walked on your set. That's what happens when you mix pleasure with business, I guess.
I was pleasantly surprised to see you and crazy Ramona getting along. I think if the men and Aviva were out of the picture, it would have been a pleasant trip. I don't know why Aviva acted like such a crazy biotch, and demanded she be welcomed with a party or red carpet or whatever...what's that about?
I like that you told Aviva that it isn't always me, me, me. I think someone needs to confront her other than Ramona and Sonja, because they obviously have no credibility with her. Kick her off her high-horse, will ya?
Stay strong and true, and best of luck filming!
I liked you right from the first show of the season. You are a fun, but level headed intelligent woman with common sense and decency. I'm sorry, but I do not admire Aviva in any way, she is just another loud mouthed bully on the playground.
I really enjoy you on the show and I think you are a very articulate, well-spoken woman. I admire how you handle conflict, especially with Ramona and wonder if you've had public speaking training. You were always able to deflect her in a great way, even if it was always lost on her!
Heather you are the most diplomatic person I have ever seen. That trip was a s--t fest but you handled it with such calm. Why did you not be honest with Carole about how you really felt about the dynamics of her partificipation of Aviva nerotic ramblings? Carole jumped ship once aviva came and it was kind of at your expense when double date became more important. You had every right and I think she would have maybe caught the hint to how f-ed up had you called her out on it. You are a breath of fresh air.
I'm starting to like you more & more every show. I think it is great that you and Carole have hit if off. On the flip side, please talk to Aviva AGAIN. She goes on and on about how Ramona and Sonja acted so horribly. Helloooooooo has she watched the last couple episodes, has she not heard herself, screaming and shreeking and making derogartory remarks. I would also like to know why any of you have not confronted LuAnn for stirring up this hornets nest. To me, LuAnne is with Jacques, trying to have a baby but hooks up with another man, what kind of behavior is that? Ramona and Sonja like to party and they were on vacation. What is wrong with that? Did you and Carole not go out with the intention of getting wasted? Ramona is like the "look but no touching allowed", she drinks and parties hard but Ramona is totally faithful to Mario. Sonja is single so really nothing she did was anyone's business. To me LuAnne and Aviva are the 2 biggest fakes on the show. Talk about "money don't buy you class" you can say that again!!!!
WOW I really cannot believe I am gonna say this, but I am definitely starting to like you. The first episodes, really, up until the trip-- I did not like you at all. I guess it just seemed like you were wanting to come in and just take over like you were miss top businesslady and miss IT girl and start shunning Ramona and the way you left her and only her out of the London trip was really very rude and lowclass of you. I'm not saying I worship Ramona or anything but that was not cool at all. How would you like to be the only one not invited to something as big as a trip like that? You can say you wouldn't care, but you know that it would bother you. But I'm so glad you all got together on the St. B trip and bonded and had a great time. Ramona can be loud and in your face--you just have to know how to take her and not take everything she says so personally and literally--that's just how she is and I guess she can't help it. She means well. I don't think she is deliberately rude to anyone unless she feels like they have been that way to her or have slighted her, etc....I know I will have many who disagree with that. LOL. oh well. . Anyway--after the post trip dinner with you and a-Diva, when you really put her in her place and told her how it was, (and did it very tactfully I might add) you definitely gained my respect. Also how you took up for Samonja--even though they aren't your besties--you knew they weren't doing anything wrong, they were just having a good time, letting loose, and being ON VACATION--just like you said in your talking head. You were the only one taking up for them--of course LuMann isn't going to take up for them, she loves for people to be mad at them so she can be right in the middle of the bashing--listening and drinking it all in and taking any heat off her-- and even Carol sided with aDiva and her repulsive behavior. When I see the sight of aDiva all rigid and pointing fingers and yelling and freaking out and losing it--it literally makes me want to slap her and say My God woman---do you hear yourself????. I thank you for telling her it is not all about her like she thinks it should be. Her saying all that BS about giving her a party, and making a banner for her, rolling out the red carpet and all that, really--that says it all. She is used to everyone making such a big deal over her, which I'm sure they have done her whole life because they feel sorry for her. Someone, namely REID because she listens to him, should clue her in that it is not all about her and that she should really think long and hard about the way she treats people. Look at the charity incident--- glimpses of what was to come. She has no qualms about going into someone's home and yelling at them because they didn't do exactly what she wanted. Heather I hope she listens to you and takes your advice, although I certainly won't hold my breath. Anyway---just wanted to thank you for the only true (IMHO) comments on aDiva's behavior and the way things really were in St. B's......... I hope you continue to grow on me............ I'll be watching !!!!
Keep having fun and smiling. Watch out for Carole and Aviva. They will bring you down.
Your are quit the fashionista!!! Love, love, love your hats and dresses. I'm glade Romona figured if she couldn't beat you, then join you!! It's good to see her in your presence without saying something negative. I was starting to second guess the person Romona is. One of your best qualities is being real. Especially at the photo shoots with Sonja, sitting down and speaking to Romona when you all went shopping and when you outed the ladies for speaking behind LuAnne and Jacques back when the couple left the party. I can't say it enough...thanks BravoTv for welcoming Heather and Carol to the New York cast. What a great business move!!!
you're super... brilliant! a natural beauty! a classic all around - I adore old classic films from the "Golden Age" of Hollywood, and you remind me a bit of Carole Lombard!
About taking Aviva to see a flick---terrific idea, be cautious about the subject matter...she seems very particular in her tastes. I'll give it think and send along suggestions in a day or so.
Hmm. she probably doesn't eat popcorn, or M+Ms or Twizzlers, or CrackerJack, or Mike+Ikes, or Dots, or Good n Plenty, or Gummy Bears...
in the event, Carole might not be able to say it yet... but I LOVE ya girlie!!
Thank you for standing up for Sonja and Ramona. For once on these two faced shows full of manipulating women I can watch one woman YOU have someone's back. Aviva is so judgmental and crude and insensitive with her reprimands and remarks its repulsive to me. A very angry woman. She reminds me of the stern preacher men in old cowboy movies. You are someone who grew on me and who I would be fortunate to have as a friend.
Wow...I like you! I REALLY like you!!! I did not to begin with but the past couple weeks you have changed my mind about you...you tell it like it is ...it's refreshing! Although I think I would have just point blank told LuLu..you came to my door with Tomas...cut the crap!!!
Congratulations on the award! =0)
Ok, I must say this- I have not liked your personality from the beginning. But let me tell you the things that made me smile about out you: 1) you jumping in the pool with your dress on 2) your lunch with Aviva 3) drinks with Carole Way cool factors in my book. If this is who you really are, cool.
When Ramona invited you to the dinner at her home and then proceeded to try intimidation tactics with you and you handled it so gracefully and intelligently, I knew that I was gonna like you. As yet you have not disappointed. You seem to be empathetic, supportive all the while trying to encourage personal strength.You also seem embrace everyone's individuality. That is a rare quality to find in a friend. I also like Carol, I just wish she had a little more "spunk" when listening to Aviva digress over and over and over again. Look forward to more episodes.
Heather, you are quickly becoming my favorite housewive!! Like a lot of the other posts, I agree that you are the voice of reason and you have excellent communication skills!! it's great to see a new face with some calming effect for all of us??
You and Carole are so funny and genuine. Such a change from the rest of the ladies.
Heather - You are the voice of reason!! - I'm glad you could clarify things to Aviva - too bad she doesn't want to listen. Stay true to yourself - and you are the good friend that Sonya described - sharing the shots and making sure 'she' gets home safe too! We need more girlfriends like you these days not judgmental -self absorbed ones.
I love you Heather! ...but stay out of Luann' s business. I thought it was pretty low to out her on national television (when you really don't know for sure what happened). Everyone makes mistakes and I would never want to ruin some else's relationship, even if I thought they deserved it! And you barely know Jacques, so trying to play it off like you have to be loyal to him seems kind of silly.