Things (and people) are gettin’ crazy up in here...
Watching this episode I am having flashbacks to filming now more than ever, because it was during the holidays and I can remember being crazed trying to keep all the balls I was juggling in the air along with the added pressure of the season! Oy! I remember being happy when I got Carole's invite to what I knew would be a lovely holiday dinner at Hotel Griffou. I had just hosted my company Holiday party there for Yummie only two days prior, and I love the place. Jon and I didn't need a sitter because my sister was in town, and I knew Ramona and Mario were not attending, so I was looking forward to a fun night out with my hubby and friends. The game we played called “White Elephant” (where you have the choice to keep your surprise present or trade with someone that has gone before you) was so much fun! And Aviva’s dad, the now infamous George, added thrilling shock waves with his irreverent wit. But as you saw, even George was upstaged by the live lizard that leaped out of its neatly wrapped box. Bravely, Carole captured him, gave him a home, and named him George. I've actually asked Carole to write the story of George for all to read, because you could never imagine what became of him, but that is another story. On this particular evening the two Georges added a lot of emotion to what might have been a predictable evening out on the town!
Heather - I'm so happy you are on the show. You and Carole are wonderful, down-to-earth, interesting women. I'm just sick to death of Ramona and Sonja and their self-entitled, delusional, nasty behavior. Ramona constantly blasts others with cruel, hateful, hurtful remarks - excusing herself by saying "I'm just being honest". (As honest as an alcohol-soaked, nightmare can be). I'm sorry for being so nasty. She is a hypocrite accusing others of the traits she exudes. She leaves a slime trail behind of hurt feelings and walks away pop-eyed and wondering why her victims "just don't get it"! OUCH!! I apologize again for being so hateful. I really only wanted to say that you are a wonderful addition to the show - my guilty pleasure - and ask you to please stay and not let the hateful ones drive you away!! Best, best wishes -
Just finally had a chance to read this blog and wanted to weigh in on the red lipstick question. I prefer your look when you wear light lipstick. It just complements your entire face more and allows your eyes to be the focus.
You Heather are by far my favorite on the show. You are a breath of fresh air. I am so glad that you stood your ground when you didnt invite Ramona to London. Ramona is the #1 most annoying person on all of the shows put together. All she does is run her her mouth and says nothing, drinks too much and makes an ass of herself every time she is on camera. I truly cant stand her. I thought it was so funny when she couldnt recognize her own wine. Even if it was a dig, I'm glad they did that to her. It shows how phony she is. She talks about others being fake and she is the queen of fake. Her husband is a bit off his rocker too. I love how you handle yourself with all the "wives". You tell it like it is, and you had every reason to be ticked off at Sonja when she waltzes in like she is some rock star that everyone should be honored that they are in her presence. I cant wait for new episodes, keep up the great work!
Ramona's antics this season have made the show almost unwatchable for me and I can't imagine how you must have felt going through them. My guess is that after the women were fired last season, she feels compelled to cause drama so as to maintain her place on the show. It's ridiculous and embarrasing and, at this point, may be time for me to tune out for good. You are a breath of fresh air - just wish it was Ramona fired last season and not Jill!
I don't claim to be a huge fan of the show, however, from time to time it makes its rounds into my day. I have to say, Heather! You are funny, congenial, gracious, and from this viewers stand point not even in the same species as the other women on this show. Frankly I don't know why you bother getting into it with the other ladies you are so clearly above them. With the exception of the other little brunette (her name escapes me)... you two should run for the hills and let the other crazies duke it out with their vapid, loud, wine soaked pejorative banter. By the way I look forward to trying your product... as a female chef god knows I need it.
Just watching the show sucks the life out of me... I can't imagine how you handled this. Was it editing or real... you did a wonderful deed for Sonja and she shows up late, and then has nothing nice to say about the shoot to her good-friend Ramona? It looked like she wasn't being authentic at all when the subject came up at the party... let's all make Ramona happy by saying things that she wants to hear.
I enjoy your addition to the show. Crazy show! Are you just planning on one season...?!
I love you on the show. You have the patience of a saint with Ramona.
and I love Yummy (hadn't heard of it before the show but I'm a fan now)
You are a breath of fresh air on this season; Ramona's behavior toward you denotes clinical paranoia or manic depression for which she needs help. Good for you for standing up to her unreasonable projections. Stay far away from her and that will drive her even more nutz. All you can do is detach from her with great grace, kill her with kindness and do not get baited anymore. Good luck with your business and your family. Nice of you to try to help Sonja but probably best that friends not try to work together on such a project, good lesson learned. Ramona lives in a self-created fantasy world of her own and is officially out of control. It is not entertaining watching her anymore, it is just plain sad.
The NY Housewives make me nuts; they are, by far, the hardest for me to watch sometimes. You and Carole are actually the two who have brought me back to watching NY. The "holla" thing is a little annoying but that aside, I think you are a wonderful addition. I get so tired of people enabling Ramona and allowing her to humiliate and insult without consequence. She's a total fruit basket, and horribly mean, and it's about time someone said it to her face. And Sonja; you gotta love her but she's so irresponsible and selfish and it's refreshing to see someone call her on that as well. To be perfectly honest, as a consumer, I wasn't crazy about her branding idea or yours, but you ACTUALLY worked toward getting something done. She expected everyone to work for free, work hard, and be able to read her somewhat scattered mind and know what she wants without her having to put any effort toward it at all. She, also, is total fruit basket, but a loveable one. Most of the time. Thank you, for allowing me the time to actually sit on my sofa and watch the NY Housewives now. Before, I sat on the edge of my seat, if I hadn't already changed the channel, and yelled the things out loud that no one on the show would say. Now I have you to say them for me. Every week I look forward to more.
I just watched this episode for the second time and my blood is boiling after listening to Ramona's comments and watching her behavior. I believe in you Heather and find you a breath of fresh air on this season! Let's hope Ramona will change her tune soon, but I think it's too late for that.
next time don't jump big to judge people and call them names and stop saying you did not get paid for you service because nobody made you do anything... and you do talk behind peoples backs.....
Heather, I admit that when the show started, I really was not a fan of you because I thought you were a bit of a fake. And that smile of yours reminds me of a shark grinning at its prey! Not friendly at all!!!!! I still am not a fan, but I can't help but be on your side in this episode. Ramona is so into everyone's business! She thinks that you steam rolled the shoot??? RAMONA steam rolls everyone's life! And Sonja was very unprofessional by showing up so late to a shoot that costed her NOTHING!!! She should be glad that you put all that effort into it. Someone has to! Those two are so childish, and Sonja is so fake! She can never just be honest about someone with anything, always saying what they want to hear, and not what they NEED to hear. And who the heck cares about Ramona being on the shoot? Isnt Sonja old enough to make her own decisions and express her own opinion? Clearly she isnt capable of that. Poor girl. I pity her. Ramona is the queen of talking behind people's backs. I like how you are handling those 2 mindless idiots. Keep it up! I'm slowly starting to like you.
Heather, you and Carole are the only two rational, sane people on that show. Ramona is so freaking crazy!!! She's obviously manic, and the fact that you have stayed so calm around her is amazing. Keep on doin what you do girl, you got this!!
You handle yourself with grace and should be proud of yourself. Anyone watching knows that Ramona is unreasonable. I would just back away from crazy and not engage. She is always pulling the plug on discussions with you and I think it is time for you to unplug her. Let her hang herself. Honestly, I think she is an incredibly damaged and insecure woman and your sucess poses a threat to her. It is for this reason that she is constantly seeking out ways to insult your business skills. She is just looking for threads to pull in the work you have done for Sonja, yet offers Sonja nothing to advance her business pursuits. She conducts herself as a self-centered child. At this rate, I don't see her lasting on the show. You can hear a general sigh of exhaustion among viewers of this played out mean girl plot that Ramona embraces.
Your assessment of Ramona's behavior as "crazy" was 100% accurate. Instead of defending it the people (Ramona's friends and husband) in her life should help her address it.
Keep walking with your head held high you area breath of fresh air to he RHONY old guard.
Ramona has issues. You will just twist in the wind dealing with her. Sonja doesn't seem like a bad person, but she isn't the most logical member of the herd. Donating time and energy to try to help her has backfired on others in prior seasons, because she likes to maintain multiple conflicting relationships and won't deal with Ramona. I agree with Drshilolenfant. Putting too much energy into helping Sonja for free isn't good for you. You handled yourself well, and the best path is to maintain calm in the midst of backstabbing. I hope you stick through multiple seasons, because my entire family is tired of the Ramona/Sonja parade.
Heather how you have been able to stay so classy with Ramona and Sonja i will never know. Sonja totally disrespected you and i would have snapped out on her from the beginning. She acted so entitled. I truly believe her only business savy came from landing a weathy husband. And Ramona. What a whacked out,narcissistic person. Has no manners,no class and is basically a bully. Please stay how you are. Dont let these catty,vicious,hateful women change who you are. You are by far my favorite!
Heather - you don't need to explain or defend. You have some issues, but all in all, you and Carole are the two on the show who need to be the most careful about hanging out with the other women. I don't know what they have, and I don't know if it's contageous!! LuAnn used to seem pretty together, now she just ACTS together - she's lost touch. Hang in there and watch yer back! (but lose the "holla", k?)
Heather, I so feel your pain. It's clear to everyone watching that what occurred went down the way you say it did. Sonja was entitled. Here's what I wrote on her blog comment section "Sonja, you seemed unprofessional throughout the duration of working with Heather. She was always professional, providing her expert opinions. She tried to back out gracefully, saying you seemed to have a different vision, but you insisted on making her keep working with you for free. It seemed like you wanted to use her resources but not her expert ideas. She was not hired to work for you, she was doing her a favor, and you treated her very poorly. Heather came off looking professional and calm, while you, unfortunately, did not." Heather, keep up the good work. My only piece of advice is to let people know ahead of time if they are out of line. Sonja needed to be "let go" the first time you tried; being too nice will often end up hurting you! No one will judge you for letting go of an unhealthy (unpaid) work situation.
Well Done! I loved the way you deflected all the negative energy at that party... I felt really bad when everyone ganged up on you! My jaw dropped to the ground! I couldn't believe the hypocracy that was going around you. Well Done for standing up for Jacques and also keeping very professional. I would have loved it if your hubby rocked up and had a go at Ramona, Mario and Aviva...
" nor myself are the high maintenance types" Oh. My. God. I've never laughed so much. You don't think you're high maintenance?
you are fantastic! you are like the only good quality of this show now. If you leave, along with Carol I don't think I could stand it anymore. So tired of Ramona this season...its awful you had to deal with her crazyness.
Heather, your breakdown of the personalities of Ramona and Sonja (with the sexy j) were spot on, you nailed it!
Heather your amazingly patient person, wow Sonja was so disrespectful to u and to everyone there. Avivia is stirring the pot, she started this whole wine game question. I enjoy watching u, and Ramona is very intimidated by you, that's why she flits in, screams, then runs away.. Thanks for sticking up for jac, he seems so kind. Hang in girl, hope to see u next season.
Heather you are obviously smart, confident and articulate---a cool and refreshing addition to this cast. But. you know ...you seem to have a need to be right-- which combined with your perfectly rational manner and tone complete with big smiley face is a little off putting and starting to grate on my nerves. These ridiculous power struggle scenes with Ramona and Sonja are becoming irritating to watch.
I can imagine this cast of characters has probably driven you to this dark , condescending and sanctimonious place. but please save yourself. step away from the dark side. I'm just sayin" ...Stay Cool. Holla!
When Sonja said "I'm the client" you should have pulled out invoices for the $30-50,000 worth of free concepts, talent and production the INGRATE was getting at no charge. But since all of the web sites for her "new businesses" are dark, this must have been just a huge waste of time for the show's sake. Bad idea. Both Ramona and Sonja need to go next.
Heather, I really like the new ladies on the show, although I don't know why anyone as classy as you would join in the craziness with Ramona. Ramona has some issues and you nailed it...she wants to be the center of attention. She is in love with the sound of her voice however crazy and illogical it may sound.....and her wimp of a husband Mario is an enabler. I love how you handled the Europe invitation and all the drama it presented. I also loved how you handled the Sonja shoot(Ramona didn't need to be there0. I basically love how you handle your life and all these ladies Hollah at your Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .
Heather, I have to say you are growing on me. (When the viewers were first introduced to you, you gave off the impression that you are awkward.)
As most people know when people get involved in arguments, it is almost impossible to come out smelling like a rose. However, I can honestly say you certainly proved that statement untrue. Sonja's actions in the shoot were completely unprofessional, yet you handled the situation with grace.
When Sonja is talking to Ramona, she seems to play the victim--part of that is because Ramona wants to believe that worse in people that she doesn't like--that she is being steam-rolled by you into what you believe is best for her business. To be fair--from watching the previous episodes--it did seem like you and your team did steer the direction of the branding (sometimes it seemed is if you were almost dismissing her some of her ideas). However, as you clearly have the expertise in this area and Sonja came to you for your help--so your opinion SHOULD matter.
As it was made clear this episode Sonja is coming to Ramona as a friend, not a business consultant. Ramona comes to Sonja's defense by helping make Sonja have her voice be heard. However, during the meeting after protesting Sonja (as she always does) and gives up. It was Ramona--who came to help Sonja--was left arguing for what Sonja told her she wanted for the branding of her toaster oven. Instead of joining the meeting, Ramona should have encouraged Sonja to call and explain to you that she feels her voice is not being heard in the meetings instead of ambushing during the next meeting to discuss branding--as it was supposed to be a professional meeting, not a personal one. Unfortunately, it seems that both Sonja and Ramona have not yet learned the how to behave in a professional manner.
If Sonja can't communicate herself without Ramona then she needs to get a day job and give up being an entrepeneur.
I don't believe that Sonja really appreciates all you did for her. I also am not sure if she was trying to cause tension by saying you didn't want Ramona at the shoot, but as you said, Ramona hears what she wants to here. I am afraid she sees red when it comes to you (and not your lipstick, which I liked by the way). She is crazy, and you can't fix crazy.
Aviva will have to learn the hard way that she is playing on the wrong team, team Ramona!
I love all of the new girls this season, and hope to see you all back! One request though, please vote Ramona off the island. She is so draining and hard to even watch sometimes.
This last episode spoke volumes of the ladies.
What exactly is Ramona's problem with you? It seems very unreasonable, and ridiculous. She is coming across as a mean girl, like back in high school.
I like that you keep a cool head, and don't get involved in the sand throwing. I appreciate that you tell people directly exactly what is bothering you. I also respect that you stand up for others.
Sonja, was wrong in her behavior towards you, after you did so much to get her stupid oven venture off the ground.
Stay strong, don't change, don't give in to the child like behavior that seems to be a plague on the set....
Heather, You are such a classy lady. You are absolutely right, Ramona is one crazy lady and I don't care what Avia said. It won't be long before Ramona and Sonya will do something to her too. I sure hope Bravo will not consider them next season. Love, Love you.
I liked the red lipstick, but I liked the shirt you had on even better. I think that the issues between you and Ramona are sparked by you both. Also, you are a "know-it-all" .... expert at everything kind of person... you tend to be overbearing .... Ramona is like that, too. Sonja knows how to handle Ramona because of the history. However, there is no "history" with you and Sonja. I think that Sonja should handle you the same way. Don't you think? Or do you think that you are a little too sensitive? Ramona is the same to everybody. She pretty much tells you what she thinks .... regardless of whether you are there or not .... So, bringing this to a point, she would have said that to LuAnn and Jacques if they were there or not... She doesn't care .... She is just Ramona .... You try to be aggressive and forthright... but you get sensitive and your feelings get hurt ....
Ramona needs to get some class and a filter....you cannot go around vomiting every thought that comes to your mind. She is classless
I admire your professionalism even when I would have slit my throat....Ramona could learn a thing or two from you....she yells, and stomps off like a 5 year old! They say the one that is out of control is the one who loses obviously because they know they are wrong...You keep your cool and let Ramona act like the maniac it just shows her vulnerability to you. I love you and Carole who show that a little sophistocation can go a long way! Ignore Ramona everyone is tired of her just read her comments on her blog!
Stay true to yourself. Ramona & Sonja are too old for you anyway!!! If not or the show, would you ever be friends (or even aquaintances) with either of them?
Class acts do not follow people around the room annoying them! You were out of line to tell Ramona's husband Ramona was crazy! I was shocked when you approached Ramona's husband and started to tell him what a bad person his wife was!
You are only getting back at Ramona because of the remark she made to you on he first show about how you talked too much which you did! You should have appreciated the advice coming from a very wealthy business savy person such is what Ramona is! You are not very wise!
You know... Sonja didn't mind talking about her period on national TV but she was concerned about that shirtless man on her toaster oven?
She and Ramona need to be aware that since both their brands are nationally attached to them specifically - in name and because of their TV presence - that THEY ARE THEIR BRAND! If they act badly - that reflects on the brand.
You gossip about Ramona behind her back and somehow you find yourself as the victim! I hope after you watch the program you will re-analyse your intentions! You get on my nerves in ways that none of the other cast members from any other shows have ever done! I hope Bravo takes you off the show because you are only there to promote your business!
You don't think that Ramona is on the show to promote her business as well?
I applaud your ability to keep it together while Ramona and Sonja continually stir the pot.....
they really just want to start trouble.....and Hopefully Aviva will wise up and stop lingering on the fence.....Hey if the relationship doesn't mesh - let it go and move on.....I don't understand why Ramona can't do that.....Chin up.....
Heather!! Great Blog!
You and Carole are what was desperately needed. Thanks to the two of you this show may be salvageable. I love how the both of you are reacting like any normal person would to completely inappropriate bizarre behavior. These women have got to get over themselves (yeah, I am talking to you Ramona but also Sonya and Luanne). The unnecessary drama is what makes these shows a complete joke. Instead of the usual train wreck that we have all come to expect, there are now some voices of reason in the mix. I appreciate that Carole and Heather are not afraid to speak up when necessary but they also know how to let trivial crap slide. There is such a stark contrast between the new regime and the old regime. Now that we have a few successful sophisticated women who can handle themselves in social situations, it truly highlights the “crazy train” cast that is left over. I honestly think that Jill and Kelly behaved so poorly over the last few seasons that Ramona and Sonja were kind of overlooked but now they have nowhere to hide (not that they would ever feel a need to hide as they constantly justify their antics).
Ramona, you need to realize that stating “I am just a straightforward person. That is how I am” doesn’t absolve you of responsibility for your blatantly RUDE behavior.
Watch out “crazy train”, the new housewives are really here!! The POSSE is in effect! So much more appealing than the usual tired drama we see. It is fun watching Ramona and Sonja make their own beds (Luanne, who are you anyway?). Thanks again Carole and Heather (Aviva, you are getting there but you got to get over this Ramona thing which I know is coming so let’s see you then) , we needed you!
Shout to Chris D. for being my RHONHC partner. ;-)
Heather, I admire how you can keep your cool through a very annoying stressful situation. I wasn't thrilled about your idea for the male body image on Sonja's brand HOWEVER, after seeing the end result, I absolutely loved how it looked. I'm actually surprised Sonja didn't change her mind in the end.
PS Where red lipstick all the time, you rock it!
Heather, I love watching you! Finally someone to give it to Ramona, who I have to put on the mute button when watching! She's crazy!! Your very generous to have given Sonja all your time and expertise for free. And she doesnt even apperciate it. I think you being on this show may promote you more, but I really think being in this group of women is harmful to your reputation as well. You are successful enough without them! They are like being in the mean girls group from highschool. Not good!
Heather you are a class act! You are so talented, smart, kind and sincere that I wish I knew more women like you. The way you handled Sonja's behavior during and after the photo shoot was amazing. I would have lost it but you kept your cool.
Standing up to everyone at the party for dissing Jacques took courage and I really admire you.
You are an inspiration and I am so happy that you are on this show.
Heather!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!
You and Carole are the only reason I watch the show!!
Team Heather all da way!!
@leila_pj I wholeheartidly agree. Carole and Heather are the best things to happen to this show in a long time!
I am fairly certain that Sonja didn't really ask Ramona to attend the shoot. I'd be more inclined to believe that she felt uneasy about the direction the shoot was going, mentioned it to Ramona and Ramona told her to have her there so she could "help."Everyone knows that sex sells. The branding you came up with was not only sexy and classy at the same time (not an easy balance to maintain,) but it was also an unexpected approach, which made it even stronger. Sonja doesn't mind talking about sex in every other area of her life, I would think that her brand should have reflected her personality. Sonja doesn't say "No" to Ramona. She only ignores her. In any case, I'm sorry that your efforts were not received well.
About the walking girl - Don't you think that she was developed "in the image of" the Skinny Girl? That would make that particular mark weak for Sonja's brand.
Truth be told, I'm not that impressed with the labels on Ramona's wines, but I bet she was behind the design and she believes that she knows how to brand well. I would even bet money that she was a bit jealous about you helping Sonja rather than Sonja going directly to her.
Anyway, for us it's a show. For you - this is your life and livelihood. Eat the fish, spit out the bones and move ahead with the success you've already built.