Cast Blog: #RHONY

Heather Defines Holla

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Heather Defines Holla

Heather reflects on her signature line and her relationship with LuAnn.

Tonight we saw the first part of the two-part reunion show. If you were expecting drama on the level of the New Jersey ladies, then I am sorry that we may have disappointed you but I am happy that we did! But don’t be mistaken, there was a lot of tension in that room and I can tell you Sonja and LuAnn were unexpectedly primed. Unlike during filming, I felt an unexpected distance or separation if you will, from some of the ladies from the moment we sat down that I had never felt before. And, I could sense, this rollercoaster ride was in no way over.

But before I get into my perspective on Part 1, I would like to take this opportunity to explain why I use the term “holla” and what it means.

I will start by telling you that I did not "plan it" as part of my opening title line for the show, it happened while recording my line, "My success is built on making women look and feel there best." In the studio while recording it one of our producers said, "It feel like it needs a 'Heatherism' on the end? Maybe try ending it with something that comes organically to you and we’ll see how it sounds?" “Holla" naturally flowed out of me as a positive shout out to all the ladies who over the past 4 years have been rockin' and lovin' bought my Yummie Tummie products and it stuck.

Now I can’t go anywhere without out getting a "holla" from folks I meet on the street, to every tweet #holla and even from my closest friends, who say "holla" when I walk into a room. On Twitter, my newest Jewish friends shout out to me with a "challah" (which is a Jewish bread that is pronounced very much the same way as holla, that among other things, is traditional to Friday night dinner), wishing me a lovely Shabbat and I LOVE IT ALL! It's so fun and feel good! I have always used "holla" as a positive "shout out," or as an "acknowledgement" that I use with friends. Some use it as a follow up, i.e.: "Holla back when you can" when leaving a message. "Holla" is a term that I picked up years ago and whether I am 30 or 42, I use it when it feels right, but it has never defined me until the show aired.

LuAnn, who I actually became quite close to during filming never asked me what "holla" meant. Even after defining me as "gangsta chic," and I can only ascertain that she decided to "save it" for the couch. So, for LuAnn and for anyone else out there who does not already know, below please find a quick cheat sheet on the uses and definitions for how or why one can use "holla!"

Origin: "holla" is a common colloquial spelling/pronunciation of holler.

Holla as an interjection: a greeting. "Holla!"

Exclamation of celebration. "I got $257 in tips from last night. Holla!"

Holla as a verb: to talk to or to contact at some later time. "I'll holla at you later."

When trying to talk to or attract a member of the opposite sex; "hit on." "Every time I go to the mall, those fools be tryin' to holla." Or "Can I holla at you baby?"

To contact someone, e.g. via a telephone call, e-mail, cell phone text message, etc. Also holla back. Typically used as a request. "I'll see ya later. Holla!" OR Message left on an answering machine: "Well, I guess you're not home. Holla back at me when you get in!"

"Holla" can also be used as a goodbye, a request to contact someone. So "Holla," as goodbye means roughly, "Contact me later." "I'm leaving man. Holla."

Another topic discussed on the reunion couch that I want to approach is the process of borrowing clothing from designers. I wasn’t able to hold the floor long enough to give the proper answer to Andy and so I feel compelled to explain it now.

First and foremost, I was not present when said "dress borrowing" happened, so I cannot speak to the he-said she-said of it all, but as I am sure you are aware this practice has been going on since there were celebrities and designers who cared to dress them. And, it can happen in several ways. . .

Many designers like Valentino, Armani, or even Chanel have longstanding relationships with the actresses, celebrities, and VVIPs. The relationship is often so strong and personal that they communicate directly and the designer often creating a specific design and for the actress (think of Cher and Bob Mackie). And this process takes a lot of work and effort with fittings and the whole nine yards.

Another way it happens is through stylists. There are a lot of famous stylists who represent the celebrity, and will communicate with the design house and coordinate looks for a specific shoot, appearance, or red carpet event. Another way it can happen is through the celebrity’s publicist. The publicist will call the PR manager of a designer and coordinate it that way. Any way you slice it, it is a process but in the end, if it is done well -- both the celebrity and the fashion brand benefit from the exposure. And that is the very reason designers do it, is for the exposure.

Carole had a few points regarding this that LuAnn missed, because she took the incident so personally.

The first point was that Naem dresses VVIPs and often customizes his pieces for them. Her second point was that Life and Style Magazine did not give Naem Khan the exposure he covets for his collection. Carole felt that LuAnn asking for Naeem directly to loan her a dress, was out-of-line and put someone very close to her  in an awkward position while Naeem was being nothing more than a gracious host for his wife and her guest. In no way was Carole saying that LuAnn was not good enough for a Naem Kahn design and -- agree or not -- LuAnn chose to take it personally and did not reflect on Carole’s perspective at all.

Having said all of that before I let you go, I have to address the situation with LuAnn. As you know from watching every episodes and reading every blog that I have written, I have had nothing but support and love for LuAnn. I adored getting to know both LuAnn and Jacques during filming RHONY and quickly began to cherish the new friendship that we were building. Lu is a lot of fun, she is beautiful inside and out, we spent a good deal of time off-camera with our guys, and Jon and I grew very fond of her and Jacques.

Although the closeness remains, my frustration with LuAnn came to a head on the reunion as I continually encountered her inability to receive constructive criticism or even try to learn from others feedback. If LuAnn doesn’t like something that someone has said about her, then in her mind, it isn’t true. After St. Barths it had been building and on the couch it begins to come out.

I so desperately want LuAnn to be more open and accepting of others' thoughts and feelings because, ultimately, it will make her an even better person. Nobody’s perfect. We all have a need for attention and admiration from others, but LuAnn’s steady composure is shaken only when her confidence is threatened and she is very confidant, which can leads to a tendency of taking others for granted, and I will not allow her do that to me. We ALL have room to learn and to grow. We need to own our flaws and shortcomings, and work to improve ourselves as human beings through the experience or living and others perspectives and hopefully we can laugh a lot doing it!

As always, thank you for all of your support and feedback. To learn more about me and my shapewear go to Facebook, YummieLife.com, and HeatherThomson.net. You can also enjoy 10 percent off your next Yummie Tummie order by entering code "Iamheathert10" at check out. Don't forget to follow me on Twitter at @iamHeatherT and please visit donatelife.net to sign up to become an organ and tissue donor. Tune in next week for the big finale. I will be tweeting live during the show so HOLLA at your girl!!

XOXO
Heather

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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