Cast Blog: #RHONY

I'll Do Me

Heather wonders why no one could enjoy the idyllic scenery of St. Barths and explains why the double date upset her.

If it is me, me, me, me…then I am just going to do me too.

This week concludes the vacation that one can refer to as the “Week from Hell.” Can you imagine, given the absolutely idyllic setting we found ourselves in, that we could not just have fun together!? Well, if you thought that was possible -- then you don’t know this group of ladies.

At the beginning of this episode, I learned that Aviva and Carole had planned to go on a separate double date to dinner that excluded all of the other women -- including myself. To say that I was bummed to hear that is what they were doing would be an understatement. Part of the hurt comes from that fact that I left behind my family and my business to go down to St. Barths to spend time and bond with the ladies as a group. Many of you are working moms just like me, so you know the logistics that go into coordinating a trip. My husband Jon is amazing, but he is a partner in a commercial real estate firm and has heavy obligations too, so I have to work out extra time for my kids and our wonderful nanny, and then there are all the details with Yummie. It is a lot to leave for seven days on holiday and it's the rare that I would ever even do it. The other part of my disappointment came from the fact that Aviva and Carole were my girls.

And the one-on-one time I was having with Carole was special. I agree with Carole that it does become difficult to create true friendships when you reach a certain age. I read an interesting article in the New York Times awhile back that I am reminded of and encourage you all to check out here. It touches on how we make our closest friends earlier in life. . .at college and in our 20s.

So, off we go to lunch and no time was wasted getting into it. Aviva again with her pleading for attention and desire for accolades for flying to St. Barths, it was exhausting! Where is the cool Aviva? COME BACK! The Samonja didn’t stop either with the hen pecking. The continuous reliving of the flight on the small plane sends Carole into a painful recollection of John and Caroline's devastating crash -- one that was felt around the world. And simply, just where are everyone’s manners today? I am an easy going girl when it comes to etiquette, (notice my potty mouth at the table), but this is ridiculous. Ladies, let’s just sit down and eat!?

Finally, I get up too and find Carole and Aviva getting pedicures instead of getting this lunch on already and discussing said “double date.” And at this point I am ready to throw in the towel. Rather than stick around and scream, I am out. I literally WALK home, grab my book and a towel, and go to the beach to do me, and just chillax!

Carole is always included in my plans when Russ is out of town and I am always considerate that he is often on the road. But I have had enough of this crazy tail chasing everyone is doing. I am not going to participate in this foolish game of musical chairs or any further shouting matches. I am making my point clear by opting out and it feels right to me. When Carole does come down to Saline Beach to check in on me, I am happy. I don't like to hold onto anger and especially now with Carole. A little “adult time out” with just the two of us and a yummie seawater swim really did the trick.

I am seeing with you viewers the scene with Aviva and Sonja fighting in the kitchen for the first time tonight. Wow, isn’t it interesting how quickly a conversation can spiral out of control? And talk about spiraling out of control, our Sonja needs to get a handle on her consumption of the spirits. We all love the grape, but she is letting loose on another level so I am going to attribute some of the crazy to that, but I cannot excuse Aviva for her inability to “let the damn plane ride go!” Take the Ferry next time, girl!

We wake up on the last day to be greeted by a set up of massages, manicures, and pedicures. The royal treatment all arranged by Carole! I am in heaven! It is complete perfection on every level. We luxuriate and I ignore the drama. I am focusing on myself again today. And after all that pampering, Carole has organized a ride to the pier for sunset cocktails followed by Russ’ concert.

I missed this during the moment, but watching the episode with you, I realize that Aviva pays me the nicest compliment on the ride to the pier. We are discussing the Ramona situation, hers not mine, and she turns to me and says in reference to how I dealt with Ramona’s wrath, “You are a lot stronger than I am.” And, I just realized that maybe I am, and maybe I need to back off Aviva a little. Maybe I can just be that strong woman and let these ladies have their moments. And when the going gets too rough, I can always just do me again. The concert was nothing short of amazing. I am only sad you guys don't get to see it. Russ is so talented. I encourage you all to check out Russ Irwin! We arrive back at the house for our last dinner to find Sonja and Ramona doing what they love best. . .wine. LuAnn, Carole, Aviva and I sit down and basically beg those two to pull it together and come for a bite. It is our last dinner at this amazing house and despite all the ups and downs we want everyone there. After some primping and packing and overall silliness, they finally make it to the table.

We eat and then I concoct the idea to lighten the mood with a midnight, “Goodbye St. Barths” swim. So I am in first. . .followed quickly by Carole, Lu, and Aviva! Sonja. . .and let me be clear: I love this woman. . .strips down and jumps in. No one can accuse Sonja of being a party pooper that is for sure! Ramona is coming up with every reason in the book not to join in the fun so Carole and I make a plan. Carole will distract her by having her pass a drink while I go into the kitchen and wham. . .I hip check her into the big drink!! Like I said on the show, the entire trip was worth it for that moment alone! Hehe! And Ramona is a great sport. We are all like a bunch of school girls. The trip was rough and we had some highs and lows, but we ended on the highest of highs with laughter all together.

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Sonja: A Fun Night With a Younger Man Never Hurt Anyone

Sonja thinks she may have found this season's pot stirrer and wonders if Ramona is really happy.

Welcome back to the bitches who brunch!
I’m disappointed to see that the girls are being vile and continuing to attack me and claim that I do not have legitimate business deals going on. Especially to Bethenny, who has not seen us frequently since she had little Bryn. Gawd forbid Bethenny believes this horse sh--. Luann, Kristen, Heather, and Carole all claimed that I am not really a businesswoman, that all of my ideas are not coming to fruition, that I don’t work every day, and that I didn’t make the toaster oven. That should get a few laughs from those who know. But even if I was not successful and were delusional, as the girls say in Bethanny’s kitchen, what kind of friends badmouth another friend like that? Right now I need friends who are going to support me. It also upset me that the other women said that I was drinking too much at Luann’s housewarming party! The women know that I wasn’t drunk that night, and I’m surprised that Heather would try to allege that I went from cider to beer to drunk. I didn’t stay to party with Heather and Luann and try to keep up with them. I left to go to Ramona’s, where I was a guest. I am running my businesses and raising my daughter, and I can’t afford to have that kind of toxicity in my life, especially with investors involved. I hope that with the release of my fashion and jewelry line that the girls will change their tune and accept that I am and have always been an independent businesswoman. Sometimes I think they just want to keep me where I was. That was comfortable for them. You don’t see me running around looking for a new husband to take care of me. I married my ex-husband because I loved him. BTW, the gardener gave me his number to meet him out after, but I was a good girl and went home.

It seems like Heather has decided to become the new meddler in the group. This should prove to be interesting. While I am very grateful that she was willing to help me with my toaster oven shoot and the box mockup, I would appreciate it if she stopped getting involved in my business affairs. We mutually agreed to that after that last experience! Heather then went on to try to tell Bethenny how to handle Ramona when Bethenny has known Ramona for so much longer than Heather! This reminded me of when Heather tried to get in between Luann and Ramona during Season 4. She also got in between Carole’s argument with Aviva. In the preview we see that Heather can’t stop herself from getting into the other girl’s business, and then she tries to tell Bethenny to apologize to Kristen! We have yet to see Heather fight one of my fights! I hope that Heather gets the hint and lays off telling the rest of us what to do.

I thought that the whole brunching situation was ridiculous, even though I adore going to 75 Main and seeing my friend Zach Erdem. I don’t understand why we all couldn’t have just had brunch together. I think if everyone was just a little more relaxed, we would all have a better time, and we wouldn’t fight about these silly things. Life is too short to worry about who’s HOSTING the brunch! As long as we are getting Bloody Marys, everyone should be happy! Heather makes the best Bloody Marys! Why for Gawd's sake are we not following her to brunch?!

I am so glad that the girls and I got to have a fun night out at Beautique like it used to be! There was no drama, no fighting, just girls having a good time and not judging each other. I agree with Bethenny that it was odd that Luann didn’t tell her that Kelly was coming, but I’m glad that they were able to move on and not let one bad moment ruin everyone’s night. Maybe this was Lu trying to patch them up? We have seen Lu and Ramona do a 360. Lu and Bethenny did a 360. Ramona was having a good time and seemed like she was adjusting well to being single! I know that Ramona is going to be OK, especially if she has the support of all of her single, fabulous girlfriends, and there are many. I still find it strange that Ramona got upset with me saying she was divorcing when she says she is single over and over. Could she be pretending to be happy single? Trying to prove something? I still remember that psychic telling her Mario was cheating. It was so upsetting, I started crying for Ramona.

I am so glad that I met Dominik, and I had a lot of fun with him, but I am definitely not looking to be in a relationship with a younger man right now. I had a young boyfriend last year! At this time in my life, I am looking for a man who is more established and can be a long-term partner--and closer to my age. Especially now that I have ducks lined up, and I’m seeing the trees through the forest. I have not been this happy in some time.

But one fun night with a younger man never hurt anyone. Tune in to see if this is a one-nighter or not! The women are saying a lot of nasty things about me, but no one is trying to say that Sonja Morgan doesn’t know how to have a good time! No matter what happens, I am always the straw the stirs the drink. Lu and Heather drag me around like an old suitcase, so you know they are not worried about me at all. They are just too darn encouraging for that to be true. I guess I need to give my girlfriends more attention once I am over the hurdle of my lawsuit, so they feel secure in our friendship. We have seen LuAnn duke it out with Ramona over my time spent between them. Now we see Ramona freaking on Bethenny over her time with me. I guess I’ll just be the fire hydrant!

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