Heather Thomson

Heather wishes everyone wasn't so filled with excuses this week, herself included.

on Aug 20, 20120

And speaking of great days. . .I have no words for the children Aviva works with. Seeing that little boy with his new running blade prosthetics left me speechless. I cried throughout that scene. Happy tears. I get extremely moved by how bittersweet life can be. . .so beautiful. Aviva had invited me to this and we had planned that I would bring Jax along. He and Aviva have developed a special bond based on their struggles and I love it. She can talk to him about things from a place I cannot and she takes it very seriously and as a "responsibility." She loves Jax that much more for it. And I love her right back for it. Unfortunately, scheduling conflicts prevented me from attending this special day, but I loved watching it on TV along with you all. What a beautiful scene and how much do I admire Aviva for giving back the way she does. She is such an amazing role model for these little ones. Everyone is over-scheduled but this is one thing I was so very sad to miss. No excuses.

It feels like this episode was full of excuses. . .excuses for saying the wrong thing, excuses for not showing up to support a friend, excuses for not being able to travel, so many excuses! Some of them justified and others maybe not so much. We all have our reasons but wouldn’t it be nice if we didn't need them?

As always, thank you for all of your support and feedback. You make being on the show so rewarding for me. To learn more about me and my shapewear, go to Facebook, YummieLife.com, and HeatherThomson.net. You can also enjoy 10 percent off your next Yummie Tummie order by entering code "iloveheathert10" at checkout. And please don't forget to follow me on Twitter (@iamHeatherT) and to visit DonateLife.net to sign up to become an organ and tissue donor.

Xx Heather

174 comments
NoExcuse
NoExcuse

 Life happens and you can't be at two places at once. Despite desires and best intentions, we all have responsibilities and duties to fulfill. That aside, there certainly isn't any excuse for bad behavior...even when someone else behaves badly first or consistently.  Let's be perfectly honest and call a spade a spade Heather. You are just as guilty of some of the same transgressions for which you chastise Ramona and even Aviva on occasion. You have demonstrated poor judgement, tactlessness and altogether poor form.  Your beautiful smile cannot hide your animosity.  The old golden rule should always apply -- if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. Despite how others may act, it should not dictate your actions or reactions.  Unfortunately my impression of you has dropped several notches after watching events unfold during the current season.

Nieves
Nieves

You and Carole are my favorite NY Housewives. Heather you are a class act. Ramon was ABSOLUTLEY wrong in the way she came across. She is definitely a nut job. Sonya relates well to Roman because they are cut from the cloth. Real friends can agree to disagree.

janduggie
janduggie

Heather please stick to your guns!  You are absolutely correct! Ramona is a crazy person!!   And, I don't care what anyone says, she IS an alcoholic. It creeps me out when her eyes roll around in her head . . . agh!  Ramona does think the world revolves around her . . . she's in for a rude awakening!  The other nut Sonya is running a close second!!!

MomTo5Angels
MomTo5Angels

I think you are my favorite housewife of NY by far! I think you handle yourself with such class when it comes to  Ramona. I will be glad when she is off the show. I had a son born with a rare heart condition, so I know the stress and fear you went and go through. You are an amazing woman! Don't let Ramona's crazy rub off on you...PLEASE!!! =)

cuddle1988
cuddle1988

Heather you are such an incredible women !! I'm glad you stuck up for Jacques when all "mature women" were talking behind his back like children,..

jadejeans
jadejeans

Yeah  Ramona &  Sonya  !!  Without You Guys The Show Would Be Boring ! 

PleasePost
PleasePost

If there is anyone on the planet at the end of his season (INCLUDING AVIVA) who does not understand why you didn't want Ramona in London with you on business - they need to seek professional hel,p along WITH Ramona.

mizrosy
mizrosy

Hi Heather ...  you are the best.  I agree with you about not inviting Ramona on the London trip.  Lets face it you were not afraid to say what everyone was thinking to Mario. Stay strong ... Team Heather

HawaiiBlue
HawaiiBlue

You are one of my favorites too - you are ALWAYS composed and very practical.  You get right to the point and don't deal with nonsense.  You have brought less drama to the show and I think you make Ramona face the music.  I don't think you owe Ramona an apology either.  When she first met you she blurted out rudely that you never let anyone speak - that was sooo rude of her because SHE never lets anyone get a word in edgewise.

Cbush
Cbush

You are spot on about Ramona , I love how afraid she is of you., that's why she can't have it out with you and she continues to run away. You are breath of fresh air

cehemise
cehemise

Heather,

You seem to be the recipient of undeserved animosity from Ramona. She obviously carries a grudge and remains livid for not being invited to London. She refuses to let it go. Frankly, I was glad to see you with the courage of your convictions and leaving her at home. Before London, you were a guest at her house, and both she and her husband treated you shabbily. I would not have invited her, either. She's been a little tornado ever since. She created her own cyclone at the most recent party and behaved irrationally. You just can't win where she is concerned. It must be frustrating dealing with someone who makes absolutely no sense.

Mporter1017
Mporter1017

Not sure if my first comment posted. Ramona is crazy! I think you and Carole are the only sane ones on this season. You are my favorite! I don't think anything you said was wrong even tellin Mario his wife is crazy. Because she is!!

angelas02
angelas02

Heather, I really hope you read this. I am appalled at Ramona's psycho behavior and the fact that you put up with it, are consistently polite and accommodating shows what a patient (and even indulgent) kind of person you are. Anyone else would have exploded in outraged but you have always remained calm and even forgiving. Ramona should be institutionalized and does not deserve your respectful tolerance. I think you're nice and smart and savvy and you should not be on such a trashy show. I applaud your success and hope you'll be able to void people like looney tunes Ramona and vapid Sonja in the future.

smitty62
smitty62

You and Carole and LuAnn are my favs... you're sane and real and I enjoy watching you every week... and you had NOTHING to apologize for in regards to calling Ramona crazy to Mario... she is..

vjl4556
vjl4556

Just keep being the calm, cool, REAL person you are and we will all keep loving you!!!!  Personally, I enjoy the no-drama moments of the show much more than the ridiculousness that comes from Ramona and sometimes Sonja.  Can we just vote everyone else off and make a show around you and Carole?  And even better, I bet we could pitch a spin off with Ramona and Aviva's leg... that would certainly make for plenty of footage to air!

dumpy
dumpy

You bring a great deal of real to this Reality Show.  I wish the best for you and family.  I actually laughed out loud when self absorbed Sonja actually thought SHE held the reins of your FREE help and that of other pro's you can pull together.  All for a silly probably over priced toaster oven - honestly how many times does anyone buy a toaster oven?  Once every 10 years?

Ramona - Is so so weird?  and Crazy??? yes.  Thank you for being real.

carri.laszlo
carri.laszlo

I like you Heather, you are the realest person on the show. I would love to try your yummie stuff but I am financially strapped since I just finished school for Physical Therapist Assistant. Please find it in your heart to spare 1 peice for my muffin top,

 Love ya the best and I predict Aviva is gonna loose it.

Lynda58
Lynda58

Heather, You are so reasonable and patient and thoughtful, it makes me wonder why you agreed to be on this show.  R was and continues to behave like a crazy person.  She hits and runs YOU all the time.  It proves the point as to her exclusion to the London trip.  She hardly knew you then.  Why were you expected to have her?  Ugh!  Marry-Oh's reaction time was delayed.  He is either slow on the uptake or really doesn't care one way or the other.  His protestation to you was half hearted at best.  He probably  wanted some camera time.  Keep being you - YOU are GREAT!

iheartsf59
iheartsf59

My least favorite housewife ever.

robklint
robklint

You are a breath of fresh air --  A down-to-earth real person in the midst of WACKOs.  Okay, only Sonya and Ramona are wackos, but they're enough to drive the Pope to atheism.  Most of the time you handle Ramona with such grace, poise and bluntness.  Kudos to you!!  The show needed YOU.  Glad you are on RHONY and so glad that 1.  You are not afraid of Ramona and 2.  You stand up to the crazy *itch. 

jschott65
jschott65

I'm unsure how you've been able to keep your composure as long as you have.  What you said to Mario about Ramona being crazy was spot-on.  Under the circumstances, being verbally assaulted by her yet again, I'm surprised that's all you called her.  You don't need to apologize.  Ramona gets away with her disgusting behavior season after season and no one apologizes for her, let alone Ramona herself.  There's no sense in talking to Ramona, she doesn't listen to anyone.  All she does is raise her voice and walk away like a child.  It's absolutely ridiculous.  What's just as bad is the things she complains about in others are things she herself does on a regular basis.

 

As for Sonja's campaign, you went out of your way to do a favor for a "friend".  In the end, you didn't get the credit you deserved, which is really a shame.  Live and learn I guess.  Stay cool!

beccsterboo81
beccsterboo81

Heather stick to your convictions, that's why you're a successful business woman and America loves you! Ramona is crazy and America is tired of seeing her. She has no consideration for others feelings and truthfully I feel sorry for Avery having to grow up with a mother like that. It seems the only reason bravo keeps her on is for the drama factor. You are admirable and many 20 and 30 something women can relate to you. Keep up the good work!

roe.rizzi
roe.rizzi

Heather, I for one feel that Ramona & Sonja were out of control that night. Also they were eavesdropping on YOU so if they didnt want to hear anything, they could of walked away. Secondly, you should send Sonja a bill for all your hard work. She seemed to think it was coming to her. All those people bowing down to her was unacceptable! Let her get her on PR people, pay the big price and take her toaster oven with her! Is she kidding me!!! A toaster oven cookbook. We all use toaster ovens.We dont need a cookbook to make something inside and how stupid does she think we all are. She acted like a big baby along with her cohort Ramona! Let Ramona do something for her free of charge and see what happens. You are way to kind to these people. All the luck to you on the show!

meganfurth
meganfurth

Heather-I live in a small town in Minnesota near Minneapolis, I DVR the show for my after work relaxation. I am 26 and adore you, you tell it like it is and everyone is ****** crazy. i made an account just to support you which is against my religion. Not really.  Everyone fights for their side but in my eyes your side is worth a mention. I have watched this show for years and i know in real life this happened months ago but you deserve a shout out.

Peachie
Peachie

I love your honesty Heather!  Your confidence - especially when dealing with crazzzzzzzzyyyyy Ramona is noteworthy.  She is NOT use to people being brually honest with her and I LOVE watching you in action.  Keep it up!!

trini09
trini09

Hi Heather , I just love you and especially the way you handle Ramona ,I also think you should have left Sonya alone she and Ramona have been friends for so long and I have never  seen Ramona do half as much for her as you did . anyway love, love ,love you keep on being your hot self girlfriend .

 

barby1015
barby1015

Heather~ You are as mean as the other girls. Only Aviva and Carole should be invited back for another season. 

LanaS
LanaS

Heather, Ramona is completely off the rails.  And ironically (as Ramona I'm sure could appreciate) you were simply  "not afraid to say what everyone else is thinking." 

 

You are a class act.  You may well be my favorite HW of any city, any season...Holla!

ScottinNYC
ScottinNYC

Heather !! I`m telling ya .... Earth Mother personified. The only centered person on the show. It was brave to take on the gossiping lunatics. And llok how defensive they became. What kind of yenta is Aviva? Gossip is a no no.

Beyoncca
Beyoncca

I love you Heather. You are so awesomely brave, the way you confronted Aviva about bashing Jacques and you held your own up against "the master enabler of bad behavior, Mario.  Stay strong, and stay long.

fleurdelisnola
fleurdelisnola

Thank God that you are on the show because otherwise I don't think I could bare to watch it. You have been the most REAL one on the show this season. Between Ramona and Sonja, I don't know how you can keep yourself so poised and polished. You are wonderful!

zeus31
zeus31

I am beginning to think you are the only sane one on the show..

Juli1964
Juli1964

Heather, maybe Mario would have been ok with you calling Ramona Looney-Toon,cause that's what she is! He knows. Hehe Wow, I can only imagine what THIS reunion is going to be like!! Woohoo ; )

JFaemer79
JFaemer79

Ramonas a brat, Aviva is just going around scholding,acting like eveyones mother .

migsvi
migsvi

How can you not LOVE Heather!!  And Carole too!  Heather, you are one of the few "real" housewives out there!  Tell the others to get over themselves!  I swore I would not watch this season because I am over Ramona and Sonja.  But you and Carole got me hooked.  I love that you are so "down".  Its about time there's some realness to NY.  It hasn't been there since Bethenny!!!!!!

BarbarainNY
BarbarainNY

Hi Heather, on this most recent episode, I'm wondering why you chose to "get into it" with several people at a party -- a party for a client of Sonja-in-the-City, the brand you're helping to develop. Yikes, isn't that a bit of poor taste to behave in that confrontational manner of yours at *your* client's (Sonja's) event?  You weren't the only one off the wall, of course. There must have been something in that air that evening for so many people to behave so badly.

TSan
TSan

Heather, you keep it real and that is why I like you. It's one thing to say what you mean and it's another thing to say what you mean in a rude way. Ramona is rude with her approach. You are nice with yours but you also don't allow people to walk over you. That doesn't make you fake, that makes you a real person with decency and respect for other people and their feelings.

 

Aviva needs to learn to keep her mouth shut. If your opinion of Ramona is that she is "crazy" who is Aviva to tell you you should not say that. Even Mario didn't disagree until Aviva made a big deal about it. You were right in everything you said that night so there's no need for you to apologize to anyone. Ramona is crazy. It doesn't take you to say it, she does a good job of showing the world how nutty she is on her own.

 

Yes you showed late for Viv's event but as busy as you are, you still came. That is more than her so called friends Sonja and Ramona could do so no apologies needed there either. Defending Jac and Lu shows us that you are not a follower and you stand firm in what you believe to be right. Keep being you and don't back down for anyone. Holla!

mm811
mm811

Heather - I was really disappointed in Aviva's behavior this episode... and I hope she's apologized to you!  We all know Ramona is crazy (not just "acting crazy"!).... but Aviva should really know better.  She was clearly mocking Jacques with the rest of them, and then took no ownership of that.  Ramona came and did another "drive-by," and Aviva defends her??  Makes no sense.  

 

Keep strong - and don't back down... you give us sane folks some hope!!

jolee1965
jolee1965

I really like you Heather your good fun and yes Ramona is crazy ...

southernmanners
southernmanners

You are one of the sane ones...get out now before you become crazy too!

 

jameyclasvegas
jameyclasvegas

Oh Heather, Heather, Heather. You are fabulous. You're my favorite housewife right along with Sonja. I think the two of you could actually be great close friends if Ramona wasn't in the picture. You're gorgeous, intelligent, composed & successful. I love seeing you on the show & you're ability to carry yourself the way you do & run the tight ship you do with your business, is very inspiring. Ignore the haters. Feel the love of your true fans. :) You are witty & bright & I'm happy you're on the show. *holla* hahaha :)

dmarie60
dmarie60

If Ramona doesn't leave the show I may have to stop watching it because I can not stand her!! And I am getting so tired of hearing her loud mouth!! She is ruining the SHOW!!!!

Sabisf
Sabisf

 @smitty62

 Really? It's ok to go so someone's husband and insult his wife? I don't think so...

Beyoncca
Beyoncca

 @roe.rizzi

 Ramona did do something. Right before Heather pulled together the DreamTeam for Sonja, Ramona and Sonja met in Ramona's office where she gave Sonja a few tips on business and when Sonja had nothing to write the "tips" down on, Ramona told her assistant to grab a notebook and to give it to Sonja. That's helping Sonja right?

mellowyellow
mellowyellow

Lol, Lana! Well said, especially about the part in quotations. my

LaserOne
LaserOne

 @dmarie60 Let's face it.  Ramona brings the Crazy DRAMA that most people tune in for!  Like her or not!

Juli1964
Juli1964

@dmarie60 Hi all, I'm new to the "blog watch" team but I have to agree with you,I sometimes mute the tv when Ramona is on. She just can't get enough drama and she is all I, I, I, it's nothing if it's not about her.

Rita-la
Rita-la

 @Sabisf  @smitty62 It's not like Heather sought Mario out. Ramona went storming and screaming off and Mario wanted to know what was going on. After getting that treatment from the Ramonacoaster, Heather's response was pretty mild, IMHO.