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Pot Kettle Black

Heather responds to Ramona's digs and discusses making memories with her family.

Hi Everyone! I hope you enjoyed this episode. For my part, it was clearly meaningful, and I anticipate some of you will begin to get to know me better after watching.

As you see, Ramona took a shot at me again in this episode during her lunch with Aviva. And while I agree that I have a lot to say and that it certainly appears that I talk A WHOLE LOT, I don't agree with the "interrupting" comments. My "engaging in a conversation" is a sign of enthusiasm, and when Ramona (of all people) gives me grief about it, it is truly the pot calling the kettle black. I mean, did you see her conversation with LuAnn? It seems that everyone has the same issue when communicating something to Ramona that she does not deem important.

In the first episode, I shared that my father passed. What you may not have realized is that it was days before the show began. Some people actually criticized me for sharing this, calling me "Debbie Downer" or "someone with issues." But, no matter. Watching this episode brought up a lot of emotion for me and my sister, Sherry. My dad's life affected mine. And, aside from my mother, I don't think there was anyone prouder of me.

Although my dad had a really difficult time showing it, he loved me, and I had an enormous amount of love for him and felt proud of him on many levels. Discovering my dad's box of pictures from his time in the Korean War and finding the poem that he wrote while fighting there gave me incredible insight into my complicated father and the mind of a soldier. These are all things that can truly be applied to present day. It also showed off one of the many great talents my father possessed -- he was a poet! I have posted the entire poem my dad wrote on my Facebook page, for those of you who may be interested in reading it in its entirety.

Upstate New York is a very special place for me (and yes, it is a historic area), and it's filled with both childhood memories and new memories that my young family and I are building in the Berkshires. It was an honor inviting you all into that part of my life, as we paid tribute to dad.

There are so many different ways to raise kids, and my husband Jon and I have a casual parenting style -- that we balance with quite a bit of structure and a whole-lotta love. We take joy in parenting our children and raising adults, and we believe kids are kids. The early part of our son Jax's life was lived in the hospital. Jax's challenges (lung and liver issues, plus severe food allergies) are serious issues. Despite his hardships, he is treated like a typical child.

I admit that I sometimes do over-indulge Jax in figurines of superheros and other characters (because he is a true collector of them and he loves to play with them!), but it is my way of making up for all of the hardships that Jax has to endure every day. And, to all of the mothers who have reached out to me whose children are facing challenges, I am so happy that you have connected with us. Not knowing if your newborn is going to live to see his first birthday truly changes you as a person. You learn the hard way, that there is so much in life out of your control and that only the big things in your life are worth all the worry. I also found the belief that in life everything works out as it should, even when we don't understand why.

Doing RHONY is a journey and certainly a very unique opportunity to see yourself as others see you, and I believe it will be positive experience in many ways. I want to thank you for all for your warm feedback, constructive criticisms, and all of your Tweets!

You can learn more about me and my Yummie Tummie shapewear at

See you next week!
xx. Heather

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Kristen: B and I Are Not Besties

Kristen tells us how she really feels after not being invited to Bethenny's party.

Carole is so hilarious. I love that she met Adam, hit it off, and they are hanging having fun. You go, girl. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

I have to agree under 35/over 75 seems like a great way to go when dating. The Halloween puking in a pedicab thing is OMG, too funny! He held her hair back out of the way! #truelove

I actually didn’t know that Adam dated Lu’s niece. It seems to me that Carole just fell into this. The feeling is mutual, and I would have to agree it’s a bit awkward to tell Lu too soon. Carole doesn’t even know what’s happening at this point!

Bethenny's birthday dinner seemed like a lot of fun, LOL. I didn’t know that she shared the day with her mom, that seems like somewhat of a sore subject. I do remember hearing years ago that she hated birthdays. I love that Sonja is with her German boy. I think it's nuts how these women just keep inviting other men as guests--they clearly didn’t get the plus-one only invite. OMG, the young boy not knowing Jordache jeans?! How is that even possible?

Cheers to expecting the unexpected!

The phone call with Heather catching up and then finding out that I wasn’t invited was interesting, and very much what happens. Simple question: Gee, why wasn’t I invited? Listen, anytime you are in a group and you are not invited, I don't care what anyone says, it’s a bummer. I was last with all the girls in the Hamptons. I felt that we had a nice time at Bethenny’s brunch. Last I saw, Bethenny and Ramona had a huge fight.

When you do meet a new group of women, sometimes it’s nice to include them all, especially when random young dates get to tag along. 

Kristen Taekman

I was just surprised that Bethenny and Ramona made up so fast and were hanging out already? That’s all. I get it--B and I are not besties. When you do meet a new group of women, sometimes it’s nice to include them all, especially when random young dates get to tag along? The guest list was clearly not that tight. Oh well…there’s always next year’s birthday!

Dorinda and Hannah and Dorinda and John. This all seems very complicated, stressful, and a lot of work. Dorinda is really so lovely. It’s hard to believe that she leads a double life. How hard is that? Unless John is really not good for her, it seems that Hannah has to allow her mother to be happy.

Ramona and AOA.

This restaurant is in my ‘hood, just a few blocks away, great spot. It’s really funny that Ramona is an investor in a sports bar. WOW things really have changed!

It’s interesting how Ramona says that she did so much for Mario and didn’t realize how much work he was. It’s nice she is taking time for herself, she really deserves it. As she said, “Trying to look on the brighter side.”

Ramona and Peter are both very, very flirty…hmmm, more than just business??

Dorinda and John seem to love each other. But we are seeing so much fighting and bickering. I am betting that the making up for them is fun after the fighting. 

Rebranding death. I hear Bethenny, “late husband” does seem weird, but I think it’s better than the alternatives, that’s for sure. When I heard about Anthony’s ashes, I became sooo emotional. I can’t believe it, all that that must have stirred up in Carole all these years later. She told me that he would have gotten a kick out of it all, that’s the kind of personality he had.

I am not losing sleep over not being invited to Bethany’s birthday. I was just confused as to why everyone else was invited, and I wasn’t. The last time I saw her, things seemed good between us. She knows we all hang out together, you would think she would say, “Uh, well, now that everyone else is coming, what’s another two? I should invite Dorinda and Kristen.” Right? But no biggie, she didn’t even think of it, because we aren’t friends. Little side note… uh, that’s how you get to know people! I invite you to do things, you invite me…no harm, no loss. Heather is a great friend for having my back! All good. #staytuned


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