Heather Thomson

Heather responds to Ramona's digs and discusses making memories with her family.

on Jun 11, 20120

I admit that I sometimes do over-indulge Jax in figurines of superheros and other characters (because he is a true collector of them and he loves to play with them!), but it is my way of making up for all of the hardships that Jax has to endure every day. And, to all of the mothers who have reached out to me whose children are facing challenges, I am so happy that you have connected with us. Not knowing if your newborn is going to live to see his first birthday truly changes you as a person. You learn the hard way, that there is so much in life out of your control and that only the big things in your life are worth all the worry. I also found the belief that in life everything works out as it should, even when we don't understand why.

Doing RHONY is a journey and certainly a very unique opportunity to see yourself as others see you, and I believe it will be positive experience in many ways. I want to thank you for all for your warm feedback, constructive criticisms, and all of your Tweets!

You can learn more about me and my Yummie Tummie shapewear at YummieLife.com.

See you next week!
xx. Heather

48 comments
mel@redondo
mel@redondo

I like you! Please try to understand that Ramona has a good heart! Some people aren't as socially saavy as others. For instance, Luann can be charming most of the time. But what you don't know is that is running you through the coals or slamming you to someone else about you to your other friends. Then she smiles all the while she is around you. Ramona generally looks for the good in people, & she tells you what she feels, then drops it. Don't you hate it when people gossip, I do, you just feel you can't trust them!

Susan B.
Susan B.

Forget the haters, you had every right to say that your father had just passed.

My six year old had four heart procedures and spent the first 21 months of his life in the hospital. For goodness sake, your sons health issues are a very important part of your families live.

Good luck with this cast!

OC Deb
OC Deb

You are a refreshing addition to the cast. And you're definitely right about the "pot, kettle"!

Not Fooled
Not Fooled

You do interrupt frequently, and you took that whole thing way too seriously. Also, Ramona told her story about Avery in response to your story about Jax. Calm down, or you're going to get eaten alive.

opusvii
opusvii

I have a feeling that you are going to have a very difficult time dealing with Ramona. She will go out of her way to hurt your feelings every chance she gets. In fact, she makes her own chances. Good luck.

Ms. Faye
Ms. Faye

Love you. You're the most interesting person on the show, along with the other 2 new ladies. My heart goes out to you about your father. I lost my dad in 1993 and I still think about him often. I do regret not having a closer relationship with him while he was here. We became closer when I was in my 30's, I'm now in my 50's. He found out he had lung cancer and I was the one who took him to his chemo and doctor appointments and was there to help him out around his house. I do love him dearly and I tell him that in my daily prayers. Along with my mom who has gone on as well. They are both still with me as I think about them often and they also appear in my dreams. It was funny that you wanting to talk about it made the girls uncomfortable. But it is a part of life that we all will experience one day.

susie q.
susie q.

U are a great addition! Can not wait to see more of you in the future!!

Barbara
Barbara

Heather, love you! You seem too normal for this group. Will enjoy watching as the new season unfolds. Good luck, watch out these women are ruthless. Good luck!!

mly75
mly75

You seem very sweet and i was so sorry to hear about the loss of your father, and equally sorry to hear the snide remarks from the other women after the fact. But, oh my gosh, it was so painful to watch you, especially when you were talking to Ramona and Mario. You must have been nervous or something because you would not shut up. You would not let Mario finish a thought and you completely hijacked the conversation. Who cares about Ramona - look at yourself. You were ANNOYING! Anyways, i had to say something because it was cringe worthy and i have a feeling that i will be fast forwarding through your scenes.

jenmom
jenmom

1st-we tend to dislike in others the thinks we dislike about or selves, 2nd-you better get a tougher skin if you are going to survive this show, 3rd-let things go!

Sherri in sc
Sherri in sc

I do feel for you and the loss of your dad. I lost my dad to cancer and it stings very much. Oh by the way that was me sharing not trying to one up you. When you have someone in your office show them respect and humility. Oh "thank you for sharing I am so glad we got to talk about that" you are so fake no one is trying to one up you she was just sharing her situation with you. I do the same I had a child 7 weeks early and blue (not breathing) so I share too. You can bring up your stuff but you don't think anyone else should. Oh it was not at a dinner party maybe that is what was so bad. I am not Ramon's biggest fan, but I think a couple of the new girls have watched the show and they are coming in with pre-conceived notions. You need to give everyone a fair chance. Stop playing the victim and use your manners.

OCAlly
OCAlly

To Doctor's Wife from June 11. Oh brother! LuAnn is talking to Heather about her own father. You don't think they maybe it triggered Heather to bring up her own father's passing? And yes, LuAnn did criticize Heather in her talking head interview and to her face. Watch it again. Anyone who's screen name is Doctor's Wife, is probably as full of themself as LuAnn. So don't listen to that woman, Heather.

Illinois Viewer
Illinois Viewer

Ramona did not take a dig at your at the lunch with Avia. Avia asked her about it and she was telling her what happened. I don't think you'll last long on this show.

West Coast viewer
West Coast viewer

Heather,

You went after Ramona plenty, mocking her for appearing on the cover of The Learning Annex (snobby and snide), and getting in the middle of Ramona and Luann's fight after barely meeting them, and continuing to keep harping on it after Ramona politely asked you to let iit go. So all this whining over Ramona saying this or that canvnot be taken all that seriously. Get over yourself

RHONowhere
RHONowhere

"Jewish by injection"? Ew. Please, never say that again.

Picket Fence
Picket Fence

Well, I guess if I knew you personally, I would be sorry about your dad. But all I can offer is condolences as a human being. God bless. But girl, one thing I just want to share with everyone, not singling you out, just relevant to you,is this. As a career nurse I can tell you from experience, people never honor family members last wishes. It never fails. Families are grieving, sense of loss comes to the forefront, and people need to talk it out. A memorial is an example of what you did for your father, what most people do. It is very, very rare, in my forty years of experience, that I have observed families honoring last wishes. Down to lawyers and fighting. Sorry to be a buzz kill, just thought people would want to know. If you are planning last wishes, do a living will. Not ironclad, but it helps.

edward r murrow
edward r murrow

oh my sweet honeyed girl...you have EVERY right to mention such a tragic and recent event, that affects your life! how dare anyone call you names for relaying what clearly important to you, both at the time, and going forward. you do very well when met with road-blocks or speed-bumps on the highway of life, and i think you know you do, and you are fearless in going against someone like ramona, who obviously wants to trump all of your accomplishments and hardships. i'm glad you make no apologies for speaking your mind about YOUR life!

Alexandra1095
Alexandra1095

You and Ramona are one and the same. All you talk is about you! How MANY times are you going to tell us about your son's illness, your father's death, etc? My mother is dying of cancer and my dad shot himself and I don't go broadcasting it to the world! Everybody has problems and you should consider yourself lucky that you have the resources to get the best medical treatment for your son. How many people can't do that? And yes, Ramona is way over the top this season, but it seems that you're almost a carbon copy of her.

Ilovejeffslips
Ilovejeffslips

I'll bet the waiters scatter when your clan shows up...Please tell me you are a huge tipper.

SpringC
SpringC

I am trying to take my time to understand the new housewives better. I am sure you are a lovely person, and you are very successful with a beautiful family. I totally sympathize with the loss of your father, as I lost mine when I was 19 (and that was 14 years ago), and the loss is still great. That being said, you appear to be somewhat contradictory. One of your first statements that made me think "I'm going to like her" was: As successful women, we should all support each other, not tear each other down. Bravo! (no pun intended)... Unfortunately, almost the very next shot, you were making fun of Ramona and her Learning Annex cover. That soured my opinion almost immediately. You do talk alot, Ramona talks alot - and I think the way she said it to you was not combatitive or argumentative. She is at times inappropriate, however, I don't feel this was one of those times. My opinion is that unless someone has anything but praise to give you, you are going to feel as though they are attacking you - which means you still have alot of self analysis left to do... Good luck!

Blondie8180
Blondie8180

You should not be criticized for bringing up your fathers recent passing at cocktail hour to Luann. You didn't make a toast to him in front of the entire party for gods sake. Normal people would have showed empathy, not spewed the overused "time or place" BS. Because it's a cocktail party you can't be human??? Ridiculous.

Monica
Monica

My condolences to you and your family. Your family is beautiful and it is no one's business how you raise your kids.

amking71
amking71

I think your an awesome Mom to two beautiful children.

Kace316
Kace316

Your Husband is HOT!

wmagurany
wmagurany

Heather you are like a breathe of fresh air!!!

andi18
andi18

Heather, first of all, you were interrupting Mario so I think you should just leave that one alone. Secondly, over-compensating for your son's illness by spoiling him is not wise. Aviva gave you great advice. Spoil him with love, not material things. Spend extra cuddle time and extra reading time to help him get through the hardships. You are doing him no favors by "over-indulging" him.

ErinSC
ErinSC

Heather -

I think you are an amazing addition to the cast! I love your enthusiasm and your engaging manner. Ramona is just jealous of your success and your amazing looks! You are a beautiful person inside and out and I LOVE your Yummie Tummie line!! I got the "outfit" you wore to Sonja's first party and I cannot wait to wear it out!!!

Thanks for joining the cast; I can't wait to see what else you bring!

Krock
Krock

Love you Heather! I really don't envy you having to deal with Ramona and all her crazy antics, but from what I've seen of you, you can definitely handle your own! I think Ramona knows that about you and she feels intimidated by your success and strong personality. She wants to be the big fish in the pond and you are a real threat to her. Keep on being strong and I love how you stand up to her. The other cast mates seems to shy away from her (except Luann) but not you and thats why I find you AWESOME!!!!

Cant wait for more episodes!! Be well and peace to you and your family. xoxoxo

Dee Dee
Dee Dee

Heather you are such a ray of sunshine to this show. I'm so sick of listening to Ramona and her nasty remarks, so having someone like you on the show this year is a refreshing change.

ohio housewife fan
ohio housewife fan

Love the NY housewives and your blogs. The OC housewives are apparantly to busy to blog!!

Donna Brown
Donna Brown

I just want to say I am so sorry about your Daddy. I lost my Dad and it's so hard. It's a damn shame that no class having PHONEY delusional fake countess thought it wasn't right for you to bring your daddy's passing up days after it happened. What an idiot she is. Actually, I love everyne else n the show this season. I'm so glad Jill and the poor pathetic dummy Kelly are gone. I could not have watched another second of that pitiful wackadoo filming again. She's so clueless it's just unbearable to watch. And it's impossible to make sense of anything she says. And Jill is so overbearing. She thnks she's an expert on EVERY subject. And she is just a mean person. You, Carol and Aviva are breaths of fresh air. I like all 3 of you so far. And you can't help but like quirky Sonja. And I hope you n Ramona can start over. She's goofy but she doesn't seem malicious r evil in any way. Looking forward to the season. Peace!!! And love from Louisiana!!!

atabaw
atabaw

I can already tell that your trouble on a one-sided street.

Kelly Luciano
Kelly Luciano

LOVE YOU... Down to earth, friendly... you would be my friend. Much luck sweetpea!!!

Viewer786
Viewer786

ALL women are talkative when meeting new people.

ALL human beings go through extremely challenging times -divorce, death, health issues, children- so if that is what is going on with you, there is zero sense in lying to keep everyone else happy. In my world, people are supposed to actually comfort someone who is going through such a terrible time! Good grief these women are a hard group!

Be you, because the normal people understand you and you give us an outlet. For the people who could careless, then do not even waste your time. Eventually, they will wonder where everyone is when they are coping with challenges.

My sincere condolences to you and your family. Keep in mind, that it does not matter how your relationship lacked in a particular area. Sometimes that actually makes the grieving period more difficult. The loss of someone, especially a father, effects you for a lifetime. (((hugs)))

Loventhenyc
Loventhenyc

My new favorite! You take on Ramona!

The party to memorialize your dad was touching, what a poet he was. You have a kind way about you that is tough yet warm...and it's all about Upstate NY...yay!

Viewer danieliza
Viewer danieliza

HEATHER-- Ramona truly seems like a nice person, though she does need to think before she speaks sometimes. Give her a chance! Don't buy into LuAnn's drama. She is a soft spoken, "proper lady" BULLY! She loves to break up friendships and cause trouble as if she's in high school!

UES Lady
UES Lady

I know it is early on in the season, but you seem too normal for this franchise. The reason why you were treated like a Debbie downer for revealing painful truth is because you are surrounded by pure narcissists. You bringing up something serious takes the attention away from them, so they regard it as disrespectful to them. It must have been very difficult for you to start filming right after the death. A normal person would have recognized that. Unfortunately, you are dealing with people who can only think me, me, me.

Doctor's Wife
Doctor's Wife

You did made it clear that you lost your father just days before shooting. We caught that the first episode. No one said you shouldn't share that fact. However, there is a time and a place. Please try to hear this: It is NOT a good topic of conversation during cocktail hour, especially with people you've just met. Can you acknowledge this?

So far it seems you are not very good at looking at yourself honestly. I can admit I made the same mistake after my mother passed. I understand the pain (you are not the only one who has lost a parent - my mother was my best friend) and I know how easy it is to let it slip. But at least I was able to recognize that it IS Debbie Downer at cocktail hour and am careful not to bring up sad subjects. Same goes for health issues! People will start avoiding you. Viewers may be able to relate better to you if you showed some capacity for introspection. A little self-deprecating humor? Even an "Oops, my bad" will do.

I wanted to like you, but your blogs are not helping. LOVE Carole, though!

nyc10021
nyc10021

Heather, Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your father. F anyone who does not have the same response. It is an unbearable loss and it really puts what is important into perspective. If the ignorant countess (lower case on purpose) doesn't think that it is appropriate cocktail party conversation, saying so out loud is even less appropriate... and rude and thoughtless and stupid and classless and UNFORGIVABLE! You really do have my sympathy. Regarding your little boy Jax, for what it is worth, I would seek advice from Aviva. She can offer you a perspective that you can't imagine.

cjp
cjp

You take a lot of digs at Ramona. You in fact inserted yourself into the fight with Luanne when Ramona politely asked you not to get involved. You completely ignored her request and then appear horrified when Ramona mentioned that you don't listen to people. I think you sound very passive agressive-with more on the aggressive side.

Jen505
Jen505

I think you're wonderful! I was very touched by your comment about your father "loving you the best way he knew" . I could relate to that, & it help put words to my feelings about by relationship with my Dad. I think we probably both feel the same about Ramona too! You have a great energy, you are adorable & excited to watch the season unfold! Holla!!

LuvsU
LuvsU

OMG!! Jax is ADORABLE!!! Honey, you HUG,KISS, & tell those babies evryday how much you love them! And NEVER EVER be sorry for that or care if "Ramona's" of the world have to say. When our babies are small, well those are our GOOD OLE DAYS! I was blessed to know that and soaked up every second. I love being a wife! I love being a mom! And now girl, I LOOVVVEEE BEING A MIMI TO 3 PERFECT ANGELS ON EARTH! (with another heading for Mimi's lap this November. Life is grand! My Dad was the Greatest person and I miss him everyday! Always will!! Like you and your sister we celebrated his life. I love your smile! I love how you and that handsome hubby of yours has a happiness that shines. All of the new cast members seem really nice? I relate so most to you. I hope it's a good experience for you, and thank you for sharing with us. Hugs!! P.S. Pick up a extra little toy from a fan for Jax. Thanks!

ssammy
ssammy

Oh boy! All I can say is everyone has tragic life experiences. But it is awkward and self serving for you to tell everyone you meet everything bad that has happened to you. You want to hijack the conversation with tragedy then judge those who dont respond as you think they should.

nurseccc
nurseccc

I feel bad for you new girls on the show. Be prepared for the disgusting meanness of Ramona. There is something wrong with that woman. Good luck to you all.

Lck
Lck

Oh please, Ramona was making fun of herself too. I hope we are not going to have to listen to this same argument every week from you. It was already old last week.

TanyaFrmNJ
TanyaFrmNJ

Heather, I feel that was completely inappropriate for you to mention to Aviva that you got an email and mentioning the women her ex husband slept with. Als Jewish by injection? Do you have ANY class?

Beyoncca
Beyoncca

Who talks or cut people off anymore then Ramona?

Beyoncca
Beyoncca

Sounds like something Bethenny would have said and you Jill haters would have eaten it up had Bethenny said it. Heather you are great and funny. You add a nice balance to this sinking ship.