Heather Thomson

Heather hopes the ladies' good deeds will help you forgive them for their fighting.

on Sep 24, 20120

Let’s raise awareness and money for good causes. . .maybe you can forgive us for the fighting we do!

This week’s show along with next week’s, highlights some of the charity work that the ladies of RHONY do. Tonight you saw Ramona’s event for the Domestic Women’s Abuse Center and you get a preview of my upcoming fashion show benefiting the Kellner Pediatric Liver Foundation, as well as a glimpse of Carole prepping for an event of hers that will support a charity in honor of her late husband. I am so grateful to have the opportunity to bring attention to the work we are doing at Kellner Pediatric Liver Foundation and for Organ Donor Awareness with the platform of RHONY. There are so many people out there who need organ transplants and we have a shortage of donors. At Kellner among other initiatives, we raise money to support families who have a child in need of a liver transplant to survive but simply can’t afford it. And thats Yummie stuff.

I invited Aviva and LuAnn to the famous Copacabana Club where I will be hosting this year’s fundraiser for The Kellner Pediatric Liver Foundation. Kellner was founded by Samantha and Andrew Kellner whose son Raphael, like my Jax, suffered from the very rare liver disease, Biliary Atresia. He too needed a transplant to survive. When Samantha learned what I was going through with Jax through a mutual friend, she immediately reached out to me. Although we were complete strangers, she rushed to my side and the bond that was created because of our sick sons is everlasting. Having someone in the room with me who knew exactly what I was feeling and going through every step of the way without even the need to say a word was extremely comforting and it helped me keep the faith that we would get through this with Jax and that he would not only survive, but thrive.

I knew instantly that I wanted to work with Samantha and do whatever I could to help other people in the same situation. So, I got very involved with Kellner as a founding board member to begin to pay it forward. Someone very very important to me once shared with me a quotation from James Adams, an American historian who said, “The greatest use of a life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.” This quote resonated with me. It was life changing. And I was so excited about the upcoming event. I wanted to raise tons of money and create a fun and entertaining evening for everyone who came out, bought tickets, donated and supported our cause. You want people to talk about your event and to come back every year with more friends, so we always try to top ourselves at our gala's.

183 comments
bravosno1fan
bravosno1fan

Heather stop coddling Aviva! You are so quick to lash out at Sonja and Ramona but you stand behind Aviva and every nonsensical accusation and demand that she throws at them. You and Carole need to realize you are only fueling Aviva’s fire and she looks like a raging lunatic. Be a true friend and call it like you see it with Aviva....to her face not on the voice overs. If you want respect, you need to “call out” everyone equally or you start to look pretty shady like LuAnn (oh, that’s right you didn’t call her out on the “DeppGate” incident either, hmm). 

njnancy
njnancy

While I want to agree with you on many points..and I respect many of your positions, I am bewildered how you can be so angry with Ramona while so accepting of Aviva. Each argument that breaks out between the two of them brings an automatic scrutiny of Ramona's ills....with a pass for Aviva. I was also aware of your anger towards anyone discussing you behind your back....while you do the same thing very often. You are likable and have a fairly good head on your shoulders. I just wish you held everyone to the same standards as opposed to a pick-and-choose style of judgements.

yvonnegraham
yvonnegraham

you need to explain that comment u made to aviva that theres a black girl inside of her (something like that) at the fashion show. wth did that mean

Minimi35
Minimi35

Both you and Carol r the grounded ones! You are definitely a role model and a person with passion and purpose on this earth, other than playing dress up and make up. Best wishes for u and ur family!

suegenjoy
suegenjoy

Heather, I had you pegged wrong.  I believe you are the one that showed class, maturity and rational with the whole Aviva, Ramona, and Sonja drama.  

 

Your reaction to Aviva's overreaction is how a mature women with a broad array of friends handles differences.  'It's entertaining, your not invested, and can still be entertaining.'  You obviously have broader life experiences - it shows.  At least there is one woman on this show who shows some class and compassion.  Thank you. 

 

 

Pova46
Pova46

Heather I have just loved watching you on the show this year. I have to admit the first few shows I was not sure, but I really warmed up to you I feel you are very real and honest and a very nice person. Take it from someone that watches tones of reality TV show this is what you should be doing and you made the show so much better. In fact I loved all 3 of the new gals this year and I hope to see you all back next year!  

Solipsism
Solipsism

If donating your time, money and compassion to any cause is deemed to be boring...where do I sign up to be initiated? I prefer a boring life that gives back to the community versus a life that lives vicariously through others. Bravo to you, (I hope that you forgive my pun.)

 

Your diplomatic stance of "choose your battles" is what keeps me watching. It is a breath of fresh air to see that not all reality shows are about the repugnance of disagreement.  Even if the producers of the show may think otherwise.

 

I do not relish watching metaphoric train wrecks. I wish you well with your charity and hope that others may garner an understanding to the preciousness of life, whatever age it may be.

 

 

 

 

oneluvsista
oneluvsista

Your charity is for a really great cause, I hope you bring in enough funds to help all the children in need.  I would definitely reconsider having Aviva be one of the faces associated with it, though. She has not made a very good impression on a lot of people - quite the opposite.  Her reputation for letting her disability define her in a very negative way is not the kind of person I would think appropriate to help represent your cause ....   I would think a more calm, grounded, peaceful, kind person who has survived and overcome with strength and grace would be a more appropriate choice, don't you?

pyoungclaus
pyoungclaus

Heather, Love your blog.  Your comments are always so positive.  Very refreshing :)

cindibisenius
cindibisenius

I think your communication skills have gotten better as the season has gone by. Keep working on the insincere, condescending smile however. You seem to be up there with Carole in trying to keep it real. I'm feeling a little love there for you so keep on trying to be the bigger person with these women.

maggie.prairie.5
maggie.prairie.5

Thank you Heather for Inspiring me to register as an organ donor!!!!

Areyoukiddingme___
Areyoukiddingme___

 

All time worst and most BORING blog of all the housewives....

TOO MUCH self promotion about yourself.

YUK.

bravo-viewer
bravo-viewer

I'm having a hard time with your blogs...Boring! over two and half pages about you and your charity stuff...I love charity but this is not why I watch this show...bravo should consider kicking you off show..There is way too much yummie tummy stuff here...Boring!!!!

 

Do you have anything to say about how ridiculous that this old man was calling Ramona names? What about how he was asked to leave but didn't budge???What about him demanding an apology for his old daughter?the daughter that has already demanded an apology over and over, episode after episode...Great for you that you make money and you have all these these things going but really you should just have a link so that those who care can go there...

shanchan
shanchan

I love you Heather!! (and I'm not drinking.....yet) I think you are gorgeous and you are my favorite. Thank God Bravo brought you on. You amaze me all the time. YES , I'm sucking up. Stay cool girl.

pportervt
pportervt

Keep up the good work Heather! 

 

I really admire your desire to rise above the fray.  You have a good heart and these women are lucky to have you as a friend.

Bisousxx
Bisousxx

I think your blog is a very nice attempt to get things back on point:  business and charities with a little fun on the side, but it's too late.  The season has been a podium for Aviva, George and Reid to name call and spew their hate.  Name calling when you don't get your way is bullying.

 

A few of my favorite scenes this season as been thyour TV appearance in London for your product

ajalon28
ajalon28

I was on the fence about you in the beginning. But after a few episodes, i have to say you are the most real. You are the only one who ever bothered to even say anything to Aviva about her ridiculous behavior. I think you could have gone a littel further but at least you said something to her. I wish you would have set her straight and called her on her judgmental and pretenious behavior. Unlike Carole, who I loved from the start, you had proven to be able to mix and co exist and be real with everyone rather than being passive and not taking any position. I don't like Ramona, but I can aslo see that she of her behavior comes from insecurities. She was hurt when you excluded her, and it is claer to be that she is also intimidated by you. She has a good heart but she is always putting her foot in her mouth saying stupid stuff and after dropping the bomb walks away and then feigns her desire to not be involved in conflict. She's a mess. But see her clearly as you do the others and can be a real friend by calling them on their crap. 

pasquale
pasquale

Heather you want our opinion or our take on Monday's episode so here goes.

 

Ramona had a benefit and was gracious to include Aviva who chose not to come but instead asked her father to. It is without a doubt in my mind that she fed her father the poor me story and knew what his reaction would be.Ramona was very nice and welcoming to him, thanked him several times until George turned the table by demanding an apology for his daughter. That is the jist of the problem. Ramona asked George several times to please stay out of it, and he refused. I don't think he meant to hurt Ramona when he grabbed her arm, but his expectations that Ramona bow down to him and Aviva showed me that they are both arrogant, selfish people.I was shocked that anyman would put their hands on a women especially one you hardly know and at that event alone shows the arrogance.Let them eat cake right George, Aviva.

 

George was kindly asked to leave and refused, he kept talking about Ramona within ear shot as well, and refused to leave when asked. Ramona wasn't the only one to ask him to leave either, she did it quietly and respectfully at first!

 

The outcome was what George brough on himself. Aviva had no concern for his well being either, and she should have mailed the check and saved everyone the embarrassment. I don't know about you but people who use their conditions to benefit them in a bad way are really sick people who need professional care.Instead of berating Ramona or Sonya or anyone else try to convince your friend to get professional help.I really felt bad for Ramona that this incident took place at such an important event.You could see how visably shaken she was, and it was as if she was reliving some of her abuse all over again.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

Ramona handled the situation well.  She was gracious to George until he became persistent, also badgering Sonjia, and then aggressive.  He had an agenda to "make" Ramona apologize.

Embarrassed?  Shaken?  Sorry, he was cool enough to ask Carole out...don't you watch the episode before you write your blog?  He is misogonystic and should never be at a woman's function.  I do not feel sorry for him. 

In fact, I was hoping you would hip check him to the elevator.

BTW- It looked like Luann was a little crest-fallen when you asked Adiva to walk the runway and over looked her...

HonestlyKind
HonestlyKind

Heather - the way you handle yourself on the show is really quite impressive. I wish I could be as calm as you are in multiple high drama situations! It is also impressive how you do speak your mind on the show but you don't do it offensively. Holla!

TondalayoSchwartz
TondalayoSchwartz

I was going to write something in your blog that bugs me, but in the scheme of things, you're doing pretty well in staying sane amidst the chaos that is a RH franchise.  Also wise in keeping your husband out of it as much as possible.  Much mazel to you and your family.  A good and healthy year.  

missynyc
missynyc

You have been my fav from the first episode this season ... Yummy!!   You and Carol are the type of women that should be on this show.

lawgirl2sassy
lawgirl2sassy

Heather, you SOOO need to remind Aviva how she treat YOU when you were under attack from Romona, now that the tables is turned she expects you to DEFEND her!!!   She is a nut case that has thrown you under the bus more than once.   You need to stand up to Sonja and tell her she is ungrateful and to find another friend to suck freebies off!!!  I love you Heather, your great.

patsy4186
patsy4186

heather   i would choose u to b my friend   ur a lady    as is aviva   my take about last nite is one of shock  ramona never let aviva have a word in edgewise......what an embarrassment she is.   dnt want to waste any more time on her.   keep doing your great work.

ana21
ana21

heather! YOU ARE AWESOME!!!! aviva threw you under the bus, shes cleaning her mess sticking it to you. dont let it happen!!! she already has carol at her defense i like carol better when shes with you you 2 are really the REAL DEAL!!!! rell ramona, luann, aviva, sonja how it is that makes you true to everyone you are really cool!!!!

bagladey
bagladey

Heather, Ramona denied the “naked, spooning” accusation so can you corroborate Aviva’s story or is she a bold-faced liar?

seattlemama
seattlemama

Again in the episode, you are one of the two normal people on the show - thank you for that. And you look fantastic. If I could have anyone's hair in the entire world it would be yours! It is gorgeous! Please share if it is extensions or real and where you get it done. Is the highlighting baliaged? Thank you! :)

Mq
Mq

I love the way you handle different situation, you knew that Ramona is crazy but you were very smart and handled the situation very well, 10 for you!!!!, Keep it up. I love that you with class and manner say to Aviva to stop her constant drama with Ramona and her behavior,  but I have the feeling that she is like the every ready battery never stop. The best for you. Certainly not everybody can agree in different circumstance is the ways that you deal with the situation, you can say your point across with no offense and still be heard.

kclindsay
kclindsay

If you watched the same episode as we viewers did, you see that Ramona tells George more than once that she likes him and doesn't want him to get in the middle.  She actually asks him to leave nicely a few times, but he refused.  Then Carole suggests to him that it would be best if he just left and he still refused.  And then...the unfortunate arm grab.  I'm sure George is no abuser, but he really had no business grabbing her arm.    So, he was asked nicely to leave 3, maybe 4, times and he didn't.  Then the arm grab happened and the situation was out of control.  He still didn't leave.  So, I don't think Ramona had any other choice but to ask someone else to escort him out since he was refusing to leave.  Aviva and George can be aghast about that if they choose, but he should have been a gentleman and dropped the check off and left with "graciousness and elegance" (to use two of Aviva's favorite terms).

 

I'm sure he was embarrassed and "shaken up", but that is his fault, not Ramona's.  He should have never come to an event like that with the intention of demanding an apology.  Any "trailer turd" would know that isn't the time or the place to be focusing on anything other than the purpose of the luncheon itself. 

 

I am not a Ramona fan and don't usually come to her defense, but I really feel George and Aviva were in the wrong on this one. 

WandaP
WandaP

I think ur real and genuine and the only one that actually promotes their charity's . Romonas melt down, totally took away from the fund raiser, she needs to go in to therapy and deal with her abuse from the past. Many of us have lived in torment, never had a vacation in thirty years because we're fighting for our lives, everyday waiting or generous souls like your self to step up and aid others with very serious issues. CP chronic pancreatities is being ignored, by the medical community, in effect u end up with cancer of the pancreas, transplants of that organ r not recommended. I know our community needs a voice, unfortunately everyone that suffers from this dies, leaving us to be un diagnosed, in agony with no hope. ( no i have never drank!, idopathic CP hits 1000's, u just dont know it) We can only hope a public figure can come forward to raise awareness. Those are REAL LIFE issues, not petty va cations. Thank u for REALLY focusing on your charity this year, and not the ramonja, and the AVIVIA ALL ABOUT ME SHOW, that kind of attitude is truly embarrassing to a charity. George was harmless, Ramona saying" I will not accept the money, unless Avivia apologizes " Really sad

LaydeeDiana
LaydeeDiana

You have proved yourself to be one helluva woman! Many blessings!

tulsa56
tulsa56

You are a wonderful lady.  I want to be you, when I grow up!

randrew
randrew

H, you're always a good sport, can't wait for the next show.

lovelabs
lovelabs

Love your spirit, kindness, ability to forgive and your sense of reasoning.

heatherfan13
heatherfan13

 @Areyoukiddingme___

 I guess you read a different blog than I did. she is trying to get people to register to become organ donars. Kuddos to Heather!

KansasLady
KansasLady

 @bravo-viewer Here's Heather: classy, successful, busy business-woman, mother, wife and a no-drama mama. Why does she do RHONY? Not for the money. Not for the fame. To raise money and awareness for a charity that SAVES THE LIVES OF CHILDREN with a side bonus of promoting her brand. I'm thankful that Bravo usually has at least one woman in the mix who isn't a delusional, self-absorbed narcissist with an over-inflated ego to match their over-inflated lips. I love watching how Heather (and Carole) navigate themselves and manage to walk through a minefield of crazy! So if she wants to have a so-called boring blog which obviously highlights her main priority which is her charity and her brand, rather than delve into the insanity - so be it... she has EARNED it! I happened to appreciate the link so I could register to become an organ donor and you know what? Instead of taking the kids out for dinner tonight, I'll make some sandwiches and donate the $50 I would've spent on a meal to the Kellner Pediatric Liver Foundation! Thank you Heather for bringing us this information, something I never would have known about otherwise.

Ninon
Ninon

 @bravo-viewer Ramona called Heather fake and too talkative, Heather did not complain about it, she just did not include her in her London trip, that is smart!!! I would do exactly the same.

kiki13
kiki13

 @bravo-viewer Yes- while charities are important- you can reach saturation mode and on this show I think they have done that.

 

I am astonished that Heather and Carole are so quick to dismiss the bullying by Aviva!  It's happening right on front of them and they are looking the other way!! Where's a charity for bullying when you need one?  I am sad that they did not tell Aviva to stop harassing Ramona and Sonja in SB and since they've been back they seem to pal around Aviva a lot.  To me, that means they approve of her position. What about George calling Ramona names?  Why is this also dismissed? It's not right.

 

Perhaps Heather and Carole will step up in the reunion show and be real about this situation, but if they gloss over it, then I hold them all on the same level as Aviva.  Which is below "white trash", just for the record.  

heatherfan13
heatherfan13

 @bravo-viewer

 Really, I think Heather writes great blogs. and she is one of the only housewives that make the show worth watching. She has made a connection with me and alot others as viewers, like one of our friends! She is gracious and her charities are obviously very important to her as they should be. All the housewives do this show to help there charities and to promote their business's. And that is why we all watch, its a part of their lives!

Glimmer88
Glimmer88

@ESinAZ I'm glad she didn't ask her. I don't know why Luann is still on this show. She is a giant BORE and adds not one single thing to the show except to stir the pot when she sees an opportunity. And they're gonna be modeling lingerie aren't they? I don't think Luann would do that, (unless it was some onesie from neck to knee lol) although I do think you're right--she probably wanted to be asked just so she could say no.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @ESinAZ Yes, how right you are!!

Also, George was not too shaken to spew a nasty name about Ramona, lie about his donation amount, then grin ear to ear when Carole hugged him out of pity.  George is gross.

richards1stlady
richards1stlady

 @ESinAZ

 Finally, someone pointed out George's "other" agenda which would be asking Carole out!!

melanie.white.102361
melanie.white.102361

 @bagladey 

First, their supposed "spooning" would be none of Aviva's business, and Aviva did not need an "apology" for anything anyone does or doesn't do in the privacy of their bedroom. (Obviously Ramonja needs a little hug every now and then when she is crying- no big deal- but still none of Aviva's business at all!).

 

Second, Aviva Lied, spelled L-I-E-D, when she said she by chance happened to see in the bed from the doorway, because the St. Barts footage clearly shows that you cannot see Ramona's bed from the doorway, you have to walk all the way in and around and spy in deliberately in order to see the bed.

Bisousxx
Bisousxx

@bagladey At the moment ADiva said it Heather tweeted "that it was a lie"

RDaniels
RDaniels

@kclindsay I agree!!! I have never defended Ramona. This time, she wasn't wrong. She wasn't wrong on the trip nor about George. Aviva, sees she is wrong. It would e distasteful, to not send a donation butlets face it, she could've gotten that money to her with a nice note and not have sent George. 

YetAnotherLisa
YetAnotherLisa

 @kclindsay Totally agree.  I can see where Aviva learned her "play the victim while you're being a bully" moves.   I'm not a big Ramona fan either, but I'm totally with her here.  A man should NEVER lay his hands on a woman in the heat of anger. 

 

Carole & Heather were way off base treating George like royalty, and taking his side.  This man talks about sex with his daughter!   Apparently Carole & Heather see that type of man as "delightful."  Me, not so much.

 

 

Constance1
Constance1

@WandaP I thought I heard Ramona reference her therapist on this episode. She does recognize her unfortunate abuse history so I would imagine she's been in therapy a while. Hope it's helping!