Love your business and family life. Don't love your attitude. You WERE being a mean girl by excluding Ramona, just own it.

Here's the great thing about being an adult... you are free to like or not like anyone, whether you're on TV or you're commenting on someone on TV. Not everybody enjoys everyone else's company. So you don't have to spend time with people you don't like. You don't have to invite them on your vacation and you don't have to post on their message board. You can still be polite and friendly when you see them and still be completely authentic. Isn't being an adult grand?

Heather, you are real and ramona isn't. Keep telling it like it is. And bravo, if you are listening, fire ramona abd bring back jill zarin.

Heather, I think you are Ramona are very much alike, much to both of your dismay. Perhaps this is why you both do not get along. The one thing that I must mention that truly bothers me about you is your use of urban slang. When I first heard your statement in the show's intro, I had to rewind and listen again to see if I actually heard it correctly. Sadly, I did. These words sound ridiculous coming out of your mouth. You must realize this, as I am sure you're clients do and other associates do.

Im liking you so far

you love your self too much ...

Honestly I don't like you. You are not my least favorite but you are really close. Stop being two-faced if you had a problem with Ramona you should have said something immediately! People like you and all of you momentary fan are immature and quite frankly I find you very sad! I'm only 16 and find you childish! 

I would not have invited Ramona either.  She is the one that never lets anyone get a word in she has always cut people off , especially when it's something she doesn't want to talk about.  and she is always talking about how other people are rude, she should take a long hard look in the mirror.  The things that come out of that womans' mouth are so inappropriate "most of the time".  For some people {my self included} you don't have to spend a lot of time with someone to know if you will have a good,fun or relaxing time with them.   

You go Heather! Ramona is a TRAIN WRECK. It is astonishing to me that anyone would wonder why you don't want to be around her or have her around your business associates. I appreciate you standing your ground!

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Heather T.  ABSOLUTELY one of my NEW FAVES!  Wishing the best for your son's health.

Hi Heather~ :)

I am soooo glad someone finally has the ***** to say no to that ding bat Ramona. I'm sitting here trying to think if anyone else has excluded her from a trip, I can't right now.

She was even making my hubs uncomfortable bringing up at every turn about that damn trip, but you stuck to your guns! Bravo to you!!!

I hope your child as the rest of your family continue to stay healthy and will be praying for that!!

For heaven's sake... now commenters here are trying to control each other? Who do you think you are? A Housewife?

As I explained to my daughter in elementary school, you can invite one or many, but you cannot invite all but one...it's just rude!  There's no other way to interpret Heather's actions...sorry.....love her or hate her, excluding just Ramona was a mean-girl move.

IMHO, Ramona keeps showing why she shouldn't be invited to London. Every time she gets together with Heather it's an uncomfortable situation. If Heather wants a fun girls trip, she should only invite people with whom the relationship is easy. As she said, it was her own trip, not a Bravo-invented one. The girl's got a right.

As for talking too much... it was Ramona who couldn't keep her mouth shut after hearing Carole's big news about the TV series. Heather was just there supporting her friend's good news and Ramona stole the focus.

Physician, heal thyself.

Honestly..you are not my favorite by a long shot ..but u have to have one person on the show you love to hate. You came in very judgmental instead of observing then women and truly getting to know them. I dislike your attitude as well. I agree with ramona you talk alot and hardly listen.  

I wouldn't of invited Ramona to London either. You have the right to invite whom ever you like.. I dont think you talk too much.  I think you were nervous and under alot of stress after the loss of your father..  Oh and my condolences on your loss... Looking foward to getting to know you better....Finally someone who can stand up to Rameana

You are so right in excluding Ramona from the London trip. Don't ever back down when it comes to Ramona. Everyone else does ...you remain the strong one.

You go girl!!   Been rooting for you ever since Ramona did her one- up- manship with your son.  Certainly, she had a frightening moment when Avery was born but she has had 17 years with a healthy child to enjoy since then.  You, on the other hand,  have a constanly scary situation wih Jax.....kudos for showng us the pain of having a child with serius health concerns.  You are a strong woman and I can fully understand the need to keep the type of negative energy Ramona brings at arm's length.  That kind of stress does bleed back into your personal, family life and you are wisely protecting yourself and your family!!

I don't blame Heather a bit for not inviting Ramona. They haven't found an easy space with each other in their brief encounters stateside. The lack of ease would be multiplied many times over travelling abroad together. Frankly, I'll take any of the new housewives over any of the old ones except Sonja, who continues to charm. Here's to authenticity!

Heather and Viewers,

I've made  a comment to Heather already and have commented to several viewers but I just had to write one last post concerning this past weeks episode.

Alot of the viewers are using the word bully and jealous a whole lot! Really, I mean, bully, Ramona is famously known for being rude and that's putting it mildly. She insluted Heather right out of the gate and Heather responded. These 2 ladies are both successful and busy. They are both opinionated and out spoken. Telling someone a different point of view is not a bully; it's honesty. Heather has tried but Ramona is relentless. I can see that Heather is trying to handle Ramona in small doses. That's as good as can be expected. She doesn't owe Ramona an explanation about not inviting her on a trip. In the past Ramona hasn't always invited everyone, she has walked out on dinners, insulted Luann about her ex husbands age in front of Luann's daughter and that is only to name a few. If Ramona hadn't invited Heather, Ramona wouldn't be able to understand why anyone would be upset. She would try to justify it to everyone and think that everyone should move on. So, why is it any different? I tell you, because Ramona is so used to running over everyone and them just getting over it or having a petty arguement that she can't grasp that Heather just isn't going to be part of it. Good for Heather for not taking part in it.

Jealousy, come on people. These ladies all have success and are financailly secure I'm sure. Why would any one of them be jealous of the other? Doesn't matter whose younger, prettier, has more oney,etc. They are all successful.

Heather, did extend an invite for Ramona to come shopping. That still hasn't pleased some of you. Instead, Heather's gotten knocked down for saying the make over remark and about Aviva's leg. I'm sure, Heather didnt' mean to hurt Aviva in anyway. As for the make over, I can see that with the current tension maybe Heather could've kept it to herself. But in the past Ramona has commented about the other ladies and how they dress, so.. Ramona does wear her clothes well but lets face it, she looks the same all the time. I can remember Avery commenting and telling her to dress her age before so... They all have their own style.

Lastly, a viewer commented about only wanting to watch these ladies drinking, socializing,etc. Didn't care to watch any part of Heather's son being sick. Came across as almost scolding Heather for having insurance and being able to take care of him. I think, that was unbelievably rude. Anyone should be thanking God that Heather did have the means to take care of Jax. I hope the viewer that wrote that reads this and realizes how rude that was. Also, even if you have insurance, there are still cost, deductibles, copays, un-covered procedures, limits on a policy,etc. I couldn't believe that someone would have enough balls to actually say that on this board. If any of us have insurance right now we are blessed and any of that are able to save our children everyone around should be thanking God. I'm an organ donor and proud of it; I do have a disabled child that can't get insurance either; I'm a business owner and if it wasn't for that my child would have nothing; I'm not rich but I'm comfortable and I'm thankful to be able to have both my children covered with insurance. I sure wouldn't expect to be scolded because I 'm able to carry the insurance and take care of one of my children if they got sick.

This is reality t.v., with that said, it's not all drinking and socializing, it's REAL life.

I am sorry that this is so long but some of these comments are just off the hook stupid. I'm not a bully either; I have an opinion, there's a difference. I'm not jealous either, I'm able to buy the clothes I like and drive the car I like, I have my own style.Not jealous of the girls next door or any real housewife.

In hopes, that everyone will learn what a bully is and understand that not all has to be invited, not all have to agree, not all have to like each other. Differences are what make the world turn.

Hi heather i love you on the show you are a independent strong powerful hard working women with your own options Ramona was rude and i think she knows that now and it is your choice who you bring away with you and yes Ramona can be like a bull in a china shop so i do think your decisions not to bring her is right although i do love Ramona > i know you and Ramona have got of on the wrong foot but i think you will both work it out i think aiva is making things worse for both of you she has many faces i hope you work it out maybe she shes you  like jill was a strong women but you are totally diffident long may you stay i have wrote on ramonas blog to say that that was very hurtful what she done but i so hope both of you can get over it x

BTW, Heather's trailer/on-camera remarks about Aviva, um, kissing up (to be less crass that Heather) to Ramona was probably one of the most tasteless comments I've seen on Bravo; right up there with Tamra's prize phrase about someone's mouth being jealous of another part of their anatomy.  Things like that will come back to haunt you for a very long time.  Sometimes no amount of money will get that co-op board or private school to accept your family if you're perceived to be crude.

I can't say I'm a fan of Ramona's. She's erratic, overbearing, loud, opinionated, condescending, and inappropriate at times (to put it mildly). That said, you really went out of your way to exclude her. I get it. I've traveled the globe and sometimes it's difficult with people who are less inclined to embrace the different cultures and be respectful while having fun. You don't mesh. At the same time, there is no way I'm buying what you are peddling. You've gone so far out of your way to exclude her that it's pretty sickening to watch. To make things worse, you invite her to go clothes shopping with you. I think you consider yourself to be straight forward but it's odd that you can't just tell her "I don't really like you and don't want to travel with you". The fake hugging and kissing is plain wrong. Honestly, my limited impression of you is that you have a wicked mean streak. Betting you are on the show to peddle your products. I won't be buying them any more than I would believe your smile is authentic. It creeps me out.

Heather, I appreciate that you don't want to spend too much time on the RaMOANa uninvited to London loop because it has been talked about ad nauseum.  However, your insistence on being real and not caving into Aviva's constant pleas, makes you my favorite hw of NYC.  It shows strength of character and I adore that in you.  Who cares if you talk a lot?   Not me.  At least you're pleasant and smart and caring.   Cheers!!

My reluctant watching boyfriend who does not like Ramona had only one thing to say..."What a b*tch!" Good lord, go Holler with the 12 year olds who say such things and leave adult relationships to, well, adults.

Heather, these ladies are each adults. You do not need to invite someone to London whom you do not wish to invite. That's it; plain and simple. Your decision in now way could be classified as "bullying."  It's unfortunate that Ramona sought to challenge you on your personal decision. That's a difficult question to answer without being rude. I have a suggestion. While you're on the show, remember that any time you phone one of your castmates, that Housewife will use a phone on speaker mode. Therefore, anyone else with her will hear the conversation. And the recipient of the phone call may *not* reveal to you that others are listening. How sad is that, eh? Chin up, Heather. I think so far that you're a great addition to the show.

All of the Jill fans must be thrilled you are on the show.They will have a new hero,you are just as nasty and mean.

Heather, you & Sonja are my favorite housewives. Keep up the great season.

Heather.....I so agree w/viewers who are annoyed by your use of hood slang, like "holler", "keep it movin", etc.!!!! It's clear that you have been trying to fit in w/clients such as Diddy, Beyonce, & other Black Celebrities, but clearly Heather, you just need to be yourself & stop trying to fit in where you don't belong.......especially @ your age......it's not becoming @ all!!!!! You are a professional offering a service & they're your clients & not your "hommies"!!!!

You're a great addition to the show. Thank you for not rewarding bad behavior. Ramona couldn't even behave in your friend's store, let alone on a long flight, or in London. Don't take her anywhere. Aviva needs to stop playing the mediator. I know she wouldn't invite a loose cannon to her parties or those of her children. Keep up the great work. You're a breath of fresh air.

Heather, You are such a great addition to the show, I love your smile, it is so genuine.

What I want to comment on specifically is the scene with your son, Jax.  You are such an amazing mom.  My parents were both immune suppressed because of transplants, I know how difficult it can be but to see your child go through all the side effects that come from the anti-rejection meds, it has to be more than hard and yet you do it with a smile and grace that helps keep your son happy and positive.  Watching you with your son was truly heartwarming.

I also love that you are such an advocate for organ donation, as you said, once you're gone you don't need it, we can all give someone the gift of life or the gift of a better life. 

As for the rest of the 'drama', you handle yourself beautifully.  In life everyone doesn't get along, it's okay not be friends with everyone.  Keep doing what you're doing which is rocking being an awesome mother and from what I see, a great business woman as well. 

I do want to say, I was a bit surprised most of the other woman didn't mention this scene in their blogs (except for Sonja), seems to me this is the sort of thing to be acknowledged particularly by the other mothers in this group who spout on about how being a mother is their greatest calling, where's the compassion?

Stay cool (literally and figuratively, it is hot here in NY!).

I just looove youuu!!!! Finally someone normal on the show!!  And let me tell you,  its ridiculous that you "have" to invite somebody that was mean to you and that you don't know that well. Ramona is crazy!! DO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH HER!!!  

So sorry about your son's health issues.  You seem to have compassion for him.  I hope you find the right words on compassion when he is hurt for not being invited somewhere with his friends. 

Heather, first thing: LOVE YOU! I think you are authentic and so refreshing. Ramona is a psychotic, self-important mean girl and who on earth would want to travel internationally with her? Seriously. I thought your conversation with Aviva in the park was awesome. You don't have to play Ramona's game. Stay strong! We are loving you!

Hey Heather,

Thanks for posting the blog. I watch most of the Real Housewives franchises and you are the first housewife I actually like and can identify with. Keep up being who you are. You're a great person. I love that you are holding your ground and not inviting Ramona because of the social pressure. Kudos to you!

Heather you are an adult you can do and invite whatever and whoever you want, if u don't want some bug eyed lunatic ruining your trip who can blame you

So,  you invite Ramona on a shopping trip where the other women are trying on clothes to bring to London, but not to London.  You're trying to rub it in.

    You shouldn't have invited LuAnn either,  she is a real party killer.

I love those sunglasses you were wearing on episode 5 while talking to Aviva. What is the name?

Heather, Keep on being real.  Everyone who is bashing you either didn't watch Ramona plow through the other Housewives the last few seasons, or choose to forget.  Her reaction to Sonja upon learning that SHE was going to London was so classless. The names she called Sonja in the other room along with her husband was disgraceful-with friends like that, who needs enemies!  Hold your ground and NEVER turn your back on Ramona-she is so unstable, who knows what she's capable of.  You are such a breath of fresh air on the show.  I look forward to watching you!