My relationship with Carole only strengthens even from a distance. From the very first episode when I brought Carole to Sonja's townhouse, the two of us have been thrown into the mix of all the estrogen, navigating our new relationships, and through it all we found the time to connect and bond with each other on a deeper level. First of all, I am a rock ‘n’ roll fanatic and Russ is a serious rock ‘n’ roller (aka musician), who I happen to thoroughly enjoy, so does my husband -and Carole and I easily get each other on many levels. The moment that we shared on the boat together talking about the passing of her late husband Anthony was one I will never forget. We laid there on the bow in the idyllic, sunny setting with teary eyes. And we were silent. If you can be in that moment of quiet with someone and be comfortable in that silence, then you know you are true friends. Sometimes silence is all you need.
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I just want to know as I was catching up tonight when the women were on the boat in st barts and heather was reading a book and she was explaining the storyline of the book to Carole I was wondering if anyone recalls the name of the book she was reading.
I love you Heather. You and Carole are my favorites. I liked you from the beginning and with each episode I like you more. I am also in love with (addicted to?) to Yummie Tummie! In a short time I have bought two Girlfriend Tanks, the Alex Tank, and have on order now the Kamika slip and Milan leggings. Woo HOO! I am now thinking about getting the Raquel pant and later the jeans. I cannot believe how comfortable Yummie Tummie is and how well it works. I wear a Girlfriend tank even when I don't need to just because it is so comfortable. Thank you for such a great product!
Heather, you have quickly become one of my favorites! I love Carole and Aviva too! As far as the other three they have turned into Big Diva's. Can't stand Ramona any longer. Don't change Heather you are so classy and don't let them make you loose your cool! Proud of the three real ladies of the group! Heather,Carole and Aviva!
Heather you seem like a fun person! Keep it going and dont havg around Aviva to much she has dark energy
Heather , great blog & so glad to see you are figuring Ramona out , she is not a bully but a insecure person who looks to me like she does alot of second guessing herself about what to say or not to say so she she ends up with no filter for her mouth. I have noticed that when told to be quite or she has hurt you she backs off and says she is sorry & I think she is really sorry for it. I liked the fact that everyone was having a great time and excepting everyone's sometimes odd behavior. LuAnn does seem to love to set Ramona up though and then scurry away and watch the fallout . I did not know if I liked you or not but u have navigated your way around all the ladies pretty good so ...so far so good ...I think I like you.
Aww Heather! Im so glad that you're on RHONYC this season! Finally, a down to earth person who says exactly what she feels and doesnt have the air of superiority. You should have made Sonja pay for your services, although she is tooooo broke to afford them since she wanted Ramona's input, let Ramona do it! Oh, that's right, Ramona doesnt know how. But dont let them have you second guessing your first mind, seriously these old chicks have had issues for seasons and they arent getting any better. You see how delusional LuAnn was with the "Italians" Just pure BS when you saw it first hand, but I can say this, there will always be jealousy and competition, but they're outta their league because the only businesswoman, Bethenny, left because she was tired of the BS. Plus you're young and they are wrinkled and ENVIOUS!
Heather, I've loved you right from the get go and still do! You're a very strong and secure woman which is admirable and great to watch. I was very proud of you for not inviting Ramona to London and for not caving when Aviva tried to shame you into inviting Rambo. The way Ramona and Mario -- Ra-mario-na -- treated you was rude and distasteful. They have a habit of bullying others but you, my friend, are the ONLY one who didn't cave! You didn't make it into a big deal, you just said "we don't get along so I didn't invite her." End of story. Straightforward and real. Why invite someone who clearly doesn't like you? Made a lot of sense to all of the Housewives viewers, but apparently it didn't make sense to Aviva and we all thought it was sooo funny (and ironic) to see how upset Ramona became when she learned she wasn't invited! LOL Usually when Ramona bullies others they cave and invite her to everything in an attempt to make her like them. That's how bullying works, but please, Heather, don't get close with Ramona. Whenever she acts like a bully make sure you call her on it.
Aviva wanted to be friends with Ramona to have another couple for her and Reid to hang with. She figured Ramona and Mario would be perfect. I think Aviva is very insecure and feels that everyone needs a partner. She prefers everyone to be coupled off so there won't be any single girls around.... hence inviting only Ramona & Mario (her couple friends) and Sonja to be paired off with her father. Jealousy and anger go hand in hand soooo I kind of suspect she doesn't just need Reid for support while flying -- might be her MO to make sure HE is never alone. What better way to keep your man on a tight leash? Aviva's angry outbursts are a way of controlling every situation she's in. When she's not angry, she is using passive-aggressive tactics on others... like hounding you about not inviting Ramona to London when it had nothing to do with her. She wanted some control AND wanted to divert everyone's attention for HER not going.
Ramona and Aviva are a lot alike: they both need constant attention and both want to be in control of everything. They both are bullies in their own way so don't fall for either one of them. Stick with Carole. The two of you are very strong women and it's great to see "good people" on a reality show (and rare too! LOL) So, please set a good example for women and young girls and don't cave to the bullying/controlling behavior of Sonja and Ramona. Love ya!
At the start of the season I felt you were "armed for bear" - determined to assume a powerful position quickly, and a bit manipulative. Disarming others with obviously strategic ploys that commanded sympathy, continuing criticism of others in hopes of building influence, tossing the women into your business dinner! Seriously, I'm pleased that you are relaxing a little, and wanting to be a companionable person.
Honestly i never really cared for Heather. I think she is very rude at times, and stuck up. I can say tha what she wrote in her blog surprises me. Romano is very honest. She doesnt bite her tongue about her opinion. That is a very strong quality. Props to Heather in saying what she said about romano, and not making digs. Heather, you need to relax, take a breath. Be yourself, not what you think people want. I think working with celebraties has gone to your head.
Heather, I concur with your assessment of the situation with Ramona I'm glad you finally see them as harmless nuts. They are out to have fun, ONLY!!
It's wonderful to see you change your attitude and it was also FANTASTIC to see you in such a laid back manner. I'm actually starting to like you!!
Hi Heather! You and Carole are the nicest and classiest girls on the show. I have to say, I think I saw the mean side of Aviva even before the big blowup. She always wants to bring up other people's arguments and rehash conversations that had nothing to do with her just to stir the pot. She also likes to talk behind peoples' backs, which I can't stand. And I really don't think she should be calling anyone "white trash" as her own father is quite the disgusting pervert! Also, she always says that she doesn't want people to focus on her leg, but thats all she ever talks about! Aye yi yi! Thanks for letting me get that off my chest! You're great!
You are a classy person and a real friend......trying to help Sonja in her project I couldn't believe how they treated you. Then Aviva attacked you wrongfully prior to this trip. They are lucky to have someone like you in their circle of friends.
I agree with everyone's comments. You have 100% classact. How did you do it? You do not yell, scream or whine, you keep yourself calm, intact with full dignity all the time. Highly intelligent, very patient that I can see some people here (the ones with nasty comments) are actually jealous of you because they can't believe people like you actually exist in this crazy world, so they think you're just phony. Thank you for showing us that there are bright, successful, kind, good, and normal housewives out there.
I respect you more each episode...
I completely agree with realdealkc! I really like you in the St Bart's episodes. You are an advocate for those who are good. I'd want you on my team!
Hey Heather! I'm glad you are able to appreciate Ramona for who she is. She ain't all bad! I hope you noticed in this episode, too, how imperfect the Countess is and remember who has been planting ideas in your head about Ramona. These little 'nuggets' from Luann the Pot-Stirrer can certainly skew a girl's take on someone like Ramona.
Again this episode...you went up a couple more notches! good job! keep it up.
The red carpet comment was so out there. I can't believe none of you called her on it. It was nice to see you NOT jump on the "I hate Ramona" bandwagon for a change.
I am glad to see that Heather is finally becoming a likable person by what she wrote in this week's blog. On the last episode it was Aviva who was actiong appalling, not Ramona.
Heather you have a beautiful smile (seems genuine to me)! You are indeed married, and therefore a "housewife" and its just too bad that you had the misfortune of being on a show that "grandfathered-in" the likes of Ramona (koo-koo for real), Sonja (NOT anybody's housewife and quite "common") and LuAnn who not only is NOT a wife but is a BIG LIAR!
Heather, there is only one reason to get to close to either Ramona or Sonja...to deflect the claws and teeth when the come out so I hope you have your body armor on! Had it not been for you Carole and LuAnn on that trip I would never have even watched. Truthfully I wish Carole had never even invited the others...they just don't have the same level of class or sense of how to conduct themselves in pubic. Ramona and Sonja are those women we see when we are out and we think to ourselves...good lord, and not in a good way and Aviva just needs therapy. I hope you will continue to hold your own and just be who you are. I would hate to see you change to fit "their" idea of "fun" because your idea of fun is top shelf!
you and carole had me cracking up after leaving the house after the drama. it was a calm before the storm alright. and after you guys went into your own houses slammed the door and said, !@#^* idiots. I couldn't stop laughing.
You commented that Ramona was only being nice to you because she can only fight with one person at a time. Day one she was being friendly. You were the one with the comments about wanting to be far away from Ramona to Sonja. At dinner you and Ramona got into a bit of an argument and then it was smooth sailing afterwards. You were having fun long before the fight with crazy Aviva. And the snarky comment about the shade? So stupid, I know you can't hear everything but they did ask them to turn the boat for shade. Who wants to eat in sun? You and Carole always seem to assume the worst right off the bat.
Heather you are awesome and a true class act. You handle yourself graciously around the other women. You are a pleasure to watch. Thanks!
so glad that you are seeing the charm in Samonja. LOL I think Aviva came in so emotionally fueled by anxiety that she unloaded. I mean , girls trip or not, everyone seemed to have fallen into a fun & relaxed environment, and although intentions were good encouraging her to make the trip, her idea of fun, doesn't fit with the rest of you. Anxiety aside, if she had travelled and arrived with the rest of you, I seriously doubt she would have put on a pirate outfit and danced . She is a great lady for what she has overcome, but she really arrived expecting to dictate the trip. And I have to hand it to Sonja & Ramona, who tried to be "gracious" after being called "white trash", and smooth things over, so the good times would continue. Ramona even tried to excuse her behavior , as she understood Aviva's anxiety. I mean, Ramona, really tried, I think that is apparent.
I like you the best this season. You really are real. You're polite and whenever the opportunity arises for you to add to the drama, you reject it. You don't try to make yourself relevant by playing to the cameras. Instead you treat people with genuine care. You've only argued when Ramona was in your face, and that's totally understandable.
Heather, I really enjoyed you on the show and this blog. I have changed my mind about you. I love how you and Ramona are getting along and how reasonable you are about this whole Aviva melt down.
Heather - sometimes your relationship with Ramona remind me of how a mother reacts when a child is having a temper tamtrum - you know, the mom always remains calm as the child throws herself to the ground, yells, and screams. Just like a mom, you always give Ramona that look like "are you done yet". Even when she insulted your smile (something my kids would do) - you just say "OK".
Your relationship seemed better this week and I'm really glad you let bygones be bygones.
You have been a joy this trip. You are the real deal. I understand why you had to say something about Lu and the pirate. You have morals and knew that everything was being filmed. You had to stand up for what you believe and stay true to yourself.
@caitlin.gamble.58 caitlin, I don't recall what the book was but I remember them talking about it and now you've made me curious too! I will pay close attention to any reruns (if there are anymore) to find out, and post here if I find out.
If Carole and Heather were interested then I'm sure I'd like it. I definitely want to read Carole's new book. Sounds good just from the first sentence that her agent/friend read at the last party/event.
@caitlin.gamble.58 caitlin, I don't recall what the book was but I remember them talking about it and now you've made me curious too! If you find the name of the book, please post it here... and I will pay close attention to any reruns (if there are anymore) to find out, and post here also.
If Carole and Heather were interested then I'm sure I'd like it. I definitely want to read Carole's new book. Sounds good just from the first sentence that her agent/friend read at the very last party/event.
@realdealkc nobody had to put little nuggets into my ear about Ramona,
Aviva was too patient with her, I would've kicked her ass out of my kitchen right away, when she started giving commands there, she had it coming.
oh, my, nobody has to put little nuggets into your ear about Ramona, she does that all on her own. No one has to tell you anything about Ramona you will eventually find out all on your own, as Aviva is.
Excellent !! Agreed 100%. How can such educted, Biz savvy Womyn not know the horror of PTSD/Anxiety??? Aviva was trying to goin control on the ground after experiencing a huge amount of lack of control. She really should have brought a therapist. And I mean that in a nice waY. It`s clear to me that the anxiety is a large part of Aviva in her response to stress.
@HBeez well sure Ramona does these things on her own., but when you have someone else whispering in your ear negative things that may or may not be true.... luann and jill both have done it for many episodes. I like that Heather seems to be sorting it all out for herself and not letting bitter influence effect her ability to get to know Ramona on a personal level.