Heather Thomson

Heather explains the power of a good assistant and why she's not inviting Ramona to London.

on Jun 25, 20120

A talking intervention? I think a Gossip Girls intervention may be more in line. LOL! I definitely get it! I talk a lot! We all have our moments and its silly stuff.

I am proud and blessed to have an amazing assistant who helps me navigate an extremely hectic schedule and thanks to Shawna, I am able to keep a lot of balls in the air.

She manages my calendar, scheduling appointments, changing appointments, and yes, confirming appointments. And she does a hell of a good job at it. For a writer, this time Carole wasn't very observant of the written word -- because in Shawna's confirmation message, she introduced herself at the beginning, and her title, Executive Assistant to Heather Thomson, is clearly written in the signature of her emails. If I don't include Shawna on my calendar, I end up double booked, and it messes things all up.

It was actually funny, to see that moment, knowing all too well who at that table does not go into an office daily, or work at all, who has several nannies, and who has hired assistants/interns since that lunch. . .not to mention what they have those assistants doing. Hee hee hee. But, as my mom always says, don't judge another until you've walked a mile in their shoes.

151 comments
nccoastal
nccoastal

Heather why would you even try to talk to Ramona tonight you did not invite her to London I think you are not being real I my self see threw your act you are a mean girl that wants to be the center of attention . I really hope they replace you next season I am sorry I just don't enjoy watching you . It is a tv show why not invite her to London I don't buy your reason

raewest
raewest

You do not have to apologize for not inviting Ramona.  In fact I really got a kick out of it

because no one ever stands up to her.  Last season everytime the girls went on a trip nobody

ever wanted to go if she was going.  She is nothing but trouble.  Believe me you will hear

about this for a long time but I think you have broad shoulders.

Jovel
Jovel

Heather you are fun to watch and obviously a successful and secure woman who does not bow down to Ramona. Congratulations on being your true self and not getting sucked into Ramona's twisted way with her relationships. That woman is delusional! I hope you had a fun trip to london and didn't cave in to including the camera hog and pot-stirrer named Pinot! Looking forward to more of the season because of you and Carole.

patcaseygold
patcaseygold

Hey , this show is known for their blowouts!! I am surprised that Bravo didn't tell you to invite Ramona for the viewers. I did notice that you do run into trouble a little later on with the "girls" and you get what you give. Please spare us all the medical talk, there are so many stories that makes yours look pale when compared to real heartbreak. You do not have to talk about  your son on every show. We get it!! I feel bad for him but you seem to know how to handle things and you have the money to do so. Ramona is crazy but know one thing, she is the centerpiece of this show. One more thing, YOU are boring!!!

 

wgc123
wgc123

Heather,

I completely appreciate your position with Ramona. I would not want someone to come on a trip who obviously only wants to critisize me and dig at me. I thought she was rude to you from the first episode. I have always thought that Ramona needs to take a course in tact. I do not like her a feel she should have been the one fired from the show and not Jill. You are fantasitc. Love Love Love you on the show.

MissMaryJaneGirl2012
MissMaryJaneGirl2012

Heather, I do understand why you did not invite Ramona. I don't know how anyone can put up with her. Ramona's behavor is crazy. I do think you also have an ungly personality. You will be disliked by many if you don't change your ways as well.

jstmegan
jstmegan

You go HEATHER~    like you said, its a INVITATION not a OBLIGATION...who cares if viewers like Ramona, millions don't and don't let anyone BULLY YOU...~   Love  Love  Love U already~   Glad to see someone standing up to her and let her EYES POP OUT hahaha

LiveLife
LiveLife

Very interesting Heather.  Aren't you doing excactly what you claim a person should live by?  Aren't you judging Ramona since you haven't walked in her shoes?  You barely know her and yet you are judging her and judging her quite harshly.  Sorry I don't go for the mean girls.  I was so glad when Bravo dumped mean girl Jill and now they have only replaced her with Heather with a fake smile. Sad real sad and Bravo has made a huge mistake here.

pywaket
pywaket

 

Heather, I find you to be pretentious, rude, and phony.  To not invite Ramona is fine but a decent person would have the character to address it directly with Ramona and not everyone else.

adriene.harris.1
adriene.harris.1

I completely agree with Heather. Why the HECK would anyone want to invite Ramona across the country knowing that she is constant drama. It would ruin everyone's vacation. It is a lot easier for Ramona to walk out of a party in New York then to jump on a hours long flight home. Ramona as a mouth that keep running, she even cuts off her own husband during the show a few times.

Team Heather! Keep it classy like you've been doing! Holla!!!!

LisaPH
LisaPH

Heather, I THINK YOU'RE SWEET!! I have NOT seen you talk to much!! Finally, someone who is real! It would be disingenuous to invite someone that you don't care for!!! THANK YOU!

LitchiTiniGirl
LitchiTiniGirl

You are the 1st person that dealt with Romona perfectly! Applouse! I don't think you talk too much since you are positive to others. Yourncalnessnmade Romona look even more ridiculous ;)

cassy1
cassy1

Heather I hope you only make one season.  Normally if you do a trip you can invite who you want.  However, this is Housewive Show where they are supposed to film all of you together.  It is mean to leave one person out.  You are just being catty and spiteful.  How would you feel if all the housewives invited all the others and left you out.  When you smile you have the snidest smile ever, there is no sincerity in your expression.  Because Romona has been in all the shows I would imagine she has more staying power than you, I hope so too at least she has the decency to give people a second chance unlike you.  Just nasty catty playground stuff.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

The reason you and Ramona are like oil and vinegar is because you are alike. In social situations you both want to be the spotlight. You haven't left the world of highschool and who gets the most popular votes. 

I think you you do run on and on and on. It is not an attractive look on anyone. Sometimes the less you say makes people feel more important. Maybe it is time to open you ears and not your mouth.

SandraLynn
SandraLynn

I love that you stuck to your guns and didnt invite Ramona! Why would you? She doesnt like you, so why does she want to go? I'll tell you why, because it HUMBLED her, and she doesnt like that. She thinks very highly of herself and she wants to think that EVERYONE likes her. And that is far from the truth. Im sure Bravo keeps her on, because of all the drama she causes.  Most of us dont hang out with 'Ramona's'. She tried to CONTROL and MINIPULATE you, the same way she does everyone else.  I really hope you didnt cave in and invite her.  She is so jealous of you. 

msk12
msk12

STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE BUT ALWAYS RISE ABOVE THE REST

Alexandra_Sydney_Australia
Alexandra_Sydney_Australia

You're acting quite harshly towards Ramona. All she said was you talk to much and you said the same to her, so why do you have such a problem with her?

jenanna28
jenanna28

youre all on this show together...its not like these are really your bff at the time..its for tv.. so you should have invited ramona.. wether  you "grooved" with her or not.. its polite.. and the other ladies do like her... a bit much for being new to the show... right away gave me a bad taste in my mouth about you...

pianogal6
pianogal6

Heather, Heather, Heather,

Get over yourself...and please don't HOLLA! That's soooo 80's+

BonCast
BonCast

Not nice that you didn't invite Ramona to London, I understand your feelings but you're smart enough to know this would not go unnoticed.  You can be a mean girl.

westerlyrose
westerlyrose

I love Heather!  It's about time there are some sane housewives. I'm even liking Sonja this season!  Ramona has acted so crazy around Heather I think her reactions are completely acceptable.  She has been an adult and has not fallen into for her games.  Good for you not inviting her on your trip!  She would have cause drama and ruined it for everyone like she has on every trip!  Have a good time and don't feel guilty!!

Linnie-0711
Linnie-0711

Enjoy the trip without Ramona. You ladies certainly don't need any insanity on the trip.

kellyfranke
kellyfranke

I wouldn't of invited ramona either - she's rude and delusional. And what's funny, is that on EVERY real housewives series, whenever theres a vacay or trip, the planner invites EVERYONE, even their arch rivals on the show. Soooo unrealistic. And obviously they're doing it for the show, but still, its part of what I think ruins the believability of it since its soooo unrealistic to travel with people u cant stand. So Thank you! Someone finally made a honest and realistic decision on who to invite. And to think I already loved you!

LoriAfromNYtoLA
LoriAfromNYtoLA

Heather!  I absolutely adore you, Aviva, Carole, LuAnn and Sonia.  I actually took the time to log in to Bravo's new comments protocol so I could comment on YOUR blog!  You are handling the situation with Ramona perfectly.  You owe her no reason for why she wasn't invited to London, yet you are being classy in treating her with grace and kindness in the social situations you have shared (despite what Ramona calls it, I find it honest and refreshing without being mean).  I find it embarrassing to watch Ramona, I truly do.  I despise people without "filters" because of their obnoxious and rude behavior.  While they insist "they're telling the truth" or "just being honest", I find their behavior is crass and crude.  And hurtful, for no good reason.  It's simply immature to not watch that what you say.  Five year olds do that, not grown women.

 

My only suggestion to you is in the tone of your last blog...give the new girls, Aviva and Carole, a little chance to get used to the situation.  It can't possibly be easy to be on display (nod to Mellissa G.!).  You blog came off a bit bitchy towards them.  I hope this season ends with you three becoming fast friends.  Keep on being the lovely, smart and classy woman that you are!

misspeaches
misspeaches

Heather - what is the harm of inviting Ramona and being gracious and taking the high road.  Obviously a couple of the  housewives are not comfortable with your decision.  This is a "special " group of friends.  You are a great business woman and it appears a good friend.  Why not offer the olive branch and accept Ramon for who she is.  She is a bit nutty and unfiltered but obviously a great business woman and really would like to build a relationship with you.  She is hurt.  I don't know why you wouldn't have a conversation on what has actually upset you -- she is unaware of what the issue is - you insist she knows (that's like high school isn't it)

 

 

beedlebop
beedlebop

People will have strong opinions based on Ramona-history. Heather, I wasn't sure what to think of you at first, and I've been on my own Ramonacoaster, as far as how I feel about her. At this point, though, I think you're showing that despite your extremely polite, composed nature and "fake smile," as Ramona puts it, you make your own solid choices, don't succumb to pressure from others, and make no apologies for--or better yet, feel the need to justify--your decisions. And ya know what? GOOD FOR YOU! I think it's not fair when drama queens lay their baloney on your door step and DEMAND response--not giving them one drives these kinds of women up the wall. (I've had friends like this-- they're not worth having, because friends who make life more stressful and make you feel bad about yourself aren't worth having around to begin with... but they're the same kind of righteous people who tell you how their behavior is so much better than yours, which is exactly what Ramona did). You don't have to invite someone on an overseas trip (GEEZ, it's a TRIP, not an hour lunch!) who clearly doesn't gel with you and proves to stir the pot with you every chance she gets, like she's trying to show you that she dominates the scene. You shouldn't even have to explain why she's not invited. Your decisiveness on this issue and your beyond-polite behavior toward Ramona, combined with your directness and sticking to your guns is so commendable. But drama queens will scratch and claw their way in to make their problem YOUR problem. You're smart to keep a distance and not engage--but beware: Ramona-types don't like women who refuse to engage.

ChaCha2@peace
ChaCha2@peace

Thanks Heather for the blog.  After watching you in action (on RHONY, HSN, retail sites) I know you're an intelligent business woman, savvy about the real world, and too busy being ,mother and wife to exude too much angst on the "drama queen".   I would never include someone on a business/R&R trip who did not want to be in my presence.

 

Ramona needs to get over herself and stop over examining why she wasn't invited.  Give her behaviour and theatrics on prior excursions, I would not want to spped a minute of fun, free time with her.

 

Love you shapeware BTW.   Thanks.

sigristmary
sigristmary

Jill tried to isolate out Bethany from the rest.  Where is she know?  Kelly was  gonna "ICE OUT" Ramona, where is she now?  You may just end up being be a one season Cindy.

julie700
julie700

Its great to see a normal person on this show.  I just wonder how long it will take before the format of the show will have you screaming and throwing things in public.  I am rooting for you and hoping you remain sane.

BravoFanForsure
BravoFanForsure

Heather, I just want to point out a few things: From 1st show you began with talking about someone dying or going blind over diabetes, your sons medical problem, your dad dying, it was negative energy at the bar where you, Sonja and Ramona were at. Then we go to Ramonas house, Mario is being polite and talking with you and every time he would start to say something, you cut him off, he was tring to say how he met Ramona's parents or 1st date, and cut off again. It is very frustrating for that to happen to anyone, so Mario said you had cut him off 3 x's, and Ramona just agreed you did cut him off. I think Mario wanted to make sure the new ladies felt welcome, but when he gets cut off time and time again, then its you talk, everyone else listen. So I think anyone who wants to be your friend would have to do the following: Just shake their head while you talk,, never try and talk because you only want to hear your voice, they must be a yes person to you and have know opinion at all, just to name a few. How rude of you to tell Ramona at drinks, "I don't know if I am your friend or not", fireball thrown. Then spend the rest of the time with your blackberry, head down, why did you invite this lady who you have had an agenda before filming started, sounds like you got the bad manners from, jill, kelley. I urge you to watch the last 2 seasons and see just how evil, hateful, arrogant, backstabbing Luann, jill and kelley were to Ramona, Bethenny, Alex, Sonja and Ramona.... Ramona took a lot of evil crap from them and so did Bethenny. Ramona was a friend true friend to Sonja, Bethenny and Alex..You want to see a real ugly, manipulator of a person, look no further than Luann and Jill and Kelley. They wrote the book for wild boar behaviour. I am sure when Luann cuts you off with words like, go crawl back in a cabinet you came out of, NO you can't eat now, and darling please don't introduce me as Mrs de lesseps, or Luann, its countess. I can't wait when those tables are turned. In the meantime, based on your image so far, I wouldn't want you as a friend. Just sayin

Dani121767
Dani121767

Love you here in TX!  Breath of fresh air - never have been on the Ramona bandwagon.  Didn't get the hype!  Glad you did not cave to the drama!  Looking forward to the remainder of the season!

MJTA
MJTA

Traveling is exhausting enough on it's own, traveling with Ramona is more than anyone should have to endure. I like you Heather, and I like that you are able to think for yourself. Unlike the other sheep that follow Ramona around (Sonja, Aviva, and Carol). Stay cool!

bonnibojo
bonnibojo

Ramona is out of line.  It is completely your right and choice to who you want to go on vacation with.  I would not invite her either.  She can be very rude and condescending.  I would not want to be around that negative energy either, especially on such a fun trip.   

SZara
SZara

I dont think it was wrong if you  choose not to invite Ramona however now you know that she is bothered by it you should at least have a word to her explaining why (in a civilized non ramona manner)

j1217
j1217

Heather,

 

I am trying SO hard to like you! I think you are beautiful and smart and thought that you seemed friendly in the beginning. Unfortunately, the past few episodes have left a sour taste in my mouth about you and your blogs don't help the situation! I almost never agree with Ramona but I have to say this season she has really seemed to change for the better. 

 

I don't understand why you keep harping on the issue of you not inviting Ramona to London. It seemed clear to me that that was never the issue. I think originally Ramona was offended and hurt that you would invite all the other ladies but her and I think you secretly enjoyed seeing her hurt. But the real heart of the issue is the fact that you knew that she knew about the trip and that everyone was invited but her and instead of confronting her and explaining why you didn't want to invite her, you kept putting on a smile and acting friendly to her face. Then you would speak unkindly of her not only in your one on ones but also to the other women. I found that to be VERY off putting and the fact that you can't just sit there and own up to not inviting and explain it, it's almost like lying and she is right by saying you just aren't being honest or authentic about the situation.

 

I honestly think that you and Ramona are a lot alike in a lot of ways and I hope that eventually you become friends. I don't understand why it seems like you NEVER gave Ramona a chance. From the moment she walked into your office you were going into your one on ones saying how she was trying to one up you and didn't seem to listen etc. etc. She was probably nervous and was just trying to be friendly and getting to know someone is by sharing stories and experiences that are similar! I thought her apology about your father was very sincere and she not only did it once, she did it twice and for you to think that it was because of the London trip was really uncalled for. Whether it was or wasn't she still apologized and I think the meaning behind it meant more especially knowing that Ramona does not normally apologize. 

 

I also have to say that I feel like you are holding a grudge based on how Ramona and Mario said you talked a lot and don't listen to other people or give them a chance to speak. While the timing may not have been right or they may not have said it correctly you did not act at that moment in time that it was offensive to you. You also had PLENTY of opportunities after that time to bring it up again to Ramona and say that it bothered you or that it offended you and you didn't. This is probably why Ramona didn't or doesn't think that there is anything wrong between you since you are so nice to her face and not vocalizing your offense. I think you just never had any desire to become friendly with her and never gave her a chance so that is why you keep holding onto things that she says and does rather then squashing the issues. If you don't want a friendship with her why not just tell her? Why keep up with this facade of niceness and pleasantry when you really can't stand her? Is it for the drama or the ability to be able to gossip with the other ladies about her? I just don't understand!

zocola
zocola

It is about time that someone behaved appropriately with Ramona. She seems to think that she has a license to tell everyone her "truth" and they have to accept it. I am liking me some Heather. Holla!

ppowerball
ppowerball

I don't know why Ramona wants to be with people she clearly doesn't care for, that she talks mean about, very confusing to keep up with her.  She would wear anyone out being around  her for very long, can't imagine being trapped on a plane with her, not a very pleasant time.   

Viewer_N
Viewer_N

Stay strong, Heather. A lot of people (read: Ramonsters) may try to hurl stones at you, but know that there are many of us who appreciate that you aim to be pleasant and polite to Ramona--but keep your distance because she is very negative and taxing. And that "apology" was quite pathetically transparent as a means to make herself look better, get into your good graces, and garner an invitation on the trip. After all, most people would issue a heartfelt apology for such insensitivity over a parents' death through a private, one-on-one conversation.

 

You aren't obligated to like or invite all new acquaintances or costars (or coworkers, to quote another poster) to a gathering or on a trip. No one is owed an invitation simply for being affiliated with a group unless THE GROUP is hosting the trip. And, as for those who say that you are new and should be nice because you are new, and this will create bad blood: uh, hello! Shouldn't the veteran Wives be responsible for welcoming the new Wives in more hospitably than Ramona did Heather? Didn't Ramona already create bad blood through her rude comments to Heather? I COMMEND you for not inviting Ramona. If more people were experienced negative consequences for their poor behavior, perhaps more people would behave better in this world. 

TulsaHousewife
TulsaHousewife

Heather, It is obvious Ramona is jealous as you are younger, prettier and more successful than she is. No way do you owe her an explanation for not inviting her. Your trip, your guests and that is that. Ramona can dish it out but she sure can't take it!!

RHOEverywhere
RHOEverywhere

What could be less sincere than having an assistant be a go-between with people who are supposed to be your friends?

angelsnoreos
angelsnoreos

I can't agree with anyone who thinks it's the right thing to do to sit down with Ramona and tell her why she's not being invited.  I think that would be incredibly bad manners.  I know Ramona thinks that's okay, but seriously, that girl is about a taco shy of a combination plate. That would be like inviting someone to your house to tell them why you don't like them.  Totally unnecessary.  I appreciate honest more than some, but that's too much honesty.  It's okay to have thoughts that stay in your head.  

Dcross
Dcross

Does anyone remember season 1 (or 2), when Ramona didn't invite Jill to a dinner party?  I recall Ramona was incredulous that Jill would be upset for being excluded.... sounds like the tables have turned.  I believe Ramona's words were "you can't invite everyone all the time".  Good job not rewarding the spoiled child for her fit!

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @j1217

 I don't think Heather is harping about not inviting Ramona. Ramona is doing enough of that all on her own. It's more like, Heather is in a place to have to defend why she didn't invite Ramona.Ramona has had plenty of parties,etc and not invited all the girls. Not to mention being rude enough to walk out on a dinner that Bethenney had fixed because Simon showed up with Alex.

enz
enz

 @RHOEverywhere R they really friends? n besides she is busy wit her life pls

 

ChaCha2@peace
ChaCha2@peace

 @RHOEverywhere

 Having worked in corporate world, and run a business, sometimes it is truly difficult to reploy to everyone all the time.  Besides, these are NEW relationships for some and if they were "truly" friends, they would know and understand.

BMBarbie
BMBarbie

@angelsnoreos So you agree with having a pink elephant in the room everytime you have to be around your co-workers? Because you do realize that it is a TV show and these women are required to be together...I wouldn't say that she should invite her over for tea to tell Ramona she is not invited, but at some point it may be less rude to try to politely explain she wasn't comfortable traveling with her yet/there wasn't enough room etc. as opposed to acting like Ramona wouldn't know that the trip was happening and everyone on the cast was invited but her.

beccabravo
beccabravo

 @Dcross I recall that party, and I recall that she didn't invite all of the group, just a few of them. So it wasn't that she singled out Jill. 

misg12
misg12

 @Dcross Wish I could "Love" this comment.  My thoughts exactly.