LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn would like everyone to let go of their grudges and for Sonja and her ex to let go of each other.

on Sep 25, 20120

Sometimes you have to put the past behind you so you can move forward. In this episode we see why holding onto grudges is unhealthy and how important it is to forgive, even if you can’t forget.

I feel bad that Sonja is having a difficult time reaching a settlement with her ex. You would think he would want to settle so they can both move on with their lives? Because Sonja’s ex is dragging this out, she has to live with anxiety about what the future holds for her and her daughter. It’s unfair.

I’m wondering why Sonja waited so long to take down the portrait of her ex husband! It’s time for Sonja to move forward regardless of whether she’s reached a final settlement in her divorce. It’s going to be therapeutic for Sonja to redecorate her dining room and fill it with art that she enjoys and that doesn’t remind her of the past.

64 comments
marcyaverageperson
marcyaverageperson

I think Luann, knew if she didn't say something right away, Ramona would have turned it all on her.  I think Luann, although from perfect, at least tries to get along with the other women.  Any of us can be drawn into conversations where we are not comfortable.  I have seen Luann just listen and not say a word back..I think she is trying to tell the person, please can we change the subject.  over the years I have come to like Luann.  She has come along way since her first season.  I hope she keeps her head high and stays out of the drams

tjjpt
tjjpt

Luanna, I don't know why a lot of people are either very judgemental or suspicious of your behaviors. As for me and my friends, we like you from the beginning. I think some viewers took offense because you were interested in the field of 'manners' and dared to correct the popular Bethany a couple of times in the beginning seasons. As for us, you give an impression of fun and not taking things too seriously. We like your sense of style minus your hairdo...we think you could have a better hairstyle. You are naughty sometimes such as your fling with Johny Depps look alike but it's harmless as long as there is an understanding between your European boy friend and you. And we liked it that you stirred the pot regarding Ramona and Aviva since it's a clever payback to how Aviva stirred the pot about Ramona and the wine tasting.....and Ramona's numerous pot stirring activities too many to mention. Well those two deserve it. Aren't they an equal match, though? Such pitbulls. Stay safe and don't let yourself get bitten by them.

Paloma
Paloma

Did you? Didn't you? Oh, who cares? If I was on a tropical island and some hottie like Tomas was willing and able I would go for it!!!!! Who could blame a girl, right? You're not married & you're not dead so don't sweat the small stuff! Keep it moving & ignore all the others.

FLAGIRL
FLAGIRL

Luann great reference to Led Zeppelin's "Been A long time since I rock and rolled" and with a ping pong paddle.  Love, love, love!!  You don't see that everyday.  Love you and I know that you can't, but have someone belt Ramona one.  She is just wrong on so many levels....:D)

JaneGold
JaneGold

I am glad that you are a good friend to Sonja.  You are being very fair to Ramona too, which I appreciate.

smedly151
smedly151

LluAnn, even though you obviously played everyone. you have the ability and presence to help all of us get past this mess.  We love watching you and hope your romance is heading in a positive light.  I personally hope to watch you have another child.  But all this other nonsense we all have to get past.  please help

rosyposy
rosyposy

You bring a little class to the show.  Thank you for not falling for Ramona's manipulative ways.  She really needs to put down the wine bottle and pick up a dictionary.  You do seem a little meaner this season, but maybe it is about time.  Please  remain above the wine-fueled Ramona rants and stand your grown with dignity.  I really wish they had kept Jill and send Ramona packing (to rehab?).  I loved that Sonja recognized that you were the perfect one for the portrait removal.  I think Sonja is a really good woman going through a tough time.  I just get sad when she joins in Ramona's juvenille stunts.

tamarahope
tamarahope

Luann, I have had doubts about U for awhile now.I felt you caused alot of problem for R & S.We all know U don't like Romona,or why else would U have not only told Aviva right when she got to St.Barts that R & S really didn't want Reid there but when Aviva asked R & S if they had a problem w/Reid beng there U threw Romona under the bus by saying"ur the 1 who wanted me to tell Reid 2 stayat hotel"If U were a friend 2 Romona or Aviva U would have kept ur mouth shut.U had to know U would be causing pain 4 both woman! I feel & so do others by there comments feel U never defend or are very nice 2 Romona.She maybe rough around the edges but U can tell if ur her friend she loves U & will stand by U.I think she is a good friend to her friends.But ur blog caught me off gaurd.4 the 1st time in yrs.U stuck up 4 Romona!U wrote a nice blog & thought U were fair in ur comments! Good 4 U Luann! Keep it up & U will at the top of my list again!

melindaannie
melindaannie

You have been on the show for five years and you have never been a leader of a group. You have only been a friend to a leader whispering in her ear gossip and exaggerations to steer her towards a fight. This season, you do not seem to have a group you are solidly in. You try to stay off the radar, except for continually making jabs against Ramona to anyone who will listen to you. Ramona has let go of the fights and the mean things you have tried to do to sabatage her. So now you sort of stand alone. I have a great idea, how about you finally let go of the grudge you have against Ramona, and get in her group. You come of as a much nicer person with them, than you ever did with Jill and Kelly. I think you are trying to work your way in with Carole and Heather, but you know what, I think in the end it's not going to work. Carole isn't going to have the patience for some of your pretenscious behavior, that you do not realize you do, while you are doing it. The plus of going with Ramona and Sonja is that, as of now you have a few fans, yet if you swallow some pride and learn to love Ramona, not only is she a fiercely loyal friend, but you will at least more fans, and appear to have a backbone.

emtyrrell
emtyrrell

The scene with you and Sonya was so nice.  This is what I would like to see more of on RHONY.  Sonya is going through a difficult time and you were gracious, caring considerate and a real true friend. 

 

Very, very nice. 

jellybean818
jellybean818

Love you darlingI!! However......do you feel bad at all for stirring the pot in St. Barths's? I suspect you were upset at Ramonja for not dropping the whole Johnny Depp look-alike fiasco.  Aviva would have blown her top off at someone eventually with her airs of grandeur...She did say to all of you she was disappointed there was no party for her arrival.

truerealhousewife
truerealhousewife

LuAnn, FYI most of us are exhausted by ramona. Whatever flack she gets, she deserves. Thank you for being a stabilizing force, for owning your mistakes with grace, and for not allowing yourself to be sucked into the ramona cesspool.

As always, I watch for you.

melanie.white.102361
melanie.white.102361

Interesting how you leave out that ramona did not ask George to leave when he arrived uninvited- she greeted him very very nicely. It was George who persistently disrupted the charity event, demanding apologies for his grown daughter as a condition for a donation. After she repeatedly told him to give it a rest and she was speaking to other people, he came over again to her and grabbed her arm again demanding an apology. Ramona didn't call "guards" she called over some waiters to escort him out since he doesn't understand the meaning of the word NO, spelled N-O.

 

You also forget to mention how at the Breakfast Aviva was demanding an apology from Ramona for "disgusting behavior" like staying out late, picking up men, and dancing on tables- it was actually a stage that they were invited to dance on and Carole and Heather were also dancing, and while they were dancing YOU staying out late and were flirting with Thomas, remember- "I'm not like all your other Pirate women" "Let's Go" (even though they had left the limo for you). 

 

 

Memory61
Memory61

LuAnn I really like you, but not some of your actions.  From day one of this season you would run to wherever the new girls were, trash Ramona and be gone.  Exactly what do you write in your "manners" book about repeating conversations of a small group of women to the person they were talking about?  Because of your "tattle-tailing" YOU are the one that ruined that trip and the reason A-Diva went ballistic.  Neither Sonja nor Ramona "acted" on anything that was talked about to get Reid out of there. 

 

You really owe Carol an apology because you also put her in the middle of the drama and caused her to miss her boyfriend's practice.

 

Like I said, I really do like you, but I don't understand the teenage behavior.

Ebelleboo2
Ebelleboo2

LuAnn, It was Carole, especially and Heather who escorted George out of the building.  Carole tried her best to get George to leave but he just didn't get that he is so inappropriate.  At the last second, as the elevator was closing, is when you stepped in.  If you are going to step forward and make false claims that you were helping George, then you should step forward and tell the truth  and admit to Jacques that you cheated on him in St. Bart's.  You are so lucky that Ramona and Sonja have their own issues going on right now so they won't rat you out.  Although, I believe they would not want to hurt such a nice guy like Jacques.  You, on the other hand, LOVE to start trouble and think nothing of making statements that mortally wound your "friends".   LuAnn, heal thyself.  

zocola
zocola

Who refuses money for a charity??? Ramona is so wrong in so many ways.

cavex2
cavex2

I loved you in St Barths.  You were fun to watch.  I understand that you may not want to choose sides, but you know the day is coming when you will have to do it.  I think Jacque is a wonderful influence in your life and best wishes for your future.

WandaP
WandaP

Borin blog, luAnn, kind of like this season, u were very timid.

gemini_80
gemini_80

So now you want to stay neutral after stirring that pot in St. Barth's? Sorry honey doesn't work that way. After watching this show since the beginning I think I and other viewers are well aware of the fact that you are an instigator LuAnn. You love to start something and then stand by the sidelines with a smirk on your face. 

NJSicilian
NJSicilian

Luann; finally this is the first blog of yours I can agree with.  I don't like you to be honest I think your sneaky.. but I have to 100% agree with your statements above.. Also I absolutely loved when you said Aviva had no right to send Harry to Ramona's event... GOOD FOR YOU for recognizing a wrong.... maybe you will turn me around to be on team Luann

peech
peech

yeah, boring.

penneyone
penneyone

HELLO LuAnn, You have stayed under the radar this season. Just when I can not stand you.. you turn around and do things good. I LIKED YOU ALOT THIS EPISODE. TAKE CARE...

Sunny11
Sunny11

Glad you were there for Sonja and I feel you are trying to be supportive of all.   You and Jacque make a cute couple. While you don't like Ramona I think you are trying to be nice to her during this nutsy time.

LadyTeapots
LadyTeapots

Ramona didn't call in guards to have George removed. Why do you lie to make Ramona look bad? Aviva is a coward for sending her father to Ramona's charity event and he had no place being there. He was rude and inappropriate. Since he didn't have the decency to leave on his own after numerous requests, he was escorted out. 

solveig
solveig

C'mon Countess!  Aviva did what you had been asking for - she called Ramona on her behavior.  This is exactly what you asked for at the beginning of the season.  You should be backing up Aviva .... if you truly want Ramona to understand what it's like to have other people ALSO saying "what everyone else is thinking."   This is what you were asking for more people to do.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

Not sure why the kind nod towards Ramona and Sonja. But, for once, I am in total agreement with you. Sonja needs to let go and move forward.  Ramona is Ramona and she does often extend the olive branch. How many times did she try with Jill?  Sonja is like a cat in heat and waiting on a settlement that may never come.

 

Ravenna
Ravenna

LuAnn, I'm really liking you this season. The last few episodes you've been supportive, witty and free-spirited.  I also like your sense of humour. It often goes over people's heads. (like Ramona) but its very dry, and slightly twisted at times.   :-)

rhowell1965
rhowell1965

I like LuAnn's hair.  She is stunningly beautiful and there isn't anything bad about her appearance.  Right now LuAnn is being Switzerland because she doesn't want to be called out on her own bad behavior in St. Bart's.  Seriously- LuAnn what were you thinking bringing a man back to the house.  You are on a reality show with cameras for heaven sake.  Did you think it wouldn't be discussed???  Shame on you.

humouredbyitall
humouredbyitall

LuAnn,

 

Boy oh boy, you managed to heighten the drama on the trip and are quite a stirrer but some how you managed to slip past the radar...........yet again...

HousewifeinNH
HousewifeinNH

You and the other women keep mentioning protecting George's dignity, but thing is HE never did anything to protect his OWN dignity!  He's the one who looked like a fool confronting Ramona at a an abused women's charity party.  He's a grown man and should've had enough sense to know better.  And then he goes on to try and hit on Radzi.  That man is a mess.

Ann932dogs
Ann932dogs

Greetings from Illinois LuAnn

 I have always found you to be relatable, even when I do not  always quite see things the way you do. I thought you responded very sweetly, as a good friend, to Sonja, per the paintings and her divorce settlement etc. I wish you and the man in your life happiness and success. I like the fact that you keep MOST of your private life private. To me that shows maturity and balance.

 

A fan! 

Ann

bananskiz808
bananskiz808

Lu!! my mind has changed about you this season.. i like you!!! you're very gracious and fun this season. i hope your good grace rubs off on Aviva. she needs to get another reality check!

vreid860
vreid860

you are acting more human now.

Luv2Laugh
Luv2Laugh

Lu, if Adiva's ranting was aimed at you, you would not be that quick to forgive. She was wrong about so much more than blaming R for S's drinking. It must be hard for you to let her know since you are probably the one who gave her the heads up before she arrived at the island. If you don't want to back paddle (by letting Advia know, she really lost it more than all HW's combined) then at least beware of a friendship with her. I would hate to see you on the receiving end of her next rant. You know she doesn't approve of bringing home men or friends who say the dynamics would change with her hubby there, so I am sure you are walking on eggshells around her already. I would never speak to my worst enemy the way she spoke to them and continues to speak about them. I'm not sure if they can forgive her and the viewer's won't forget. Hoping either Carole or Heather can show Adiva the light. Her truth spewed out and she can't take it back by constantly offering up excuses. 

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

I guess it will be interesting to hear Adiva's reaction to seeing the SB episodes; when shefinds out you really did agree with Sonja and Romaon

ele.
ele.

I generally agree with what you say in THIS blog, except the comment that Ramona is not able to move past issues, because I have seen her do it with Alex and Simon, with you, with Heather, even with Bethenny when they had that talk on the bridge.

 

Aviva and George have both treated and talked about Ramona and Sonja in very offensive ways.

 

George had various opportunities to walk out gracefully, Ramona initially told him to put the check in the bowl and that she had no problems with him... I don't feel bad for his self-inflicted embarrassment, instead of leaving he chose to go hit on Carole. He should have never been sent there by Aviva to demand an apology in the first place.

Carmella3
Carmella3

LuAnn is only neutral depending on who she's conversing with.  Very two faced

rukidding
rukidding

You are more likable this season.  I actually think you fit better with Sonja and Ramona than the others.  And Aviva might call you white trash if you're not careful.

kiki13
kiki13

Luann-  Ramona is not the one who will not let things go- Aviva is doing that all by herself.  Ramona is simply defending herself.  You need to stand behind her and quit acting like Aviva is fine- she owes Ramona and Sonja apologies, but at this point, it's probably too late for that.  Consequently, Aviva should not be allowed to bring up her grudge in anyone's presence- she should be cut off and warned the topic is off limits or friendships will end.  Aviva herself said she is relentless- like this is some excuse as to why she should be able to continue this tirade.  It goes on and on, but only if the rest of you allow it.

 

BTW- You still need to take responsibility for starting the whole thing.  If you hadn't made that snarky comment about how Ramona was plotting to get Reid out of the house, all this may not be going on right now!!  Why not keep you mouth shut??? When have you admitted your part in this?  I suspect that you said more to Aviva prior to what we saw on camera- you wanted her to get so mad that she and Reid would go to a hotel.  You probably wanted to keep them as far away from the house as possible, given your night with Johnny Depp.  

 

Anyhow I hope you are proud of your work- you made the comment about how the dynamics would change with Reid there- you act like you never said anything.  This is why I think no one should trust you.  As Ramona said- you have Selective Memory.  

 

michelle.lucas.3150
michelle.lucas.3150

Very thoughtful of you to support Sonja. It shows you can have different view points, and arguments and still be there for each other. I wish you would be more truthful to Aviva about her ridiculous behaivor.

ShawnInTexas
ShawnInTexas

Lu, Lu, Lu,

Quit trying to be Switzerland. You know full well that Ramona is able to move past issues with people better than anyone( look how her relationship with Alex and SImon went from adversarial to a deep freindship) and Aviva is TOTALLY unwilling to move on.

That said I am definitely liking you more this season now that Kellie and Jill are out of the picture, those two were definitely toxic for you!

tarcissus
tarcissus

 @truerealhousewife

 LuAnn started all the trouble, when she repeat what was said in the bedroom to Adiva.  LuAnn said having Reid there would change the dynamic, but told Adiva Ramona said it.   The only reason to tell Adiva was to hurt her and Ramona by starting that fight.  LuAnn had to have known what would happen and she knew what she was doing.  Throwing Ramona under the bus.  LuAnn is a liar and deceitful, but not a true friend.

tamarahope
tamarahope

 @truerealhousewife

 How can you say luann owns her mistakes.She went to a bar brought a man back to the house,don't know if they had sex don't care,but she went around the house blaming it on the Italians,then when Aviva started her rant about Sonja bring a guy back from the bar for sex,she knew it was about her not Sonja but she kept quite & Aviva still talks about it,Luann owning her mistakes Ha!

 

elsabela
elsabela

 @LadyTeapots   Luann didn't say it was wrong he was escorted out, just that she wished he had behaved differently to prevent that from happening.  I doubt she is trying to make anyone look bad.   I don't think she disagrees with Ramona's solution to the George problem, she just wishes it was less awkward for him.

tarcissus
tarcissus

 @Ravenna

 I agree that LuaAnn is more fun this year, but I wouldn't trust her to be a loyal friend since she is so deceitful and hurts people with her gossip and tell all attitude.

skye8844
skye8844

 @rhowell1965

 I disagree about LuAnn being beautiful.  She has a thickenss about her and honestly she could pass for a drag queen.

tarcissus
tarcissus

 @ESinAZ

 hahahahahaha!  I can't wait for the truth to come out.  I hope it teaches LuAnn a thing or two about not ratting on people.

Hulali
Hulali

And who do you think Aviva was referring to when she said "someone" gave her the heads up that Reid was going to be asked to leave? Lu Lu!!  If she had kept her gosspiy mouth shut none of this would have happened.

fleurific
fleurific

 @ShawnInTexas but the reason she didn't like them was really stupid, if she didn't get over that then she would have looked like a petty and miserable person to dislike them. they didn't even do anything to her. so she doesn't get conflict resolution credit for that because she created the conflict in the first place. they has to be a better example for Ramona moving past issues. i just think she moves past them when she wants i don't even know if there is reasoning behind some her actions. i think she lives in the minute. there is not much great thoughts to her action, thats why you either love her for spontaneity or not. 

truerealhousewife
truerealhousewife

 @tarcissus  well of course you favor ramona. Your reply speaks volume. Ramona is the queen of deceit/lies/inappropriate behavior. I doubt we watch the 'same' show.