LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn addresses Carole's comments and says she's shocked by Heather's behavior at the reunion.

on Oct 9, 20120

I must say the most surprising thing to me about the reunion was how aggressive Heather was towards me. I have my faults like everyone else, but I considered Heather to be a close friend. Sometimes it’s hard to see a person’s true colors until you step back and see on film how you’ve been treated. Just because someone has a degree or a pedigree doesn’t mean that they know how to treat other people with respect.

I had high hopes for my friendship with Carole when we met each other close to nine months ago and although she says that during interviews she was just having a bit of fun at my expense, it was hurtful to watch.

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Kelly555
Kelly555

LUANN DON'T SING, STOP SINGING.  YOU ARE A COMPLETE TOTAL FARCE,  SO SILLY AND SO RIDICULOUS. UNLESS IT'S  A SATIRE PERFORMANCE? THEN WE CAN TRY AND HOLD THE NAUSEA..

sallyjane50
sallyjane50

Seriously LuAnne you need to get a life I used to like you but not any more you are so up yourself I can't believe you have turned into the nasty evil bitch that you are, you really went down in my estimation when you all saw the psychic (watch the episode) you were practically wetting yourself when she told Ramona that Mario had another woman in his life, the glee on your face is there for all to see..Bravo get rid of this woman put HER in the bin along with the other mean girls Jill and Kelly, oh yeah you should be ashamed of yourself for coming between Jill and Bethanny

conchitadelmundo
conchitadelmundo

luann, sorry you're being a big baby. heather was being honest about your behavior and hardly mean or aggressive. you only hear what you want to hear.  i really have come to like you this season, but you're off the mark on this one.  open your ears and listen for a change. 

southernkiki
southernkiki

Ms. LuAnn - you are an amazing woman. Relax a little. You are being a bit hypersensitive and taking everything way too seriously. Heather and Carole actually like you - but you are too defensive to notice. 

 

Take a breath, be fabulous and move forwards. 

 

karenmom
karenmom

I just watched a Bravo rerun of the last seasons' RHNY finale. Man, you were a mean girl. It must be hard to watch how you treated Alex and how you, Jill, and Kelly piled on her. You are so full of yourself I just wish I could slap you silly. Why they didn't can you along with Jill and Kelly, I'll never understand. Bethenny had it right when she said you were a snake. Jack should hit the bricks and fast.

janicemw
janicemw

without explanations... who cares about the dress?  I liked LuAnn sooo much more this season, real people have flaws... forgive and forget.

 

annie.kobayashi
annie.kobayashi

Gah you're the worst...  "Just because someone has a degree or a pedigree doesn’t mean that they know how to treat other people with respect.".  You use your faux pedigree to demean people all the time.  You have simple, blue collar roots you should remember my dear.  You married well and good for you, but stop lording it over the world.  Money can't buy you class and a title can't buy you a decent personality.  

Eliza_linglee
Eliza_linglee

LuAnn, I know I might be jumping the gun here as the second part of the reunion has not aired yet……but.  I keep seeing this clip of Ramona saying that "LuAnn loves her men," or words to that effect and then we see a shot of you kind of looking a wee bit perturbed or annoyed. There is NOTHING wrong with you loving your men LuAnn, you are human and healthy…instead…celebrate this fact.  However, that said your behavior warrants a self examination. You MUST ask yourself if you are truly in love with Jacque?  Be honest with yourself.  If you do love him then you MUST be faithful…you know this LuAnn.  You have to make better choices when faced with a moment of weakness in the company of a beautiful young man, especially if you are in a committed loving relationship.

 

~ Perhaps you are a bohemian and need you freedom more at this time in your life?

bravochic
bravochic

LuAnn,

 

I think Carole mistreated you this season to the point that it was uncomfortable to watch, as it was obvious you were oblivious to it all until you watched the season. Also, I don't think Ramona and Sonya should blame you for Aviva's outrage. Aviva was clearly already mad at them and they were having a heated conversation before you joined in. The dress thing was confusing. The designer's wife seemed to like you and didn't mind you wearing the dress. Her like for you maybe made Carole jealous. Since you have never outwardly attacked Carole all season, the only reason she could dislike you so much is that she is jealous. I think her treatment of you only made you more fans. I liked you this season. Best of luck. 

Tpoulos
Tpoulos

I think you are way too sensitive.  Heather is probably the most real on the show.  I think you need to understand the difference between being a "mean girl" and being a friend who is honest.  We don't always like hearing the truth and from watching the show, you definitely don't like hearing the truth.  As far as Carol goes...I'm sorry but she was right.  You really need to get over yourself.   

MRWC
MRWC

For anyone who has watched from the beginning it is hilarious that you all of a sudden have an opinion on how to treat people kindly.  You are consistently condescending and passive aggressive (which is usually humorous to watch).  Carole's comments were just funny.  You seem irritated because they made you seem a little ridiculous and less above everything.  You put yourself on a social pedestal (remember when you told Bethany not to introduce you to the driver by your first name) and Carole maybe knocked you down a notch.  You should be able to laugh at yourself if you are going to put yourself on TV.  Also, if a friend introduces you to a friend then I can see why it would be weird that you ask them for a favor right off the bat.  I think Carole thinks you imposed yourself on her friend, she's not "hoarding a designer".  I think the point is obviously that a reality housewife isn't doing Naeem Khan a favor by wearing his dress in a gossip magazine.  It's not that you aren't "good enough" to wear him, it's that you aren't the one doing the favor.  He is.  And, you are the one who jumped down Heather's throat immediately for weighing in like Andy asked her to.  She was very obviously not being aggressive until you came down on her before listening to the answer she was asked to give.  It seems impossible that you see the world the way you write it in your blog, I wonder if maybe you just hope that people will see it that way if you write it...

LadyK2507
LadyK2507

LuAnn I love you but please ignore Carole!  She is jealous of you for some reason and thats her issue.  I mean honestly who says someone is a friend jumper how high school is that?  Or would that be grammer school? But please know I don't think Heather was trying to be nasty to you she was trying to be heard over the others shes actually a great person and I think you may think about working with her to develope a line for yourself, like jewlery.  You love big pieces design something with your own style and flair to it. Honey you need to get a business for youself and stop making your man your whole life.  Speaking of your man, next time you want to dip off do it off camera.  Never do something like that during the time of the season you are filming honey or haters like Carole will always have something snide and insignificant to say to you.

radioshelley
radioshelley

LuAnne, you may have been filled from head to toe wth Class, but Aviva, Carol and Heather have MORE intelligence in their ltttle toes than you have in your whole body!! Looks fade, but an intelligent woman never looks classless!

JustGia
JustGia

LuAnn, you are not very poised this season.  Maybe it's time to go and write another etiquette book.  Get over yourself.

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

LuAnn, I don't understand why you are being so harsh and  feel Heather was 'aggressive' towards you at the Reunion.  She was speaking from experience as a designer regarding the practice of people "borrowing" clothes.

 

There are various ways of going about it, apparently, and you didn't give her the opportunity to explain it in detail. You interrupted so many times --- and then asked why she was expressing her opinion. You obviously weren't listening, to what she was saying, because you didn't even hear Andy ask the question!

 

As far as Carole is concerned, you're just plain jealous. She only met you a couple of times, and you jumped at the opportunity to take advantage of her friendship with the Khans.

You were really on the defense, are still. "Methinks doth do protest too much". 

 

Concentrate on mending your relationship with Jacques after your blantant disregard for his feelings in St. Barths. No doubt he feels betrayed like a cuckhold. That should take priority over whether or not a designer lends you dresses.

 

Although Ranjana said you do wear her jewelry well, and look good in Naeem's dresses, she doubts he'd be in any great rush to "dress" you. Don't kill the messenger! Pay for your clothing, as Carole does. She has no reason to lie --- as I said in another post, she didn't say the garments in her hallway belonged to her "Italian friends".

 

 

RealityWoman
RealityWoman

You have been so fake and High and Mighty since joining RHONY.  This season you acted a little less pompus.  After your co-mean girls got fired it must have been like a splash of cold water in your face...it woke you up the tiniest bit...then you had to go after Carol with the Princess line...how long did you have to work on that line?  You can't stand not being in the lime light...so you threw Ramona and Sonja under the bus....you looked very sad and desperate in that moment...I mean you were probably thankful that everyone was talking about Ramona and Sonja and not the pirate you cheated on Jacque or Jack with.  You ladies have a lot.  You do not have a sense of  reality...You think you have entitlement.  That's why you asked Carol's friend to loan you a dress.  You also talk behind people's back....you are all guilty of it..and guess what if you didn't it wouldnt make for very good tv...but please don't act like your above it.  Think twice about coming back next season. You bore me.

tarte82
tarte82

I suppose if my ex-husband had a minor title and I deluded myself into thinking it had any value, I would expect to be deferred to also.  From season 1-"that is NOT how you introduce me to the HELP", I knew that LuAnn is not the sort of person I would want to hang out with or even like.  I think her beating the mean girl drum is hilarious.  She sure seemed to enjoy her part on the brunette couch last season.  Without her mean girl posse, LuAnn has no relevance on this show anymore.  To some people living elegantly just comes naturally, unless of course the pirate looks like Johnny Depp!

AZMOM
AZMOM

I so like the fact that you, Ramona and Sonja are kind of a trio now.  I think at the beginning of the season you were not on my favorite list but at the season rolled along you stayed out of the fray and let the dust settle to see who your true friends were.  I really grew to like you at the end of the show and your style.  You are a beautiful woman and seem to be a nice person.  I hope you come back next season and please stay friends with Ramona and Sonja - you really do have a neat relationship with them even though at times you drive each other nuts - that is what good friends do at times but in the end you always remain friends.

Popptart
Popptart

You have more class than Carole or Heather

curiocab
curiocab

From the very beginning when you appeared on the show, you have insulted people. You demand apologies that you did not deserve, you put others down but try to make it appear that you don't.  If you wanta piece of clothing or jewelry, buy it yourself. Why do you think you wearing it would be such a compliment. You can call yourself countess all you want, but that title means nothing. You are very unkind & lack class. You made sure to attack fellow cast mates since you have come on the show. You were so anxious to be Jill's bff, that you made sure she & Bethany could not make up. I'm glad Jill is gone but you caused most of her problems

You are a big disappointent. You kept the show from mentioning your daughter's indescretions but you talked so bad about ALex's children. Yet when interviewed, ALex & SImon were the only ones that refused to talk about your child. 

Please stop the fake laugh when you insult people. Everyon knows what you are doing. 

knitfrenzy
knitfrenzy

One step forward, two steps back.  You're right.  You did not refer to yourself as The Countess this season.  However, you told Aviva that you personally never brought up Harry on the show and there was a cut to you saying you had drinks with him to her.

 

I don't think any of the new women are your friends.  Stick with the old ones.  You really were supportive of Sonja when putting the paintings in storage for her daughter.

KatiainHB
KatiainHB

For me it was awesome watching your karma!!  how does it feel Luann?  You are a mean girl, you stir the pot, funny to watch it all coming back to you.... don't forget you reap what you sow! 

patcaseygold
patcaseygold

Well Luann last years treatment of Alex has come back to bite you. I have been waiting for someone to tell you to your face that you are FAKE.

TeriLC86
TeriLC86

LuAnn, I don't care much for the Heather I see on TV but she wasn't being aggressive, she was being honest. What gets me is every ONE of u talk about another in your interviews and to the other ladies, yet are bent out of shape when it happens to you! Then, Heather is actually honest to you and you call it being aggressive. Perhaps you were simply in the wrong? Just because you state you know etiquette doesn't mea n you always use it. Sorry to break it to you, but you need to rea like you are just like the other women.

rosyposy
rosyposy

I love watching you on the show.  You always exhibit the social graces that some of the others seem to lack.  I was a little shocked at the "island incident".  The new ones seem to be after you because they may just be jealous of your style and grace. 

WiseMuse
WiseMuse

I'm still fixated on the fact that you cheated on Jacque with that pirate scuzball. And worse, you admitted you'll never change...meaning you'll always be the unfaithful type. Shame on you Luanne. As for Carole and her beef with you regarding the borrowed dress...I do feel she made a big deal out of it and should have just spoken to you privately, or not at all..It wasn't out of character for you to ask to borrow a dress, and I believe you really thought it would be good PR for the designer. That said, sometimes you do get overly defensive and self righteous. Overall, you're a beautiful woman, but you need some lessons in humility..

bpster
bpster

Good grief you need help!!! Do you NOT hear anything? Jealously isn't pretty no matter how you try to dress it up. You're unapproachable you feel as if what you do is justified by this fake air of class you give yourself. Listen!! You are not that important to be wearing designer gowns for the pure reason to "give them a boost"......as far as Carol's wardrobe who cares? Is she using YOUR friend for clothes???? Your ego needs a big POP!!!

Blink
Blink

Heather is your friend.  And I agree with her, when you don't want to hear something you don't like you dismiss it.  You put Heather in a compromising position with Jaque.  You were really defensive with anything Heather said at the reunion.  If you asked for free clothes be upfront about it, stop trying to pretend you were trying to do them a favor by offering to wear an already established designer exposure.  He doesn't need it from someone on Housewives.  You should really talk with Heather about your behavior on the show.  You seem to think Romona is now your friend, fall for that if you want. 

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

Mabybe behind the scenes you are this wonderful endearing single mother who just wants the best for her children. How you come across on the show is snobbish, pruddish, and ever judging.  I don't know what did or did not happen in pirategate.  I am sure though dear Jacques was not too happy with how it appeared for the world to see. 

Carole has a title. She doesn't ask the other wives to use it like you did past seasons, she doesn't write books based on being a Princess. You, on the other hand , drop the Countess title, when it suits you. By the way the Countess title never seemed to suit you.

Heather is a younger Ramona. I a surprised you haven't seen the similiarities. But, do hope that you realzie that Ramona was being Ramona and especially Aviva was wrong for blaming her for so many things. 

j1217
j1217

LuAnn,

You have no reason to be angry at Carole. You came onto that reunion prepared to play victim and act like you were so hurt and shattered by Carole's humor. I think you are jealous of Carole. I think you are jealous of the fact that she has a laid back attitude yet still is classy and successful. 

 

I love that Carole does not take her title as seriously as you do. I love how she didn't take this show as seriously as you do and I think that is one of the problems that you have with her. I think you have mistaken her laid back lifestyle as weakness and not taking a stance in any situation. She was observing and was not being malicious. You didn't feel the need to bring your hurt and disappointment to light prior to the reunion. Why is that? I love that Carole realizes that she was not born into royalty but she married into it, meaning she realizes that she isn't entitled to ANYTHING unlike you. 

 

I think you totally missed the point of the dress and designer situation. It wasn't about you wearing the designer's outfits and it wasn't about you being worthy of it or not. It was about the fact that you felt entitled to it. You consider yourself a celebrity and you thought that the designer was like dying to have you wear their clothing when in fact they are dressing actual royalty and celebrities around the world. Life and Style magazine is a great magazine for you to be in and make it seem like you are famous but not many designers care about showing their designs in Life and Style or OK magazine, they want their clothing in Vogue or Harper's Bizarre. You met these people one time and you felt the need to tell them that you would wear their design if they want you too. That puts them in  an awkward situation and because you were introduced to them as Carole's friend that reflects poorly on her. You overstepped your boundaries and you imposed on their generosity as well as Carole's generosity and then didn't even give her the benefit of the doubt or the opportunity to explain the situation to you. You once again thought that it was all about you, which it wasn't. You were rude point blank and for being an etiquette queen you should have known that.

 

I think that you insert yourself in situations to try and stay relevant on the show. That is why you blew up about Carole on the reunion, why you told Aviva that Ramona and Sonja said the dynamic would change on the trip and when you said Ramona was threatening your children. I think that you like to stir the pot and I believe that the pirate situation in St. Barths was a part of that. I think that you knew what was happening and that you wanted to stay relevant. I think that you opened up a lot more and had your own opinions a lot more this season because some of the other ladies weren't there in your ear and I truly enjoyed the fact that you and Ramona put your differences aside towards the end of the season. I hope if you come back next year we see more of the LuAnn who helped Sonja take down the portrait of her ex and the LuAnn that has a good time and gets along with Ramona and less of the pot stirrer and of the drama. You have a good start. And seriously, give Carole a chance I think she has a calming effect on the group and could really help you to be a better person.

LPR011
LPR011

You are no Michelle Obama.   It was a hilarious to watch you act like people should behave as though you are.  God forbid someone suggest a designer who dresses Michelle Obama wouldn't want to dress you.  And on top of everything else you then threw out that Michelle Obama wear J.Crew as though thats something to scoff at.  You are not a big deal and need your ego deflated ten fold.

Beesbad
Beesbad

@karenmom I just watched it too! Lu was so terrible and nasty to Alex, truly mean spirited and condescending. It's the height of hypocrisy to accuse Carol of being a mean girl. Carol is smart, witty, and classy. It also reminded me of Ramona's pregnancy scare and how snotty Lu was about it, and then this year it's all about peri-menopausal Lu's pregnancy quest.

NONNIE05
NONNIE05

@bravochic I love Luann!! Don't like Carole!!

jellybean818
jellybean818

 @bravochic I thought it was strange as well that Carole was so offended by LuAnn. It seemed that LuAnn was trying to get to know her and whenever LuAnn talked about herself, Carole took it as being "one-upped". Watching and trying to be objective as Carole was one of the new girls, it was confusing why Carole was either intimidated of jealous of LuAnn.  Carole is obviously successful on her own, royal title or not,  she didn't seem the type to get so bothered over petty things.

annie.kobayashi
annie.kobayashi

 @MRWC Phrased perfectly... Luann thinks she is doing the favor by offering to wear a dress by Naeem Khan when in fact it was Naeem doing the favor by agreeing to loan the dress.  It isn't the dress that matters, its Luann's attitude, always so high and mighty.  

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

 @JustGia

 Thanks Gia! ----LuAnn should also brush up on her so-called social graces and etiquette prior to writing another one. What happened to the singing career,  by the way?

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

 @rosyposy

 

yes, LuAnn was very graceful when she did the native "hooting" noises and said "watch out for your scalp, baby" at Le Cirque. epitome of grace.

 

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

 @@seasonedviewer7

 agree with most of what you say --- other than your remark about Heather - I LOVE Heather.

Oh and Lu's daughter (remember the reception for her art exhibit in Lu's garage? -- someone should really tell her not to speak when she has food in her mouth)

RoseWind
RoseWind

 @j1217 I like your take on Carole and LuAnn's attitudes towards their titles and I like what you said about LuAnn and her sense of entitlement to wear Naeem's gowns.  Naeem is way out of LuAnn's league.

mojave
mojave

 @j1217 Carole does not contribute anything to the show.   I have no idea why everyone is holding her in high regards.   You might as well just place a cardboard cut out on the set and you would get just as much.

Popptart
Popptart

@LPR011 Thank goodness she's no Michelle Obama! Luann you're a lot better than that. I wrote on your blog a couple of episodes before reunion part 1 and warned you that Carole and Heather were not your friends. They are both a couple of snobs

rollingfox32
rollingfox32

 @Beesbad  @karenmom Carol seemed against Luann from the first episode for absolutely no reason.  It was almost as if she was written to do so.  And I'm sorry, but Alex was dumb.  Nothing ever came out of that chick's mouth that made any sense to me.

rollingfox32
rollingfox32

 @jellybean818  @bravochic Absolutely!  Luann was making such an honest effort to be friends with Carol and the whole thing with the dress, in my opinion, was part of her desire to help the two of them get closer.  It was like Carol was on a witch hunt. 

jellybean818
jellybean818

 @AudreyEH  @rosyposy I thought she was graceful and funny.  Who is Carole to tell anybody what they need to call themselves?? If she's Native American and wants to call herself Indian it's her background, she can call herself what she wants. She handles herself well.