Cast Blog: #RHONY

Like a Light

Ramona is ready for Aviva to switch back to her old self.

Sonja is ready to let go of the past and grab onto the future. Removing the painting of her ex-husband from her home symbolizes that. You could feel the pain of Sonja realizing she had to let go and move forward. Divorce is always hard and it takes so much strength to get through it. I haven’t gone through this and LuAnn has. She showed such a warm, kind, compassionate side of herself with Sonja. I am happy LuAnn was there for Sonja to give her the support and understanding she needed. This was a healing process for Sonja and I am confident she will find someone very special in her life.

I just loved the scene between Carole and Mario. True Faith Jewelry is a Singer family business that crosses generations. They produce awards, medals, jewelry. Amazing pieces! Mario was thrilled to be able to help Carole get some trophies made for her ping pong charity event and they came out awesome! Its always great when your friends and significant other get along and I really enjoyed watching Carole and Mario interact and work together in his office.

I grew up in a home with domestic violence. So many victims are afraid to speak because they are afraid of the judgments. Domestic violence crosses all races and classes. I have tried to give it a voice whenever I can. I decided to raise money for a NYC shelter that takes in women and children who are victims of domestic violence. I set it up as a ladies luncheon, women supporting women. There was a fashion show showing Kimberly Towers’ designs, wine, hors d’oeuvres, and a pretty glass bowl set up where everyone could put their donations.

I was very surprised to see George there. Isn’t everyone a little taken back when an uninvited guest shows up? But, I have always gotten along with George, so even though I felt it odd for him to be there I welcomed him with a hug and warm greetings. That wasn’t enough for George because he had an agenda. He claimed he came to donate thousands of dollars. As Aviva said in her interview with a smirk, she could have just mailed the checks. She knew what her father would do. Not only did he start yelling and demanding apologies but he was taking attention away from the cause! This lunch was about women supporting women, helping those in need. George made it about himself and Aviva. He made it a huge scene. I wanted to just walk away because this wasn’t what the afternoon was about. Then he grabbed my arm with a hard pinch to keep my attention. He hurt me and he was trying to force me into a situation I didn’t want to be in.

I thanked George for the donations and showed him the bowl to place them in but he wouldn’t. He wanted apologies for Aviva. This was not the time or place. He used those checks as an excuse to show up which is pretty revolting. Of course, in the end the donations were not rejected and I accepted them. They donated $500. The same I donated to Aviva’s cause.

I did not have two burly bodyguards carry a weak eighty year old man out of an event. Does George strike anyone as someone who can’t fend for himself? I asked him to leave over and over and over again. When he didn’t, I asked the hired servers if they would not mind escorting him out. I would do it again. His behavior was completely out of line. Plus, it was a ladies lunch! I have to apologize to the shelter (who for privacy reasons and the protection of the women staying there ask not to be named) for what that event became. It was supposed to be positive and bring a voice and light to a cause and it turned negative and about people it shouldn’t have been about. It was really difficult to watch and relive.

When Aviva called me to meet her for breakfast I for sure thought she wanted to clear the air and have us be in a good place again. I wanted the pre St. Barth’s Aviva back, not the A-diva who showed up.

I have never encountered anyone in my life with so many phobias and anxieties. Does Aviva use these anxieties and phobias to excuse herself from being so mean? Who speaks with such vile words!? What happened to the Aviva who said, “Say what you mean, but don’t be mean"?

I was sincerely hoping that at our meeting we would get to a better place. Harry (Aviva's ex-husband) and I have been friends for years, long before I knew Aviva. I called Harry to see if he could give me some better insight into Aviva. I really wasn’t understanding any of her behavior towards me in St. Barth’s. I apologized twice already and that was clearly not working.

I really wanted to mend the fences with her. I know I am not perfect and I too can overreact in a situation. I just did not want this to go any further. Life is too short to hold onto ill will and anger for long periods of a time. Entering the hotel to meet Aviva, I really did not know which one I would encounter. So, to brace myself, the sunglasses went on.

Nothing in the entire world could have prepared me for her tirade on me. You can be angry but don’t be hurtful. You can be upset with me but please no name-Calling. I could not believe the anger that was being directed at me. At some moments, it was much worse than anger. There was hate in her eyes.

It’s as if Aviva became a snake full of venom and vile words, that were lies nonetheless. No one can say that I ran away from Aviva. I just sat there and took her non-stop abuse. Part of me was in shock. I was frozen in my chair. I was hoping this would stop and quickly. I was thinking maybe she worked like a light. As quickly as you turn a light switch on, she would just switch and become the Aviva I first knew.

None of this happened. There was nothing more for me to do but exit.

I’m off to Hazlet, NJ today for an appearance at the Wine Academy tonight! Always check RamonaSinger.com for appearance news, exclusive videos and a chance to corner me on ‘Ask Ramona’! I have a great newsletter coming out later today so be sure to sign up!

Til next time!

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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