Ramona Singer

Ramona's not mad she isn't invited, she's mad Heather isn't being honest.

on Jun 25, 20120

Let's go back to when I met Heather for drinks. I can't believe what she said to me about the invitation to my table of ten. She got the email and never responded, other than to say her assistant would get back to me. I was being honored at the Steve Awards, which can be compared to the Emmy for women in business. I invited ALL the women as my guests. When someone invites you as a guest and they have a table, you get back to them ASAP.

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Why didn't Heather, at that time when we were having drinks, say "Ramona I have no interest in being with you." Or she could have just had her assistant respond, "Thanks but Heather can't attend," or "Ramona I am going to London and taking everyone but you!" Heather acts one way to my face and another way behind my back.

I realize now I'm not upset about not going to London, but I am very upset that Heather is not being true and forthright toward me. Heather is not communicating to me how she feels about me. I don't like people who play games.

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138 comments
renpenlew
renpenlew

You know, you would think after viewing previous seasons you would realize, maybe just maybe, you should filter things you say, maybe you should try to look at things from someone else's perspective, maybe you should take it down a few notches, and maybe you should realize not everything is damn competition. Catch my drift? Humble yourself.

Karen62
Karen62

Good heavens Ramona, grow up!  I just don't get it...a woman with a fabulous and handsome husband, a lovely daughter, and a successful career.....and you have no clue as to social etiquette.  You are exhausting to watch and listen to and no matter how many people call you out on your behavior you do nothing to change it.  You weren't invited to London because the gals wanted a fun and relaxing time with no drama from you. 

LindaInOakland
LindaInOakland

Monica said it very well.  Romona, look up bully in the dictionary.  Could swear I saw your picture there.

blueyes0814
blueyes0814

Ramona you where really childish at Ramona's party. You need to let others talk and stop cutting people off. Heather is right not to let you come around. You go off at the mouth to much and don't have a filter on the PIE HOLE..Not saying your not a good person, but you need to calm down..

CynthiaL
CynthiaL

Ramona, re- watch the episode where you and your husband rudely told Heather that she talked too much. Why on earth would someone invite you on a trip after you'd been so rude? Heather doesn't owe you a trip or an explanation until you apologize to her. Why do you think everyone has to be nice to you, while you're allowed to blurt out hurtful things? That's not how the real world works.

Virgolady6901
Virgolady6901

This will not get read by you but, here goes. First thing is ,,your not perfect. Accept that and you may be on your way to changing yourself instead of trying to get others to change for you to accept them. Second stop slandering others. We as viewers know why you keep picking Luann apart with how she is as a parent. Why say it on the show? Is it because you want us to hate her, its not working  it makes us dislike you.  I do feel bad that you are the only one that didn't get invited to London, but I know why she didn't, the trip would have been another Ramona show, and Heather didn't want to have to defend herself, while on the trip. You insulted her, and now you are paying for that insult. Heather should let it go, but truth is, your insults are going to keep coming. I wish it would change however, I have watch you every season and you remain the same.

MPinSF
MPinSF

I know this observation/opinion might sound trivial compared to all of the other bad behavior I witnessed from you this episode, but it needs to be said. The way you treat the staff at parties and restaurants is appauling. You should be ashamed of yourself. You are no better than ANYBODY just because you have more money. Remember your roots and start setting a good example for your daughter and aspiring female business owners. Shame on you.

MandM317
MandM317

I have to fast forward through your scenes.  You are so uncomfortable to watch, yikes!

cassy1
cassy1

If heather was going on holiday she has a right to choose who she wants to invite.  However, this is a Housewives show where we are supposed to see them altogther.  For Heather to not include one person was just spiteful.  When she smiles she has the snidest smile it's so false.  I think she is jealous that you have been on the show for so long.  I am afraid she is not easy to warm to.  At least you are prepared to listen and move on from situations, even with Luann.  I think Heather will be axed pretty soon to be honest, let's hope so.

HobokenGirl
HobokenGirl

Hey Ramona!

 

LuAnn is jealous of your relationship with Sonja and she's trying to split you two up!  You and Sonja have been friends a long time and don't let LuAnn come between you, like she did with Bethanny and Jill !!  They would have made up if LuAnn wasn't CONSTANTLY in Jill's ear and pulled Jill away from Bethanny when they were trying to make up.  I can see LuAnn already in Sonja's ear & trying to create a wedge between you two!  Don't let her do it!! 

As for the London trip. . . you my dear ARE the party!  Let them go. . . it won't be nearly as fun without you!  Next time. . . you plan the trip & exclude Heather & the Countless.  lol  ;)

 

Good Luck !!

MonicaTX
MonicaTX

She is being polite with you.  It is what people normally do in uncomfortable situations.  Why are you pushing the issue?  Seriously? 

 

Think about it...if she tried to be *honest* with you (like you say you would want)  you would get in her face and start asking twenty million questions back to back, not giving her time to talk, till she backed down.  You would do your faces and talk loud and nonstop.  Knowing that, why would she *want* to tell you anything? 

 

I know I wouldn't.

 

You need to own up to the fact that you don't react well to anything unless it goes the way you want.  Just look at how you were with Sonja just because she didn't condemn Heather.   That, and you don't accept that you might be hurtful.  You just say "I have no filter..deal with it".  Who goes through life like that?  Especially when they *know* the things they say are mean/hurtful.  You act like you don't care if you hurt someone's feelings, as long as your feelings are known. 

 

That, and i  think you are sort of a hypocrite.  You got upset because Sonja didn't respect/acknowledge your *feelings*, yet you don't do that with anyone...especially if you think you are right.  Just look at your dealings with LuAnn in the park.  Or Heather for that matter..since your whole blog is about Heather.

Smjrn
Smjrn

Ramona, You just need your own show. You are the only reason a lot of people watch this show. The rest are just .....boring.

coop11
coop11

Stop acting like a two year old that doesnt get her way. You weren't invited,so what. Geez, i dont feel i have to be included on every trip,dinner, or party that all my friends go too. Grow up already and act like a woman.

Restless73
Restless73

You have put your friends together??? Really? That kinda goes with your freakish behavior. You poor thing.

Lovey3519
Lovey3519

Hi Ramona -LOVE YOU ! It is understandable that you would feel slighted when you were not invited on the London trip. Heather did not handle that well. She acted like a mean girl by intentionally not inviting you................and then TELLING everyone she did not invite you. RUDE

beedlebop
beedlebop

Ramona, I really started to like you the last couple of seasons. But your expectations of people and this control your trying to have over the "group" is getting so bizarre. Heather should have told you to your face that you aren't invited?? According to what esoteric book of social rules? You said "We're friends..." and Heather replied "Are we?"-- which was a tactful way of acknowledging a tension. You let people know when they ARE invited to something, not when they are NOT. Can you imagine how busy the city would be with people running around explaining to every NON-invited person that he or she is in fact not invited to such & such and here are the reasons...?!!! Seriously, where has your mind gone? Be fair for a change!

mari_in_CT
mari_in_CT

Ramona, Sonya DID see where you were coming from, she just didn't AGREE with you!  Friends can do that.  And Heather does not have to treat the situation between the two of you the way YOU want her to.  She has to do what is comfortable with her. You two hardly even have a relationship, why should she feel she has to explain anything to you???? I wouldn't want you in London either. You're obnoxious and self righteous and want everything handled the way you would.  And the reality is if Sonya had behaved that way to you on your big day, you would be furious and you know it.

TreFaninFargo
TreFaninFargo

I felt bad for you this episode- it's clear that your feelings were really hurt! I'm sorry :( 

StevieNix
StevieNix

You didn't invite me "waaaaaaaaaaaaa." Are you in the third grade? It was not even worth mentioning to anyone, especially Heather. She didn't invite you so grow up and get over it. Wow. I think your daughter is more mature than you are.

Carmella3
Carmella3

Yes, you're mad because you weren't invited.  Sorry, but I turn the channel when you get into your rants

sheltypar
sheltypar

Ramona,  Are you seriously questioning why you are not invited to the London trip?  Better look back at some of your insults, that may help you see why.

MsRickiD
MsRickiD

Ramona,

Just for your information, There is no such thing as a "Formal Non-vitation."  Heather has the right to invite who ever she wants. and PS... you still use the sledge hammer.

janetS
janetS

 

Heather is being very honest to your face by continuing to not invite you. I am quite sure that she didn't invite you because the first time you met her, you insulted her repeatedly and told her how to act and how not to act. Would YOU be comfortable around  a person like that? Would you want to spend a weekend with them? I wouldn't. Most wouldn't.

I remember a few seasons ago when you didn't invite Jill to a cooking party you had in the Hamptons (i believe that is where it was) and you invited most everyone else. You also didnt want her to KNOW about the party. That seems more dishonest than blatantly NOT inviting you somewhere and making no apology for that fact.

What would Luanne's motivation be to make up the fact that you 'threatened her" over the phone. She was obviously upset about it and felt a need to protect her kids (as any mother would). There is no MOTIVE here. I think most people believe Luann and not your side of this story. You say things before thinking at times (and have admitted it). I am quite sure that you dont remember all that you said on that phone call. I TRUST that you said what Luann said you did. Any reasonable viewer would.

You show signs of being fiercely competitive (in tennis, business and with friends). You seem to be a person that has to 'win' all the time- and who HAS to be RIGHT. And, I do think you are possessive over your friendship with Sonja, especially so with regards to Luann because you and Luann have friction in general.

You are very entertaining and fun. You also might be the most selfish person I have every witnessed on a reality show. You truly make everything about "you" and it is sad that you don't see it. Sonja is so patient and forgiving with you. She has a party to celebrate her cover and you make it about "you". You say that you had another party to attend and that i why you left early....ok, then why did you leave in a rude fashion.? And.....You got mad at Luann for trying to talk to you at Sonja's party on the first episode. She pulled you away PRIVATELY and you said a party " wasn't the right time or place" (i am paraphrasing your words but this was your point). Why is it OK for you to make an actual SCENE at Sonja's party when YOU have a bone to pick (because you are, in fact, the most impulsive of all housewives on Bravo)....BUT Luann can't politely pull you aside at a "general" party (not a magazine cover party for Sonja) and try to engage with you about something that was bothering her?

Do you have answers for any of the above? I think my thoughts and questions are kinda dead on if i say so myself.

natalie-luv
natalie-luv

Romona you are so cuckoo. You should get together with Sarah from OC. Together you guys can just talk non-stop and be completely clueless about why you're not invited to things.

Barbarajean
Barbarajean

It seems to me, Ramona, that when things do not go your way you always want to put the blame on the other person. First of all, you are acting like a school girl. This sounds like you are in a clique and don't want anyone else to be friends. So your feelings are hurt, thats too bad but you just need to brush it off and get on with it. Maybe if you would learn to keep your mouth closed you would understand what the other peron is saying and get why they don't want to be friends with you. I can't help but hope you grow up a little and stop acting the way you do.

yumyumgem
yumyumgem

Ramona, you're so real and up front...surprised you didn't just say what you meant when you spoke with her.  The "subtle" hints backfired and made a fool out of you.

maia0000
maia0000

Heather is communicating to you what she thinks about you - she just isn't being as rude as you are.  Her not inviting you and replying to an invite to a dinner (which no one I know has ever heard of) is telling you that she doesn't like you and doesn't want to be around you.  Wake up - read the smoke signals!!

brigittebardotte
brigittebardotte

We love Ramona Singer! She is light, love & all things wonderful.  You represent us NYC girls in the best way!  Love you!

RHOTW
RHOTW

O.K.  Who "pulls someone aside" to inform them they are not invited to an event? That is so ludicrously absurd. Since you "are not afraid to say what everyone is thinking," I would think you would respect someone who had the backbone to do exactly what she felt. She felt like she did not want to invite you.....gotta respect that. Having been excluded from social events, I get that your feelings got poked, that stinks, but to make everyone around you feel uncomfortable is childish and so very silly. So you didn't get an invite so what, do you really care that much. Besides I don't think they sell ramoma pinot gris in Europe....consider yourself lucky.

english-muffin
english-muffin

i still think Lu-Ann is a snake, she is manipulative and waits for that moment to strike to try to be everyones friend then puts the knife in to whomever she is hating that week.You Ramona are always straight and a bit blunt but at least everyone knows where they stand with you. you appologise when you are wrong you tell people if you are upset and so on... nothing wrong with that. i would rather have you as a friend.

bonnibojo
bonnibojo

I would not invite you either.  You can say a lot of rude things and are very matter of fact.  Some people do not like that.  Heather wants a fun trip and doesn't want to feel uncomfortable.  There is nothing wrong with that.  If you want to be invited to things, you should be more polite and not so blunt.  It is a turn off and makes people not want to be around you.

 

Also, I HATE that you say things about Luanne's kids and that she is a bad mom.  You should never say that about someone especially since you never know their circumstance or situation.  In addition you never know what bad choices your own child is going to make.  I have seen many great parents whose children were wild and made bad choices.  I have also seen terribly, horrible parents whose children turn out to be amazing.  Not your place to judge other people.

Alexandra_Sydney_Australia
Alexandra_Sydney_Australia

Am I mistaken or did you choose to exclude LuAnn and Heather from your "intimate" lunch at the beginning of the episode?

j1217
j1217

Ramona,

 

I have to say that i am really on your side this season. I think that although you should have probably apologized to LuAnn, you handled the situation with dignity. I think you saying you are letting it go and start fresh was great and you really have done that even though she hasn't. LuAnn's true colors are coming out now that Jill isn't there. Jill was so devious that LuAnn never looked too guilty except for being passive aggressive and a little pot stirrer. With Jill gone now though, LuAnn is really becoming quite the little deviant trying to cause problems for you and Sonja and continually harp on speaking negatively of you. I for one am sick of it as I am sure you are too.

 

I think that the Heather situation is exactly how you said it. It isn't the fact that you weren't invited to London it was the fact that she was overly nice to your face when she saw you and didn't even think to mention to you why she wasn't inviting you. It wasn't like she didn't know that you knew about the trip! I don't think that Heather understands your personally quite yet and I would only hope that eventually you two become friends, because you are really a lot alike! I am really trying to like her but I really think she comes across fake when she puts a smile on and is overly nice to you face to face and then bashes you or insults you in her one on ones. I thought your lunch with her was great! I liked how you explained yourself with topics that seemed to bother her for some unknown reason and I thought it was a little rude that she was continually looking at her phone to find the email to prove to you what she said! 

 

I understood what you were trying to say to Sonja but I do agree that it was the wrong time. We know from last season at the gay pride march when Simon and Alex were trying to discuss with Sonja how that turned out and I kinda felt like this was a repeat of that! You could tell that you were hurt that your friend was being unsupportive of the fact that you were only not invited and she was but also that she wasn't defending the fact that Heather wasn't being honest. I think both you and Sonja could have handled that situation differently. I am glad to know that you both are still great friends after it though! I hope that you continue to change for the better as the season progresses and that you and Sonja have more fun times ahead!

MJTA
MJTA

Ramona I can not believe that you are shocked that Heather did not invite you to London after the way you have treated her. When Heather told you her father had just passed away you had the nerve to tell her she "has issues". Not only would I NOT have invited you, I would have clocked you. By the way I don't believe I saw Luanne at your house in the Hamptons last season or this season. I thought you always included EVERYONE!

Viewer_N
Viewer_N

You are behaving very immaturely, Ramona, and getting your just desserts for the way you have treated others. No one owes you an invitation simply because you have invited them to something that was important to you. You should issue invitations purely and honestly--no strings. That you expect people to we and like you and reciprocate simply because you issued them an invitation to something (and despite your brash behavior and your self-admitted way of saying the wrong things--which tends to hurt/offend others) is off the mark.

 

If someone doesn't invite you and you want to know why, go ask her. You shouldn't be polling people or bullying your friends to "support" you cause. What--Sonja is supposed to decline an invitation from a woman she is friends with because you weren't invited? Please!

 

You could grow up and take this as a sign that, perhaps, you are not as likeable as you like to imagine. Heather has no need to chase you down and offer you an explanation for not inviting you. You had already been rude re: her father's death. She may not particularly like your overbearing, crass personality. She may just want to have others around. Reflect on how to make yourself more likeable versus attacking Heather.

 

Heather doesn't seem fake to me; she seems not to want to engage in your quite dramatic, emotional outbursts and games. You get heated, you blow up, you talk over people. I don't blame her for being polite and pleasant--then keeping her distance. She has every right not to want to engage with you--and it shows a lot of restraint and class on her part simply to distance herself. She is going around to all the women and complaining about you. That's a Ramona move.

 

As for all of Heather's faults: if they bug you so much, take a page from your own advice book and ask to speak with her privately to COMMUNICATE. But try to let her get in an explanatory word--and try to listen. If that's too hard (because we all know that when you get mad, you attack--and then try to blame your past or your tendency to say the wrong thing), then just have a glass of wine and move on!

amyjames1016
amyjames1016

does anyone else notice that in 90% of the pictures Ramona is in, she puts her right hand on her hip... not sure why but it drives me crazy!

Trudycat
Trudycat

Hm... Where do I start with Ramona? Dinner at Jill's where she left because Alex brought Simon and Ramona could not handle it? Cooking party where Jill was not invited because Ramona felt "Jill does not fit in with the rest of the people”? Throwing Jill out from scary island? Complaining about everything not being up to her standards on Luann's trip to Morocco?  No pino at Sidney’s party? Heather finally! Someone gave Ramona taste of her own medicine

bthebestyou
bthebestyou

 @cassy1 Not at all spiteful cassy.

Whether they are being forced into friendship or not does not condone the typical Ramona behavior, and when it comes to business, let's face it.. Heather is going on a BUSINESS trip, and a little fun to follow with the ladies, but apparently, Bravo isn't too sad by the drama all of this is causing, and ... yeah... I'm having fun watching it too!

Juliaemma
Juliaemma

@coop11 I am 100% agreed with you! Ramona you claim you are success business woman. Act and communicate like one !

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @sheltypar

 Exactly,why would Heather want to invite her? Would any of us, I mean really! Heather didn't lie to her she just flat out isn't going to explain herself. She shouldn't have too.

CynthiaL
CynthiaL

@janetS Amen! You covered everything I've been thinking about Ramona's irrational behavior. Ramona is fond of saying "she just doesn't GET it!" when it's obvious to everyone else that Ramona doesn't get it. She thinks it excuses her behavior to say that Heather admitted she thought Ramona talked too much. The POINT, Ramona, is that even though she thought that, she was too polite to SAY it until provoked by you. But Ramona probably won't GET it, because she doesn't understand the difference between thinking something and blurting it out!

CynthiaL
CynthiaL

@natalie-luv Lol! So true.

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @yumyumgem

 She sure did make a fool of herself. I would be so embarrassed watching that if I was Ramona. You know all those women are laughing at her!

Shirley220
Shirley220

 @brigittebardotte Hmmm...if Ramona represents NYC girls in the "best" way.....I sure am thankful I don't know any NYC girls!   EWWWWWW

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @RHOTW

 You would think she would admire that about Heather, I do but I have a feeling we're going to find out that Ramona can dish it but not take it.

Juliaemma
Juliaemma

@english-muffin I think you mention Ramona is snake. Have you watch 1 season she the one bad mouth about Alex's kids and her husband,she the one break friendship between Jill and Betheny and and other!!!!. You have to review the 1st & 2nd seasons!!!!

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @j1217

 I don't agree with you totally here. Heather, to me is handling things in a classy way. You normally don't confront people at a party,etc. As for the drinks the two of them had, Heather just isn't into Ramona and she's not being fake about it. No adult person owes anyone else an explanation for not inviting them somewhere. Ramona has treated her awful since the first show. She's finally getting back what she's been dishing out.

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @Trudycat

 Great examples. I thought about the cooking party but I was mistaken I thought that was Alex she did that too. Doesn't matter, she does it all the time. She's just never had anyone do it to her. I personally love it, I've never liked her. She's always up in people's faces with those eyes. She won't let anyone speak; acted like a teenager to Sonya. I hope she's reading all these comments and doing some thinking.