Cast Blog: #RHONY

The Ramona Pinot Caper

Ramona reflects on LuAnn's inability to take confrontation and Heather's business sense.

Sonja was working with Heather's suggested graphic designer and photographer. They were to create the toaster oven box and they needed to figure out what images to shoot and what to showcase on the box. Sonja had told me she needed me to be present at the meeting as she felt Heather was not listening to what she wanted at prior meetings and wanted me to make sure her voice was being heard. We walked away from the meeting agreeing they would photograph her with the half nude man holding the toaster oven, but also do a shoot with her alone. This way, in post-production, Sonja has choices, wouldn't lose time and had both options covered. In life and in business, I believe you should always cover your options.

I really don't know why Heather was getting testy with Sonja when she went to meet her again or why Heather was trying to back out of the shoot. Sonja had invested a lot of time in this project and at this point it was not the time to start with someone new. I was really surprised Heather was trying to back out. The customer is always right and in this case the customer is Sonja. There was no reason not to do the two different shoots. No one should ever let their ego get in the way with their client’s wants.

The dinner at Le Cirque was wonderful! I happen to enjoy all types of wines.

Mario and I bought a case 1983 Chateau Margaux in honor of our lovely daughter Avery's birth 17 years ago. Since we purchased it, it has gone up more than tenfold in value. Mario and I are a team. When he called out Jacques and LuAnn regarding the Ramona Pinot caper, I found it very interesting that LuAnn exited and wanted no part of it. LuAnn can dish it out but doesn't like to face the consequences.

I was so shocked about what LuAnn did, that I am glad Mario told Jacques how he felt and I was able to stay out of it. LuAnn and I have never been in a great place. I see her for who she is. Despite that, I am trying to get in a better place with her and that's why I did not want to have an argument and confrontation with her at the Christmas party. What LuAnn did was wrong! She knows it was wrong. I knew it was wrong. Many other people knew it was wrong. That's why I could not look her in the eye -- as I would have thrown my wine in her face so fast!

The highlight of that evening was LuAnn's choice of entertainment. Who knew that the self proclaimed "expert on etiquette" would hire an X-rated band!

That's all for this week! Check for exclusive news on appearances, special giveaways, "Ask Ramona" videos, blogs and more!

Dorinda: Sonja Is a Trip

Dorinda talks about meeting the other ladies and explains why she was nervous to meet Bethenny.

OMG, I’m on again! Is this really going to happen every week?! Funny how I’m still freaked out by myself on TV…

As you may or may not know, I am not a Hamptons girl; I am #TeamBerkshires. But hey, this could be fun too, right? As close as Ramona and I are, I have never actually stayed or even seen her home on the beach, so I was excited to go. Meeting Lady Morgan was a nice little adventure, too. She’s so beautiful. And I can totally see why Ramona gets flustered with her and her tendency to monopolize a conversation. But Sonja is a trip. I really like her.

Luann’s estate sale was something, huh? In the Berkshires, we call it a tag sale. Not as fancy, but much more real. After 22 years, it’s got to be hard to see the home where you raised your kids and built a family be taken apart and sold to strangers. But it was time for Luann to move on and write the next fabulous chapter of her life, as well as unburden herself of the past. (I need to start thinking about doing some of that in my life in Great Barrington. As my Mom would say, “Only when you’re good and ready, and not before that.”) I was excited to see Luann’s new house and watch her new beginnings flourish. I’m so proud of her.

So this was the weekend to reconnect with the girls I knew and meet the "new girls” I hadn’t met. Meeting Kristen and Carole was a breeze. They strolled into the estate sale with Heather and were as kind and as a welcoming as I expected them to be. Very, very sweet. I have to admit, I was a little nervous to meet the whole gang (operative word: gang), but I figured my closet helps me keep up with the best of them, and for this weekend, it was all “Hamptons Country Chic.”

At the cocktail party that night, I finally met Bethenny…at last! I was excited and a bit nervous, since she has quite the reputation. And all the good things I’ve heard…they were right! All the girls seemed happy to see her, but there was some sort of weird tension with Ramona that I didn’t really understand. It was almost like a Mexican standoff —a designer standoff, but a stand off. I was surprised to see Ramona “KellyBensimoning” Bethenny. It was weird and pretty tense, to be honest. It appeared to be about some brunch plans on a Sunday, but beneath the surface, it felt more like a timeless power struggle. Not comfortable with all that, and I’d hoped the next day would go smoother after it was all sorted out.

Honestly, I don't care where I go to brunch, as long as there’s food and good company. After that night, I was mostly concerned with getting through the weekend and making friends and/or figuring out who I had to keep my eye on. Ideally, I wanted to have a fun girls' weekend, not have to be the "hostess with the mostest" for once, and just get to relax...NOT!

For me, that weekend was mainly about supporting Ramona and really letting her know that I was there—that we were all there—for her, and that I understand what she is going through. After a long, happy marriage, divorce is a real bitch. Part of you dies. It’s that serious. Especially after 25 years…that’s a quarter-century! As much as I am so sad Richard is no longer here, I know it’s over, it’s ended, it’s done. I have to go on without him. In a weird way, this allows me a freedom to cope with what’s in front of me and continue with a new life. With divorce, you don’t have that “luxury.” (Weird way of putting it, but there’s a peace that comes with a solidified, unchangeable event that has no tomorrow.) Divorce, of course, keeps two people going, rebuilding their lives, and you know all about it. Whether through friends or social media—or even tabloids, in some cases. You know about their next act. It can be really difficult. After a divorce, you have to untangle your life emotionally and financially with expensive lawyers and sometimes in the public eye, though in front of family and close friends can sometimes be more draining than a tabloid can be.

In the end, if there ever really is an end to a divorce, you end up splitting your life up in half… (but it’s really “half of the half,” because the lawyers took most of it), only to run into the bastard in the grocery store with a new woman two weeks later. That’s a pretty crappy situation. You know what they say, "Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together." All true, but boy…the process sure is daunting!

Signing off, see you next week!

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