Ramona Singer

Ramona laments the Heather situation and defends her fashion choices.

on Jul 2, 20120

I thought it was very group friendly of Aviva to have a talk with Heather. After all, we are socializing all the time together. I for one cannot begin to figure her out. I find that Heather contradicts herself constantly. First she's saying she has a problem with me because I was rude to her. Then she says she has a problem with me because we don't "jive." Sitting down and speaking to her at the store went basically nowhere.

When I finally decided to confront Heather to find out what her real issues with me were, I brought up what people told me. I said point blank, "Heather, Aviva told me you were upset about the fact that I said that you talk too much, and you don't give other people a chance to talk." (Because it's not that she talks so much, it's that she doesn't stop! She doesn't leave space in there for anyone.)

I was about to pee in my pants when she said, "OK let's have Aviva come over here." Are you kidding me? Who does that? Aviva confirmed that she did say it, but Heather wanted to beat up on her for that. Heather goes on and on that it's not the reason, but it is the reason that she tells everyone. There are other reasons also, but I don't want to give any more written time to this, as I don't know where Heather's head is at -- nor at this point do I even care. I'm just going to be myself and she can either accept me or not accept me. I can't worry about this anymore.

203 comments
balmoralgal
balmoralgal

The Golden Rule and The Law of Reciprocity are worth living by Ramona. To have and KEEP a friend, you MUST BE ONE. That means you have to earn that friendship, you can't demand it. Be courteous and respectful, even if you may not agree with the other person. I feel as if you've gotten even more outrageous this year, a lot more immature, petty and demanding, almost as if Bravo firing the others and keeping you has gone to your head. Ramona, please be humble, REALLY humble. And if a friendship doesn't work, then either just stay cordial acquaintances, or sincerely move on. Maybe later on, a friendship can develop. but not if you burn bridges because the outcome is not what you want or expect. When you try to talk to someone like Heather then you apologize, please do it sincerely. If you're doing it to get an invitation, or whatever your agenda is, then if you don't hear what you want to hear as her response, don't act like a belligerent child.Screaming at Sonja, demanding that she not go to London out of loyalty to you, is NOT fair to her. Acting like a 5 year-old and throwing a tantrum at her event, and then acting so childish when shopping with Aviva...those behaviors stop being cute at age 4, because even at age 5, when a child goes to kindergarten, he or she will find out that those behaviors don't really win friends. I hope you now know how Jill felt when you purposely excluded her at your cooking party during season 1 or 2, made up a lie, and didn't apologize to her.. You can't make up rules that only apply to others and not yourself. Btw, how do you know that just because Ramona thinks and says something, then it is automatically what EVERYONE is thinking? Get off that high horse, or you might keep hitting your head. You can be assertive and honest without being obnoxious, demanding and self-entitled. The truth is, many do NOT agree with what and how you say things. When you offend others, please recognize it, admit, and apologize for the sake of peace, and not for the sake of manipulation to get what you want.

naomiburton
naomiburton

don't be so cocky and  brag you have it all. be humble and not so arrogant. people will want to knock you down, and will. my prob with you Ramona is that the crazier you act, the more people dislike you, the more you lap it up. That's what I find sad. Please name a top business woman who would behave in the manner you do. I think you don't like Heather because all the traits you don't like about yourself - constantly talking, talking over people etc - you see in Heather. 

plantluver
plantluver

Oh ramona just shut up about the trip. Maybe if you were anicer person you would get the invite. I wish bravo would fie you abd bring back jill zahrin. Hows that for honesty.

japanlori
japanlori

I agree with Woodlands_tx. I remember Ramona excluding Jill at her house party and it didn't seem to bother Ramona. This early in the season, Ramona seems like a desperate, out of control housewife. I admire her husband for putting up with her.

SZara
SZara

You acted like a child in the conversation with Carole. You overreact in situations. You and heather both talk alot but the only difference is that you are rude. You say you are not afraid to say what everyone is thinking but in reality it is what you are thinking but how you say things is equally inportant.

And stop stealing someone elses limelight! Let them have thier story and success without bringing up your own 2secs later.

_aiyana_
_aiyana_

To all of Ramonas haters... KEEP YOUR OPINIONS TO YOURSELF!!! Go do something and stop being rude! You all need to get a life and leave her alone! Calling her names like crazy is beyond rude. Really how old are you people I'm only 16 and know that name calling is SAD and juvenile! Anyone who gets mad at this post is a hater...srry its true! Anyway I love you Ramona and don't let ignorant people get you down.

 

PS if you don't like her don't read her blog!! I'm mean DUHHH!!! 

_aiyana_
_aiyana_

I LOVE U!!!! you are m favorite HW bc u tell the truth and people cant handle it... to bad dont ever change #teamRamona

callan
callan

Ramona!  Really????  The name Radziwill didn't ring a bell with you?  Lee's daughter-in-law?  If you are a mover and a shaker in New York, then I am surprised that you weren't conversant with that name!

borncynic
borncynic

I have to tell the truth, you are 90% of why I watch the show.  That being said - I watch because you are such a buffoon.  I keep watching because I cannot believe a woman of your age, with a great life, husband, and daughter can be so incredibly shallow and obnoxious.  I keep thinking it must be some kind of an act.  If you would occasionally try acting your age with a modicum of decorum, people may want to share your company.  As it is now, you're part of the scene when people need someone to mock or smirk at behind your back.  Get over yourself and stop trying so hard to get airtime.  You saw what happened to the other over-the-top attention seekers. 

ExJerseyNowTexas
ExJerseyNowTexas

Ramona, maybe if you were a little less self absorbed and a better listener, you would have more close, lasting friendships.

Woodlands_tx
Woodlands_tx

Question? In an earlier season episode. Maybe the first, you had a dinner party at the Hampton's and you did not invite Jill? And you even lie to her about the occasion. You even said, not everybody needs to be invited. Karma.

dqhotwax
dqhotwax

I love Caroline, she has Class, she is a real Princess, and you don't see her rubbing it in everyone's face, I love LuAnn, she does it with almost everyone she comes in contact with, letting them know what her and her boyfriend status is. but Ramona please get some help, the drinking is not for you.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

If you seriously expect to be friends with everyone you meet than you are dillusional.  Heather and you are like oil and vinegar. You both talk too much and ramble on just to hear yourselves talk.  I think you are great in business but have the social skills of a gnat.  You are tiring to watch just as Heather is. 

RHOOK
RHOOK

Didn't Ramona do the same to Jill when she made arrangements for her vacation at the retreat... you know, the one where Jill showed up anyway?

JENNY2009
JENNY2009

Are you ever embarassed when you watch yourself later? Some of the stills from video clips I've seen recently have stood out to me. You are 55 years old. What is wrong with you? You yelling at Sonja at her party should have you crawling under some furniture in shame. I have no idea how anyone tolerates you and how you have managed any success in relationships or business. Astonishing.

revamped
revamped

I luv you !!!!! You speak the truth and you are very direct!!! Got to love that about you. I agree with you 100%. Dont let anyone tell you differently. I love that no matter the situation you speak your mind and dont shy away from how you really feel. Leave the being fake to the other women! Luv you!!

ddbird2l
ddbird2l

Heather did not invite because you are a loose cannon..   You went to a Kodak sponsored party and insulted them by calling them Antiquated, well Ramona its a buisness trip for Heather and she doesnt trust you to be kind and respectful. Your rude behavior year after year is atrocious. I cant believe Bravo canned JZ and kept you.  So i would hope you are watching and seeing yourself as others see you and maybe learn and change some of your unkind ways.  PS Sonia didn't deserve to be called an airhead. She has been a good friend to you. You owe her an apology.

Picket@fence
Picket@fence

I love you Ramona, for your directness, goofy sense of humor, a great wife and mother, and a self made woman. You are an example of success, and I wish you more.

CAdreamer
CAdreamer

Even though I was overjoyed to see Jill leave the show - her expiration date was showing -  I WOULD LOVE to know her opinion of how Ramona is doing with the new ladies on the block!!!  Couldn't we just get a peek at her warm words of comfort for Ramona?  I'm amazed at how much energy she's putting into trying to get an invitation to London and how completely childish she's acting.  You're burning bridges Ramonacoaster and next year could see you out the door!!!  Love, love, love Carole and Heather.  Aviva is too anxious and scared and trying to hard to fit in with everybody.  Did she not watch the show??? 

isobel
isobel

I love you Ramona on the show but sometimes you need to think before you  speak because you can be rude sometimes some people will get you some wont but there's no cause to hurt peoples feelings it is rude.  i love you and Sonja friendship its great i think Luann is trying to prove a point in this show or maybe her time in the show is over because she is being really mean and picky about you in the show and two faced behind your back to the new wives by hay that's Luann can say it behind your back but not to your face  i don't like that you are who you are and i love you for that i don't think avia is helping the situation between you and heather she is stirring it a bit and i don't no why she says one thing to you and another to heather i get heather i like her shes a strong powerful women like Ur self maybe that why both of you haven't got each other yet.   Avia is the one to watch she has many faces and it coming across quite strong so don't think shes the do good er. I do love you though u and Mario you are great together  

anniega
anniega

hi ramona,

 

i think you were perfectly within your rights to be offended at the suggestion that you needed a makeover.  i like your style and i think you always look great, and i think those ladies who want you to change your style think that you look great also, which is why they want to put you in something drab and matronly, so that you will stop looking better than they do. 

 

,,,you got it, keep flaunting it!

AnnML
AnnML

Ramona every week I cringe on how LOCO UR becoming it's 1 thing 2 B energetic & wild, but you're getting a taste of UR own Medicine...remember how Jill felt about not being invited..duhh same rules apply to you... sorry but I'm honest miss the old Ramona

veritas9
veritas9

You say that you say what everyone else is thinking? I would never call Luann a bad mother then you deny saying it - at the reunion show I was appalled that you brought up the children.

That  was vile and disgusting. And now Heather. GOOD. She does not have time or energy to put up with your baloney. how rude you were to her. She was your GUEST and new and you insult her and dare give her  etiquette lessons on how to talk ? Who do you think you are?

And Aviva obviously has some codependent issues. and Carol is just snarky who likes to see the train wreck and laugh and take pictures of the disaster. Luann- you always mock her and and she has always been polite to you.  Sonja is too self involved to know what is going on around her. - god I saw you line on HSN where do you get off charging that much for that stuff? 

Zapf2423
Zapf2423

Have you ever heard the phrase "pot, meet kettle?"  You have NO business telling someone that they talk too much or never stop talking.  You are rude; you obviously drink too much; and you feel that you are entitled for some strange reason.  Where do you get off, anyway?  Heather isn't required to like you or invite you somewhere.  If you want to be treated nicely, why don't you try treating others nicely yourself?

AHoNYC
AHoNYC

Wow.  I find myself wondering whether you re-read or edit your blog before publishing.  For someone who is as established as you are, it is amazing to me the amount of personal baggage you lug around with you.  Let go of the London thing... clearly you don't like Heather, and it is clear that you are upset about being excluded, above all else.  Relax already! 

mamecastle
mamecastle

The exclusion of the London trip is really strange & mean but I hope you are telling the truth when you say that you are over it. Getting boring... move on... I think that you look fabulous & if Heather thinks she is a "cool girl" I guess you'll just have to be happy being hot instead!

Suzanne7272
Suzanne7272

I'm pretty sure you are just getting crazier every season

Robyn-rlm
Robyn-rlm

You really define crazy.

 

Can't you see that it's you who thinks it is all about you.

 

Can't you see that it's you that talks way too much.  You were loosing some of your spotlight to Heather and became a mean girl (not new for you).

 

Can't you see the reason you didn't like the clothes is because you are immature.  It was "implied" you needed a make over and you were offended.  Let's just face it, you dress way too young for your age and you do need a make over. 

TSan
TSan

Ramona, I don't have a negative or positive opinion of you. Ramona is just Ramona. Some will love you, some will tolerate you out of love and others will not like or tolerate you and that is their choice. You have to know your personality is a lot to deal with. There's no way you can tell anyone that you don't realize this. If you want people to like you then tone it down and learn to make others feel more comfortable. If you aren't willing to do that then don't get so upset when people choose not to be around you. Heather may talk too much (so do you btw) but did you know her well enough to criticize her so early in the relationship? Then turn around and get so bothered that she chose not to invite you on her trip? You guys met on a number of ocassions and I think she was trying to test the waters to see if she could find it in her heart to invite you but each time you opened your trap and confirmed to Heather that she was making the right decision. I would like to see you try to get along with others a little better. There's something about your craziness that I don't understand but I actually happen to like. Good luck to you and congrats on your wine. Maybe I'll try it one of these days.

tracey2012
tracey2012

and one more thing, that crazy way you bug out your eyes at people when you are frustrated is scary and you come across as a nut!

bthebestyou
bthebestyou

Just because there are a few people in here that agree with your behavior Ramona, does not mean you should consider that validation of your actions and how you are going about dealing with people. The fact is that there are many more people that will "adjust", yes, even your supporters, to the new ladies in the group and after many more episodes such as these, will start to tire quickly of your lashings on others.

You need to try and *fix* the way you are before you go around trying to fix other people.

tracey2012
tracey2012

You seemed like you had your head together last season, but have once again shown your rear end.  You need some etiquette classes, you would do well to put a filter on your mouth, or at least put a muzzle on while drinking the pinot grizio.  Accept graciously as an adult woman that you and Heather have clashing personaltities, and stop whining about London.

Carolyn2000
Carolyn2000

I admit, you're fun to watch b/c you're so immature and crazy, but that's exactly the reason I would never bring you anywhere near my work or business setting. You are a loose cannon and would certainly put business relationships at risk. Heather is being smart, not mean.

NeutronBomb
NeutronBomb

Ramona, why do you care about going to London with someone who obviously doesn't like you? You are running FOUR businesses and have a family to raise...so where would you find the time to fly off to London anyway? Wouldn't you rather spend your spare time with your daughter who loves you, rather than four catty women who talk behind your back?

Ms.Fraxel
Ms.Fraxel

Ms.Fraxel,

Ramona you are definitely off your rocker,however,I think the show is mostly scripted.

Andy Cohen or other Bravo suits decided who was going to London-not Heather.

pumpkienh
pumpkienh

You were rude to someone you just met....and you talk too much and interrupt! You also invade personal space when you speak to people...a loose cannon. Nasty

japchin
japchin

I can't believe that Bravo kept Ramona on for a new season!!!, 'SHE IS A NUT CASE'  with the addition of the new Ladies she needs to hit the road.  Bravo is mixing Cavier with "CHEEZ WHIZ' 

As for the London trip, KOODOS Heather, I wouldn't take Ramona to the bathroom with me.

megmac
megmac

Trust me, no-one in their right mind would want to be in London until after the Olympics are over.

Ramona my dear, a word to the wise, if you do get to go on this trip turn down your volume the English do not appreciate screaming middle-aged Americans doesn't matter how much money you have or how upmarket YOU  think you are

janb55
janb55

Ramona-- you and Heather are a lot alike, you just don't realize it.

amfm
amfm

even in your blog you just can't get yourself to be a nice person (as your always telling us you are) i find myself really enjoying the NYC ladies again and then the segment with you appears and all hell breaks out. You need to listen more. this is a new show. the new gals are refreshing.  as they say, take a breath, earn their respect, try.................

Turtlemom
Turtlemom

@_aiyana_ If you are 16, you have no life experiences to see that most women would never act like Ramona. If us (the haters) can not be honest like your hero does and is. I am very concerned about who you look up to and that you will have problems in your adult life. Maybe you are to young to watch the housewife shows.

greenfrogthing77
greenfrogthing77

 @Picket@fence

 I'm not exactly sure what you determine "direct" to be, but being nice to someone's face and then talking about them to the camera isn't that.  She obviously is jealous of Heather, because she has far more success.  Ramona probably hates going into her little office with assistant while knowing Heather has a real office full of people and can't leave on a whim to go get drunk for lunch.

greenfrogthing77
greenfrogthing77

 @mamecastle

 yeah she's so over it that she's mad because Sonja is going and she's not, but this isn't the first time she's felt excluded and throws a hissy.  Though, she can do it whenever she wants and for some reason that's ok.  What do you call a person who only thinks about their own feelings and no one elses...Ramona :)

greenfrogthing77
greenfrogthing77

 @Carolyn2000

 Heather can be civil and say hell and give her a kiss when seeing her at a social event, and Romana calls that fake...being fake is making up stories about inviting all the girls some place and being all inclusive because you want a free trip, even though she herself keeps talking about how she can't stand Heather.

ddbird2l
ddbird2l

 @Carolyn2000Remember the Kodak party that Jill was doing buisness with and invited Ramona and she called them Antiquated. So uncool i wouldnt want Ramona at a funtion i was hosting.  I guess you could invite her but i would definately hide the PINOT!!!

PARKERNEIL56
PARKERNEIL56

 @Carolyn2000 and who want to spend all that energy trying to make Ramona happy?I sooo agree with you Carolyn2000.as Ramona likes to say"who does that?"people that want peace is who

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @janb55

 They are alike in the sense that they are both business women but Heather has a way of being more cordial that Ramona does. Heather is the type that could probably cut Ramona down to size and smile while doing it. Ramona doesn't have that gift.

RDaniels
RDaniels

 @amfm

 I agree, I'm liking the new ladies. But Ramona, my God, she is just more than words can describe and not in a good way.

RHOOK
RHOOK

 @RDaniels Ramona relies on her ability to intimidate by being overbearing and overwhelming. she also relies on manipulation, and she's now crossed someone who doesn't give a flip about fitting into Ramona's world and dealing with Ramona's games. It's absolutely fabulous to see Ramona lose it because her little tricks aren't working.