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A Work in Progress

Sonja can't believe Aviva would accuse Ramona of bringing her down.

Pamela Morgan of Flirting With Flavors and I have been friends for over two decades, and I've used her catering many times. She is a very good friend of Ramona's and also a friend of Lu's so of course I was very happy to be invited by Ramona to join in on the festivities and to get my "flirt" on, have good wine, delicious food and enjoy good friends. BTW check out Pamela's cooking school

What else does one want to do after a hard day at work when deciding to not stay home and rest, take a bubble bath and read a book? Chill with friends. . you all heard I'm not with an artist anymore. . .

I came a little late because when possible, I put my daughter to bed first, before I go out. We always have dinner together 6 pm with the babysitter, interns, family, or visitors staying with us from out of town, and the violin teacher or playdate when we have them!

Hence, the extra pounds folks! When I am busy with all our charities, Sonja In The City parties, and vacations it's impossible to get to the gym, and to cut back because I like to live life and be in the moment, so I partake. It's a high class problem and I choose YES rather than judge and stand on the sidelines. I like to bound with people and laugh. I'm not complaining just explaining.

Oh gawd. What's with the bubble in my hair from my headband? Both Millsaps and Tyler approved that. I better take more brain pills and use the rear view mirror. I tend to avoid it so I don't see my ever growing backside during the winter months! I like to try new fashion and to dress for the occasion. I adore characters like Hello Dolly and Cher, so what's wrong with a headband or the occasional wig?? Say LIZA!!!

Why Lu wants to bring up A-diva after the way she treated Ramona and furthermore, myself I don't know? And. . .she still has an air of defending A-diva which irked me to the tenth degree.

I was still peeved that she threw Ramona under the bus by not admitting that she too said she did not want Reid at the house, and that it was unfair since she didn't have Jacques and Ramona didn't have Mario. This is a normal discussion for girls on vacation to have when having a ball and feeling an eminent change coming to it. I playfully said to Lu you ask him to leave if he comes to stay in the house instead of the hotel as discussed, why does Ramona always have to do the dirty work: meaning everything everyone else is afraid to do or say. Again just having fun teasing two girls I know very well who know. I have no malice, but know them well enough to say that -- because we are FRIENDS. Therefore we are intimate enough to giggle about this in private. This was not to be shared with our new friend A-Diva, and certainly not in a way that says just one of us said it.

Carole is acting too judgmental for a bohemian hippie that lives downtown dating a rockstar who lives in LA, tours most the year, and is in a relationship where they each sleep with other people. Nothing wrong it. Just saying, to say I was drinking too much while staying in a private home on vacation when I came home after dinner, "my fren" is just a little bit hypocritical! We know what rockstars do! Nothing wrong with it, just sayin. . .

Then the first thing Carole does when she gets back to the city (while she is sober) is state that her plan is to get inebriated and then she proceeds to in a public bar with a worthy partner who I would choose myself, Heather, enacts plan, and stumbles out into the public. Nothing wrong with that except would have been great to share a little bit of that with us in St. Barth's after Russ was available, and Aviva arrived. Carole was a blast at Le Ti St. Barths. That was out latest night and we were all home I'm guessing by 12:30 or 1 am. Even Lu wasn't far behind. So I don't know what partying Carole is saying there was too much of or why it was wrong. We had wine with lunch and dinner, and then went home.

I don't know what happened to the Aviva I first met, but she is relentless and she will not stop. Ramona continues to apologize and she does not accept. I have made it clear I have no interest and she further insults me. Good way to mend fences?!?

She will not apologize for the names she calls others and she takes glee in it during her interviews. I did not insult or embarrass Aviva. Yet she continues to insult me after I agree to meet her all the way downtown to clear the air at least. I see very soon she did not want to clear the air, or really care, or have the capacity.

I think Aviva is jealous of my happiness. Regardless of the setbacks I have experienced since the surprise of my separation during a happy marriage and then resulting divorce commencing nearly seven years ago I continue to know what's important in my life.

I have a full life with a loving family, a thriving daughter, friends who support and care for me fiercely, including Ramona, for decades and a team of professionals and interns who are there for me no matter how hard it is and how painful it can be to share. They continue to, as I arc upwards because they know from my history and feel currently my stretch and respect me. They know that they will succeed by association. Successful people surround themselves with successful people. I take offense when people say Ramona is taking me down. She is one of the most successful people you will ever meet. She has a wonderful family, friends, businesses, independence, just as I have and we both had when we met decades ago. No one can take who we are from us!!! Those who watched last season perhaps remember my White Swan Burlesque performance. I wrote it. I meant it. And its still true.

Friends support other because they want to help society in a ripple effect. It's not all about ME.

I am a work in progress. The work I do progresses me.

I used this quote in my blog very early this season but I would like to share it again:

"I would say that the thrust of my life has been initially about getting free, and then realizing that my freedom is not independent of everyone else then I am arriving at that circle where one works on oneself as a gift to other people so that one doesn't create more suffering. I help people as a work on myself and I work on myself to help people." -- Ram Dass

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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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