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All Women's Bodies Are Beautiful

Sonja celebrates the female form and lambasts Carole and "A-Diva" for ruining the trip.

Okay, hurrah hurrah! Another gratuitous butt shot that has nothing to do with storyline, other than that I was looking for something in the fridge. If you film 10 hours a day every day, I promise you if they want to film your butt, they will kiss the floor to get it! Should I be flattered or should I be insulted? I'm not sure!

Ramona and I had a good laugh about the “white trash” comment. We’re white, we act silly, and we OWN it.

Once we laughed about it we were genuinely looking to enjoy the remaining two days with all of the ladies. Aviva did not want to give us even that. She barged in and began chastising us like two little girls! Who does she think she is? Totally rude and YET with the compassion that I do have I attempted to diffuse her anxiety again by saying we were HAPPY that she was there so she can JUMP in and JUMP out when she wants. Whatever it takes!

And then. . .double date dinner. What is this!?! It turned from a girls' trip to a fragmented mess. I don't think Carole has much experience hosting. I'm just grateful she scored the house. She had her hands full with her new BFF, A-Diva. Then, it was convenient to have a couples dinner since her "rock-n-roll sometimes lover" who lives in LA and tours most of the year was in St. Barths and they could. . .

Heather and I both said it, we have lives in New York that we took a trip from. I have a house with hurricane damage to repair, a daughter to take care of, and could have gone on dates with my at-home dates! I don't have to tell you Ramona has the same story. Why are we here if the host is enabling A-Diva's bad behavior? THIS is why we didn’t want men here in the FIRST place!

The ENTIRE dynamic changed and at that moment, what was the point of any of us being there? When I say men I mean significant others. Before we left, Russ was not a significant other. CarolE said he would be working most the time. He was staying in a hotel. She candidly admitted herself to A-Diva while shopping that they both slept with other people.

Isn’t it funny how after telling us all over and over about every single one of her phobias and anxieties, that A-Diva then says, "Meh, the plane wasn’t so bad. . .", THEN WHY KEEP BRINGING IT UP! She cannot let anything go. Also she keeps telling us how embarrassing it is for her to have so many anxieties. . .THEN WHY KEEP talking about them?! I understand it must be difficult to be neurotic. . .but after a while enough is enough. Get help. You're a grown up now.

Didn’t Heather look great at lunch? Finally Heather learns the two couples would be going out to dinner alone. I guess running into the sliding door got us all on the same page! We all got on the same page and saw that things DO change when one DIVA is allowed to bring her significant other on the trip and the others aren't.

After lunch at Le Tamarin, for Carole to project her frustration on me and Ramona when speaking to Heather was way off the wall. We were not dumping our problems on everyone, it was Aviva that kept bringing up the small plane. I too have lost friends on that flight. Most recently my friend Pascal's dad died, so I don't need to hear about the flight over and over again either.

I understand that Carole was reminiscing about going to St. Barths with her husband who died. But I also went every year, sometimes twice a year, with my ex-husband to the same island. I too was feeling emotional and remorseful, but I did not dump my anxiety on everyone. I mentioned one time on the trip that I don't think my ex was having a great time in St. Barths without me.

Shame on A-Diva for saying those things. I am on a downward spiral because I like to let loose and have fun with my girlfriends on vacation? I may be down but I am not out. (You may remember that line from my soft burlesque skit that I wrote last season!)

My daughter is thriving. I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with my Chapter 11 and a way to satisfy my movie deal judgment by restructuring my assets.

I am working my can off to manage my home (after tremendous hurricane damage I might add), investments, and finances, to build my businesses and to, most importantly, care for my daughter as a single mom.

If that's what you call a downward spiral, then what do you call throwing nameless insults at friends and dumping your endless phobias on us time and time again?

I am independent and I am not looking to depend on a man to take care of me and my daughter. Why doesn't A-Diva go in her room and vent on her husband since she has one?

I was very disappointed to see the other side of Reid. I felt better knowing that A-Diva had Reid as her back bone and crutch. Hearing him make such a nasty comment about the other women who are not at the table being overweight really hurt. I love New York because it is the most tolerant city in the world and I pride myself being a New Yorker for that reason. To say that a woman is too thin or overweight is so base and is nothing more than name calling. What does that have to do with what is beautiful about an individual and why they should be loved and cared for? Very SUPERFICIAL and UNFEELING.

I had a good time, enjoyed myself and put the lampshade on for everyone. Or in this case, took it off. I'm glad Carole got nekked in the pool also. I was starting to think her sexy talk was just that -- all talk!

I flirt with people that I am not interested in dating. I'm actually very shy around people that I am interested in having a relationship with! I like to have fun and make people feel comfortable. I am very sensitive and one thing you can never say is that I'm not compassionate.

If you follow astrology, I have a Pisces moon, which makes me a sucker for any sob story and is one of the reasons I am driven to support so many charitable causes. In fact, I need to learn the word "no" sometimes because my schedule just cannot support all the charities I attend and support. The meetings and behind-the-scenes work that goes into a charity is extensive.

I am hurt and surprised that Carole would voice to others that she was offended that I did not come to Russ' concert. That was never on the agenda and was a last minute invitation. Plus, we had an early flight the next morning! I think it's obvious why I did not want to go after a day from hell with her and her new BFF A-Diva.

From breakfast alone, to lunch at one of my favorite places in the world with crazies, to electing to stay home to avoid the wrath of A-Diva -- this would drive anyone to drink!

I love St. Barths and the amazing restaurants, beaches, and clubs. We were so fortunate to stay in a beautiful house with amazing food. . .and wine from SPIGOTS! I just wish A-Diva tried to be more a part of the group and take her make up off and have a good time. Thats ALL I wanted, to have fun with my girlfriends!

I'd like to end my blog with two quotes from Helen Gurley Brown (Rest In Peace) "Every woman's body is beautiful and should be celebrated," and "You don't have to belong to someone else in order to be an admirable person. And sex is a wonderful thing"

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Carole explains why she wasn't rushing to discuss her new relationship with the other ladies and how she felt about Bethenny's suggestion to rebrand death.

Bravotv.com: Were you actively trying to keep your relationship with Adam a secret from Luann in the beginning?

Carole Radziwill: No, I’m not a woman who overshares. And I'm fairly sure the audience knows this about me by now. You don’t see me each week talking, talking, talking about every last thought that pops into my head.  Also, I believe there is an expectation of privacy, even among good friends, and especially among social friends. I live by that in my real life (with my friends outside the show), and it’s no different than my reality life on TV. The best advice I can give a girl is to keep new relationships private. There is nothing like a handful of well-intentioned “girlfriend advice” to derail a blooming romance. That being said, when Adam and I started seeing each other, I wasn’t sure if it would develop into anything worth talking about. I’m cautious in matters of the heart. But after a few weeks, it was clear that we like each other’s company; he was kind and cooked; but mostly, he thought I was funny. Like I said, it’s not complicated. When I next saw Heather and Kristen, I told them I'd been seeing Adam. As for telling Luann, I was genuinely happy to tell her the next time we saw each other privately. Adam had dated her niece, and while they had broken up over a year before Adam and I met, they remained friends. All good. I assumed Luann would be happy to hear of her little love connection--it’s good karma! Turns out I’m not always right.

Bravotv.com: You mention the perks of dating someone under 35/over 75. Can you explain that a little more?

CR: I’ve learned that much older men and much younger men are more grateful for the company of a woman. It’s the men your own age that make things more complicated than need be. This is true at any age. When I was in my 20s, 20-something men were a pain in the ass. Maybe it’s just the higher expectations and greater social pressure in a relationship of two age-appropriate people. That said, I think age, much like race or gender, is irrelevant when you connect with someone on an intellectual or spiritual level.

Bravotv.com: What went through your mind when you found out you had to move your late husband’s ashes?

CR: At first, I thought it had to be a mistake. The church had been sold and the graves moved? It’s the log line to a Hollywood movie, not a storyline in a reality show. Churches can be sold? Caskets and urns replaced? But after speaking with the church secretary, I did what anyone in my place would have done--including my husband--I laughed. Not a long laugh, maybe it was a nervous laugh but still, a laugh. My husband was the king of practical jokes, and I thought this was the best one yet. Then after coming to terms with the idea of going to London and bringing the urn back, I was excited to have it back. He was and still is a piece of my life. A great one at that.

Bravotv.com: Since your conversation with Bethenny, have you had any ideas for how to rebrand death and being a widow?

CR: No, and let me say that that conversation at the time was a little bit surprising. And no less in re-watching it this week. It’s been 15 years since my husband died. I’ve heard everything, well, except, the re-branding of death. That was new. But I’m used to people being very uncomfortable around the subject of death. They say the weirdest and dumbest things. It’s still awkward, but it just doesn’t shock me any longer. I, like many young widows, have very well developed gallows humor. I only hoped on that night Dorinda did too. Filed Under: People Say the Strangest Things

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