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All Women's Bodies Are Beautiful

Sonja celebrates the female form and lambasts Carole and "A-Diva" for ruining the trip.

Okay, hurrah hurrah! Another gratuitous butt shot that has nothing to do with storyline, other than that I was looking for something in the fridge. If you film 10 hours a day every day, I promise you if they want to film your butt, they will kiss the floor to get it! Should I be flattered or should I be insulted? I'm not sure!

Ramona and I had a good laugh about the “white trash” comment. We’re white, we act silly, and we OWN it.

Once we laughed about it we were genuinely looking to enjoy the remaining two days with all of the ladies. Aviva did not want to give us even that. She barged in and began chastising us like two little girls! Who does she think she is? Totally rude and YET with the compassion that I do have I attempted to diffuse her anxiety again by saying we were HAPPY that she was there so she can JUMP in and JUMP out when she wants. Whatever it takes!

And then. . .double date dinner. What is this!?! It turned from a girls' trip to a fragmented mess. I don't think Carole has much experience hosting. I'm just grateful she scored the house. She had her hands full with her new BFF, A-Diva. Then, it was convenient to have a couples dinner since her "rock-n-roll sometimes lover" who lives in LA and tours most of the year was in St. Barths and they could. . .

Heather and I both said it, we have lives in New York that we took a trip from. I have a house with hurricane damage to repair, a daughter to take care of, and could have gone on dates with my at-home dates! I don't have to tell you Ramona has the same story. Why are we here if the host is enabling A-Diva's bad behavior? THIS is why we didn’t want men here in the FIRST place!

The ENTIRE dynamic changed and at that moment, what was the point of any of us being there? When I say men I mean significant others. Before we left, Russ was not a significant other. CarolE said he would be working most the time. He was staying in a hotel. She candidly admitted herself to A-Diva while shopping that they both slept with other people.

Isn’t it funny how after telling us all over and over about every single one of her phobias and anxieties, that A-Diva then says, "Meh, the plane wasn’t so bad. . .", THEN WHY KEEP BRINGING IT UP! She cannot let anything go. Also she keeps telling us how embarrassing it is for her to have so many anxieties. . .THEN WHY KEEP talking about them?! I understand it must be difficult to be neurotic. . .but after a while enough is enough. Get help. You're a grown up now.

Didn’t Heather look great at lunch? Finally Heather learns the two couples would be going out to dinner alone. I guess running into the sliding door got us all on the same page! We all got on the same page and saw that things DO change when one DIVA is allowed to bring her significant other on the trip and the others aren't.

After lunch at Le Tamarin, for Carole to project her frustration on me and Ramona when speaking to Heather was way off the wall. We were not dumping our problems on everyone, it was Aviva that kept bringing up the small plane. I too have lost friends on that flight. Most recently my friend Pascal's dad died, so I don't need to hear about the flight over and over again either.

I understand that Carole was reminiscing about going to St. Barths with her husband who died. But I also went every year, sometimes twice a year, with my ex-husband to the same island. I too was feeling emotional and remorseful, but I did not dump my anxiety on everyone. I mentioned one time on the trip that I don't think my ex was having a great time in St. Barths without me.

Shame on A-Diva for saying those things. I am on a downward spiral because I like to let loose and have fun with my girlfriends on vacation? I may be down but I am not out. (You may remember that line from my soft burlesque skit that I wrote last season!)

My daughter is thriving. I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with my Chapter 11 and a way to satisfy my movie deal judgment by restructuring my assets.

I am working my can off to manage my home (after tremendous hurricane damage I might add), investments, and finances, to build my businesses and to, most importantly, care for my daughter as a single mom.

If that's what you call a downward spiral, then what do you call throwing nameless insults at friends and dumping your endless phobias on us time and time again?

I am independent and I am not looking to depend on a man to take care of me and my daughter. Why doesn't A-Diva go in her room and vent on her husband since she has one?

I was very disappointed to see the other side of Reid. I felt better knowing that A-Diva had Reid as her back bone and crutch. Hearing him make such a nasty comment about the other women who are not at the table being overweight really hurt. I love New York because it is the most tolerant city in the world and I pride myself being a New Yorker for that reason. To say that a woman is too thin or overweight is so base and is nothing more than name calling. What does that have to do with what is beautiful about an individual and why they should be loved and cared for? Very SUPERFICIAL and UNFEELING.

I had a good time, enjoyed myself and put the lampshade on for everyone. Or in this case, took it off. I'm glad Carole got nekked in the pool also. I was starting to think her sexy talk was just that -- all talk!

I flirt with people that I am not interested in dating. I'm actually very shy around people that I am interested in having a relationship with! I like to have fun and make people feel comfortable. I am very sensitive and one thing you can never say is that I'm not compassionate.

If you follow astrology, I have a Pisces moon, which makes me a sucker for any sob story and is one of the reasons I am driven to support so many charitable causes. In fact, I need to learn the word "no" sometimes because my schedule just cannot support all the charities I attend and support. The meetings and behind-the-scenes work that goes into a charity is extensive.

I am hurt and surprised that Carole would voice to others that she was offended that I did not come to Russ' concert. That was never on the agenda and was a last minute invitation. Plus, we had an early flight the next morning! I think it's obvious why I did not want to go after a day from hell with her and her new BFF A-Diva.

From breakfast alone, to lunch at one of my favorite places in the world with crazies, to electing to stay home to avoid the wrath of A-Diva -- this would drive anyone to drink!

I love St. Barths and the amazing restaurants, beaches, and clubs. We were so fortunate to stay in a beautiful house with amazing food. . .and wine from SPIGOTS! I just wish A-Diva tried to be more a part of the group and take her make up off and have a good time. Thats ALL I wanted, to have fun with my girlfriends!

I'd like to end my blog with two quotes from Helen Gurley Brown (Rest In Peace) "Every woman's body is beautiful and should be celebrated," and "You don't have to belong to someone else in order to be an admirable person. And sex is a wonderful thing"

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Sonja: Is It Really So Bad to Be Me, Carole?!

Sonja thinks everyone needs to try to be a little more supportive of one another.

Ramona’s birthday lunch was a wonderful event. I’m so glad I was able to help her to feel so comfortable beginning her birthday week. I completely understand her celebrating her birthday for a whole week! She needs all her close friends around her to support her now. I wouldn’t have been so nice to Heather at that event, though, if I had known that she’d been talking badly about my business behind my back. What was with Heather’s BFF Carole knocking my consultations with a psychopharmacologist? Carole isn’t a doctor, and I don’t know why she thinks that she knows what's in the best medical interest for me. I’m currently seeing a neurologist and an endocrinologist in conjunction with the psychopharmacologist--they are all working together to regulate my hormones and my vitamins, and I think that I would know what’s in my best interest. The psychopharamacologist will decide if I need to take any prescriptions, and yes, they do know a lot about vitamins, as they should, and how they interact with medicines. Then I will decide if I want to take a prescription. This is another example of one of the women just being critical and starting rumors. If Carole is really concerned about my health and what my psychopharmacologist does, she should come to me instead of talking about me to everyone in the world in pure speculation.
I’m not surprised, too, that Bethenny was not receptive to me telling her that I am seeing my friend Robin Cofar, who is a Swami Priest and Yogi. In Atlantic City, Bethenny told me that she thought that I needed to see someone and start talking about the things that are going on in my life. Robin and I are doing introspective work, so I thought that Bethenny would want to know that I was taking her advise and trying to slow things down a little bit as she suggested. Instead of being supportive, Bethenny just attacked me! Bethenny has stepped back into this group of girls with a preconceived notion of where I am at. I feel she isn’t taking the time to get to know the real facts in this particular moment. Bethenny wants me to talk to a shrink, because that’s what has worked for her. It’s great that talking to a therapist works for her, but that’s not how I operate. Having said that, my psychopharmacologist has said he may suggest a therapist for me. Bethenny and I are very different people, so we are going to go about getting centered in different ways. I wish that she would respect that I need to follow my own path instead of her trying to force her life experiences onto me. Everyone is an individual and has their own story. The sooner we all realize this, the happier we will be. At least I feel she really cares, and she's damn funny.


I’m not surprised that Bethenny is being harsh with me, because she is very hard on herself. I don’t like when Bethenny says that her talk show and marriage were both failures. I don’t like to look at any life experience as failures. Both the talk show and her marriage brought her to where she is today, and Bethenny needs to focus more on moving forward instead of thinking about her past experiences. I know that I am very grateful for my marriage and for all of the moments I’ve had in my life. Bethenny has a very strict view of success and failure, and that’s why she views my toaster oven venture as a failure. I view it as a growing experience, because I learned so much from producing the toaster oven, and I was able to take the knowledge with me and transpose it into my Sonja Morgan New York fashion line. That's how I finally got here! We can’t forget that we can learn something from each of our life experiences and that we need to focus on moving forward, not backward. Your past can only restrain you if you let it.
I feel bad that Bethenny had such a tumultuous upbringing, but I’m glad that she is trying to reestablish her family roots for her daughter. Being a mother fundamentally changes a person, and I can see that in Bethenny. She is becoming more introspective and trying to figure out how to live her life in a way that is most condusive to being a mother. I completely understand why she said that choosing between her daughter and hanging out with the other women isn’t even a decision. I struggle with the same issue. Ramona and Luann are always saying that I don’t spend enough time with them, but between my businesses and being a mother, sometimes you have to give up a ton of leisure time. There’s nothing more important than being a mom, so the other women should respect that Bryn is Bethenny’s priority. Who needs a ladies luncheon when you can spend quality time with your daughter!
I don’t know why I wasn’t invited to the boxing match! I love boxing (and wrestling), and when you throw in those tasty looking sandwiches and some beers, who couldn’t have a great time! I don’t know why Carole wouldn’t have invited me, because I know that I always invite her to every group event I do. I’ve noticed that Carole has become more dismissive of me, instead of taking the time to really hear what I’m saying. This makes me sad, because I thought that Carole understood that I am always one to support artists, and I would think that she would support me as I have supported her. In fact, she was the first person to say I am an artist and that I should take my caburlesque Off Broadway. I thought she enjoyed my sing song skits that I write. She said I was hilarious.
Speaking of artists, Victoria’s paintings were amazing! She is a lovely girl, and I am so glad that she is so successful! I have been supporting young artists for decades, so maybe I need to include Victoria in one of my young artists’ exhibitions! Looks like I’ve found my next Sonja in the City event!
I don’t know why Carole was so upset when Luann said that her boyfriend is "Sonja young." Is it really so bad to be me Carole?! I also can’t believe Ramona said that my boyfriends are just toys. The men who I date may be young, but they are established independent men who don’t need me to support them. I’m just happy that Carole has a man right now. I’m not trying to poke holes in her relationship like all of the other women are trying to do to mine.
I did love the Christian Louboutins Carole has in her apartment. Those shoes are worth more than $3,000 dollars, so I see why she would want to use them as a centerpiece instead of wearing them. They are art!
You can always count on Ramona to bring a little levity to a situation! That comment about Dorinda being pounded to stay thin was hilarious! Maybe I need to stop working out and just start having more sex! But I don’t know why Ramona tried to belittle Dorinda’s relationship with John. Why can’t these women just be happy for each other?! They all need to take a step back, stop meddling in other people’s lives, and just worry about their own problems while being supportive of their friends. Dorinda is happy. John has been there for her in dark moments.
When you saw me working out, it really is a good representation of my life. I feel like I am always trying to do a million things and that really exemplifies that! That slice of life also really shows that leopard is my neutral! I don’t think I could have put more leopard in that room if I tried. Well until, of course, my Vanessa Noel shoes for my Latino Show magazine cover event arrived! I don’t know how my trainer Toni (Filipone) puts up with me, because I really am always trying to do a million things at once while she is trying to train me. I have eaten a veggie burger, dead headed the window boxes off the gym, taken calls on speaker phone, even organized my dress rack, all while training with her. We all need to remember that life is all about balance! I am the first to admit that I sometimes forget that, but I try to center myself and remind myself of the things that are important. At the end of the day, the most important things are our families, our friends, and our businesses that support us. Let’s all remember that, and we will lead happier and more fulfilled lives! Can’t wait for you all to see my cover next week! I wear my own designs, the team is strong! If I am delusional, why am I wearing the very dress and jewelry I have been designing for years at a Sonja in the City event? At Vanessa Noels Coutuier?

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