Cast Blog: #RHONY

Building a Brand

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Building a Brand

Sonja vents about Heather's logo meeting and wonders who has sex anymore.

Well, this is interesting! Firstly, that Aviva will even admit her dad is a sex addict (maybe she is using the wrong word?), and secondly that she is comfortable introducing a brand new girlfriend to her father! This is a loaded situation that raises many questions of authenticity.

I'm not new around town and best friends with her ex-Harry, so I guess she knows I'm OK. However, a classic sex addict like the one portrayed by David Duchovny has a problem with fidelity. Being an artistic, sensual person who enjoys a life of good food, wine, love, exercise, sex and culture, all the sights, smells, and touch that goes with this doesn't mean I don't want commitment and respect from family and friends.

As I wrote earlier in my blog I am very flirtatious with those I have no interest in dating. I am very quiet with those I am actually interested in. Isn't everyone? I guess I can be misread because I am so vivacious at times. Jean Harlow I am not! I rather fancy myself as Hello Dolly but I guess I get carried away!

I was impressed with Heather's logo. I thought it was clever, and I could tell from the get-go she would have lots of business advice to share with me. She understood from the beginning that my company Sonja Home grew from the fact I cook in the toaster oven, and that Sonja in the City is my catering and special events company. They are separate. In fact, I have a different team for each.

However, the icon I chose to represent me is Sonja and Sonja is the brand. So we just needed to separate the "a" and I felt enhance the "j," because people don't realize Sonja is spelled with a "j." Having lived with the name no one knows that better than me. You want to be found easily when Googled. I have set up a few companies in my life, and it's beyond establishing an LLC or a Corp and a business checking account. It's marketing your business in a way that makes sense to the consumer that is easily recognizable.

I was OK with the fact Heather stuck with my original icon. Like Ralph has his horse, I have my girl in the city on-the-go swinging her bag with wind in her hair. I think it can work for both brands but I just wanted to see if Heather would suggest something cleaner such as her -- something that would stand the test of time.

Instead, after a long period of waiting, since we first had to go to London, she showed up with fonts that frankly looked like you could have printed off your computer! I was really nervous and then disappointed that I had put my eggs in one basket.

Then, when her branding man said he didn't research who I was, and the fact that I am a lifestyle brand, I almost died. I say lifestyle brand meaning, I will be sharing an innovative way of living -- time and money saving ways to cook, entertain, stay healthy and young feeling, and take care of your loved ones while still enjoying yourself.

The real clincher was when Heather's branding guy said he wanted to put a sexy hunk on the box with me! What does this have to do with cooking and selling toasters? I guess I have to trust the experts and see where they take me. In the meantime, don't think I'm not going to vent and panic a bit with friends and associates!

I don't like looking so ungrateful. But this is the way life is. Stressing!

Wine night I had a school event. I was sick for Ramona's girl's lunch, but I at least made dinner with LuLu that night, but still I feel I'm missing some cool stuff!

I didn't find the wine thing such a big set up? Did you? Of course Ramona would guess the notes. But what was the set up? Am I missing something? Is Aviva stirring the pot?

Reid's mother is hilarious. She just rolled with George's outrageous comments! Aviva was right. Her father IS embarrassing. Reid's mother dealt with it very well. She could have been very insulted. He basically said she was too old to have sex with. PAHtueeey!!! With the bio-identical hormones and doctor's today (like my own Dr. Braverman who you saw on the show) this is not true. She looks vibrant and surely has a healthy sex life. More power to her. Like I said before, are we supposed to put it on a shelf and dry up?

Our New York accents have never been more evident to me than in this episode -- especially watching from St Tropez where everyone is speaking so many different languages. Not sure I'm loving it.

A lot of pics of Aviva and her family for a family apt. No?

Brows without an appointment? I don't wax. I pluck -- more precise. I don't want to lose them. They get thinner and thinner as we age. You cannot grow them back! Be careful.

Lu, every time? Every time you must walk in first? What if I made the restaurant reservation and just want to say hi to the owner first? Or maybe just once I would like to meet the shop owner first? Or be photographed first ? In Morocco it happened I didn't care so much, but now with Carole being new to the group, I felt I needed to say something because she was feeling the pain too!

Ramona and Mario are the opposite of Reid and Aviva. Completely. Hmmm. Wonder who has the better sex life? Maybe no one has sex anymore. My friend told me no one has sex after two years of marriage. LOL.

See you next week!

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Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Carole says what she really thinks of Aviva and all of her talk about her book and things being "ghetto."

Dear Fans,

Let me start with something I stole it from Twitter this week. "The most dangerous liars are those who think they are telling the truth."

I'll say it again. The blonde at the end of the right couch, the one who's prone to lobbing limbs and insults, is an Insulting. Bitch. Some of you didn't believe me. Maybe some of you still don't. But after watching the reunion shows I imagine it's harder and harder to cheer for the anti-hero. Just when you think she can't get any faker she does.

The story according to Aviva makes me laugh: We were arguing, she insulted me, I called her a psychopath and that prompted her to affectionately compliment me on my age. Sure. Her disdain for the intelligence of the audience is palpable. It was too stupid for me to even reply. But as I was watching the reunion, and particularly Aviva and the way she treats people, I was reminded of something my Grandma Millie used to say. (I love everything Grandma Millie used to say.) "At 25, you have the face you're born with. At 45 you have the face you deserve."

I'd rather be 50 and me than be 45 and Aviva, any day of the week. She aged worse this season than a president in his first term. Holy short dress, I don't mind at all how I look. Overbite and all. I'll take it.

When I first met Aviva she was lovely. Really lovely. I meant what I said on the couch, I wish we had seen more of that. Her easy laugh and funny neurotic ways. Instead all we saw was a mean and angry woman. All because I asked her if she hired a writer -- a writer she did hire. It makes no sense. Three years ago she told me she'd read my memoir, What Remains. This was a book published in 2006 about my childhood, my family, my career and marriage, and then the death of my husband, Anthony Radziwill. A man I loved more than anyone I had loved before or have loved since. She gushed over my book. She quoted from it. We hugged. She seemed so sincere. Flash forward and she now believes it was written by a ghostwriter. She even knew his name, and it wasn't Truman Capote. It was Bill Whitworth, she told me. She repeated this over and over to anyone who would listen. And it doesn't matter how many times she repeats it -- it will never make it true.

When they stopped listening she started saying in the press and on social media that not only was my book written by someone else but that it was not my place to have written a book about my life, and my marriage. And, as if I didn't remember, she reminded me that I'd written about people who had died. Um, yeah. I know. It was my husband and my family and my closest friend who died. Just. . .wow. But I wasn't important enough to tell my story because my husband's family was famous, or historic or whatever she said. Because they had money and privilege and yachts. Really. Who do I think I am?

I’ll tell you. I’m a girl from upstate New York who grew up in a loving, if sometimes kooky, Italian working class family. I worked for everything I earned, just like my parents did and their parents before them. I have a proud family history of hard work and small but precious rewards that followed. My family won't be in any history books. I didn't grow up privileged. We didn't spend summers in Europe or Christmas in Palm Beach. A day spent at the town pool or playing in the woods behind our house was great. Much like Heather, I was taught strong values and decent manners. I learned to live with integrity and honesty. I'm proud of my upbringing and the woman I became, as was my husband. As is his family to this very day. I've known people who lived in what Aviva would consider the "ghetto" who have more class and decency than she shows.

All this talk about class and ghetto -- you'd think we were living in communist Russia. Here is the thing. This is America. In our country it doesn't matter a lick where you are from, it only matters where you're going. So don’t let anyone tell you that you aren't good enough because you didn’t grow up on Park Avenue or in a family that had some history, or because you enjoy saying mother-f---er now and then. I’ve met people from all walks of life. I spent time in refugee camps in Southeast Asia, and in the projects of Chicago. I've been to State dinners with Presidents. I met the Queen of England on a beach in Anguilla. No one is any more valuable or important than you are. No one is more important than your family and your friends.

Let the elitists go slow into the night.

In spite of the BookGate dust up I had a great time this season. I made wonderful new friends in LuAnn and Kristen and my friendship with Heather is more special and important to me than I could have ever imagined just three years ago. Friends have each other's backs. I love her, madly. And while we didn't always act appropriately, we had a lot of laughs. I hope you did too.

Thank you all for your supportive and funny and brilliant tweets. And while we didn't all agree on everything all of the time I enjoyed your participation in the show. Even the mean tweets about my skinny neck and my overbite were amusing. Like I said, I've stolen some tweets already. You may see others as dialogue in my next book, and yes, you can all say you were my ghostwriters.

As always,

With love, Writer Girl xoxo

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