Sonja Morgan

Sonja explains why the toaster oven shoot was so important to her and defends Ramona from the other ladies.

on Oct 1, 20120

I have stood up for myself, my brand, and my vision all along at the risk of looking ungrateful to a FRIEND who came up short in time and resources when she just wanted to help a friend.

I produced a 7 million dollar film. Secured an Oscar winning star before he won the Oscar for a film below budgets he's used to starring in. Because I chose a script and secured a co-starring lady he approved. We won two awards for my first film. I knew nothing about Hollywood and got sued! I'm not rushing into the business manufacturing toasters unless I am comfortable and it encompasses the entire collection. Hence, the need for an image that reflects the visionary, creative partner, Sonja. I do need the box. I do need hang tags. I do need a brandstamp and color way And I will get there with the help of friends like Heather, Ramona (whoa that was rough on them), and my professional contacts I have built over the last 30 years if that's what is meant to be. It's experience that is never wasted. Sonja IS the brand. I won't let them down after the "wear n tear." I promise

I am just happy Heather and I came out the other end friends. She was gracious to shoot the box for me both ways, one with the man and one without. It came out beautiful and will be so useful. But that we are friends is what I am most grateful for at this time and place. I could be gone tomorrow just like that. I appreciate her honesty, respect and the fact she believes in me and that I have a new friend I can count on through thick and thin.

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150 comments
Esposa
Esposa

Crazy,funny u add spice to the show.

jelliebean
jelliebean

Heather wanted to end the whole branding thing earlier when stated she thought she was getting in the way of your vision and you scolded her and insisted she continue to help you. Why didn't you let her quit?

deserttrat
deserttrat

You are beautifully honest! Thank you for being on the show, I hope you come back next season WITHOUT Aviva.

 

Love!

ellebelle
ellebelle

Have you ANY idea how much it costs to develop a logo/brand?

If you needed more photos you simply should have picked up the phone and hired a commercial photographer and said one million thank yous to Heather....

 

Realhwfan
Realhwfan

You are one of my favorite NY Housewives. Love how fun and confident you are. Hope to see you back next season!

Hannahrose
Hannahrose

your my favorite sonja I love you!!

Lakecrazy54
Lakecrazy54

Sonja, you're the best! Aviva drives me crazy. I hope she leaves the show. There's nothing wrong with being on vacation and having a good time and perhaps drinking a little too much! That's what vacations are for...Aviva ruined that vacation...sad. You seem to have a really big heart and you really do make me laugh...in a good way! I am wishing you the best with all of your legal issues. Stay strong!

HousewifeFan@54
HousewifeFan@54

Sonja, Ramona refused the money George brought when she found out it was from Aviva.  He, on his own, put the money in the bowl.  You and Ramona have a different set of rules when it comes to most things in life.  I have NEVER seen anyone flirt the way you do.  It's almost like a mating ritual.  You turn your body to the side and look over your shoulder, you have a smile you save for such occations, your voice changes and you start flipping your hair every which way!  It's quite interesting to watch. George was very straight forward in his advances towards you, I think you just enjoy the younger men that you can "control" better.  So why was your ex-husband so old?  Oh well, Ramona at first thanked George for the donation and told him to put it in the bowl, but when she found out it came from Aviva she declined the donation until Aviva apologized for her behavior.  Watch the episode again.

sarah100
sarah100

Sonja, I think you are very lucky to have a friend like Ramona. Don't let the other women destroy that. She is a bit crazy but she is genuine and loyal. Two best qualities in a friend.

Katt61
Katt61

You and Ramona were horribly inappropriate to intrude your issues with the photo shoot during Heather's fundraiser. It was very uncool and neither you nor Ramona would have appreciated or indulged it if the shoe were on the other foot.

bravoaddicttttt
bravoaddicttttt

SONJA, I LOVE YOU.  IM AN  ALMOST 60 YR. OLD WOMYN WHO LIVES IN THE SUBURBS OF PHILLY  AND I THINK YOUR THE BEST.  MY FAVORITE LINE OF YOURS WAS WHEN YOU AND AVIVA (I CANT EVEN STAND TO SAY HER NAME) WERE IN THE KITCHEN FIGHTING AND YOU TOOK OFF AND TOLD HER RETURN TO SENDER AND TOLD HER SHE WAS A F______ PIECE OF WORK.  YOU HAVE ALSO INSPIRED ME TO LOSE WEIGHT AND GET IN SHAPE.  PLEASE COME BACK NEXT SEASON.

jbenny
jbenny

You were not Heather's client.  Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

 

As to Aviva:  I think you were unfairly treated, and I think you were wise to tell her at the luncheon that you were over her.  It's obvious that she is not used to having anyone do anything other than bow or scrape to her.

arlenewla
arlenewla

It's so unflattering to constantly play the victim.  Am done hearing you pleading "poverty" because you are faced with either selling a 3.8 million dollar NYC townhouse or a chateau in France. 

 

How dare you?!  Are you even remotely aware of or interested in what our economy is like and the unemployment rate? I suspect you really don't give a crap about anyone else...your narcissism is off the hook.  Selfish, self-absorbed and believing you are the center of the universe.

 

Have you ever looked at the tape of yourself falling down drunk while in a red dress using a hair blower?  Very classy.  Entitlement, my dear, emanates from your every pore.

 

Do yourself two big favors.  Check yourself into rehab and stay away from "your friend" Ramona.  Perhaps once you get a handle on why you drink, you can begin the process of moving forward and re-inventing yourself.  No longer "Lady" Morgan.

BevMac2
BevMac2

 

One more thing...I did not like the naked man packaging. I thought the one with Sonja alone was the best!

BevMac2
BevMac2

I love you alone, but when wild-eye Ramona shows up, you clearly change. Be yourself and try to distance yourself from someone who makes you look bad. I really think Heather was so excited to help you with your product, but at the end of the day it was your choice on which direction to go. You seem confident alone, but after speaking with Ramona you became wishy washy.

lizzie69
lizzie69

Love you Sonja. Heather is a new friend and did this for you to get more publicity and storyline on the show. We both know that.  You should have received a dvd of all the pics and discussed which you liked best prior to the production of the box.  As I stated on Heather's blog comments, I thought the box with the man was pretty bad.  It simply targeted a gay audience.  Love them but you want to go more mainstream and that was inappropriate.  The whole thing was a Bravo set up and unfortunately in the end you were made to look like a spoiled child. Really is a shame.  Good luck to you with all your endeavors and stay away from friends working with you unless they are truly your friends like Ramona.  Heather did for Heather's benefit.

pyoungclaus
pyoungclaus

Sonja, I'm glad that you explained your viewpoint in regard to the toaster oven and photo shoot.  I think you did appear "entitled" in the show but of course, the viewers don't see everything that goes on behind the scenes. I also think that Heather should have explained more clearly what exactly she was willing to do for you before the processes began then you would have avoided a lot of the issues that erupted between you. For example, she should have explained that she was going to use her team to develop the best brand image based on their expertise and that  you could either take it or leave it. In and of itself, this is a very generous offer but I think you were under the impression that it would be a more collaborative process and it really wasn't.  I also don't think that Heather ever intended it to be.  This is not a knock on Heather.  She's very busy and she only has time to do so much, I understand where she was coming from but she really didn't articulate the scope of the project and what she was willing to do and not do for you and this lead to misunderstandings.  I'm glad that in the end you guys worked it out and were able to stay friends. 

emma2004
emma2004

Sonja, I could not finish your blog. I read enough and wanted to give you a little advise. The term you get what you paid for, well in your case you got a lot more for free than others get.  If you are so unhappy then pay for the services you want. Someone is out there that will do everything you want for money. 

Diane69802
Diane69802

Sonja, you do have a good heart and have more class than Ramona.  If Heather's team was not working with you or in your best interest than I think you should have thanked them for their time and opted out.  It was free gratis after all and they really didn't "owe" you anything so if it wasn't working for you the professional thing to do would be to part ways amicablly. I do think you have some good ideas but you have trouble focusing and you need someone strong to work with you to keep you on track.  How many times did you interrupt and change the course of the conversation when working with Heather and her team?   You need someone who will stop that random rambling and keep moving forward on the concept at hand.  As a business professional it drove me crazy!  Remember when Bethenney hired Simon's wife (?) to develop her logo?  It didn't work out either so its always better to find our own inspiration, sometimes people who know you have their own interpretation of you because they know you too well  ie the naked man. Keep Ramona out of your business!!!! Do not mix business with friendships, it will get ugly.  Her ideas are not yours and she overtakes you in discussions and she gets you upset and crazy over things that just need to be talked about with the team, not Ramona.  Alot Less Ramona, more Heather and Carole, and less Aviva....my advice.

PaulainVA
PaulainVA

Sonja, I think you a very sympathetic and fun person, but you are no business woman.  You really need to stop being so girlish and silly in meetings, and understand what is being committed to, both by yourself and others.  Maybe take notes or follow up with an email confirming your understanding of what was agreed to.  If the box design and photo shoot resulting from your meetings with Heather and her friends were not what you felt you needed, you should have said "thanks so much for your time and the offer, but I don't feel this is right for me".  You are much too flighty, and don't seem to comprehend what is going on around you.

realdealkc
realdealkc

Sonja, SOMETIMES, you are inappropriate.  BUT, you have a huge heart...and you are very gracious in many situations.  you make me laugh, and I know you are a smart and scrappy lady!  I'd want you as my friend!

 

TexasGJG
TexasGJG

Sonja you truly have no idea what you are getting into and are extremely unprofessional. To see you try to stick up for your actions in this blog is appalling. Any woman who is professional and had any business sense would not act the way you did during meetings and then run off to talk behind someone's back who is helping you out. If you truly felt that it was going in the wrong direction you should have spoken up in a professional manner at the meeting or even after the meeting. You clearly have no backbone and no confidence. There is a way to get your point across and still be respectful, but not once did you do that. Instead you ran to Ramona and whined to her. To brag about how many people wanted to do your campaign? Well then you should have just let them do it. Did you bring anyone else to the meetings? No. Where is your "team"? I can't believe how unprofessional you are. I suspect you have very few people behind you in this and that is why you latched on to Heather's offer. If you really were unhappy here is some advice: A true business woman does not let people walk all over them and get forced into things she doesn't want to do. She voices her opinions and concerns in a respectful way at the moment things seem to go off course. You did none of that. 

1keelysmith
1keelysmith

You are my favorite cast member and I wish you all the best! You are fun, and still classy.  Much more so than that horrible Luanne.  Hugs to you and your family:)

JEBFP6969
JEBFP6969

Sonja dear, you brought all that to the table because it was for YOU!!!! The others were donating their time & talents & you felt entitled?  No, no, no dear, no, no, no! You just don't get it.  You & Ramona picked the wrong time & place to jump the photographer.  He was there for the show & you two made him miss it.  Bad girls!  Bad,bad girls! Did you pay anything?  NOPE! Didn't pay, aren't entitled!  As for the person tweeting about there are plenty of comanies out there that would love to do Sonja's pro bono work, you can believe that, but I don't.  NOTHING is for free & if they do all the work, they will want what they want & won't care what Sonja wants.  I applaud Sonja for being Sonja, but come on now...is there truly anyone out there that would do pro bono & not expect to have major imput?  It's their reputations at stake too.  Sonja could just say no if she doesn't like it & thank them for their help & time. Lessons learned.

lwhitaker
lwhitaker

I have such a hard time relating to you.  Many go through divorce, including myself, but you just reinvent yourself and move on.  Instead you have stayed the same, feeling entitled and feel insulted by everybody's smallness. 

 

You were rude to and thankless to Heather but we see this ugly side of you pop up often.

 

I really hope you get the help you need to move forward in your life and that may include letting alcohol go.

 

 

asperbeck1963
asperbeck1963

Sonja,

I absolutely love your hair accessories.  Your cute head bands, barrettes and wraps.  You really should start a hair accessorie line because that is trendy, women love them, and you wear them well.  The price point is right, and you could start a real craze!!! xx anne

Anne0
Anne0

I do love you but  dahling... are you nuts?  Heather doesn't need any publicity-exposure from your toaster box thing. Yummie is a global success on its own. Honestly, I think you are so much more elegant/worthy than hawkin' a toaster oven. BTW you looked gorgeous on WWHL

Bakergirl123
Bakergirl123

Sonja, I have to admit that I see both sides of the toaster oven debacle of 2012!  I own my own business, and many times I am asked to contribute items for magazine photo shoots, etc..  This is done free of charge in exchange for promotional purposes, exposure, etc..  Or, I am asked to donate to charities.  The side I see is that I am never given creative license.  I do what I am asked of the person that I am helping promote.  I create according to the vision of the person in charge.  They have the vision, and I am there to bring it to fruition. Yes, at times it can be frustrating, but if I donate my services, time, and products....I know this in advance.  I understand your side of the situation.  From what I saw, it seemed like they thought their vision was better for your product, and therefore that is what was being pushed on you.  I can honestly say, I would not buy the toaster oven with the unclothed man on it.  I think that it doesn't appeal to a wide enough audience, and I can't see that sitting on the shelves in most retail stores.  I also saw them tell you that you could have promotional photos. Every time I ever do a shoot, I am given tear sheets and promotional photos afterwards.  Also, I'm married to a pro-tog and he always takes details shots.  No matter what type of shoot it is.  Even if it's a model shoot, he will take pics of the makeup artist applying makeup, etc..  I think the best thing for you to do now is just get with someone who can really benefit from doing a product shoot for you, and exchange services.  Even though I run a successful business, I do a lot of shoots like this, because good (free) publicity is always a great thing!  There are lots of great photographers out there that would do something like this, and I think your fans might like to see pro pics of you cooking in the kitchen, etc..  

 

 Now for Heather's side of it, I have been on the receiving end of not even a thank you after donating products, time, etc..  It is frustrating.  Especially when you take time out of your busy day, that could be devoted to another product, to help a sister out.  When it's a friend, it's hard not to mix our personal feelings in.  Heather did do you a favor, and no matter what the agreement was, just be gracious and appreciative of what she did for you.  You were frustrated because she wasn't understanding your vision and trying to push theirs on you, and she was frustrated because she had gone to a lot of trouble to create this for you.  Hopefully this is a lesson for you in the future to keep your business separate from your friendships. 

Ravenna
Ravenna

Marketing the toaster oven with you solo is much more appealing. For the life of me, I don't associate toaster ovens with half naked men.  :-)  I do hope all is resolved for you in life and that you get back on your feet. Make your own way and never expect a man to give you forever after and security. Also, There is a lot of bad energy in that NY house and it would be far better to sell it a get a fresh start.   

Reallynow1@
Reallynow1@

Sonja, the toaster oven box with the "hunk" is in poor taste.  You are selling a product for the kitchen and you are selling your image.  The photo of you is tasteful.  Heather is not your friend.  She is on the show to promote her own product.

theviolet
theviolet

If someone is doing a job for you, exposure comes with the territory. It isn't a form of payment. Everyone knows you're broke but it seems like you're still living it up on the backs of people who are desperate enough to associate with you.

Lisalou62
Lisalou62

I forgot to mention in my previous post ....SHAME on your ex-husband !!! You deserve better and need to make sure you get everything you and your daughter need, be firm...do not let him be a cheapskate!

Lisalou62
Lisalou62

Dear Sonja, You are a class act girlfriend!!! You have such a good heart! I can't wait for whatever it is you will be branding ! If it has your name on it... I will buy it! Then...my friends will see it...and have to have it too!!!! I am sooo pulling for you and wish you all the best. Divorce sucks...but you will come out of it smarter and more successful than ever!! Girl...I would take Tomas to the garden or wherever he would let me! You go girl! I have been watching the Real Housewives since the first city, and YOU are my fave of all. You and I have a lot in common...as we both march to the beat of our own drum in regards to fashion sense. I love your style!

cantgetenoughofbravotv
cantgetenoughofbravotv

I think from some of the viewers standpoint you came off as a little ungrateful. I like you and am a fan. I think you have to remember people are soo busy and Heather has soo much on the plate that I think maybe you may have forgotten that because you are soo stressed out. I wish you well and you do have my support.

kristinarnors
kristinarnors

Sonja, beggars can't be choosers. Heather helped you out as a friend. You should thank her for what she did.

bluinicandy
bluinicandy

I enjoyed watching you and Ramona this season. You most of all made me laughed a lot and yes, I did beome teary when you came back from your meeting with your ex. I felt your pain. Some people are obviously biased, double standard and very passive aggressive on you and Ramona. One is a bully. Wish you all the best, Sonja.

emmyk
emmyk

sonja, i love you but you were wrong with the entire situation with heather.  she did you a great favor and she even called you out on it and said you just won't give her credit for any of that.  she did that for you for free and you can tell she genuinely wanted to help you.  she was hurt and rightfully so.  also, it was a slap in heather's face when you didn't stop talking during her fashion show.  there's a time and place for everything and your timing was completely off.  come on, you have more class than that.

 

conalice
conalice

To set a couple things straight- there are plenty of PR and Marketing companies that would love to do pro-bono work for the exposure that being on national television would get them. Heather ASKED Sonja if she could do so. This is Sonja's baby- her livelihood and her future. Just because somebody is doing pro-bono work does not mean she should settle for her brand to be marketed in a way that does not represent her. Period. Anybody who thinks it is a good idea to have a naked man's torso on a box that is selling a toaster oven, is not too suave on marketing strategies. There are going to be college kids (guys), grandmothers, churchgoers ect. buying this product. I know many people that would be turned off simply by the sexual innuendo that the naked man on the box implies. By using that as the face of her toaster oven, she would be immediately cutting her profits and isolating future buyers. Heather missed the mark and should have worked with Sonja to have the brand reflect Sonja's ideals. At the end of the day, Sonja's brand is the one that will suffer, not Heather. End of story. 

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @arlenewla You are being quite judgmental of something that you obviously know little about.  Sonja has explained that her assets are tied up with her ex husband so she can not sell them off to pay her lawsuit, She has been sued and will lose her home.  

 

Just because someone gets tipsy on vacation does not mean they need rehab!

 

Do yourself a favor and get some anger management.

jbenny
jbenny

 @Itokagi23 Heather was helping Sonja for free and had every right to place restrictions on what her team was willing to do.

Liznorris
Liznorris

@Itokagi23 The thing about that is, Heather tried to tell Sonja that she was possibly looking for something other than what she had planned on doing so maybe they should just go their separate ways and Sonja is the one that didn't want that to happen. And if you listened to the conversation they had at the charity event heather said they had a list of everything Sonja wanted them to do and she followed through with everything they had agreed upon doing, and Sonja told her yes you did do everything you said you were going to do. But now all or a sudden she is changing her story again. If she was truley that unhappy then why didn't she just part ways when Heather tried to and go work with her person from Martha Stewart?

heatherfan13
heatherfan13

 @Itokagi23

 Heather did exactly what she told Sonja she would do and even sonja tweeted that she was wrong and Heather was right so get it straight. sonja wanted to use other pictures for other things not the toaster oven. Watch to show again and maybe you will see better.

Diane69802
Diane69802

 @Itokagi23I think there had to be restrictions...do you have any idea what this was costing Heather?  There had to be a cap on it somewhere.  NO!  Keep Ramona out of it.  She is the one that gets Sonja all worked up and crazy.  I think because Ramona is jealous that Sonja went to Heather but I don't think Ramona was offering her "free" services, so she definitely needs to keep her two cents out of it unless she is putting her two cents in.

 

 

Liznorris
Liznorris

@TexasGJG Thank you!! I was beginning to think that I was the only one that felt that way! I felt so confused after reading this blog. All I could think was if she did truely have sooo many people that wanted to help her with this then why didn't she just part ways when Heather tried to do so in the beginning? My guess is she didn't actually have anyone else to help her with it. And at the charity event Heather said to Sonja that they had a list of things that she had a agreed on doing for her and they she owned on every single one of them and Sonja said to her yes you did do everything we had agreed to. But now all of a sudden Heather didn't? And in reading this blog I feel like Sonja is too stuck in the past. She is bringing up her production company every time she talks about something with her toaster oven and what a "success" it was. 

franci
franci

 @conalice LOL, sorry, but Sonja and a naked man on that box is Sonja personified!

tanya.rand.16
tanya.rand.16

 @conalice

 if the dang thing ever comes out we have been hearing about it and a bunch of other kitchen ideas for more than a year

 

LittleLeaf
LittleLeaf

 @conalice but the brand is her and that's who she is - classy party girl who likes her men.  with her mug all over the packaging there's no point her pretending to be anything other than what she displays on the show 

YouGottaBeKiddingMe
YouGottaBeKiddingMe

 @conalice

 Sonja is the brand. The toaster oven is the product. Sonja is all about boys and having a taste for luxury, because luxury has a taste for Sonja. After all, a little Sonja will spice up any party.

 

That's the difficulty in branding one's self.

LPR011
LPR011

 @conalice If Sonja wanted to market a generic toaster oven she wouldn't put herself on the box at all.  She's selling herself- the Sonja people know is the one they see on the show.  This isn't a toaster oven for frat boys- its banking on people wanted to buy it because they find Sonja appealing.  I think they got it exactly right.  Sonja isn't going to appeal to frat boys or church goers no matter what.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @Liznorris  @Itokagi23 In the last meeting they agreed to give Sonja the photos.  Heather changed her mind and told the photographer not to do it.  Heather knew Sonja did not like the hunk photo and was being selfish not wanting Sonja to use any other the other photos.  Heather did not want to lose control.

heatherfan13
heatherfan13

 @Liznorris  @TexasGJG

 Thank goodness people are finally seeing how it really is! sonja should of been so greatful to heather and her team, you know what it would of cost her for that help, and there is no way martha stewart or any others would of offered to help her. Heather is a great business woman, after all she has 11 patents on her yummie tummie brand, sonja sure doesn't.