Cast Blog: #RHONY

Fun and Flirting

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Fun and Flirting

Sonja refuses to get caught up in drama when throwing a party.

The long awaited Season 5 is finally here, and it will once again be our best season ever! We had the best ratings ever last season, even without our beloved Bethenny (I can't wait to see her new talk show!), and we will have our best ratings this season as well! It wasn't easy at first incorporating FOUR new stars. But Heather, Carole, and Aviva are troopers.

This season is full of glamour, iconic NY locales, international jet setting, parties, fun, and
of course...drama! That's just part of being six women in a fishbowl filming for many hours. That's why it’s called reality TV.

Let me just say you get to know the new girls right there along with me. Even though I had met Heather in business briefly before she joined the cast, I didn't really get to know her the way I do on the show. Same goes for Carole and Aviva. You can't judge a book by its cover. I meet people to like them, but some are onions to peel and others just blow up like a bomb!

Enter Harry! He is one of the best friends anyone could ever have, and we have been friends for decades. He has more friends that anyone I know around the world. He is fun, loyal, and a dedicated father. Witness him at my Masquerade Ball. He is the cat's meow. Being an aquarius he is inventive and very smart. His son with Aviva, Harrison, is a chip off the old block and will go far. He is quite the charmer.I have met Aviva a couple times before, but I never really got to know her. Despite what she might think, I never ran the other way when I saw her at a party! In fact, I must not have seen her or I would have ran up and said hi as is typical Sonja style and the Countess confirms this. Aviva did tell me that once I complimented her at school, so I don't know where that came from? I guess a misunderstanding.

Of course in true Sonja fashion, I decided to throw a party to officially introduce LuAnn and Ramona to the new girls and to get everyone acquainted. I have always loved entertaining and I think you have seen that in previous seasons. When I'm entertaining, I don't like to get caught up in the drama (i.e. Ramona and LuAnn this time), I just like to let my hair down and have fun and flirt with boys! FYI when I flirt with boys, it’s always the ones I'm not interested in. I do that to make them comfortable. If I'm really interested I get very quiet around them. My reputation does precede me, so I tread lightly!

Ramona was so nice to allow me in her home off season when I didn't have my rental, and I love to reciprocate by cooking my toaster oven appetizers. Ramona likes to reciprocate with a blind date and tequila shots. Both were certainly blinding. He was cute, but not quite my type. I go for the nerdy ones or the metrosexuals. He was a little too macho for me. More on that later.

Well, I'm staying at Ramona's, so I invite her to join me for drinks with Heather. Do you think that was a mistake in hindsight?

When Ramona scolds me for calling my ex my husband, she’s not trying to be mean. She's just caring as a friend. She thinks it puts out a bad message to future suitors. And...she's right! Her timing is just not right! I realize a hostess should not make a guest feel uncomfortable when in their home. But that is how Ramona operates, love it or hate it, take it or leave it! Ramona will be there in the worst of times for you.

Aviva offered to take me out for a pedicure. I never say no to a gift like that! I was happy she trusted me enough to share her story, yet kept it light enough to joke about it so we could discuss it freely. I'm happy we also discussed cross-marketing our children's charities, since I work with the Rusk Pediatric Center for Rehabilitation and that would be a perfect tie in for Aviva and prosthetic work with children.
You will see a lot of Ramona and I having fun. Our usual Frick and Frack that turns to fracas! We are the brunt of criticism as usual. I throw some fun parties, as usual. At least I had fun!

Trust me you're in for a bumpy but interesting ride! You get to see us women grow together and it doesn't get dark like last year. Thank goodness!


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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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