Cast Blog: #RHONY

Part of the Team

Sonja gives us some more background on her interns and her home life.

Dirt bikes! I grew up with a brother racing dirt bikes and me riding my pony around, trying to see what the boys were up too. It's great that Heather is giving her kids the outdoors and that she can get down and dirty with them and still keep up with the fashion bling and pop culture of NY. I think it's important to teach kids to entertain themselves and to be entertaining. Sometimes I feel like kids these days don't know what to do with themselves if they don't have 20 dollars for a movie.

Michael Musto in the background of the black and white clip of Ramona cracks me up. He adds spice to ANY party! He's a friend who writes for The Village Voice.

Heather now makes it clearer that its a business trip and she has these international relationships that she is worried about and she feels she needs to protect them.

Donor egg?! Prenatal vitamins for two years?! Gosh! I Had no idea LuLu had been practicing for so long. First comes love! Then comes baby carriage! Then the marriage. . .? That's so European Lu! Mind over matter when Lu says she feels her ovaries moving with the first pin pricks at the acupuncturist! Hilarious! Talk about a placebo.

I don't know how I could handle going to the doctor like Heather with Jax with such a devastating disease. My sister's son lost a kidney and a half and nearly died to cancer. He had Wilhems disease at 18 months old. We found out Christmas Eve! Somehow moms do what they have to. I'm so fortunate to have my health and to know my daughter is thriving. Money cannot give a life back; a child or a parent. I try to cherish every moment for this reason. Sometimes I feel I'm too "busy" around my daughter. It bothers me. I consciously plan "mommy and me time" for this reason. Just her and I and no phone, emails, or other people. Even if it's just being together doing nothing but being together.

Aviva, not knowing Ramona, is not sure if we are fighting. That's just Ramona venting and displacing her anger on me. Like I said Ramona puts up with me!!! I'm not perfect. Ramona's comments to her husband were private. I don't really think she meant them. She's allowed to go off the rails with her man. Besides that's her opinion! Beats the name calling other people practice.

Whoops! I can see I'm going to get some harsh cuts on this first Sonja in the City party. Wouldn't be fun to watch if my party went off without a hitch, now would it? I can plan a party in my sleep, and you have seen it over and over. The Social Life party was fantastic. In fact, you missed the band! If only Ramona had stayed. I guess Carole is right -- all the drama is around Ramona! She leaves and the cameras leave! I have to admit the party I threw the first episode ruined everyone's hair! It was 100 degrees and humid so the garden deflated everyone's hair. . .oh well. Didn't stop Ramona and Lu from going at it. No party goes off perfectly. You just roll with the punches!

That was a fun morning just easing into the day with the interns. It's the calm before the storm.

It took many online forums of all types of religions, just to be notified that I'm in the 3 percent of "unmatchables." Which of course I knew! I just didn't want to see it blaring at me on my computer screen. But, I'm not going to lower my standards to be with just anyone! Any other religions I should try? Currently I'm reading about the Kabbalah, and haven't tried Scientology.

There's been some snarky comments about what my interns do and why I need them. Let's be honest, everyone could use some help! Especially a working mom with a busy schedule, philanthropy, and new business developments. Just the social media alone has my head spinning! These kids today are whizzes and they just love it. All of it. The glamour, the dresses, the events, the celebs, and the bright lights of the big city! Goody bags are not enough to satisfy these kids. We play hard but we work harder. Everyone on my team has a great attitude, manners, and respect. Each person on the team brings something different to the table, which makes us appreciate each other that much more. I'm just a part of the team too.

Tyler is very smart and goes with me on all my appearances and important business appointments. That can be anything from a toaster oven demonstration, charity presentation, red carpet, premiere, board meeting, lawyer, financial, catering, public relations, Sonja Home design, website, or social media meeting. They are never ending, and I trust him to tell me what he really thinks, and to get me there and back safely. He also makes sure my borrowed dresses and jewels are intact and returned, receipts submitted, and reimbursed. He also watches the budget.

Naomi, who is from Belgium, prioritizes my emails and gets them to me. She knows my daughter, family, my ex, my pets, and interns come first. Then, new business opportunities, lawyers, and financial advisers come next.

After all that, I answer mail that comes in on my website, and comment on Facebook and Twitter. Honestly the best part of doing the show is sharing recipes, tips, revelations, and lack of revelations with my peeps! The viewers have been so supportive and I enjoy conversing through social media when I feel like unwinding. In between all this I make time for friends and dates. Besides prioritizing emails, Naomi comes to all Sonja in the City events. She assists in every way. She has class and knows how to handle herself around the multicultural clientele that book events with us.

Millsaps is my right-hand gal. She is responsible for the comings and goings at the house. Security is number one! I have to be out a lot "in the field" attending business meetings, going to court, or making appearances. I need someone I trust at home. I don't have a house manager or butler, and the door has to be answered. The workmen must be monitored, bills paid, and phone answered. Millsaps always comes on trips and to events. She selects outfits, maintains wardrobe, schedules, and staff. I also love her to come with my daughter and I to the Hamptons and Palm Beach, etc. because she has such a great attitude and is fun to be around. Everyone loves Millsaps! We will miss her. Her year is up at the end of summer and she's off to get her Master's degree. My recommendation will be longer than this blog because I hold her in the highest regard and she will always be welcome in our home.

We always carve out time for my health. Workouts, facials, vitamin routine, my chocolate banana sesame shake (LOL), green juices, yoga retreats, appointments with Dr. Eric Braverman (my life longevity guru) all take a prominent position in my calendar.

I do whatever it takes to keep me in balance, strong and able to manage everything, and still go forward while enjoying my life and the people who love and support me. It's not always the bottom line for me. It's that I have lived the life I want and with who I want. Most days are so busy that once I have dinner with my daughter along with the interns, violin teacher, or whoever helped out that day, and she's off to bed, we all just grab a movie or take last minute advantage of an invitation. That can be anything from Andy Cohen's book signing, art gallery opening, Christmas Spectacular at Radio City, backstage at The Actor's Studio, private townhouse garden cocktail, Cirque du Soleil, or Fashion's Night Out! Then we get up and do it all again, but we all love what we do or we wouldn't be doing it in this wonderful, crazy city!

So if that is too boring, I hope you skipped through! But I do love the people I spend my time with. They make me laugh and they cry with me too! They are in my private home so it's rare I have privacy. This means they go through the ups and downs with me. I couldn't do it all on my own. It's the team that makes it possible!

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Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Carole says what she really thinks of Aviva and all of her talk about her book and things being "ghetto."

Dear Fans,

Let me start with something I stole it from Twitter this week. "The most dangerous liars are those who think they are telling the truth."

I'll say it again. The blonde at the end of the right couch, the one who's prone to lobbing limbs and insults, is an Insulting. Bitch. Some of you didn't believe me. Maybe some of you still don't. But after watching the reunion shows I imagine it's harder and harder to cheer for the anti-hero. Just when you think she can't get any faker she does.

The story according to Aviva makes me laugh: We were arguing, she insulted me, I called her a psychopath and that prompted her to affectionately compliment me on my age. Sure. Her disdain for the intelligence of the audience is palpable. It was too stupid for me to even reply. But as I was watching the reunion, and particularly Aviva and the way she treats people, I was reminded of something my Grandma Millie used to say. (I love everything Grandma Millie used to say.) "At 25, you have the face you're born with. At 45 you have the face you deserve."

I'd rather be 50 and me than be 45 and Aviva, any day of the week. She aged worse this season than a president in his first term. Holy short dress, I don't mind at all how I look. Overbite and all. I'll take it.

When I first met Aviva she was lovely. Really lovely. I meant what I said on the couch, I wish we had seen more of that. Her easy laugh and funny neurotic ways. Instead all we saw was a mean and angry woman. All because I asked her if she hired a writer -- a writer she did hire. It makes no sense. Three years ago she told me she'd read my memoir, What Remains. This was a book published in 2006 about my childhood, my family, my career and marriage, and then the death of my husband, Anthony Radziwill. A man I loved more than anyone I had loved before or have loved since. She gushed over my book. She quoted from it. We hugged. She seemed so sincere. Flash forward and she now believes it was written by a ghostwriter. She even knew his name, and it wasn't Truman Capote. It was Bill Whitworth, she told me. She repeated this over and over to anyone who would listen. And it doesn't matter how many times she repeats it -- it will never make it true.

When they stopped listening she started saying in the press and on social media that not only was my book written by someone else but that it was not my place to have written a book about my life, and my marriage. And, as if I didn't remember, she reminded me that I'd written about people who had died. Um, yeah. I know. It was my husband and my family and my closest friend who died. Just. . .wow. But I wasn't important enough to tell my story because my husband's family was famous, or historic or whatever she said. Because they had money and privilege and yachts. Really. Who do I think I am?

I’ll tell you. I’m a girl from upstate New York who grew up in a loving, if sometimes kooky, Italian working class family. I worked for everything I earned, just like my parents did and their parents before them. I have a proud family history of hard work and small but precious rewards that followed. My family won't be in any history books. I didn't grow up privileged. We didn't spend summers in Europe or Christmas in Palm Beach. A day spent at the town pool or playing in the woods behind our house was great. Much like Heather, I was taught strong values and decent manners. I learned to live with integrity and honesty. I'm proud of my upbringing and the woman I became, as was my husband. As is his family to this very day. I've known people who lived in what Aviva would consider the "ghetto" who have more class and decency than she shows.

All this talk about class and ghetto -- you'd think we were living in communist Russia. Here is the thing. This is America. In our country it doesn't matter a lick where you are from, it only matters where you're going. So don’t let anyone tell you that you aren't good enough because you didn’t grow up on Park Avenue or in a family that had some history, or because you enjoy saying mother-f---er now and then. I’ve met people from all walks of life. I spent time in refugee camps in Southeast Asia, and in the projects of Chicago. I've been to State dinners with Presidents. I met the Queen of England on a beach in Anguilla. No one is any more valuable or important than you are. No one is more important than your family and your friends.

Let the elitists go slow into the night.

In spite of the BookGate dust up I had a great time this season. I made wonderful new friends in LuAnn and Kristen and my friendship with Heather is more special and important to me than I could have ever imagined just three years ago. Friends have each other's backs. I love her, madly. And while we didn't always act appropriately, we had a lot of laughs. I hope you did too.

Thank you all for your supportive and funny and brilliant tweets. And while we didn't all agree on everything all of the time I enjoyed your participation in the show. Even the mean tweets about my skinny neck and my overbite were amusing. Like I said, I've stolen some tweets already. You may see others as dialogue in my next book, and yes, you can all say you were my ghostwriters.

As always,

With love, Writer Girl xoxo

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