Sonja Morgan

Sonja discusses her ex and tries to remember a time when she and Aviva were BFFs.

on Sep 25, 20120

I was so angry because I wanted closure with my ex above all else and was willing to give up a lot in my settlement financially to keep my daughter in her childhood home.

When I didn’t get my face-to-face with him, and a fair way to do that (not even close, according to my lawyers), I was angry. It's been so long that I have been working and supporting so much on my own beyond what child support can do. My assets and cash are tied up in this divorce and I want what is rightfully mine, and to be independent again so I can move on. If it means losing our home and a lot of what I have worked my whole life for, then I would have to continue in court to fight, in other words sue, for cold cash. It's not what I want to do. . .It takes time, energy, and money away from my daughter.

We were married 10 years and knew each other for seven years before. It’s a large chunk of my existence! As the woman who loved her man dearly, I think I deserve that respect as the mother of such an amazing little girl. I was a good mom and wife.

I invited Lu to help me take down my ex's painting with Pocker and Sons. I trust them to archive it. Ramona doesn’t understand divorce like Lu does, since she has never felt the pain personally. I never would have imagined it ending, myself. NEVER. I didn't mean that Ramona didn't understand the royalty thing BTW. . .that's ridiculous. Ramona certainly understands what it means to be married to a family like my daughter's. It's a big responsibility. I just want to give my daughter all I possibly can.

I was independent and owned my homes before I was married. I had security in the bank, a stock account, and a career -- and I will still have that if the power is mine and God wants that. I filed the Chapter 11 to restructure my assets to satisfy my movie business judgment and to move on with what's left after hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees, in all cases being paid by myself.

178 comments
modeaux
modeaux

I just saw that you dog died. I'm so sorry. I lost 2 of mine this year. I made a video and cried like crazy but it helped.

saucy1949
saucy1949

I can't understand why Aviva would call you and Ramona white trash or belittle either one of you for having fun on your girls trip. Neither of you did anything wrong.  What gets me is how she never calls out her Dad on anything he says to any of the women. He is rude, crude and foul with his remarks especially to you Sonja when he first met you. He kept saying weird stuff and pawing you. It was obvious they you were uncomfortable with his advances but you were so nice and never complained to Aviva. You handled the situation very gracefully.  I never heard Aviva apologize to you for his sexual harassment behavior or even address it with you. Does that make George white trash. But I guess its okay whenever its her or her family because they are so much better than everyone else. 

You Sonja are my favorite housewife.

 

 

klvaughan
klvaughan

Sonja, I am a suburban NJ  mother  who has been at home  for the last year suffering from chronic Lyme disease. Watching you on Bravo has been my lifeline, believe it or not!  The pain and loneliness of my illness was lightened by watching your entertaining life while I was not able to enjoy my own.  I am finally beginning to get out again and my crazy idea is to get my hair cut by whom ever does yours, as I love the style.  I so admire your style and class ( you are the only one on the show that has real character and always shows grace). Hope I can hear back from you as I beautiful haircut would really perk me up!!

tacobell1
tacobell1

absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE you!!!  Stay strong !!! 

MaryA807
MaryA807

Hi Sonja! I just love you and Ramona so much! You are real. Wheres your "Wn'as your Friend LuAnn,she realy is aC and you no what I mean'Avmona down they put you or Rather is a dirty old man! How daiva is white trash and her father is aold dirty pervert. Listen shund neede se was never nice. She set you and Ramona UP,because she is so jealous of your friendship with here X! Do you or anyone belive she would marry someone who did not have MOENY! NO she is aspoild brat who uses her handicape to get attention, Yes I can say this I was born part deaf in both my earths.But because I went t private school and was smart no one new until I was 18years old. I had a sever infection and I need surrgery.And get this my father was a doctor. All so I am a former Model I worked in NY and Paris and Milan.I have no jealouse for any one .Remember Pretty is as Pretty does. By the way I am 5'9 128 ponds have been married for23years and I am prod to say I am48 years old.I have 2 Boys 22 and18 who are the loves of my life along with my funny adorable husband.And he is from Japan. My friends say we lookhe married for moeny like Barbie and Jakie Chan HA! Also I did not marry him for moeny but love.My father God rest him allwas told me hoeny do not marry someone who can bye you Dimonds,bye them yourself.Needless to say I am really missing Alex and her boys,Simon too.At lest they were real .Thank God that 1Bitch is gone you no she married poor Bobby for moeny. Stay stong Aviva is a very nasty self centerd woman.If it was'nt for Reid who I fell so sorry for she would have and be nothing.She is white trash and her father is adirty old man pervert.XOXO MaryA807.

Lynda58
Lynda58

I like you, Sonja.  You are fun and frivolous.  Yet, you certainly have deep feelings and at times, are very endearing (in between your liquid lunches)...  I am very confused by what you said in a TH.  You said that you wanted what was promised to you (even BEFORE you conceived your daughter).  Were you planning on divorcing the old coot at the start?  OR were you offering him an heir and requesting payment for services rendered?  

melindaannie
melindaannie

The day Ramona had her Christman luncheon in her home, was the begining of A-diva spiraling ddownwards, out of control! Apparently, she hasn't hit rock bottom in her mind. Yet I do believe she has been below the basement for quite some time!......Much love to my favorite Housewife!

dragonlady39
dragonlady39

Sonya, I love you and Ramona.  You are the reason I watch the show.  I cannot stand that mean, cruel A Diva.  SHe has some nerve saying the things she did to you and Ramona.  She thinks because she is educated she is something, but all she proves is she is a very mean person.  She blamed you and Ramona for everything and I feel LuAnn had a very big part in it.  I think A Diva and LuAnn are both very jealous of both of you, so don't let any of them get away with anything.  I love it that you don't.  I love the way you stand up to any of them - you are not mean when you do it, but you let them know you are not their pushover.  Keep up.  I just wish your ex husband would see how wrong he is by not putting in his share to help.  I hope you do sue him and take him for everything.  You are so cute and smart I would think there would be a lawyer out there who could do it for you.  I would buy anything you sell because I think any woman would be very lucky to have you for a friend. 

Micheles609
Micheles609

Sonja, stay strong be yourself always your wonderful!

rosyposy
rosyposy

I feel you have a good heart, so that makes me a fan.  I thought Aviva went a little overboard (who died and made her God anyway?).  I think I may come to like Aviva again, but not for a while.  Good luck on your divorce settlement.....you are fighting for your daughter, so no holds barred, girl.  Just a suggestion....take a good hard look at Ramona.  She does not have a good heart.  She comes across as a mean middle age woman trying to deny that she is aging.  Anyone who is a virtual wino is not a healthy friend.  Again, good luck with everything.

shellid
shellid

Sonja I am glad you and Ramona are so close.  There is nothing like having good friends to help you through the hard times.  Aviva is jealous of your friendship with Ramona and can't seem to figure out that you get more friends with honey then with vinegar.  I like your spirit especially when you let Aviva know exactly what you thought of her ridiculous name calling and accusations and then got up and left in the middle of lunch!  She was left with egg on her face and it was well deserved.

 

I am sad for you and your daughter that you didn't get your settlement.  I hope ti will all work out in the future.

Hulali
Hulali

Time to hit up BRAVO for a spin off, the housewives drama in all the cities is taking its toll on the viewers. Drama may get people interested, but they don't watch the shows.

touche
touche

Sonja - you have a natural grace and loveliness about you.  I can't stand Ramona and am hoping that alliance doesn't hurt you in the long run.  I hope things are going well and you are able to settle your affairs with the ex so you can do what you want with your life.  

galindagirl
galindagirl

Sonja, I think you were at a turning point when this episode was taped.  At the beginning of the season, it felt like you were still in denial over the divorce.  Even last episode, it seemed as though you had been holding out hope that somehow your ex might just change his mind.

 

This episode, though, we saw a new raw Sonja.  Your divorce has broken your heart and you finally seem to be facing it.  As someone who has been there, this is the point where you rebuild YOUR life and I hope you've been successful at doing that, since these episodes were taped.  I wish you the best.

tamarahope
tamarahope

Luv U Sonja & Romona! Don't know what Aviva"s problem is but she needs to gooooooooooo!

mabelhriv@aol.com
mabelhriv@aol.com

Sonja:  Haven't you been watching yourself on T. V. the last two seasons?  Who, in his right mind, would want to remain married or friends with you?  

RealHousewifeFromNY
RealHousewifeFromNY

Love it Sonja, you are SO real!!!  It is refreshing to watch, especially lately.  And I love how much fun you and Ramona have together.  Keep being true, we all love you. 

Your friend in Saratoga County XOXO

jbenny
jbenny

 The best thing you could have said to Aviva at that dreadful excuse for a talk was that you didn't care what she thought.  You said it and hurrah for you!

lYM
lYM

Sonja, love you! You are a strong, fun and beautiful woman. I just love how you dismiss Aviva's rants. She gave her the hand. Good for you. She is a diva and so full of herself. Keep it up, you rock!

cateyes13
cateyes13

Sonja, you are truly a class act. You are an everyday woman! The bond between you and Romona is something no one can match. Aviva and her father both should just hook up themselves since its ok for him to behave the way he does. And we see thats why she is the way he is. I pray that you get through your situation and this to shall all be put away to rest. You showed true class as you left Aviva with mouth wide open. Take care,

sheri.rozzs
sheri.rozzs

Good for you Sonja! Cleaning house, & kicking butt! lol Your a strong force, a great example

for your daughter. Mrs. Bed & Beyond is wayyy beyond help!

RHcrazy
RHcrazy

Sonja, You are a Hoot to watch! You're fun & funny & a good friend to your friends. So you know what they say, if others don't see it, don't appreciate it , their loss (and that includes your ex).  Out of all the housewives on any of the show, you would be the one who can pretty much fit in anywhere and make it a fun gathering.   Keep the joy, and you will draw the good people to you.  

NetteB00
NetteB00

Sonja, love you! You are very real Aviva is not worth your breath! Forget her!

Eve317
Eve317

Hi Sonja, 

 

 I really loved the part when you placed your black hat on your head and walked off in the middle of the meal with Aviva.  Aviva is obviously jealous of your friendship with Ramona as she made it a point to reprimand you and Ramona on screen.

 

The person Aviva needs to scold on screen is her father!!!!!

 

Eve

bravo-viewer
bravo-viewer

You are the only one that has brought up that old man's name calling...thank you..How inappropriate was that?! How are all these other women saying "poor George"...

You are way too awesome to be with that old man!

Mommy1278
Mommy1278

Stay strong Sonja you are fabulous...love that you and Ramona are so close (like sisters) its nice to see you look out for each other... Xoxo

kelly.c.bradbury
kelly.c.bradbury

Sonja,

 

I just LOVE you and Ramona!!!  BRAVO needs a show with just you guys on it!! 

 

The shows title: Ramona & Sonja Take NYC

 

pasquale
pasquale

Sonja you are the best!!! I would love to see a spinoff called Downtown Sonja. I feel so bad for you, and pray you remain strong. I enjoy you and Ramona and quite agree the 2 of u make this show worth watching. I feel the other 3 members don't fit in. Aviva is a very nasty self centered woman who has definite issue that should be addressed by a professional. I hope things turn around for you and wish you much success and happiness, Ramona has been your loyal friend for a very long time, and she has been there for you too, it's a real friendship.

Katrinah38
Katrinah38

Sonja, love both you and Ramona.  Not phony -- continue to be you and do you!!!

april1956
april1956

Sonja love you and Ramona. Your interaction wit each other brings a smile to my face. Stand strong and fight for what you and your daughter are entitled to. You will be successful.

God Bless.

Paige_P
Paige_P

Oh Sonja, I just want to say you are such a beautiful woman. You radiate such a warm light while wearing your heart and soul on your sleeve..for us all to see. I feel your sadness and loss for your baby Millou. To lose a member of your family is devastating and its a long road ahead without them. I know a pet is a friend, a family member, and a kindred spirit. This pain will lessen in time, but the spot in your heart is there forever. Please if there is a charity to donate to, it is one for animals. They just happen to be little people in fur coats.

Constance1
Constance1

Sonja, you have class with a capital "C." I do hope you're able to work out a settlement soon so that you and your daughter can finally relax a little. What kind of man does this to the mother of his child? Regarding your business ventures, selling your toaster oven on QVC or HSN would be a fabulous fit for you and the shopping channel. Give it some thought.

apickwa11
apickwa11

Sonja, you are so much more than you know.  Embrace your life for all it is now.  You have so much to be grateful for.  Sometimes you have to loose exterior stuff to get to what's real.

 

I have gone through divorce and was almost homeless.  I had two young children at the time....it was scarey.  I have come out of it for the better and wouldn't wish for anything other than what happened.  I sincerely wish for you to embrace the change, even if it gets difficult, and remember that you have all you need to make it!

TondalayoSchwartz
TondalayoSchwartz

If Aviva could meet and marry someone she fell in love with after Harry, you should open your heart to someone (kinder than Reid,, of course) who would be good to your and your daughter. You are such a catch.  Maybe even someone who will worship you like Bobby feels about Jill.    It's time.  Not for someone to take care of you, but for someone to wake up with, to laugh with, and to be yourself with.  

slassley
slassley

Sonja--Keep your chin up.  There is life after divorce.  You can do it!!

SAC
SAC

I saw the video of your meeting with your interior designer.  You could not pay me enough to walk in her shoes!  If this is any indication of how you treated your ex-husband - wow!

Beachiest
Beachiest

Sonja, I think you are great and will be just fine.  Take J.P. to the cleaners and find yourself a brand new pillow for the remodeling of your home and remember, as Mama Elsa said in Miami, "the best pillow is the one that is full of money."   I think you are amazing.

AgeMort
AgeMort

I love how you are carefree and happy! If you want to party like a rockstar you have earned that right! I love your lightheartedness and your free spirit! You're the epitome of a friend to hang out with when the chips are down. From watching you on the show i have never Envisioned you being mean or catty! You do not represent yourself as being pompous or arrogant! You try to stay positive and you try to stay light. Even though we know you are enduring a great deal of pain. Please do not ever change who you are! You are great brightness in the world full of darkness. Be positive be bright be happy! You are loved for being you And not trying to be something you are not!

Luv2Laugh
Luv2Laugh

Hi. Sonja! You are a true example of keeping a good spirit and hope for the future, regardless of the bs you have to go through in the meantime. I would love to watch you and R drinking some wine and reviewing/reading the comments on Adiva's blog. She just doesn't get it! Take care and stay strong!

josephine.assunta
josephine.assunta

Sonya,

You are such a wonderful person! I admire you for putting your life out there for everyone to see your pain. I felt your pain. I also agree with you regarding your blog. Aviva learned this behavior from her father. She looks down upon people and I don't like that. You never behave that way. You treat everyone like equals and that really shows. I am SO SORRY on Milou's passing.  That must be harder than anything!  You were a great mommy to him...the best! And bravo to you for sticking up to Aviva at Ramona's lunch that day about why you weren't at Aviva's charity event because you had to take Milou to the vet. I don't know who this woman thinks she is!!!!  I love you and Ramona!

mary.katherine.79
mary.katherine.79

Aviva revealed her ugly side at Ramona's Christmas lunch.  Aviva has no right to demand that people show up for her event.  I was sorry you felt you had to explain anything to her about your love for your dog. It was none of he business, just like Ramono's skin rash was none of Aviva's business.  She acts like she's the big boss. 

 

From that episode on, the ugly side of Aviva got worse and worse. I hope you just stay away from her. She's not good company for you (not to mention not good company for Ramona).

 

She tried to divide and conquor you from Ramona. Your parting scene at that lunch with only you and Aviva was a classic!  Straight from Betty Davis style. Damn you were good. lol

positivelychanging
positivelychanging

Sonja,

Watching this episode brought me to tears because I felt your pain.  I was married for 40 years and recently got divorced.  Divorce is one of the most difficult experiences you can go through.  However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will get through it.  You are an articulate, beautiful, sensitive woman who will find love again.  Your life is not over, it's only a chapter that is coming to a close. 

 

On August 31st, my birthday, I started a blog called Positivelychanging.com.  It addresses divorce and other challenges positively.  I am learning that we are stronger than we believe and sometimes even positively amaze ourselves.  You go girl!

Hugs,

Ilene

galindagirl
galindagirl

 @bravo-viewer I'm sorry Aviva ever tried to set you up with that man.  It certainly doesn't speak highly of how she thinks of you... even back then.

Hulali
Hulali

Watching Sonja and Ramona being silly together is the ONLY time I enjoy any of the Housewives shows anymore.  BRAVO is promoting the drama too much and it took all the fun out of watching the ladies interact.

annette_1113
annette_1113

 @SAC Try walking in Sonja's shoes....you might understand more.

Michnyc55
Michnyc55

@mary.katherine.79 You are so right on. Sonja carried herself with class and style. I know all her fans are wishing her all the best.

Liviaa
Liviaa

 @positivelychanging

 So she sells her house in France....boo hoo!  Shes lucky she has one to sell!

So she's not living the life of Riley any longer.  Boo hoo!  Many people today have had to give up a certain life style.  She's not homeless by ANY means!