Cast Blog: #RHONY

Pretense is Cheap

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Pretense is Cheap

Sonja discusses her ex and tries to remember a time when she and Aviva were BFFs.

I was so angry because I wanted closure with my ex above all else and was willing to give up a lot in my settlement financially to keep my daughter in her childhood home.

When I didn’t get my face-to-face with him, and a fair way to do that (not even close, according to my lawyers), I was angry. It's been so long that I have been working and supporting so much on my own beyond what child support can do. My assets and cash are tied up in this divorce and I want what is rightfully mine, and to be independent again so I can move on. If it means losing our home and a lot of what I have worked my whole life for, then I would have to continue in court to fight, in other words sue, for cold cash. It's not what I want to do. . .It takes time, energy, and money away from my daughter.

We were married 10 years and knew each other for seven years before. It’s a large chunk of my existence! As the woman who loved her man dearly, I think I deserve that respect as the mother of such an amazing little girl. I was a good mom and wife.

I invited Lu to help me take down my ex's painting with Pocker and Sons. I trust them to archive it. Ramona doesn’t understand divorce like Lu does, since she has never felt the pain personally. I never would have imagined it ending, myself. NEVER. I didn't mean that Ramona didn't understand the royalty thing BTW. . .that's ridiculous. Ramona certainly understands what it means to be married to a family like my daughter's. It's a big responsibility. I just want to give my daughter all I possibly can.

I was independent and owned my homes before I was married. I had security in the bank, a stock account, and a career -- and I will still have that if the power is mine and God wants that. I filed the Chapter 11 to restructure my assets to satisfy my movie business judgment and to move on with what's left after hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees, in all cases being paid by myself.I cried buckets when I saw Millou at the top of the stairs so happy to see me when I got back from the non-meeting with my ex. That’s what I miss, now that he has passed after almost 18 years. He was always there. . .always.

Thank God for Millsaps and Cesar, my support team, that they were there for me as well. I don't know what I would do without them, they are more than just "interns" they are here to see me succeed and to be a part of something exciting. They believe in me or they wouldn't be so supportive and it makes me feel good about myself to have such loyal friends that are here through good and the bad, for the long term. Especially Cesar, he has been with me a good long time through my niece Amina. Millsaps came for a year from the Carolinas but she learned enough for lifetime (mine), and was loyal to the bone. God Bless them. Saved by the bell, Ramona. She is always there.

I'm not asking for a free ride from anyone. I have been working since I was 14 years old. The girls have made comments about checks to charities and what has been done for me free. I resent this. Who are these fast and reckless new friends? Thank God I have Ramona. Geez what are they bashing?

I never brought up who didn’t write checks to my charities or bring gifts to any of my several parties. I do point out who is generous. I have written checks before my Chapter 11 to my fellow 'Wives charities and still do even though I have a strict budget. Ramona has always donated to charities. She also donates wine and her skincare line left and right. I have comp'ed many Sonja In The City Parties on the show for friends and charities over the years.

I have been fortunate to have many donations so that I can raise money for my favorite causes. I just want positive energy around me and my charities whether one can give cash, or not, when they can come and bring something positive to the atmosphere.

Wow! It's not appropriate for George to go out with Carole because Aviva cares for her? What does that say about me and Aviva? No wonder I said I questioned her motives in my earlier blog when she wanted to set me up with George.

Ramona put a fabulous group together of New York elite, and a powerful set of smart women who can make change. She always does. These are not people who she met yesterday. This says a lot about her. Heather also raised a lot of dollars at her charity event. Ramona and I were very impressed with her auction. They can be difficult.

Aviva should have never sent her father to an all-girls event that Ramona was hosting when they are on bad terms. Mail the check. He says he gave thousands and thousands of dollars? Try $500?

Ramona asks George kindly to leave after he makes her uncomfortable at her own event and he doesn't. She accepted his check. She asked him to drop it in the bowl. It didn't even dawn on Aviva to mail it? Come on. . .Ramona asked the WAITERS to escort him from her event. He was tugging on Ramona's arm from the get go, and as she trys to walk away he does it again. Because, like Aviva, if Ramona doesn't say what he wants to hear he pushes. This is classic bullying behavior. Then he says I did wrong! This is not the way to behave.

Then when he calls Ramona "trailer t--d." Oh my. Now we understand where Aviva gets her language from. I feel bad for Aviva at this point. I think George has enabled Aviva, as Carole has. No one has helped Aviva see the truth. Carole has no idea what has gone down at this point. Were they at the same party? I watched and swooped in intuitively as soon as I felt Ramona about to cry. It was obvious body langauge. Hovering, in Ramona's face, pulling her arm. . .

As far as Aviva coming, I don't think it was the time to come. Re: the height of the apt that makes no sense. She went to Ranjana's penthouse, that was a breakthrough as well as the St. James' Hotel rooftop. I was proud of her. We were BFFs back then. What the hell happened????

It pained me to see Ramona take a further lashing from Aviva. Especially when she has to defend me. These are ludicrous accusations. I wish Ramona didnt have to deal. I am standing on my own two feet. I am not out at the Bed Bath and Beyond looking for a husband to support me and my daughter. I am working hard with Sonja in The City. So many parties! And in real time with months and sometimes a year to plan! Not with in days, and with budget!!! Not comped and out of my pocket!!! Yipppppeee!!!

Sonja Home Innovative Living is progressing. I continue to give cooking demos, bottle signings (who knew?) and to spread my lifestyle tips in appearances to all who want to listen. Anything to save time, money and make your family and friends more comfortable with a touch of luxury.

I envision a manufacturing partner making the whole line with me. With my Sonjaisms! Aprons, mitts, mats, dishes, tongs, trays, toaster-oven-ready meals. I enjoy doing it and it comes easy for me to share and entertain. I love to slip on a banana peel to make others feel comfortable.

I say just be yourself, and tell the truth. I like a straight shooter. Someone who will take a stance and stick with it. Even if its your vision, and its different from others, believe in it, and don't flip flop. Worse yet, don't try to be someone else or someone you think people want. Pretense is cheap. "Money cant buy you class!"

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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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