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Aviva admits she failed as a matchmaker and defines "wet" for Ramona.

My father is so embarrassing and Ramona is so controlling. Welcome to my life.

When people travel, they forget things. Some forget a toothbrush, a blowdryer, or even their favorite earrings. I forgot my swimming leg. Is it my age? The blonde hair? The four kids? How could I forget something so important?

Arriving to Ranjana's pool, I was about to turn back because I feel like I am going to fall off the roof due to high anxiety. As the dizziness and vertigo have sufficiently set in, Ramona luckily distracts me by putting a LOT of focus on my swimming situation. Not sure if that was a blessing or a curse? Her behavior certaintly got me out of my own head fast.

Here I am about to get into a pool with a bunch of women and Ramona starts to go on and on about whether or not I should go swimming. Then as soon as I am in the pool, Ramona soon enough is insisting that I get out of the pool because my leg is going to get too wet? Once something is wet, it's wet. . .Am I missing something here? Ranjana certainly didn't! This trip caused me to get somewhat annoyed with Ramona. She was controlling my swimming activities, the dinner party food flow, the dinner party conversation, and even threw me out of a bathroom in my own home. I was disappointed and and my patience was lessening. . .

Sonja is baffling. She talks about sex at Ranjana's pool. She is talking about showering and sleeping in bed with Ramona. She doesn't wear underwear with short dresses and flashes our husbands constantly. Did you see her flirting with the contractor at her house and laying on the bed a few weeks ago ? I am wondering about the authenticity of this sexuality. Is it all talk? Is it an act for attention?

I was excited to set Sonja up with my dad. Sonja's ex-husband was 30 years her senior so there was no age issue here. (Her ex-husband is about 80 years old) She seems to have a tolerance for inappropriate characters such as Ramona, her BFF, and my father is quite unfiltered. My reasoning to set Sonja up with my dad were thought through. . . What was the worst that could happen? A one-night stand? I am sure it wouldn't be the first time for either of them.

Did you see when we were walking towards the hot tub, Ramona asked me if my dad thinks we were all crazy??? I was more worried that the ladies would think he was crazy. Bottom line -- we are all nuts.

My father is my father. He is he only one I have. Don't be totally taken by his horn-dog animations. He is a fiercely protective father. Growing up he was a a providing, nurturing, caring, loving, and protective dad. He was a wonderful husband to my mother. Throughout their marriage, they were madly in love and devoted to one another. My German, stunning mother was the elegance and grace that balanced his roughness.

Overall while my dad and Sonja did not have a love connection, everyone laughed and had a great time. Looks like my father may have fancied Carole a bit more. (Thank goodness that raunchy comment by my father landed on Carole. She is always so calm and collected and let's a great deal roll off her back.) I think that Sonja handled my father like a trooper, as well. I appreciate that Sonja was so good natured with my fathers antics. . .Maybe I just don't have a future as a matchmaker. . .

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Carole: I’m Cautious in Matters of the Heart

Carole explains why she wasn't rushing to discuss her new relationship with the other ladies and how she felt about Bethenny's suggestion to rebrand death.

Bravotv.com: Were you actively trying to keep your relationship with Adam a secret from Luann in the beginning?

Carole Radziwill: No, I’m not a woman who overshares. And I'm fairly sure the audience knows this about me by now. You don’t see me each week talking, talking, talking about every last thought that pops into my head.  Also, I believe there is an expectation of privacy, even among good friends, and especially among social friends. I live by that in my real life (with my friends outside the show), and it’s no different than my reality life on TV. The best advice I can give a girl is to keep new relationships private. There is nothing like a handful of well-intentioned “girlfriend advice” to derail a blooming romance. That being said, when Adam and I started seeing each other, I wasn’t sure if it would develop into anything worth talking about. I’m cautious in matters of the heart. But after a few weeks, it was clear that we like each other’s company; he was kind and cooked; but mostly, he thought I was funny. Like I said, it’s not complicated. When I next saw Heather and Kristen, I told them I'd been seeing Adam. As for telling Luann, I was genuinely happy to tell her the next time we saw each other privately. Adam had dated her niece, and while they had broken up over a year before Adam and I met, they remained friends. All good. I assumed Luann would be happy to hear of her little love connection--it’s good karma! Turns out I’m not always right.

Bravotv.com: You mention the perks of dating someone under 35/over 75. Can you explain that a little more?

CR: I’ve learned that much older men and much younger men are more grateful for the company of a woman. It’s the men your own age that make things more complicated than need be. This is true at any age. When I was in my 20s, 20-something men were a pain in the ass. Maybe it’s just the higher expectations and greater social pressure in a relationship of two age-appropriate people. That said, I think age, much like race or gender, is irrelevant when you connect with someone on an intellectual or spiritual level.

Bravotv.com: What went through your mind when you found out you had to move your late husband’s ashes?

CR: At first, I thought it had to be a mistake. The church had been sold and the graves moved? It’s the log line to a Hollywood movie, not a storyline in a reality show. Churches can be sold? Caskets and urns replaced? But after speaking with the church secretary, I did what anyone in my place would have done--including my husband--I laughed. Not a long laugh, maybe it was a nervous laugh but still, a laugh. My husband was the king of practical jokes, and I thought this was the best one yet. Then after coming to terms with the idea of going to London and bringing the urn back, I was excited to have it back. He was and still is a piece of my life. A great one at that.

Bravotv.com: Since your conversation with Bethenny, have you had any ideas for how to rebrand death and being a widow?

CR: No, and let me say that that conversation at the time was a little bit surprising. And no less in re-watching it this week. It’s been 15 years since my husband died. I’ve heard everything, well, except, the re-branding of death. That was new. But I’m used to people being very uncomfortable around the subject of death. They say the weirdest and dumbest things. It’s still awkward, but it just doesn’t shock me any longer. I, like many young widows, have very well developed gallows humor. I only hoped on that night Dorinda did too. Filed Under: People Say the Strangest Things

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