Heather: Why Can't Kristen Let Me Be?
Heather doesn't get why Kristen felt the need to impress her, or why she didn't read her audience when geocaching crashed.
From the moment we even started discussing Montana, some of the women haven’t stopped kvetching. And it's really starting to get to me. We're off to fly fish in such a beautiful setting (the water was amazing) and I fall in. What they also don't tell you is that if you fall in when fly fishing, you shouldn't keep on swimming! Your overalls fill up with water, which gives a whole new meaning to cement shoes! I was sad my fish got away from me, that I fell in and that everyone was bickering. But we made it, we had some laughs, popped a squat (except for me -- I went back at the ranch, people!) and landed ourselves on the porch for a beautiful dinner enjoying the outdoors in peace and quiet. . .think again.
The massages on the mountain were magical. Even being with Ramona and Sonja was, for once, relaxing. All any friendship really needs is a little loyalty and love. I hope Sonja can start to see this whole thing from Lu's perspective, which I am trying to explain. But we will wait and see. . .for now, I have a little cliff hanger of my own.
Meanwhile, repelling is right up my alley. However it's not easy, but is so exhilarating. From the beginning, Kristen was game to go and it didn't even dawn on me that maybe this wasn't the best choice for her -- until we got there. I could feel the tension coming off of her and it hit me, "Why is she doing this?" She was shaking before we even got to the top of the mountain. My first time stepping backwards off a cliff was hard -- it goes against human nature and it's completely normal to not want to do it. I was trying to encourage her, not discourage her. I wanted her to know that if her choice is that this isn't for her, I support her and am proud of her. If she can't step back off of a cliff -- don't worry about it! I didn't get that good by going down a mountain one time. I'm no Spiderman. I rock climbed in my twenties. Everybody has their own limits and when it stops being fun, you should stop doing it. Go do things that make you feel like you've achieved something and make you feel great. The only person you have to prove something to is yourself. There is no card that I check once my friends repel off a mountain or compete in a Spartan Race. My friendship requirements are loyalty, love, encouragement, laughter, and forgiveness. . .
After repelling, Kristen's nerves were shot, and so were mine, quite frankly. So a couple glasses of wine did the trick to bring us back to earth and get us giggling again. And we were in the middle of nowhere. . .no kids, no husbands, no responsibility. Why stop now? Geocaching may be a little bit more challenging with a buzz on but what is geocaching anyway? On the ride over from the restaurant to the range, I learned.
Geocaching is a real-world treasure hunt happening at all times, all around you. There are 2,429,407 active geocaches and over 6 million geocachers worldwide.
So there you go -- happy to enlighten you! Geocaching, as interesting as it may sound, is HONESTLY the last thing I want to do. I'm in woods, I'm in nature, I just don't feel like searching for a box of treasures that are really trinkets, unless there's a million bucks in there -- I'd rather find a tree to hug! Clearly I'm not the only one that was not into this geo caching, but Kristen was not reading her audience. I've been super supportive of Kristen, as I want to be, but what's the big deal about Geocaching? Why can't she just let me be? I'm not going to be any help to her -- I can't even say a full sentence right now let alone read GPS coordinates on a tiny machine. Did anyone bring my glasses? I realize that Kristen is not yelling at me, she's yelling out all the frustrations of planning this trip and putting it together. And I'm not taking it too seriously -- it's a tough group to please and I am not bossy after all, I'm the boss. And this is one time I don't want to take a leadership role.
Stay tuned for next week -- we're still hanging from that cliff!