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Sonja on Carole, Interns, and the Dangers of Social Media

Sonja calls Ramona out for stirring the pot, and feels for Carole -- while genuinely being happy for Aviva.

Hello again from Thailand my Bravo family!

First off, it is obvious Ramona is so happy to not be part of the #BookGate crossfire herself but she sure likes to stir the pot! LMAO. Ramona feels bad being the catalyst!!! When?!?

Oh my, I had no idea this thing had escalated to this level. I never saw Carole lose her self like that! Seeing them on the staircase, flinging insults, flipped my stomach. They were such good friends before. Love quickly turns to hate.

Ramona is like Cheshire Cat grinning like that. . . Again she is just happy to not be the one slinging arrows.

So sad to see Ramona planning her trip to Africa knowing what transpires later. She was so happy.

I love the way I blame everything on menopause. Can't use PMS all the time!

It is weird watching this scene how Heather is 100 percent behind Carole in BookGate while not having been at the lunch or the hallway brawl. She is feeling Carole's pain and going for it.

I had NO idea myself. I was feeling bad for Aviva because it was her party and she had put so much effort into getting the townhouse decorated in time after just moving in and hiring the caterer. Wrong place, wrong time once again for our group. We have a knack for that.

When we interview interns we try to scare them off. They think as Adrienne says "Fun?!" It's not fun! You missed some of the more serious parts of the interview because that's boring television. Everyone always asks me "Do your interns tweet for you?" No one emails, tweets, or posts anything without showing the final product to me. I write all my own material. They research hashtags and Twitter, fanpage, Instagram handles for me, and then insert them into my comments. On my blogs they insert sponsors or charity names, or designers so I can properly credit them. My newsletter and other forms of social media need constant editing.

For my showroom they study fashion trends and check in merchandise samples. Then the stylist interns pick up and drop off dresses and are in charge of spotting celebs and photographing us together to post on social media to highlight the designer who lends us the dresses. And we must do this first before all others to gather organic followers (after I approve it!). We do NOT buy followers.

My interns have gone on to work for Mariah Carey, Donatella Versace, Russell Simmons, and Donna Karan as assistants. They have gone to stores like Chanel (two presently), as well as Club Monaco, J. Crew, and others in management positions. OK enough about the famous, jet-setting interns who are my everything. Onto what else -- BookGate!

Actually BookGate aside, I am so happy for Aviva and her new book. She has a publisher and she wrote a book! She's sharing her story with others. It's liberating for her and helps others as well. You can see she is getting healthier. She is not even afraid of bugs anymore! Her phobias are melting away. I'm personally happy for her and can put our past aside. If she can help herself, I am happy to help her be her best.

Needless to say I'm impressed with Carole's writing skills and all her other talents. This BookGate is not about writing or books. It's deeper.

In the park with Kristen -- I'm also asking myself what happened to the close relationship Aviva had with Carole. Aviva said she was much closer to Carole then Ramona. So the sting is sharp.

Boy, Ramona can say that again. She and I did a lot more as teenagers than our daughters have. Our daughters are conservative. Or are they? I don't think they have us fooled -- like we had our mothers!? LOL! Our mothers had no idea!

I know what Ramona feels when she says Avery is her other arm. That's how I feel when I alternate the holidays with my ex and my daughter is with her Dad. I don't feel like I'm complete. It's like I'm missing my arm when I'm with the rest of my family for Thanksgiving or Christmas without my daughter. Sometimes I opt to be alone at home and order in. I can't take it. It's just too much for me. I'm a Pisces Moon and very sensitive, just like Ramona.

Here we are at Carole's baby shower. Eric Goldie VP of Social Media. I love it! There is so much that goes into social media. You can't just tweet what whatever you feel! You can be one tweet away from being fired or dumped by your best friend. Some people have no idea. I keep my brand ID in mind when posting across my social media platform at all times. What is my message? Carole said she pays Eric nothing. Doesn't that make him an intern? She said she wanted an intern like mine! Hers is pretty sweet.

The new old fashioned way of having kids? Who needs the sperm? Plenty of sperm out there. It's the eggs I need at my age right?

Carole's calling out Ramona on the pot stirring, and it is pretty funny. That horse left the barn a long time ago. But when Carole says there is no Carole/Aviva thing, she is wrong. This is Avivarola! It has a life of it's own now.

After Carole shares with Ramona her feelings and how it is for her, we see how important her work is to her identity. We feel her pain. Carole has so much to share. I hope she finds another love like she had with her husband.

I totally relate to Kristen at the Spartan Race. Waking to Pilates class is enough exercise sometimes. This is too intense. Sometime Ramona pushes me to work out military style. I don't like it! I knew Josh wasn't going to stay with Kristen. Why did he say he would? It's a competition. I've been in Kristen's situation, where I've been talked into something I shouldn't be doing in the first place. It doesn't feel good, but you have to finish on your own and grow. I take pride in getting through it on my own. Like Norma Kamali's OMO.


Oh dear, see you next week when you meet Amanda the image consultant. . .And you come to my Caburlesque charity event at the East Hampton Studio for LIGALY, a youth center in Long Island for the LGBT (and supporting artists). Many thanks to David Kilmnick for all he does. I also thank MC Hank Stampfl of Speakeasy Moderne for bringing all his performers and to Steve Carl of Carlyle off the Green for sponsoring Sonja In The City by donating props, food, wine, champagne, and for helping me create the cabaret-like intimate surroundings in a huge airplane hanger! We love challenges and it makes good TV while bringing attention to good causes!

Thanks for watching and I will catch you next week -- with Ben and Harry as well.



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Bethenny: Emotions Creep Out in Unexpected Ways

Bethenny explains her breakdown and why she thinks Heather might be a little too touchy feely. 

Well, the crying game has begun, so bear with me a moment because there is a LOT of laughter to come.
You know how sometimes you can confide in a stranger more easily than someone you're close with? Well, there is a lot that people don't know about my personal life, and let's just say that emotions creep out in unexpected ways.
I have had a rough time, and I was particularly raw. I broke down in CB2, which I've renamed "Cry Baby 2." Carole was perfect in that situation. I am not a huge hugger, either, and I just needed to let it out.
I thought Carole’s election was cute. Those pigs in blankets were awesome, but then again I'm a massive Trader Joe's fan. Thank god she didn't tarnish her campaign with a hors d'oeuvres lie.
Heather is very inquisitive and likes to get deep quickly. She is just curious, concerned, and a little touchy feely at times. I believe it comes from a good place. I am just guarded and not always trusting. As Dorinda says, I'm a squirrel, so really fast moves make me run. Custody conversation is very personal, and I was just not there, nor will I probably ever be.
As far as Luann commenting on my departure, I was there an hour, which is probably the longest that I would ever spend at an apartment building election party. Luckily, I had school pickup.
So Sonja's party--Latino Show Magazine with her on the cover is pure comedy as a concept. She did look beautiful, though, and the photography was beautiful. It just seemed a little random--like me gracing the cover of Field and Stream.
Heather did fire a random shot at her though asking about Kmart. I was literally at Kmart yesterday, a store that I LOVE, but I didn't happen to notice any full-length, red evening gowns there. That was a little slap.
The caviar dinner was a shit stirrer. Luann has not been silent about her opinions this season. It's the anti-Countess...(a term that Bravo and the ladies will definitely adopt). Anyway, Luann definitely commented about Dorinda and John. But Ramona can be a meddler and loves to drive the getaway car while not getting dirty. Ramona definitely commented, as well, which she conveniently left out.
More to come on all of this.
P.S. Who cares who Dorinda dates? Since when do we bash people our friends are in love with or sleeping with?
I've been royally screwed over in relationships, but no one could have told me different. We go through our process our own way.
For all we know, John and Dorinda are soul mates. He is what she needs right now.

Xo B

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