Cast Blog: #RHONY

Sonja on Carole, Interns, and the Dangers of Social Media

Sonja calls Ramona out for stirring the pot, and feels for Carole -- while genuinely being happy for Aviva.

Hello again from Thailand my Bravo family!

First off, it is obvious Ramona is so happy to not be part of the #BookGate crossfire herself but she sure likes to stir the pot! LMAO. Ramona feels bad being the catalyst!!! When?!?

Oh my, I had no idea this thing had escalated to this level. I never saw Carole lose her self like that! Seeing them on the staircase, flinging insults, flipped my stomach. They were such good friends before. Love quickly turns to hate.

Ramona is like Cheshire Cat grinning like that. . . Again she is just happy to not be the one slinging arrows.

So sad to see Ramona planning her trip to Africa knowing what transpires later. She was so happy.

I love the way I blame everything on menopause. Can't use PMS all the time!

It is weird watching this scene how Heather is 100 percent behind Carole in BookGate while not having been at the lunch or the hallway brawl. She is feeling Carole's pain and going for it.

I had NO idea myself. I was feeling bad for Aviva because it was her party and she had put so much effort into getting the townhouse decorated in time after just moving in and hiring the caterer. Wrong place, wrong time once again for our group. We have a knack for that.

When we interview interns we try to scare them off. They think as Adrienne says "Fun?!" It's not fun! You missed some of the more serious parts of the interview because that's boring television. Everyone always asks me "Do your interns tweet for you?" No one emails, tweets, or posts anything without showing the final product to me. I write all my own material. They research hashtags and Twitter, fanpage, Instagram handles for me, and then insert them into my comments. On my blogs they insert sponsors or charity names, or designers so I can properly credit them. My newsletter and other forms of social media need constant editing.

For my showroom they study fashion trends and check in merchandise samples. Then the stylist interns pick up and drop off dresses and are in charge of spotting celebs and photographing us together to post on social media to highlight the designer who lends us the dresses. And we must do this first before all others to gather organic followers (after I approve it!). We do NOT buy followers.

My interns have gone on to work for Mariah Carey, Donatella Versace, Russell Simmons, and Donna Karan as assistants. They have gone to stores like Chanel (two presently), as well as Club Monaco, J. Crew, and others in management positions. OK enough about the famous, jet-setting interns who are my everything. Onto what else -- BookGate!

Actually BookGate aside, I am so happy for Aviva and her new book. She has a publisher and she wrote a book! She's sharing her story with others. It's liberating for her and helps others as well. You can see she is getting healthier. She is not even afraid of bugs anymore! Her phobias are melting away. I'm personally happy for her and can put our past aside. If she can help herself, I am happy to help her be her best.

Needless to say I'm impressed with Carole's writing skills and all her other talents. This BookGate is not about writing or books. It's deeper.

In the park with Kristen -- I'm also asking myself what happened to the close relationship Aviva had with Carole. Aviva said she was much closer to Carole then Ramona. So the sting is sharp.

Boy, Ramona can say that again. She and I did a lot more as teenagers than our daughters have. Our daughters are conservative. Or are they? I don't think they have us fooled -- like we had our mothers!? LOL! Our mothers had no idea!

I know what Ramona feels when she says Avery is her other arm. That's how I feel when I alternate the holidays with my ex and my daughter is with her Dad. I don't feel like I'm complete. It's like I'm missing my arm when I'm with the rest of my family for Thanksgiving or Christmas without my daughter. Sometimes I opt to be alone at home and order in. I can't take it. It's just too much for me. I'm a Pisces Moon and very sensitive, just like Ramona.

Here we are at Carole's baby shower. Eric Goldie VP of Social Media. I love it! There is so much that goes into social media. You can't just tweet what whatever you feel! You can be one tweet away from being fired or dumped by your best friend. Some people have no idea. I keep my brand ID in mind when posting across my social media platform at all times. What is my message? Carole said she pays Eric nothing. Doesn't that make him an intern? She said she wanted an intern like mine! Hers is pretty sweet.

The new old fashioned way of having kids? Who needs the sperm? Plenty of sperm out there. It's the eggs I need at my age right?

Carole's calling out Ramona on the pot stirring, and it is pretty funny. That horse left the barn a long time ago. But when Carole says there is no Carole/Aviva thing, she is wrong. This is Avivarola! It has a life of it's own now.

After Carole shares with Ramona her feelings and how it is for her, we see how important her work is to her identity. We feel her pain. Carole has so much to share. I hope she finds another love like she had with her husband.

I totally relate to Kristen at the Spartan Race. Waking to Pilates class is enough exercise sometimes. This is too intense. Sometime Ramona pushes me to work out military style. I don't like it! I knew Josh wasn't going to stay with Kristen. Why did he say he would? It's a competition. I've been in Kristen's situation, where I've been talked into something I shouldn't be doing in the first place. It doesn't feel good, but you have to finish on your own and grow. I take pride in getting through it on my own. Like Norma Kamali's OMO.

SPARTAN RACE

Oh dear, see you next week when you meet Amanda the image consultant. . .And you come to my Caburlesque charity event at the East Hampton Studio for LIGALY, a youth center in Long Island for the LGBT (and supporting artists). Many thanks to David Kilmnick for all he does. I also thank MC Hank Stampfl of Speakeasy Moderne for bringing all his performers and to Steve Carl of Carlyle off the Green for sponsoring Sonja In The City by donating props, food, wine, champagne, and for helping me create the cabaret-like intimate surroundings in a huge airplane hanger! We love challenges and it makes good TV while bringing attention to good causes!

Thanks for watching and I will catch you next week -- with Ben and Harry as well.

xo

Sonja

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Sonja: No Matter What I Do, I Cannot Win

Sonja talks about how hurt she is when she hears her fellow 'Wives talking about her. 

As I said in my last blog, I really felt ganged up on the last time I saw all the girls at the reunion. They seem to be coming up with strange comments out of nowhere, since we were fine when we wrapped last season, and I guested everyone at Jamie’s after the Le Cirque event (leg toss) and at the Sonja in the City Premiere Party when the show finally aired.

They were attacking me left and right about my businesses and the legal crisis I was dealing with that resulted from when I was a movie producer. I had to deal with this all while going through my divorce and no support from my ex.

Lu and Ramona have shut me out since their significant other troubles.

Dorinda says she’s never been to Ramona’s country house. As we saw in the last episode, Ramona has never been to Dorinda’s houses either. So this is a new, fast and furious friendship?! It’s like Ramona would talk to her hairdresser before me. Anyone but me, who really knows her. 

In fact, this is the first time Ramona’s moved me out of the bedroom I always stay in no matter how many guests. I was trying to be understanding, because I know Dorinda is new to the group, but that doesn’t change the fact that Ramona is definitely demonstrative in pushing me away. I don’t care what an ass I’m acting like. Who does that?

I have spent so many celebrations at the country house with Ramona, Mario, and her daughter. So she doesn’t have to feel that she can’t talk to me. Every time I bring up something that I feel is relatable between us, as fancy or flighty as it may sound when I mention these, it IS common ground for us. She just continues to ignore me, so I keep trying even harder to get her attention by bringing up more examples of what I have gone through that is similar to what she is going through. No matter what I try, I am seemingly talking to a wall. Not a good look I might add!

Dorinda brought up the fact that I live in a big house, after I brought up lower maintenance being nice. She moved from a huge apartment with her daughter to a much smaller apartment. That’s when I gave the examples of how I am scaling down. But, I’m not willing to give up my main home and the outdoors that I get with a house, because I already gave up my country house. It seems like my idea to keep my main house is upsetting the girls, and I do not understand why they are so focused. 

What adds to everything else is that Ramona apologizes to Lu for not understanding what she has been through, having not walked in her shoes till now. Yet, she hasn’t discussed this with me. She would always give me very harsh advice, saying how I wouldn’t be divorced if I did all the things she’d done in her marriage and family life. I wish she could have paid the same respect to me.

That’s exactly why I didn’t have her over when I took down my husband’s portrait. I felt Luann understood better, that no matter how well things are going, marriages do fall apart. It’s not the wife’s fault alone. This divorce should be bringing us closer, as it is with her former nemesis Luann, but Ramona just chooses not to let this happen. I don’t want to say, “I told you so.” I just want to maintain our close relationship no matter what happens.

When the psychic in Morocco said Mario was cheating on Ramona, I started crying, because I was afraid when Avery went away to school that it could happen. It does happen!  I care about Ramona very much, and I didn’t want her to go through what I’ve been through. How can she forget how sensitive I have been to her issues? I don’t really feel like she is letting me in when she is so easy to let others in, such as Lu and Dorinda. 

This gets my hair up on my back and causes me to try to get her attention even more. She says to Dorinda I’ve been on the offensive, but I feel like I’ve been playing more of a defensive role. Because of the comments she used to make to Lu and me about why we were divorced when she had the perfect marriage, perfect everything, I am acting this way. Having said that, I do seem very self-absorbed, but I wouldn’t say I’m more self-absorbed than anyone else in our group! I think I really have a thorn in my side at this point.

We see Ramona having déjà vu at the bar at Lu’s, and of course I’m sitting right next to her having mutual admiration in her flashback. That was then! I’m missing that give and take relationship. We used to interrupt each other interrupting like Abbot and Costello. There was no stopping us from getting a word in. Now I just seem to be talking to myself. It just makes me question why she is so unhappy with me.

Then you see me trying to break up the fight between Heather and Aviva in the flashback. I can’t help thinking that if Aviva were still here, then the heat would be on her, instead of me! Is that mean? Or am I just feeling like the whipping boy? LOL!

It makes me feel uncomfortable that the girls are counting my money and accusing me of pretending.

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I’m really shocked when Heather tells Carole in the ride out to the Hampton’s, that I am bull sh---ing people that I was a millionaire when I was 25 years old. I have never said anything like that. She already knows that I’ve been working and making my own money since I was 14 years old and invested in my properties with and without my ex. So, again, I feel like these comments are coming out of nowhere and with no basis. She knows how hard I have worked in the garment industry and in fashion retail since we have that in common. She knows nothing was handed to me. We had that mutual respect before. It makes me feel uncomfortable that the girls are counting my money and accusing me of pretending.

At the reunion I threw out a comment about P. Diddy being a friend, because I thought Heather was BSing too much when she was dropping the names of celebrities that she knew through business. However, I’m no stranger to dropping names either, since I make a living off my contacts. It was a heated moment, and I guess she’s having a moment of some type with me now. I was also very upset last year that she said my relationship with Harry wasn’t real. I can tell you it is very real, for both of us. 

I also don’t understand why Luann can talk about the big house in Bridgehampton she had with her husband, and I can’t talk about my yacht. I have fond memories on the yacht with family and friends. I’m not living in the past. I am very much in the moment and planning my future.  

For Ramona to say to Dorinda that I am in denial is very strange. Ramona knows better than anyone that every day I deal with the bottom line, which is frankly about the dollars and cents. I have been extremely active in protecting my assets, and I am fully advised by professionals. Many couples have remarried their divorced spouses once they settle their division of assets because of this very reason. It’s always about the money. That’s why Lu and Ramona are scaling down. No one who knows business wants to give up their real estate. You never make money selling. Only buying more. Real Estate is an investment and used as leverage. 

Ramona tells Bethenny several times that she is single. She has told me this, too, but the second I say that she is divorcing, she gets mad at me. I really can’t win. I can’t say she’s Italian, even though she was married into an Italian family and lived with her mother-in-law for 10 years, because that got her angry, too. It was an innocent mistake, yet Ramona was so sensitive about it.

BTW, when Ramona told Bethenny to breathe, it reminded me of Morocco with Alex McCord. Talk about a déjà vu!

Lu’s son is so wonderful. He’s very polite and kind. He showed me his carriage house,and it really is perfect, and he is so proud of it! I’m happy to have gotten to know him over the years. I have had dinner with Adam Kentworthy and the family when he was dating Lu’s niece Nicole. Now that he’s the chef, he is definitely off limits! Carole is a sucker for attractive men! So I wonder, what will happen there?

We see Lu’s son is drinking out of a mason jar. I love to serve beer in them with lemon and ice like in England, as Dorinda would say. I once again can’t win. I bring my own beer, which is down to earth, and now I am accused of not being Lady Morgan-like. Previously in this episode, I am being accused of not being down to earth. I really feel I’m being picked on and shut out. No matter what I do, I cannot win.

Tune in next week to see how this “docudrama” unfolds. I think you will be very surprised. What a bunch we are!

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