Alexis, You are so classy. I totally respect you for your views, and not picking sides. It is tough watching two of your close friends not get along- and as sweet of a person you are, you want them to mend their friendship. I love you for standing up to that girl at the party. I would have done the same!! You are an awesome addition to the housewives crew! You and your hubby seem like true, genuine people. You are gorgeous!! I need some of your beauty secrets- lol.

Hi alexis, I noticed that dress and love it and was looking for it on the internet, doing searches. I watched the episode a second time and noticed the hem when you sat down and thought to myself "Did she make that dress hersel". I can't wait for the surprise. xo!

What valid points does Tamra have against Gretchen? Someone needs to tell that woman that she was completely out of line with her actions and words. None of her "friends" will, how is she ever going to learn? Wait until she turns on you and everyone says that you both have valid points.

Hi Alexis, I was happy to see you stand to the girl who was friendly with your husband, not because I thought she was really over the top (I didn't), but because week after week I watch you taking the high road and although that is great, it was a breath of fresh air to see you just act instictually before you got all "in your head" and filtered everything. I was also glad to see you not getting between Gretchen and Tamra, now the challange will be staying neautral...goooood luck with that. Blessings to you and your family.

Alexis, I totally agree with how you handled the women at the Tupperware Party. She must have wanted some air time or something. You handled yourself perfectly. I liked how you actually listened to her and then made your valid points. I also liked how you listened to your husband two times in the show and received his good advise. Very strong couple! You make this show (or at least your time on air) a positive experience for the viewers at home. I wish you and yours the best.

Wish the viewers could have seen some of the antics at the Tupperware party because to us it looked unprovoked. She looked like a deer in headlights. That did seem out of character for you. Good idea to stay out of the feud, although you were right, there are three sides to every story and the truth is somewhere between Gretchen and Tamra version. I did think Jim should have been more supportive of you at the races, you were trying to be a good friend.

Alexis, It saddens me to see you "defend your man". He is a grown man and does not need to be defended. It only makes you look insecure and dependent on him for your self esteem. Let him step up and handle the situation, or not, and then the two of you can discuss it in private. If your husband is not stepping up, it is HIS fault, not the other lady's. Be the classy lady you know how to be, not a howling fishwife! If you can remember that you are the prize, you can stay on the high road and you will be even more appealing to your husband and all men everywhere!

I've never blog before, but just had to put in my 2 cents. I couldn't help but think you came off a little defensive. You are quite right that the girl had no right to invade your husbands space. However, he should be the one to tell her to back off, and that she is making him uncomfortable. He doesn't seem to hold his tongue any other time. You will not always be there to defend him or help him. Also, I believe that the girl was not challenging you by asking you to go outside, but probably wanted to speak with you away from the cameras and everyone else. If you are secure in your marriage, then there is nothing for you to worry about.

Read Jill's blog. You need help, especially if you think your husband #1 needs you to keep the girls away and #2 think anyone would go after him and invade his space. There is never a time - if the marriage is secure - that a wife should need to jump into a situation at all.

Check - double check, problems here are behind the closed doors..............for now; right Tamara.

Jim strikes me as a very capable, in control man...certainly capable enough to have handled that situation on his own and w/o you putting yourself (and him) in the position you did. You should have taken your cue from him, which you did not and, consequently, you put everyone in a most uncomfortable situation which did not reflect at all well on you.

Why do you feel the need to "protect" your husband? If he was uncomfortable, then he could have left the room....walked away, etc. You did say that he did that. I don't see the point in getting in that woman's face. Sorry, I must be missing something

I must say honestly Alexis when you first came on the show i really was not sure how i was going to feel about you..but i must say each week i like you more and more. I think you are an intelligent beautiful women and seem like a great mother and wife! I loved when you stood up to that girl at Gretchen's party i was like yeah you tell her! lol It's obvious you are such a genuine person and i admire you and can't wait to see more of you this season and hopefully in future seasons!

You are going to push your husband away if you have more jealous outbursts like you did last week.

Alexis, regardless of how you explain the blow up at the Tupperware party, you were out of line. It DID remind me of high school, and I think Mel's request to "step outside" was merely to speak in private...I think you really felt offended, but you were off base! Not classy at all!

I am a Jamaican, and i watch the show quite often I must say that you are a breath of fresh air. You remind me of we Jamaica girls when it comes to our man we do not play

All I have to say is Alexis you were ON POINT about the whole “back off your husband” feud at Gretchen's Tupperware party. That lady Mel needed to be put in place, and you put her there PERFECTLY and CONFIDENTLY! And for Gretchen’s other friend who made the comment about “her husband isn’t even hot or cute.” …or whatever she said. Really? She needs to stop hating on you and Jim and stay out of it. Alexis you are beautiful and I admire you and Jim’s relationship, and all that you do to take care of yourself. Stay close, continue to communicate with one another, continue to keep God as the Head of your marriage and “no weapon formed against you shall prosper!” Alexis you are so beautiful women will hate you out of pure jealousy (including all the other housewives (except Lynne:-)--so watch them), and men will hate Jim for his success as a businessman. You have the most important element of your marriage and that is that you both put Christ 1st! Stay encouraged in raising your beautiful family and don’t get caught up in the DRAMA. Enjoy your lifestyle, but never take it for granit how blessed you are, but more importantly, Who it comes from. God bless you!

Alexis, I love you! You're gorgeous, and you're very fit! I do agree, it wasn't right that Gretchen's friend was all up on your husband when she said she had a 1 year old and a finace at home.

Don't worry about Gretchen and Tamra's long going feud. They've been fighting ever since last year. I think you should stay out if it, and just hang out with them both, because we've all seen they can be civil when they're with the other housewives.

Don't worry, I love Tamra and Gretchen both equally too!

xoxo

All I have to say is Alexis you were ON POINT about the whole “back off your husband” feud at Gretchen’s Tupperware party. That lady Mel needed to be put in place, and you put her there PERFECTLY and CONFIDENTLY! And for Gretchen’s other friend who made the comment about “her husband isn’t even hot or cute.” …or whatever she said. Really? She needs to stop hating on you and Jim and stay out of it. Alexis you are beautiful and I admire you and Jim’s relationship. Stay close, continue to communicate with one another, continue to keep God as the Head of your marriage and “no weapon formed against you shall prosper!” Alexis you are so beautiful women will hate you out of pure jealousy (including the other housewives (except Lynne--so watch them), and men will hate Jim for his success as a businessman. You have the most important element of your marriage and that is that you both put Christ 1st! Stay encouraged in raising your beautiful family and don’t get caught up in the DRAMA. Enjoy your life, but never take it for granted, and more importantly never forget Who gave it to you. God bless you!

I love how Classy you are and how you stated how you felt about the whole gretchen and tamra situation very nuetral yet loving you are such a wonderful role model as a mother beautiful, healthy, god fearing, and loving a perfect mesh and I wish all the best for you and your family

I love how Classy you are and how you stated how you felt about the whole gretchen and tamra situation very nuetral yet loving you are such a wonderful role model as a mother beautiful, healthy, god fearing, and loving a perfect mesh and I wish all the best for you and your family

I love how Classy you are and how you stated how you felt about the whole gretchen and tamra situation very nuetral yet loving you are such a wonderful role model as a mother beautiful, healthy, god fearing, and loving a perfect mesh and I wish all the best for you and your family

I am not sure if my last comments made it on here so I will place it again. I stated that you acted as a wife should. It is people that are raise with morals and values that keep the meaning of marriage alive. I have done the same thing as you when I was put into that position. You have shown anyone that watches the show what a family is. You follow what God has stated a wife and mother is to be. I think it is great that you raise your children in the church to show them it is very important. I love that you do not go on trips without each other. My husband and I do not even go to a bar without each other. It is not that we do not trust but we enjoy each other. KUDOS to you!! I have found that when you walk in the steps that God has shown us then you are fulfilled in your life not matter how much money you make. As for the steps you take for your friends I think it is wonderful. I think your husband and you are good to be on the show. You are my favorite and people should learn from you what a family really is. Thank-you!!!!

I think you a true inspiration and amazing- you know how to keep the peace and have an amazing relationship with your husband. You should write a book! :) Please stay on the show!

Alexis,

I love to watch you and your husband, hope to see more of the family in coming episodes.

You are right about respecting each others personal space, especially if one is married. Stand up and fight for your husband. I would have done the same. I realize that the show is edited and Jim seems like a controlling husband. In the real world though, if your husband is going out working hard for the life style, then he should be treated like a King. Women need to realize that certain things should be done to keep your husband and marriage happy.

Alexis, stay true to God, your husband, children, and yourself. God Bless!

Hey Just had to tell you that I just took the which housewife are you most like quiz, and I was you!!! Couldn't be prouder than to have answered questions like you. My husband and kids are my life too, but I do like to take care of myself and look great!!! Love watching you. Think you are a class act!! Kepp it up

Alexis,

Just wanted to say that I agree with you confronting that girl Mel. I knew you couldn't react that way without seeing something inappropriate. And I agree that she wouldn't have acted so defensively if she was totally innocent. If a wife ever said something to me about crossing a boundary with her husband, and I truly didn't mean to, I would be falling over myself apologizing.

However, I do think your husband should have supported you a little more. Women have an intuition when it comes to flirting and if you sensed something he should have backed you up 100 percent.

You are by far my favorite on the show! I think that you handled the situation at the party very well. I'm married too and I know how it feels to be in that situation. It makes you and your husband feel uncomfortable. It would be nice if other women would realize that married men are off limits and some boundaries to need to be kept. It's okay to chat and be friendly but keep it at that!

Your husband needs an attitude adjustment. He talks to you, not like an equal, but like a dictator who knows all. Just watch the footage from last night's show when you're talking with Gretchen about her problems with Tamra. He keeps interrupting you while you're trying to make your point. Why? Does he want a show on BRAVO too? This is a bit much. You may find that having a little space works too.

As a proud New Jersey resident, I found it necessary to say that we don't brawl as you mentioned in the limo in reference to being asked to step outside by Mel. There are many parts of every state both good AND bad and the same holds true for California.

I like you your a down to earth chick. The way you are towards your family and friends is truly genuine. I think you and Gretchen are going to make this show because you both have your own personalities. You say what you mean and your not afraid to back it up. I know your husband proud he got a good woman you both bring out the best in each other you can tell. I liked when you checked that woman she was wrong and that's that.Keep doing what your doing.

Alexis, I think you mean add years to your life, not take away!

Hm, that reaction to the other woman was a bit much, no? If that were me and my husband, I'd probably give her a bit of a dirty look, but I'm confident enough in our relationship and the fact that he really does only have eyes for me that I wouldn't need to throw down with the flirter. Going over and sitting next to him, holding his hand... that would be enough to get my point across and staying classy.

I loved it! I'm glad you stood up to her. Women need to back off when a mans married. I think alot of single women don't care. I've been married for 14 years with two kids. i've done the same and so has my husband! so you go girl! Denver , Colorado

I do not feel you over reacted at all towards MEL. A woman has an instinct when something is not right. This holds true when it comes to our children as well as our husbands or partners.I have found from my own experiance that a women flirting with your husband has nothing to do with how atractive he is(sorry Jim :))but has more to do with how atractive and or happy the wife is. I think women are very competetive and when they see an atractive women with a man they wonder if they are as ='y atractive. So they test this by trying to get the man's attention and if they succeed in any way(even if the attenion is innocent and oblivious to your man)they feel they have won! Sad isn't it. So if this is not the reason for their flirtation then its that they want what you have.JOY! God Bless!!!!

Alexis, you were right to talk to that lady about getting close to your husband guard your territory.Some women can be so sneaky they have to be watched closely.I cant wait to hear about the surprise of the orange dress its pretty and it looks like it's custom made.It's good not to take sides of the drama that goes on between Gretchen and Tamra, like you hubby said stay out of it. I see on next weeks show where you try to get them together good luck. You are a piecemaker and thats good but this one is a challenge.

"Laughing is said to take years off your life if you do it regularly."

I am sure you didn't mean to say this. This is portraying laughing as a negative.

Alexa, I love that you have joined the housewives but your husband seems a bit controlling and you are always shutting up when he has something to say. That is sad. Be your own person and speak your mind.

Alexis, I think you're sweet and have a good head on your shoulders. One thing though: I think at the end of this blog you meant to say 'laughing is said to ADD YEARS to your life" instead of 'take years off." It's true, laughter prolongs your life.

Silly girl! :)

i went 2 non denominational church in florida and it was actually da best church i ever went 2. it was similar 2 da one u went 2.

Where did you get your purple shirt/dress that you interview a lot in with the slits on the side? Love it have to have one.

Alexis, I don't blame you for feeling upset over Mel at the tupperware party. You handled yourself well and made complete sense. She seemed a bit loopy and sounded as if she was slurring her words. You did the right thing! You seem like a great person and a great mom!

We love your clothes. I wish you would keep a clothes blog like Jill Zarin.

You go Alexis! You were 100% correct from what I saw. If Mel wasn't up on Jim inappropriately, she totally would have blew you off and said that you were crazy. She tried to explain her behind off that Jim was pushing up on her not the other way around. Plus, the other chick who was standing there agreed with you. And how about the other funny looking chick, saying Jim isn't a catch. Yeah whatever, hun, The first chance to get with him, they'd all take it. They know how you're living and would love to step in your shoes. I love that you kept it real! After all, even our Jesus put the money changers and the Pharisees & Sadduces in their places!

Hi Alexis, Wow the claws came out now I know not to get on your bad side (LOL) in the words of the late Tammy Wynette "stand by your man". well at least jim made the effort of getting away from Mel. but some women are BOLD and have no shame pursuing a married man. I had to laugh at Gretchen when she said to you that "Mel snuck out the back door and she was afraid of you" but yet Mel asked you "if you want to go outside". too funny. your doing great and looking forward to the next episode.

Who was the guy next to Alexis in the Limo? Was that her husband?

Alexis, I loved the lipstick you wore at the tupperware party. Can you please give me details about it. thanks

Alexis I don't blame you for telling Mel to back off of your husband. I don't feel it was done out of jealousy. When a woman is just talking to a man, especially a married one, there is no reason for her to be in his personal space. I find it completely disrespectful to the man, the marriage and to his wife. She states that she has a 1yr old baby and a fiance', if that is the case then why is she so intent on being around YOUR husband. She should be with her fiance' and in his personal space. Not out getting drunk and acting like a "hootchie mama"

hi,

i was just wondering where you got that necklace and hair clips that you wore on the show during the tupperware party...they are so pretty i want them!! =)

i think she meant take away years as in look younger and more vibrant

Love the show

Alexis, If it means anything to you, I believe you did the right thing when it came to Mel. I would have been a lot more blunt if it were my husband but I totally agree; she should have respected your husbands personal space and atleast had the decency to properly say, "I'm sorry." Or better yet, "I am sorry, that was not my intention." and then left it at that.