Alexis Bellino

Alexis talks Tamra's Bunco party, rules to a healthy relationship, working out and more!

on Dec 3, 20090

 

Tamra's Bunco party was sooo much fun! I just LOVE games! Every Thanksgiving and Christmas since I was 12 year old, my family has played cards, poker, pictionary, balderdash ... etc. So I guess it was a given that I would have a good time at Bunco! And when you put M&Ms at every table, you KNOW it's going to get crazy! LOL. That party was especially fun because of the sweet, fun girls there. Tamra has some GREAT friends! AND on top of all of that, I got to meet Quinn and Tammy for the first time!

My husband saying he'd never let me go to Greece alone totally turns me on! The truth of the matter is I would never respect a man that would wish me to travel wherever, whenever I want. Our understanding of marriage is mutual. The rules that apply to one, apply to the other. The point is, I would never want or be willing to send him to Greece without me either. Jim and I have a very happy, healthy, "no gray area" marriage. A few blogs ago, I limited our rules of our marriage to SEVEN rules to save time; but here are some more rules we choose to live by:

1. We don't vacation alone, excluding quick 2 day business or family trips where circumstances do not allow the other to come.

2. We have all passwords to emails, Facebook and cell phones.

3. There are no double standards in our marriage. What applies to one, applies to the other. It would much easier to allow your significant other to do what they want when they want, so in turn YOU can then do what you want when you want, but Jim and I feel we'd rather have no double standards. It's definitely harder, but it's our way.

 

59 comments
Jen Cooper
Jen Cooper

A Christian family that walks the talk. THANK YOU!

Jim is Armenian, and having known some Armenians they are very devout Christians. For those Christians who don't know their Christian history, and I would urge all Christians to please study Christian history, but Armenians are the first state to accept Christianity, and are the oldest people to follow the way of GOD and Jesus Christ.

I don't know if Alexis was a Christian prior to meeting Jim, nevertheless she is a Christian now. I love that they follow the word of the Bible. Alexis is a great housewife, a great mother and a great Christian. Jim is a great husband and takes care of his family like a man should. They follow their gender roles as they should, yet have great respect for each-other.

Thank you Jim and Alexis for setting a good Christian example, we need more Christians like you.

ELLA
ELLA

FINALLY! A real Christian Woman that has a healthy relationship on housewives. So may Hen's on the show say they are Christian and are so not living a good example. I am a single mom-I enjoy watching the show when my baby's napping. I am happy you are on the show. You speak you're mind, have morals, and TELL Vicky and all the other Hen's what's up and keep it REAL! YOU are soo Pretty-I am a long distance competive runner(with baby),I am glad you are showing everyone that being at at home mom and taking care of family AND self is priority! Can't wait to see you next season!!

Shoshannah
Shoshannah

Thanks so much for talking about your working out. I myself am like you, I only run 3 miles 4 days a week and 5 miles 2 days a week and take tons of classes at the gym. I love to try new workout routines too, and you are my inspiration to stay motivated at what I'm doing. I have had friends ask me how I do it, and I can't explain anything except that working out makes me feel good, due to stress relief and "me" time. Again thank you for sharing. I think you marriage is one I hope to model in my life when I get married. I agree that people can take the easy road by letting their spouse do as they please and turning a blind eye in a sense. I think u are truly blessed with your family and life, I'm glad you joined the cast of the O.C. housewives.

R
R

people - i'm pretty sure you can be armenian but not have an armenian last name... my husband is also about 75% armenian but has a last name.. chill out

Lauren
Lauren

If your husband is Armenian why is your last name Bellino? That sounds more Italian to me.

Morgan Shea
Morgan Shea

Alexis I love that necklace your husband got you with your children's names. Where can I order one? It is amazing and special! I won't be able to get all the diamonds, but I would love to see if I can get one.

AJC
AJC

Alexis, I think you are a fabulous addition to the Housewives. It's amazing that you are so open with your faith; it's refreshing to see that religion is such an important part of your family's life and that you and Jim are not afraid to talk about it. Thank you for sharing your workout routine. Would you mind giving us an example of your diet?

Caitlin
Caitlin

I wasn't too sure about you when I first started watching, but after reading your blog and how you responded to Jill's statements about your husbad, you have my vote!! How classy and non-confrontational. Now if only some of your castmates could jump on bored.

KRR
KRR

As someone who is going through a divorce and can look back at the mistakes that were made by both parties, I applaud your relationship and your commitment to the rules you two have set for each other. In my next relationship, if I'm lucky enough to find someone I want to share my life with, I plan on having a similar set of rules. I think that is what makes your relationship so successful. There is no guessing of what your expectations of each other are, it is written in black and white. I don't know if you read all your comments but I hope you know what an inspiration you and Jim are for me and my hopes in my next relationship. I am looking forward to watching and learning more. Kelly

Me
Me

Rochw, Thank you to your family and your husband for serving our country, however, I dont think that you can include your relationship in what she was saying. That is what works for their relationship, so i dont think you should get so offended by what she was saying. What works for her relationship doesnt necessarily apply to your relationship. Try not to get so offended.

ROCHW
ROCHW

I am kinda laughing at the thought of not spending a single day without my husband - I live in San Clemente and my husband is a Marine, he's been gone on deployment for 7 months. Being away from him isn't exactly a choice, but we do it and because we spend so much time apart definitely doesn't mean our relationship isn't strong. In fact, I think it may be a little stronger than most if we're able to weather the separations, the reunions, the times of worry, the births of our children, etc with such a distance between us.

When you strip away everything - the money, the houses, the cars -and you're left with just you and your husband and the feelings you have for one another, how does it make you feel knowing your marriage would never survive what mine does everyday? Sending him off and waiting for him, loving him, loving our children, being faithful, carrying the weight of running the household, and then being able to flip it around again when he comes home, now that's a strong marriage.

I Luv HW OC
I Luv HW OC

I think you are definitely an exciting addition to the show!!!

Violet
Violet

Hi Alexis, I really enjoy you on the show. Thanks for sharing your workout. You look great! What is your diet like?

JFann
JFann

I'm so glad you're on the show! I love you and your family and you make the show fun to watch again!

Lynn5202
Lynn5202

No two marriages are the same. If it works for you and your husband then why change it. As long as you two are happy then that's all that matters! Glad you joined the cast, can't wait to see what happens next!

Dannygirl
Dannygirl

You are the best addition to the housewives and you are DROP DEAD GEORGEOUS!!!! Marriage intact, keep on trucking girlfriend...keep it up. You are hot and all the others are just jealous.

T.T
T.T

My husband and i have the same rules of our marriage!! He spoils the heck out of me too and I dont let him in my kitchen! Many people we know are jelous of us cause we are so in love and i think that the old school ways of man and wife are very important... so many women want too much help from the husbands in the household in turn the men dont do what they should for their wives..maybe that why the divorce rate in this country. P.s. my husband is also armenian! lol.

From One Mother to Another
From One Mother to Another

Hi, Alexis!

I've only seen you once on the Housewives of OC; I am late on watching my shows. Such is the life of a busy mom.

Anyway, the only time I've seen you, there was a scene in your kitchen where one of your nannies was peeling a fruit in front of your daughter's high chair. She put the sharp knife down on your daughter's high chair, right in front of her. I saw that you were attending to your son, so you might not have seen this.

Just wanted you to know. I am sure as a concernd mom, you would not want a sharp knife within reach of your young child.

JW
JW

Just a quick, if off the cuff, question: I love your kitchen chairs (I believe they are ice blue??).

Could you possibly let me know where you got those? I have looking for something similar for several months.

Thanks so much,

Stephanie57
Stephanie57

I love the show! The OC girls are my fave..

Too bad your hubby didn't mention how many carats were in your necklace. ;)

blackbeauty
blackbeauty

Alexis, I am so happy they added you to the Housewives cast! And as far as the relationship between you and your husband that is none of anyone's business. He not abusing you and as a matter of fact he appears to treat you like Royalty, so shush to the haters.

I like the way you handle the critism of your husband and the other critisms people have. You are a true lady.

LoriL
LoriL

So glad to see you on the Housewives. You are fun to watch without all of the exhausting drama and complications. Keep on keeping it simple!

Cindy07
Cindy07

I think you are awesome and I totally agree with your marriage deal. My husband and I have the same deal.

I think your a great addition to the show and def my Fav...I also love Jeana but she had to leave which I totally respect her for attending to her personal needs.

I wish you the best of luck with this crazy at times catty woman. I know you will hold your own as you've been doing oh so well with.

ChristianaCA
ChristianaCA

Your my Favorite Housewife! Thank God they put a couple like you and Jim on this show. You and your husband are awesome I am sure you will face criticism because you put God out there. Non believers just don't get it so put it behind you. Your the prettiest inside and out on this show and I look forward to watching you show people how marriage is supposed to be. God Bless!

Christiana

*NaYoMiE*
*NaYoMiE*

************************************************* ~~ ((Alexis))~~ It has been Fun watching you, as you Joined the O.C. Click... You seem like a FaBulouS Hot-Mama & you Have A beautiful Family. All respect to your Marriage and Rules, ONLY you know BEST * ~~> Aside from you Being SuPeR GeorguS & So Adorable, Never let ANY of the Other "Gals" bring you Down, in the End they Would ONLY be "Jealous" of YOU and YOURS! =)

Take Care & Have Fun "Filming" the { SHOW }!!! XOXO

amyluvsthehouswives
amyluvsthehouswives

Alexis,

You appear to have a wonderful life. I do agree there appears to be trust issues and your husband seems to be overly concerned about what he provides you and your family-maybe a little of "keeping up with the Joneses". The necklace he gave you was beautiful, but really-how many time did he have to repeat "7 carats". It really took away from what should have been a very touching moment in my opinion. Good luck to you, but I also agree you should consider a part-time career....just in case.

Lori Levy
Lori Levy

To rfg811- Jim is ARMENIAN, not Italian. What does his nationality have to do with this anyway? My husband is Italian and not controlling at all. He is sweet, dotes on me and makes ME dinner. Go Alexis-whatever you are doing, it looks like you are happy.

BK
BK

Alexis, I love you too! You are my favorite, by far, and I agree with everyone else that you are inspiring in many ways. Thanks so much.

JJ in Ny
JJ in Ny

I believe you are happy but all the rules would generally indicate to me there is a trust issue. This may not be the case but from face value I would think that. I also believe women should be more independent these days. What if your marriage does fall apart one day? What will you have to fall back on? Just something to think about. Perhaps think about taking some night classes. Wish you all the best.

J.So
J.So

Bunco is a girls night out... duh!

g.
g.

Alexis, no need to be defensive about your marriage. I am foreign and will tell you that staying in shape for your husband, treating him like a King, and being truly appreciative of the things he does is the way to keep your man and maintain a healthy relationship. The two of you have one of the most healthy relationships I've seen on reality television, the reason all of these women are criticizing is because, despite the fact that they are in tension-filled, strained marriages, they'd rather stick to what they want than try something different (and correct).

When you've been doing things backward for so long, as some of your critics have, it's hard to recognize something healthy. They've gotten to the point where the sickness feels like the cure!

rfg811
rfg811

ROOTS,,,,,,,I think Jim Bellino is Italian

b
b

Wow, this is the first blog I have read that is honest and not catty. Great explanation on the secrets to your happy marriage and keep doing what works best for you both. You are a breath of fresh air to the show. You are clearly confident in who you are and your marriage. You are my new favorite;)

Debbie V
Debbie V

I have to say, that i am sooo happy that the OC wives finally have another very beautiful and interesting wife.You have alot to offer the show, i don't feel your husband is always in control. it does come with the territory of a business man. I am hoping you consider writing a book one day, on fitness and your great eating habits. you are an inspiration to many mothers, and i see how you have the home in control i love it!

OC Fan
OC Fan

I think you and your family are a great addition. The marriage stuff... If it floats your boat, then great. Nothing else matters. It does make me laugh that you are dishing out advice after a whopping 4 years of marriage. I guess in CA that is a lifetime. lol. Talk to me when you are out of the honeymoon phase...

RG
RG

I don't know about your marriage rules. If it works for you, great, but I think having some privacy and along/away time is pretty healthy.

Kelly Ann from TX
Kelly Ann from TX

You are beautiful, direct and the true meaning of what a "Housewife" in the upper crust should be... You and your husband have brought values to the table that many have put to the side. He provides a lifestyle, home and luxuries 99.9% of this world only dream of.... I commend you on staying in shape and taking care of yourself to not only make him happy but set the standard for your kids. That is a full time job! I love that you and your husband have no secrets! That leads to a much healthier marriage when it is all out in the open...I have read the above posts and must say, I can sense a tad bit of insecurity in a few of them...Very sad ladies... I am glad you are on the show and a pleasure to watch.

LynnNChicago
LynnNChicago

Alexis, continuing to love you on the show! Hopefully you won't take Jill's concerns to heart, Jill is awsome and tells it like she sees it, everyone's relationships are different and if you're happy, that is the main thing, are you happy?

I do see her point, it seems like you're first concern is keeping fit and trim and looking beautiful just for him, what about what you want? Would he criticize or possibly leave you if you gained some weight or failed to have your nails done? He seems to criticize you when you do take care of yourself as well so what gives? I also want to be with my husbans all the time but that doesn't mean that we also can't have some alone time, or time with the girls, even a weekend trip away from your husband can refresh and even spark a marriage.

Another viewer
Another viewer

You're my favorite housewife!! I wish they would show more of you & your life! Really admire how disciplined you are about staying in shape, it's very inspiring. And you're sooo beautiful! I think your marriage rules are wonderful. Those are rules in my marriage as well.

Lori Levy
Lori Levy

Alexis, you are beautiful, sweet, happy and unpretentious! Jill is right, she is the complete opposite of you! LOL. Keep being sweet and let the haters see what holding your head high is all about!!

mmc
mmc

Love the rules, mine are similar and I've been married for 43 years . It's not always easy, it takes work, but he is still my best friend.I don't like when he uses my kitchen, but I have to say he's gotten neater through the years and I'm not quite as obsessive compulsive.So you see, sometimes oil and water can mix!

Roots
Roots

Alexis - I told my wife that Jim is Armenian the instant he spoke his mind. I'm sure there are a lot of viewers that will label Jim as narrow minded, old fashioned, and so on, but I'm glad you are on the same page with Jim and other respectul individuals in this world...I'm sure you will do fine in passing it on to your kids.

UrFan
UrFan

What a great personality!!!! Love youuuuu!!!!! You are already my fav RH from OC!!!!! Welcome to the showwww!!!!! :)

Enid
Enid

Alexis, you are so adorable. Dont listent to all negativity from all the others out there, I am actually shocked Jill wrote such a negative comment towards you....I thought she was much cooler than that....oh well, she must be just a bit jealous of your looks. Keep up with being a good wife to your husband...it is great to see someone willing to stand up for all of us women who actually LOVE being wives and appreciate our husbands point of views. Trust me, going on a trip without your husband sounds pretty pathetic anyway, if you ask me. It is sad to see so many women look forward to getting away from their men. That is sad. YOu are awesome, I am glad you are on the show.

Alexis Fan
Alexis Fan

Thanks for sharing your workout with us. What do you eat to keep you slim and trim? You have a great sense of self and good morals. I enjoy watching you on T.V..

sophiekay
sophiekay

Hmmm.. lots of rules here I must say.. As long as you are happy with your husband that is all that matters. However, I think the number one requirement for a marriage is trust. I travel frequently alone with sisters and girlfriends and my husband hunts regularily and goes on trips with the guys and it has never occurred to me or my husband that we should be concerned as we trust each other explicitly...

KD
KD

So far, so good! Am loving you and your family! Your rules sound EXACTLY like mine and my husband's! It's important to stay strong and realize what works for you and your relationship. I think it's insane when people act like my hubby and I are crazy b/c we don't have "boy's night out" or "girl's night out", among other things! Your rules are obviously working, so keep it up! Good luck, remember not to get involved in the bs the other will likely try to create! Nobody likes a pretty, happy woman in a good marriage, lol!

Jessica56
Jessica56

Love you on the show! What is your diet? Do you ever cheat on it??

Evette
Evette

Please Don't Change!

Ayana
Ayana

Alexis, you ROCK! You have the life I aspire to have. You and your family and values are just beautiful. I wish you continued success and happiness. What a breath of fresh air you are!