Alexis Bellino

Alexis gives her take on the slumber party, the psychic readings, and the TP prank!

on Jan 17, 20100

 

Hello to you all! I have to start off by saying we must all pray for the people in Haiti. This is yet another catastrophic event that has happened to such a delicate, fragile country. If you want to donate and do not know how to make a small donation that can help in such a BIG way to this country, simply text "haiti" to the number 90999 on your cell phone and $10 will immediately be added to your phone bill with all proceeds going to the relief efforts in Haiti. You can confirm this info on redcross.org.

With that said, it makes blogging right now seem so trivial, and boy does it keep things in perspective for me. I will keep my blog shorter this week.

Let me start by first addressing the statement I made while getting a massage with my girlfriend Tiffany. When I stated that Tamra's wig party was fun since it was all girls because when the boys are around we have to be 'perfect' - this is one of the many times that what I MEANT didn't come out the way it was suppose to. Ladies, we ALL KNOW that when it's JUST GIRLS around, we can let our hair down, talk 'girl talk', and just be girly. For those of you concerned that I am not myself around my husband, let me reassure you that as much time as I spend with my family, I am 100% myself around him. All I meant by the wig party is that it was all women, and I doubt very much that party would have had the same energy had boys been in the mix. It would have still been fun, but I'm not sure Tamra would have been pouring tequila shots to the winner if the boys had been present. Oh wait a minute, yes she would have!! It's TAMRA!!

This week we had the slumber party at Vicki's house. What a fun idea! I love doing things outside of the box. However, I knew as a mother of three little ones, my hiney would be going home at the first sign of sleeping bags being unrolled! I honestly thought the other women would be spending the night. Funny how things wind up. I was very disappointed in how the first scene of the evening is me talking about how Jim "doesn't know where bowls are, or spoons are, or doesn't change dirty diapers." I laughed at this scene, but I feel it didn't come across the way I intended it. I arrived at the party and the girls asked me if I was staying the night. I told them no because I had to get home. They wondered why I wasn't staying, so I elaborated on how I needed to get home for the kids. (Remember that I have three kids under three years old.) This is where I make the comment about Jim not knowing where the bowls and spoons are. The fact is that my husband is not a chauvinist, he knows where the bowls and spoons are. He works very hard outside of the home to provide our family with the lifestyle we have, thus I spoil him inside the home. That was simply my point. He doesn't change diapers, and I don't change oil! Hahaha. This works for us.

 

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Hannah Sue

I would like to say that Alexis, you are an amazing woman!. I love how you stay true to our god, and true to your husband. That is hard to do with today's society. First: You husband is YOUR husband, not anyone else's husband...no one should comment on your marraige, it is NONE of their business. Second: Being an adult, you are alowed to drink, and wear what you want, and swear if you want to. Half of the people on this comment page are most likely NOT Christains, or they are hipocrites, or they are obsessive about how Christains should act. Christains are not suppose to scrutinize every move we all make, You are your own person. Wear what you want to wear, say what you want to say, and drink what you want to drink. Stay true to yourself. You are not on this TV show to impress America. You stay true to yourself and your family.

Much Love

KOB7
KOB7

Alexis, you have worn 2 Dresses i adore, one was the black and white bell sleeve at the finale show and the second was white with pink floral also bell sleeve you wore with your husband on your weekend away for Dinner, who are the designers? and are they available to the public or just for the show? Thank You.

Viewer 88
Viewer 88

For those of you who go on and on about religion... Religion has nothing to do with what you wear... It's about your actions and how you carry out your beliefs... Alexis believes in God, goes to church... Who cares what she wears? She is a happily married woman and is very proud of it... As far as we can see, she doesn't go around sleeping with other men... She takes care of her family and does what she needs to do...

ugueseport
ugueseport

Alexis,

I just wanted to say that I feel you are about the realest one on the the show, Jeana was but she got tired of thr drama. Keep your family and god close always. Wish you the best.

dlk
dlk

I am a Christian woman, and there is NO WAY I would wear a bikini that exposed as much silicone as yours did, especially in front of another man and even more so in front of a television camera. Ridiculous!

viewer6323
viewer6323

In episode 10, Alexis and Jim are discussing the cooking party, Alexis is wearing white sweatpants and a brown v neck shirt. Does anyone know where she got this shirt or what brand it is??? I thought it was really cute.

Thanks

VegasLady
VegasLady

Hi Alexis, you are a GREAT addition to the show. I love you and your family. Don't listen to people who say your husband is bossy etc, if it works for you two, that is all that is important. He loves you, you have great kids and you are a good person. Welcome to the show.

Maria AZ
Maria AZ

Alexis, You are a great asset to the show! I'm glad they brought you on. It's easy for the viewers to judge your actions, but they seem to forget about something called EDITING...

The fact that you spoil your husband in return for the lifestyle he provides for you and your family is great and that is part of a good marriage. You can tell that he loves you and you know what, it is YOUR marriage no one else should be giving their two cents in, especially the other housewives.

And as for Gretchen's party, you had EVERY right to call that girl out. Some women do not know their boundaries and can be disrespectful. So good for you for standing up for yourself.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you are an awesome housewife and I hope you never change! God bless you and your family and may you have a wonderful year!

Courtney1226
Courtney1226

Alexis you need to stop yelling at the other women and tell your husband to start respecting you.

vi
vi

Get out from under your husband's thumb. You are his equal. You do not have to obey anyone, except God.

goober
goober

Ohhhhhhhhh. So, sometimes having the guys around isn't so fun. Sounds like something Vicky said once. TP'ing a friends house is ok, but no one seems to be friends with Jenna-not a cool thing to do.

Camille L
Camille L

Hey Alexis, I really respect your position with God and keeping God first in your relationship. If you remember to keep God at the head of your marriage, you can and will make it through anything. My husband and I met in church and have been married for over 10 years now and we have faced MANY bumps in the road but our foundation in Christ and our faith has gotten us through! My husband was in law enforcement and injured in the line of duty....from one day to the next, we lost EVERYTHING....except our marriage! Times are hard but we're trusting God to get us through (and maybe send us on a vacation :)). Be careful not to be influenced by the publicity you are now getting. Pastor Jentzen Franklin is an AMAZING Pastor who has a true anointing. My family goes to his church in Georgia and I always buy his cd's. I was very impressed that you actually showed your family going to service....keep up the good work!

lucy's apple
lucy's apple

Alexis- I'm not going to comment on what happened to you and the girl at the party since I only half watched and only saw part of that scene but what I will comment on is your tendency to back track on certain things that you have said. I get that editing is done to amp up the drama on the show but you do provide the material that is being edited, with that being said, it appears that you and Jim have a very traditonal marriage in that you guys assume the traditional roles which is ok, it may not work for some in this new day and age of feminism but it works for you and as long as you are happy then stop explaining. People who are truly confident with that they have own it and don't waste time trying to explain away every little thing. I think to many people are getting in your ear and you feel as if you have to defend what you have, who cares what they think. I think Jim is a bit of a chavunist but you are the one who has to love and live with him and as long as he makes you happy then so be it. I wish you much happiness in this new year and a little more confidence as well.

Barbara P.
Barbara P.

Alexis, I totally understand what you mean about your husband not changing diapers. I have five children. When they were younger I was a stay at home mommy. My husband worked hard to provide us with a lifestyle that made us very comfortable. Sometimes he worked 7 days a week and 16 hour days. He has a very hard, physical job. I took it upon myself to make sure my husband wanted for nothing when he was home. He never went out, never thought of himself first, and never took it for granted. I would always get these comments from other women about him not bonding with the children. That can not be further from the truth. Now our children are 17, 14, 13, 11, and 9 years old. I now have a job of my own to help out my husband. It's all about doing what you have to do to help your family out.

GOBryan
GOBryan

I'm certain it's hard to be in the public eye and be scrutinized for everything that is said and done. I'm sure there are many cut scenes that are not seen and possibly changes the context of a comment due to that.

As far as the tupperware party, they didn't show Mel leaning on Jim's chair but it didn't appear as if there was any flirting going on. Maybe friendly camaraderie but Jim didn't seem to be put off nor did Mel appear to be flirty, however, I think forming a show at someone's party or party was in bad taste. It would have been more diplomatic and classy to just pull her aside in private and discuss the issue. The comment about your working out and not wanting to mess with you seemed a bit much since that doesn't constitute a good fighter if it came to blows anyway.

I wonder if you always bend to Jim. To obey does not mean that the man is always right. A marriage is a partnership and not a master/servant relationship but if that's how your marriage works and your happy, more power to you.

Best of Luck..

Jamies
Jamies

Alexis-- I just wanted you to know that I watched last night and totally agreed with you being upset with the woman flirting with your husband. I actually had a similar situation happen to me a while back where a woman said she wanted to make out with my husband and it ended with me knocking her off her chair. I don't condone violence, but I also know that sometimes it is difficult when it pertains to your husband, wife or children. I just want you to know that I say good job and keep up the good work with your husband and kids. I also love you on this show!

cindy nyc
cindy nyc

Hi Alexis are my favorite house wife i like a woman that keeps it real

Aspen
Aspen

Hi Alexis, Just wondering where you get your workout wear? I fell in love with your yellow yoga pants. Who are they by?

Aspen

Sherry
Sherry

Alexis What a breath of fresh air you have added to this show. It is so amazing to finally see someone on a reality show to publicly worship God. I too am a Christian and don't believe in psychic readings either. Color or no color, you and your family are a joy to watch. May God bless you and your family.

Bev
Bev

Does your husband just have a dry sense of humor? Sometimes he comes across a little strong when he is talking to you?

teve
teve

Alexis I love you but your husband is controlling and condescending. I'm saying this with love. He doesn't give you an opportunity to express your opinions and he's quick to correct you all the time. He treats you like his child. You are beautiful Christian grown woman. Please don't let anyone control you except for the Holy Spirit. Woman thou art loosed!

BJacqui
BJacqui

I agree with "T" and "K". They seem to be the only ones who see through you. Also would like to say how I am sick of hearing everyone pushing the issue that their kids are the most important thing in their lives. Obviosly from what we are seeing, that is not the case. I can do, buy, and go where ever I would desire, however, our vacations always include our son and we don't feel deprived. We cherish these years with our child and are dedicated to raising our child while he is still a child. We are there for him 100% of the time. I don't know how someone so self centered can claim to have time for her children. I know that my daily activities don't leave time for all that superficial stuff.

Gogi
Gogi

It's wonderful that your belief in God is great and I guess having such a religious faith includes having a husband who is brutish, controlling and domineering. All this talk about how you don't go anywhere alone, you don't show your behind to other people, you don't do this, you don't do that is so full of _ _ _ _, because the way you parade around with your boobs exposed for all to see and when you wear teeny bikinis in public and in front of the camera. As for Vicky's "girls only" weekend, if your husband didn't want you to go without him, then you shouldn't have gone at all, but for drama's sake, you had to go and lug your husband where men were not invited or welcomed. Donn made that perfectly clear to Jim, Simon and Slade, so they can't play dumb or dumber.

BELL
BELL

Alexis you are a loser! you talk about god and still pick a fight because some girl is standing to close to your husband. ( news flash he is not that hot) So before you preach anymore think about how you are acting!

MWaller
MWaller

I really don't get your behavior on the show tonight. Why would you get so insecure and jealous of another woman talking to your husband? He's not good-looking and that girl Mel was probably feeling sorry for him if anything. Its just ridiculous- how co-dependent you and your husband are. That's not healthy. What would you ever do if something happened to him? It doesn't even seem like you are your own person. Your whole life revolves around looking and acting "perfect" for your husband! What the heck?!

ckm
ckm

Alexis, I really hope you and your husband will either A. stop talking about how "christian" you are or B. start walking the walk. Seriously, no wonder so many non-believers mock the church and "christians". Stop giving them ammo. Really, I don't see a man of God dropping the F-bomb. And was God somehow incompetent when he designed you and your body that you needed to have it surgically altered? Ugh.

MarieE
MarieE

TPing is fun. Flamingo Flocking is even better. I thought the PJ Party and TPing was hilarious. I work with youth at our church, matter of fact as I write this I am at a big Youth Retreat, so that kind of stuff is fun. Alexis, thanks for showing the world that we Christians can have fun too.

Skip Fairview
Skip Fairview

Wow - it would suck to be married to your boss. I feel sorry for you because I think you deserve much better from your husband - he treats you like an employee. You are not portrayed as equals on the show and that's a bad image for you to be endorsing for women.

An Opinion
An Opinion

Alexis, I really think you are a cool person, but you were so off base with thinking that woman was trying to hit on your husband. The only one who finds your husband "hitt worthy" is you. The girl or some other woman said he was not even attractive. Honey, I think the most attractive thing about your husband is you. Good thing he has money...

Jennigirl
Jennigirl

As a Chrisitan woman myself, I must say, I have a very hard time seeing how your husband treats you! He talks down to you, shuts you up and doesn't let you speak, and seems SO arrogant! All you two seem to care about is your image! I hope that people don't watch the show and get a false interpretation of the way Jesus really loves us and the way we are to love Him, our spouses, and our children. God Bless you and I hope you're not just "walking the walk!"

Emelda
Emelda

Good for you for telling that chick where to step off.These people have no respect and you handle it like the lady that you are.You are a beautiful and classy person.sincerly,Emelda from poughkeepsie,ny.

 Deb53
Deb53

Sweetie, I feel so sorry for you. You walk on egg shells around your husband. It seems like if you have a bad hair day or something that Jimbo will toss you out. That is a bad example for your girls. You need to watch the movie, "The Notebook". Love should be a comfort and it can't be bought at boutique or a gym, and it doesn't require the services of a plastic surgeon. This is just an observation; I don't live your life. It's just pitifull to watch. Sorry.

puddlerduc
puddlerduc

I found tonight's episode hilarious. Alexis, you are such a hipocrite! I remember a few episodes back, that you told Gretchen that she could parade around the boat naked and your, oh so holier than thou, husband...would not even notice. You could trust him completely...no other women could get his gaze, your love is strong Ha! Ha! As soon as you're a party and a women shows him the least bit of attention he acts like a hormonal teen. Funny how things turn around. The simple fact that you can't allow each other out your sight for a day out with girls, tells all. You couldn't trust him at home, and he doesn't trust you either. Woof!!! keep the leash on!

Kristen Baxter
Kristen Baxter

ALEXIS...I absolutely adore you and your family! You are by far my favorite housewife. Every week I look forward to watching the show so I can see more of how you and your hubby and family relate. I am a christian girl as well and it is sooo refreshing to have a woman like yourself living in O.C and keeping your morals and values in check as you always do. I highly respect you and your family; I aspire for my husband and our son to be like your family as we were born and raised in the O.C as well. One question, my husband is also in the construction industry and I was wondering if you had any tips on how to become successful like you guys. Keep up the awesomeness!! xoxo, Kristen

robinandherson
robinandherson

Alexis,

Sorry, but your actions tonight at the party clearly show that you're NOT secure in your marriage. You really should have approached the situation differently and more ladylike, by saying nothing. A better approach would have been to walk up, introduce yourself to her as his wife and join in with the conversation. Sorry, but your husband loved every minute of it.

Also, we're a little confused about why you're always referring to "Your God" and your Christianity. Come on..enough already..Your "Jersey" comment was judgmental...Christian's should not judge...Christian's aren't materialistic, Christian's shouldn't change "God's" creation by injecting botox, juvaderm and silicone.

Sorry honey...you're far from real.

Gianna Hood
Gianna Hood

Its nice to see another couple. And a nice one as well. Welcome to the show. Stay TRUE to who YOU are! At the end of EVERYTHING...YOU stand ALONE!

GIANNA :)

Renee Tanea
Renee Tanea

Hello Alexis,

I should start by saying that I was once on a reality show, so I know all to well how things are cut and edited to make for more interesting television. I love the way you love your husband. My mother loves my dad passionately and as a new wife, my husband is my GOD GIVEN TREASURE. I feel that every wife should feel that they have the "BEST" man. However, I feel that the incident between you and the young lady at the tupperware party was a bit much. Sometimes as wives we can't forget that our husbands are still "men". Don't be naive to think that Jim couldn't have been innocently flirting with that girl. There has to be a reason why he let the argument go on and on that long. You know that you are a beautiful women, why let another women see you sweat over something that is already yours. HE LOVE YOU!!!! Plus insecurity is unattractive. And you are a beautiful christian women who will one day teach your daughters how to be the same. PERSONALLY, you are my favorite housewife on OC...keep your standards right were they are ... HIGH :-) Keeping it Classy, Mrs. Singleton

ococococ
ococococ

It looks as though the REAL Alexis came out to play this evening on the show.1-20-10 The lady that you accused of "hitting" on your man was doing nothing more than innocent flirtation as you have done on the show with Slade and Simon and I am sure the others as well.I truly feel for Jim having to teach you how to handle yourself in social situations.You made a FOOL of yourself.he had to do again at the horse races.The mask (and i must say plastic new face) you are trying to hide behind is not working.Your Ex hubby knows exactly what kind of person you are and it is comical to watch. A "Christian" woman would have shown more grace and maturity in that situation. If indeed there was a "situation" the poor girl was just being nice. GROW UP!!! Jim hs his hands full with you I sure hope he is up for the task. Hey Jim get a few drinks down her and in a room with a group of men and see what happens next!!

Viewer delite
Viewer delite

alexis, I think you are so self absorbed. You never shut up. The way you walk areound with your boobs hanging out is disgusting and they are not attractive. You think you are so perfect. I'm willing to bet you end up divorced.

jb8280
jb8280

I'm not totally convinced that Alexis is walking that close to God....her actions at the tupper ware party were not the actions of a christian woman....I think she uses this as a cover for her controlling husband.....plus...how ugly his he?

Viewer2
Viewer2

Sad that you are so insecure about your relationship with your husband despite all of your daily maintenance. Is it because you know that if your husband left tomorrow you wouldn't have two legs to stand on?

Get it together, Alexis.

You don't have to pick on random women at Tupperware parties to feel better about yourself.

Seriously.

Jamie13331
Jamie13331

Seriously, I liked you until you acted like a total fool about your husband supposedly being "hit on"... I hope you were horrified when you saw the episode of you yelling at that poor girl about your husband. Wow, get a freaking grip. NOBODY wants to fight you for him!

marla818
marla818

Hi,

I think that out of all the wives on this show, I have the biggest issue with you and your controlling husband. I think that it's really sad that you feel like you constantly have to justify his behavior. I honestly feel sorry for you because NO amount of money would ever make up for having to live with a man like that!

Sunshine
Sunshine

Alexa, It's nice to see you trying to keep peace on the show. It's not easy to try to get Tamra & Gretchen to bury the hatchetts! However, I have to say "WOW! Your husband comes across as so disrespectful of you." This last show, I was SHOCKED to hear him talk with such offensive language that needed to be bleeped out and you can tell he was dropping the F bomb. Meanwhile you all talk about going to church and how your religion is so important to you.

A few weeks ago he is telling you to sit down & then "explains" that he doesn't want everyone to see your "A$$". WOW... Seriously? He couldn't use better language than that? How disappointing.

Also, how do you deal with him being so bossy to you. You had every right to try to talk things out with Mel at Gretchen's party since Gretchen's friend seemed to be hitting on your husband. Who is he to come between the two of you and tell you "calm down", "the conversation is over"?!? WOW!

My husband loves me and respects me and would NEVER try to put me down in front of people and tell me "the conversation is over" when I wasn't even speaking TO him. Is the money worth that much? Sad to see this behavior from him. You deserve to be treated better & he needs to start acting like the Christian husband he claims to be.

Don't get me wrong, I think you are doing a good job trying to help the girls mend their wounds, etc., but it really bothers me to see your husband treat you the way he does and to act the way he does.

Hope you stay on the show for many seasons :) You bring a lot of positive energy to the other girls.

Sass
Sass

Alexis - I love your committment to your family and to God. It's very refreshing to see someone stand up proudly and confess to being a Christian.

I think it's great that you and your husband have the relationship you do - it wouldn't work for me but it works for you and that's great.

The only thing that troubles me is your comments of being a stay at home mom and housewife. This is hard for me to comprehend when I hear "stay at home" mom, that doesn't include having two nannies (how many "stay at home moms" have that. I don't fault you for the way you live your life, I just think that it's really not a fair comparison to the other "stay at home" moms who do not have two nannies and so much free time that they can take off and do the personal maintenance that you are able to afford. Again, I'm not faulting your lifestyle, heaven know's I'd love it and I'd be doing all that self care too - but I wouldn't catagorize myself as a "stay at home" mom when that's really not a fair definition of your personal home life. Again, not judging you but just concerned that all of the other "stay at home" moms who aren't as privledged are kinda getting cheated to be catagorized the same as you.

Just my thoughts. No judgement, just an opionion.

God Bless you - I do think you bring to light a positive image as a Christian.

kw
kw

You are really getting on my nerves! Do you really think that your husband is all that? Really-why would that cute girl at her friends party come on to your husband? And, even if she was, that was a pretty white trash way of you to go after her.

After all, you should be able to trust that your husband wouldn't do anything and that he can do that without you stepping in like some macho drunk girl.

I am really not liking you very much.