Alexis Bellino

Alexis discusses her conflict with Vicki (and that dinner table gag!) on the girls' vacation getaway.

on Feb 12, 20100

Which leads me to the next topic: My phone calls at Fleur de Lys. Yes, I did make two calls to my husband because his phone dropped the first call and I needed to finish my conversation. And yes, my son called me twice because he was sad his mommy was away for the first time EVER by herself. However, I was not on the phone the entire night. Should I have excused myself? Perhaps, but I don't think it's against the law for me to talk to my family. Remember, I have three kids under three. Plus the fact that all the other girls make calls at lunches and dinners, yet none of them excuse themselves either. And as for the speaker phone comments that I "always put it on speaker" and "love everyone to hear conversations," that couldn't be further from the truth. We all put our phones on speaker during calls so the viewer is able to hear both sides of the conversation. Once Vicki made the first rude comment asking me to stop, I immediately stopped doing it. At Fleur de Lys I only put it on speaker because my son wanted to say hello to the girls.

On to the liver.... Oh goodness, all I can say is that I was pale and shaky for the rest of the night after trying Gretchen's appetizer. It is not something I should have tried on camera, but I thought I would love it! Never in a million years could I have known I would gag. Come on, I have THREE babies!! I change three poopy diapers a day, I have been thrown up on, I have had dirty toys put in my mouth, etc. There is just something about the texture of foie gras that does not agree with me! I paid for it the rest of the evening.

With that said, Vicki's name-calling and actions speak loud and clear. Honestly, it's not even worth discussing anymore. She stooped to a WHOLE new Vicki level this episode. (Way to take the high road girl!)

My life has changed so much in the past six months!! My husband changed his FIRST POOPY diaper! Whoo-hoo! Yayyyyy, Daddy! He almost threw up, but he did it! Also, I now have two part-time careers, and we have gone to one nanny, because the children are older now.

 

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FreeChapelOCMember
FreeChapelOCMember

I am just curious why you and your husband always leave church early, like you and him are celebrities that need to run out the back door to avoid fans. Trust me we could really careless, I have always gone to church and most pastors ask people to stay until the closing prayers out of respect for those who are going to accept Jesus into their lives, in fact I have heard Pastor ask people to stay until it is done! Just curious you never stay for the closing prayers and worship!

irenfellegvari
irenfellegvari

You are my favorite housewife. You look good, you are a great Christian. Everybody would like to have such love than you have with Jim. You have all and deserve all.

Shannon in Alabama
Shannon in Alabama

Alexis, I agree with you totally about Vicki. She can dish it out, but can't take it applies completely. What you have to keep in mind though are the reasons behind that. She is very insecure, that drives all this. She has a tough exterior due to it as a way of protecting herself and masking what's underneath. She does say mean things, she's trying to elevate herself over others to feel better. One way she does this is by constantly calling attention to her work. She is successful in her career and so she constantly calls attention to it in various ways. Phone calls, texts, emails, working on getaways, that's how she calls attention to herself to make her feel better and important, validated, relevant, whatever. Any secure person would not have the need to do this in front of others. They would excuse themselves to take a truly important call. Having said all that, you won't win with her. You will only make her feel attacked and therefor she will turn it around on you everytime and play the victim. That's why the tough shell is there to begin with, she feels attacked all her life. The tough exterior made her say bring it on, then she couldn't handle it when you did. You will never be able to talk an insecure person into truly seeing that they are wrong, they are not capable because it plays into the insecurity and reinforces the idea that they are lacking or inadequate. Save yourself the time and effort, it will only exhaust you. She may say she's sorry after alot of drama has played out but that's more for show and pity as the victim. Having said all that, I do find you to be calling attention to yourself alot also. I think you share some of the same issues as Vicki. To go into such detail about what you were wearing when you met Jim is your way of getting attention. You make a huge deal about your looks and working out and how Jim will never have a frumpy wife. Your comments about your mom being plain, very shallow. The way you dress is not Christain at all where I come from, it's meant to get attention period. I bet you don't dress like that for church!! Your pastor's wife wasn't dressed like that for breakfast with you. I'm not attacking you, that fact of the matter is, this show is for entertaining and anyone who wishes to be on this type of show is looking for attention for whatever reason. That's why everyone tunes in, to see the drama queens vying for the spotlight and getting upset when it's not on them. The show would be boring and not work if it were any other way.

LakLuvr
LakLuvr

Alexis, I am from Mo. in fact I am from your home town and I can guarantee you I don't just wear jeans and t-shirts. I have a whole closet of high heels and I do get my hair and nails fixed. What part of Hannibal were YOU from???????????????????

Lornadoone
Lornadoone

Dear Alexis; I would like to submit some good advice rather than insults and snide remarks (which no good will come of it!) If you and your husband want to truly become "Good Christians" than you should read the book THE IMITATION OF CHRIST, the book has outstanding advice on humility, charity and love for others. We are all imperfect and we are nothing without God. HAPPY READING!

KC25
KC25

HI,

I just wanted to say that I am from Missouri and was kinda offended the way you described women from Missouri...I don't know where exactly you are from in Missouri, perhaps a small town but I am from St. Louis and women in St. Louis don't just run around in jeans and t-shirts without make-up...most women here wear make-up and dresses, imagine that!!! I just think that you take things a little over the top, I mean you are gorgeous but you come off as vein and shallow...someone who cares way to much about the outside...It is clear you love your family but just try not to knock all of us Missouri women!!!

rlh
rlh

I loved your phone that was used while at dinner in SanFran. Where did you get the crystal cover and what was the design. Very cool and very classy!

kQren Byrd
kQren Byrd

no disrespect intended...w/ that said...what was the whole deal w/ your husband & yourself coming on this show? was your intent to uplift the name of God, while letting the world know that you can still have fun, money, and a life? because that's ok! but if your intent was 2 show your boobs, behind, money, and start an arguement everytime you open your mouth, that's not ok! Put the liquor down, Hubby, stop cussin like a sailor! I'm shocked, and sickend by the message that if you have money then you worship by different rules! dont get it twisted, i have $$$, have always had money, but i thank God that my parents taught us and showed us that allowing our good not to be evil spoken of would carry me a long way! i'm sorry, i cant applaud your salvation on screen, and believe me, i'm not judging you, cuz you put it out there! $$$ dsnt give us the right to kick God to the curb! honey, i like make-up, jewelry, minks, clothes, handbags, shoes, food, friends, and family, but God is 1st! i surround myself w/ like spirits so we're not arguing and acting ugly...am i making sense?...is this getting through?...i love that u love your hubby, but God needs to be in control!

Mintie
Mintie

Alexis, you are vapid

KimiD
KimiD

How did you manage to get on the show in the first place? I have always wondered that. How dare you attack Vicki at the luncheon. Not to mention gaging on your food! That was disusting! Thats what happens when they bring "trailer trash" to the city. Does Orange County Housewives have some "manner training" before they let you lose on camera? Vicki was going through some hard times with her daughter and you decide to gang up on her in front of her daughter. You never no someday that may happen to you and the last thing you will want is for someone to jump on you at your lowest point. You need to sincerely apology for your behavior, but then again I don't think you can help it. You can't have class because your weren't born with it. Be nice, and stop talking too much and quit giving advice on something you know nothing about.

jdb
jdb

Alexis, I just heard a powerful sermon that discussed how Christians say the word and believe that since our sins have been forgive and we go to church every week and read the Bible sometimes that we are guaranteed a place in Heaven. She then went on to talk about walking the walk. Living by the standards that God has set for us. What have you shown us about your own standards? We can't as Christians just say the word, while not living to his standard. Why not cover yourself up, love the body that God gave you instead of altering it to be "perfect". Your comment this week that one should have plastic surgery to be "nice" was nonsense. You are to love who you are and the idea that young girls think that your own insecurity encourages others to alter there bodies is not okay. Be humble and read the book "a Walk with the Master". I think that both you and Jim would be suprised to learn that you are no more safe for a spot in heaven than another because you call yourself a Christian. This season your confrontation and attacks on Vicki, when other housewives said unkind things makes me think that you enjoy the drama and thrive on confrontation instead of turning the other cheek, even in situations that don't even involve Vicki, your latest being on Andy's show Watch What Happens live. I think maybe you should live your life as a Christian in private and keep your prayers to yourself until you are walking the walk, I have yet to see it.

tiffanyohio
tiffanyohio

i am tired of people getting on you for sticking up for yourself...what would all these people posting let someone walk all over them...i think not and if so shame on them.....you gave her the option to discuss it at a later time and her saying bring it on was obviosly aggressive on her behalf...you sttod your ground won the argument and she went crying off like a five year old.....her daughter is a grown woman not a child so i am pretty sure she can keep up in a grown up conversation....vicki shut the hell up if you cant take it when someone calls you out on your words and actions....dont let anyone walk all over you and dont listen to all these haters...

McKinney Mom
McKinney Mom

Wow. You were right. You put it out there that you're family is Christian and out came the haters. I didn't realize that as a "Christian" you had look like you just stepped out of a Little House on the Prairie casting call. As for your husband. I think you two have a partnership marriage much like my husband and I do. There are certain things that, as a man, he's supposed to do. Open my door, fix things around the house, BE A MAN!! This doesn't mean he's controling. We have taken away our men's right to be men and as a result we have men like Don that must bow to every whim of women like Vicki. I'm not even going to start in about her. UGH!! She's annoying. Period.

Palma Ryckebusch
Palma Ryckebusch

Alexis, You just want as much air time as you can get! The story about how you and your husbent met was long drewn out and boring! Every little detail. yawn yawn You can clearly tell that you are a fight cat! You think every one wants to be you, which you have said a couple of times, as I see it no one wants to be you! You live in fantasy land. And as for your relatoinship with your husbant, have you ever see the movie "The Stepford Wives! It's scary!!!

Dee027
Dee027

Alexis, Everything about you is ALL FRAUDULANT! Wow! I'm sure it was embarassing for the pastor and his wife to had to have sat there and listened to you and your husband discuss your fake double DD's in relation to christianity. LOL! You truly are clueless. Your behavior is getting worse and worse in every episode. Are you trying to prove to everyone that you can stand up to Vickie? Oh please Sweetie get a grip! Vickie IS and ALWAYS will be Queen Bee of the RHWOC!! You're not gaining any respect from anyone by trying to go toe to toe with her. You need to step back!

vbmom
vbmom

Vicki is right, you DO NOT work!! A stay at home mom does the job herself and does not have a nanny not to mention having two. You said I am a mother of three small children and I take care of my husband. What, he can't take care of himself. So you must have one nanny for your husband and one for the kids, otherwise if you are a TRUE stay at home mom you wouldn't even need one. I am a stay at home mom of 6 and I can handle it on my own....maybe that is because I have a husband that helps when he is home. Just saying...

Style308
Style308

Now I am about positive I saw you in Vegas. My hubby and I were heading to dinner at the Venetian and I saw you walking past with a shopping bag and your little Louis bag. Looking fabulous as always!!

Viewer J
Viewer J

Wow---I am shocked at how many people are knocking on Alexis. She and her husband seem genuinely happy and highly functional and loving. There's nothing hypocritical about a Christian woman being strong and looking beautiful and pampering her husband. She is still a human being and have her flaws and personality; at least she tries to be conscious of her words and doesn't name call. I find Alexis refreshing.

Opal
Opal

Alexis, Dont let this weeks blogs get you down. You should have put Vicki in her place, I just didn't like that you backed down. Maybe, because Brianna was at the table. However, I have been watching O.C. Housewives since the very beginning, and her kids know their mom is a nut. Michael and Brianna both says she is crazy. Even when Brianna mentioned her illness to her the first thing out of Vick's mouth that she had a client, and Brianna response was that "shes crazy". How soon people forget. Although the next you want to say something about how you feel mistreated, the best time maybe is when the event is actually taking place, not a week later. But, Good for you!

Susanne7
Susanne7

I'm with you Alexis,Vicki's insulting and rude. I have a piece of advise for you though, Keep religion in your home.

Fan-MRD
Fan-MRD

Thank you, Alexis for taking Vicky on. All these comments about how great Vicky is....are so out of line. She is a bully. And she has bullied all these other seasons, and now she has to deal with you! I so love it! I would be taking her on the same way you do...but I would be way more vicious w/ her. So, she should be glad that it is nice Alexis taking her on.

Watcher
Watcher

Respectfully as a fellow christian, if you have a problem or issue with someone you speak to them in private, right? What about the timing of the confrontation? Could Vicki's issue with her daughter's health trump your hurt feelings? Pulling other ladies into the conversation really isn't appropriate. I really wish (pray) you were a more positive reflection of Christianity. There are so many negative stereotypes of Christians portayed on television I welcomed seeing one on a Bravo reality show. There was hope when I saw you had your Pastor over to your house afterwards because you showed remorse for your actions, but now after reading your blog, it seems you took it as justification? Honesty is good, but being hurtful is not necessary.

Viewer1021
Viewer1021

You are so full of yourself. I don't see why you are so upset that Vicki made the statement "He works" its a fact her husband works, what does that have to do with you and yours? You and your husband are both fake wannabee's

ANON
ANON

I never was a fan of Vicki's but this season i am starting to become one or least favor her in comparison to you. You appear to be very hypocritical. One moment you are claiming that you are so religious and the next you are wearing very revealing clothing and are acting like a rude highschooler. I agree Vicki needs to be put in her place but that was not the right time to do it.

Deb Z
Deb Z

I would have set Vicki straight at the dinner and would have never waited. You were not out of line. She can't take it, but sure can dish it out! She is so damn annoying and has a superiority complex. She is clearly jealous of you. People that are siding with her are unfair! I'm sick of people who think they are all that because they are work-a-holics and stay at home moms work hard too! I raised two great kids and was also a mom who worked outside the home when they were older. I was constantly critized. Everyone's situation is different and do not feel bad if your husband affords you the luxury of a charmed life! We used to be able to afford a lot but since we lost our business due to the economy, we are having it tough. I'm glad we enjoyed our lives as they were when we had plenty. I never feel I did anything wrong because I'm not working 24/7! You just never know when it will end.

Brieanna
Brieanna

Alexis,

I absolutely love you, you are my favorite housewife. :)

I think you were right to stand up for yourself and Jim because Vicki thinks she can say whatever she wants about everyone just because she works hard. It's not "being in high school" to not want someone to slander and talk down to you.

Also, about Jim "controlling you," like you've said, you have 3 very young children and I don't think it's a crime to make sure they're taken care of first before going out and having fun with the girls. Family first!

xoxo

ViewerMD
ViewerMD

It certainly interesting to see how actions done on your behalf are justified because they are done in the name of God. That is truly upsetting. You just seem to be a part-time Christian. The kind that are Christian only when its convenient. Just to save face. You may have a plasticMD to fix your exterior but you seriously need to fix your interior.

tsm
tsm

Alexis, You need to take a lesson in how to pray. What the hell was that coming from your mouth it made no sense at all. You looked like such an idiot. And your husband he has to go what a showoff he is but he is always wearing the same shirt .

northbay viewer
northbay viewer

Thank you Alexis for speaking up. Vicki does play the victim when confronted with the way she speaks to others. She needs to stop and think first prior to opening her mouth. She even treated her husband in a most disrespectful way and continues to do so to her "friends". She also needs to recognize that everyone has a job in life and stop judging others and know that God has a purpose for everyone and it does not make anyone better than the other.

Octavia
Octavia

To be honest both you and Vicki are annoying. You are lost in a marriage and dominated and controlled by your husband. You are so afraid of losing him so you are always doing something to alter or superficially look a certain way. He can get bored by too much focus on the outer shell of you. There is no real depth to your beliefs either. Seems fake because you are so insecure. Keep seeing your shrink... As far as Vicki...she is a classless bully. She is jealous and has no respect for her husband. She has no idea what it is to have a trust in a Higher Power. The two of you are so opposite in what we see but deep down you both are the same. Selfish, Self Absorbed, Self Rightous,Self Centered and Insecure. The lack of knowledge of ettiquite and proper decorum shines through.

unreal housewife
unreal housewife

Why did Bro. Jentzen look like he was stepping into a den of Lions when he sat down at the breakfast table with you and Jim?? I can't believe Jim made a comment about your breasts in front of your Pastor and his Wife. That was almost as awkwark as saying fart in front of my Mom (God rest her soul). As Tamara might put it, "That was unholy inappropriateness", is that a word and did I almost spell it correctly? Amen

Angelia hobbs
Angelia hobbs

I feel Alexis is being a hypocrite. One minute she is accusing a woman of picking up on her unattractive husband, and the next minute she is claiming to be a Christian. Her relationship with her husband doesn't seem genuine.

MD
MD

Bravo Alexis! Vicki is a real meanie. She can dish out all day but NO ONE is allowed to tell her anything. When someone does she lashes out at them and then cries. She is a bully.

Tamra is a lot nicer this season. Last season her and Vicki were so mean to Gretchen all the time for no reason except jealousy.

Alexis you are the new housewife and Vicki will treat you badly also. I am happy that you are standing your ground because Vicki either needs to keep her mouth shut or accept when someone else talks to her in the same manner. I think a lot of times she is so use to being the boss.

Viewer42000
Viewer42000

YOU ARE THE BEST. SCREW VICKI SHE IS JEALOUS. ALL SHE HAS IS A SUCCESSFUL CAREER. YOU HAVE WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE

haYn
haYn

Love you Alexis! You're the best looking one on the show and the one with the best attitude. Good for you for standing up to Vicki. She's been the problem all along!

K

Minnesota fan
Minnesota fan

Hey Alexis! I'm with you on this and am proud of your ability to stand up for yourself and to Vicki. She has said and done things that hurt others without anyone asking her to own up to those painful comments and actions. Good for you for accepting her challenge to "bring it on." Maybe she will think twice the next time she challenges someone, as she definitely can't take what she dishes out. Her bluff ("bring it on) only led to her foldin' her hand (walking out on the lunch and weeping over being ganged up on). Thank you, Alexis, for exposing the real Vicki by simply being honest with her and not backing down. Well done.

keepin it real in indy
keepin it real in indy

You keep it real and vickie is one who puts it out there but can't take it when it's put to her. Stand your ground mama she is a witch. The rest of them girls better get with the truth which is God. If he is for you then who be against you. Your my fav!!!!!

number#1fan
number#1fan

Alexis I felt like u took Vicki comment out of text when she said her husband work. I don't think she was saying her husband work and yall don't. I think she was saying the only reason why her husband didn't go to FL was because he had to work. I also think that when she tell you and the other housewives she can't not attend some of thing that you all do in the afternoon cause she have to work. I don't think she rubbing the fact that she has a job in your face, she is just stating the facts. I really think yall need to reevaluate that situation when she states that she works.

kennedy
kennedy

Alexis your so fake. When Vicki made the comment about her husband work, she didn't say no one else works however you took it out of content. What happen to forgive and talking to Vicki in private. I think Vicky has many haters....she's a hard worker....

GiGi Rish
GiGi Rish

Finally someone put Vicki in her place for one, you go Alexis. You know just because you call your self a Christian doesn't mean you have to let people put you down to make their self look good and not speak up for your self. Vicki say her self "bring it on" She sure the hell can dish it out but when someone like Alexis calls her on the carpet Vicki plays the poor victim like everyone is ganging up on her. How quick Vicki forgets how she insulted the girls last week at Lynns dinner party. Vicki made it very clear to everyone "she and her husband work" Good grief Vicki you come across as though you resent the fact you have to work to keep up the life style you and Don live. While the other women like Alexi are fortunate they do not have to work like you, and still live a fabulous life. Your words come across very mean when you say " own it you don't work" what the crap is that ?? Alexis is raising children, a job you once held Vicki. Ok so Alexis is raising children and is fortunate she doesn't have to work and she lives a fabulous life Vicki, so now what Vicki !!! I think it was very low class for you to speak so nasty to Alexis the way you did shame on you Vicki!!

Kathy  ben
Kathy ben

I just wanted to say that some one needed to set Vicky straight. Meaning her way of having fun is talking about people behind there back and causing drama at every event she goes too. Remember the other house wife her and her husband split and when Tamara came in the picture she basically dump the other gale and Tamara became her new victim. If you see she the one having problems with her marriage. We all know marriage is not a sleep over and it over it is something that takes time.

Basically don't feel sorry for some one that like to cause problems between friends and family.

fashionista29
fashionista29

Alexis you are amazing you are beautiful and sophisticated. You are someone to look up to.

Nicolette
Nicolette

Alexis

You are quite intriguing on the show I must say. One piece of advice let your husband and your children miss you every once in a while, trust me it's healthy!

aj1992
aj1992

I'm sorry but I'm just not buying it. At least Vicki is an authentic person. You have watched the show and knew what you were getting into. Stop letting your husband treat you like garbage. He is very disrespectful. I miss the housewives who left. They were so nice.

Viewer3030
Viewer3030

There is no issue with expressing your feelings to another friend who has hurt your feelings. You dragged in the other women and ganged up on Vicki. All of the women were not happy with your many cell phone calls with your husband and were completely annoyed by your behavior while they were trying to have a nice dinner and have conversation with eachother instead of listening to your conversation. When Vicki said something to you, she only spoke for herself instead of dragging everyone else into it and ganging up on you. The way Vicki handled it was a better way and you should have just spoken for yourself and not ganged up on Vicki.

TeriG
TeriG

Alexis, I think Vicki is a very, very rude person and always unaware of her rude and insensitive behavior. I like you and Gretchen the best.

Viewer1234567890
Viewer1234567890

I think that you Alexis need to understand that when you point the finger the thumb is pointing right back at you. You do not have the right from this viewers point of view to judge or try to be a "mentor" to Vicki. Please remember that when you say something to someone it's not about what you think you said. It is about that person's perception of what you said and how you said it. Thier perception of what you said is thier reality. From the outside looking in-you want to be the alpha housewife. You are beautiful and have what you says is a great family life so go with that. Don't try to be a mentor to others because you don't have the goods to do so.

Chris in Flolrida
Chris in Flolrida

go Alexis! Been tire of how Vicki treats everyone for last three seasons!

Viewer Glenda
Viewer Glenda

Alexis My Husband and I have been married going on 40 years this October. I will have to say very,very, seldome have we been apart!!! I think in the last ten years I started to going to my sisters who lives out of state. So do I think it is unusall for u to do this No. I think this is a Good Marriage.

I also thought you bringing your Pastor in to discuss what happen....this was good. I think it shows that it did bother you and I also think it was a good choice.

Take Care

sis
sis

Tamra, is your husband straight? I think I might have missed the episode where he came out of the closet, but I am not sure. He does seem a bit effeminate, but it is often hard to tell. Please address this issue, as I am certain that other viewers may wonder about this also. Thanks