If this all occurred in one hour, I would hate to see what occurs in an entire day with Vicki. The saddest part about it for me is that months ago, at the very beginning of summer, Vicki and I had a discussion at one of our photo shoots where Vicki said to me, "I really hate all the negativity and all the drama..." I looked Vicki in the eyes and said to her, "I promise I will not talk about you. Not on camera or behind your back because I hate the negative and drama, too." Vicki agreed, "I won't either." Well, I kept my end of the deal. In fact, I do not talk about ANY of the girls. If I have a problem, I go directly to them. I do not feel it is necessary to name-call or gossip behind someones back. If you have something to say, by all means, go TO the person! Vicki, on the other hand has bashed me all season, and trust me, it only gets worse from here. She does not treat people the way I treat people, and I WILL NOT allow her to walk on me. If she is going to dish it out, she better be able to take it, because this girl here will give it right back once you cross the line. She thought she was dealing with a dumb stay-at-home mom when in fact she was dealing with a degreed stay-at-home-mom (with a part time career now!) If you question who I am, or the fact that I do not bash people to make a point, please go to bravotv.com and watch the current video clip called "It's Just Good Manners." I stayed true to my goal this season, and despite all the petty name-calling and bashing that occurred on my behalf, I truly did not talk about these girls. They are my friends (with the exception of one), and I will not allow this show to change the way I handle my friendships.
On to a brighter, happier topic. The two day getaway Jim and I took to Palm Desert was UNBELIEVABLE. We needed that time to reconnect, and we definitely did! We stayed up late talking, we laughed the entire trip, we had fabulous dinners both nights, we got massages, we laid by the poo l... It really couldn't have been any better. Our traveling has pretty much ceased since the children. Well, actually we travelled everywhere with James. He's been to Mexico, Oregon, Hawaii five times, Las Vegas six times, Missouri three times. Needless to say, our family has only been on one vacation to Palm Desert since the girls were born. You could say I became a little intimidated to travel once I had the twins. The thought of flying somewhere with three kids under three makes my heart race and my palms sweat! But I have promised my husband that this summer we will take a real family vacation! It should be quite comical! (Ugh, I need a glass of wine just thinking about it!)
On a serious note, many of you are responding to us about Simon. Jim talks to Simon several times a day, and he attends church with us regularly. Please continue to pray for Simon and Tamra during this difficult time.
Many of you have asked questions and I answer them daily on my Facebook fan page www.facebook.com/alexisbellino. Please follow the link and I would be happy to answer of them!
Jim and I own a boutique hotel called "In Vogue" in Laguna Beach, so if you are interested in visiting us here in Southern California, you must come stay with us! In Vogue is walking distance from downtown Laguna, and directly across from the beach! Visit us at Invoguelagunabeach.com!
I think what Vicki meant when she said she and Donn work, was that they have office jobs. She is the only one besides yourself that has not had money problems because she does work so hard. I am a mom myself and though it is hard work, it is not work as in a career. Simon was absolutely not a gentleman to Vicki either.
I would like to say that you are beatiful inside and out... It looks like you have your head on your shoulders.. unlike a lot of your castmates =)
glad to hear your working and making your own money. Maybe you'll start to get some self esteem back, and not allow your husband to bully you anymore. Instead of worrying so much about Vicki and Donn, maybe you should worry about how you let your husband disrespect you.
I agree with your assessment coachpursegirl. I believe Vicki was referring to the fact that she has an office job that makes ducking out for several hours during the day quite difficult. Also, I thought that Simon's behavior towards Vicki was quite deplorable. Simon is trying to blame the disintegration of his marriage on Vicki. Not good.
If the OC continues I would prefer if you stayed, bring Jeana back & let us the fans have a season without Vicki or Tamra.
Stop trying act like Dr. Phil...every situation that you have attempted to help has only gotten worse
That's awesome reading about Simon going to church with you guys! I just read on his blog that he was thinking about going with you. He will realize that he doesn't have to take charge of his life anymore. He can give it to God and He will guide him through this mess with Tamra.
I also think it's great that Hollywood actually lets you talk about your faith on a reailty show like this... Remember Alexis, you're in a position where God can use you to save a lot of souls. You're also going to be judged harshly if you do something that someone (mainly a Non-Christian or a Baby-Christian) views as "Un-Chistian like."
You do a really great job of NOT talking crap about anyone, the other women...your husband! Good job!
Alexis, I enjoyed your blog and understand some things more. I wish you all the best, you have a lovely family and I know you and your husband are good people. With that, let me say, that Simon owes Vicki and apology. Men should never speak to a lady as he did, I am surprised that Donn did not step in and stop it. He can go to Church all he wants, but he needs to listen to the sermon, or take a chill pill. Angry man.
I think that you should go back and view the episodes. I understand editing. But, if you like the way your husband speaks to and at you, that is cause for conern... I hope other women don't think this is normal.
Alexis, it is obvious that you have a good head on your shoulders. Please remember, you cant save everyone, and like your husband says. Pick your battles.
Wow, just when I thought you could not get any cooler, I read you most recent post! You are such an inspiration for women. You are one CLASSY lady! You are so justified in responding to Vicki's classless behavior. Even those who exemplify class must react to that rude behavior and you did so in a very dignified way. I REALLY hope that Bravo realizes that you have brought true representation of an ideal housewife to the show; let's hope they add more like you! It is so much more fun to watch with you on the show. As far as Vicki goes, she should take her "Jerry Springer Road Show" and beat it (I think she needs some Dr. Phil couch time)!! :-) Stay strong!!
"No God...No Peace; KNOW GOD, KNOW PEACE!
I was surprised to see your suites are afforable! It didnt do research but they seemed to only occupy 2 people. You seem very sweet and your kids are too cute! I have triplets and they are going to be 6 this month. 2 years ago I took the girls and had the minipetti for Christmas. Tori had hers painted the same color as mine but with a little snowman on her toe. Taylor had hers painted an ice blue with snowflakes. I took their pictures while they were in the little chairs. It was adorable. God Bless. you seem like a great mother. Tammy
Alexis, I think you are very beautiful and classy! I was wondering when are you going to tell us where you bought that orange dress and what brand it is? Ive been dying to know since you wore it and you said you were going to tell us soon and that was 2 blogs ago. You wore a similar dress in white with a print when you went to palm desert, was that dress also the same brand? I love the style and cut of that dress and I have looking for something like that for a long time. So please tell us soon!
Vicki's behavior was very demeaning and disrespectful and you had a right to tell her that it hurt your feelings. I would suggest keeping a safe distance from her. Keep your chin up. Don't let her bad treatment of you and others take root in your heart. On another note, there is way too much alcohol and drunkeness going on again this season. Nothing good ever comes of one being numbed or influenced to this extent by alcohol. A drink here and there is one thing- but this is not ok. Seems that it is causing or bringing out a lot of bad behavior and poor judgement.
Alexis, you are my favorite housewife! You definitely take the high road when it comes to the other women. Thank you for inspiring me to be a better wife.
Alexis - Shakespeare said it best "to thine ownself be true" Keep on being you and stay true to you, we can see that you are nice and have morals. I truly appreciate the INTEGRITY you display when referring to not gossiping, that is how the show USED to be. Stay true to who you are cause you can tell your just as gorgeous inside as you are on the outside.
I love all the ladies!! I think you all are great! I do think that Vicki was just joking! She probably felt like she could joke around with you like she does with the other ladies! I don't think she ever meant to hurt your feelings. She could have been trying to make a akward stituation better. Simon was out of line by yelling at her in front of everyone and she might have been trying to make light of the stituation. Just think of how she felt being yelled at by man and nobody stood up for her.
Alexis, I admire the fact that you do not belittle or insult anyone on the show. You and Gretchen are the only nice housewives on this show.
And I LOVE the fact that you are standing up to Vicki, you go girl!!!!!
Best Wishes, Jennifer
You are my fave!! So glad you're on the show this season. Please stay true to who you are!! We will love you for it.
Hi Alexis, Despite your appearance and perfectionist, how can you be a so down to earth kind of person. Maybe that is why Vicky might wants to breake you down to see how you truly is. That is scarry, but almost like a testing or initiation. Vicki does't judge you who you are, because she has been there where you are now. She is a just accomplished woman who trying to give lessons or hand to juniors. That is come from love. But seems like juniors are provoking a senior.
GO ALEXIS GO. YOU ROCK THE SHOW. I REALLY ENJOY THE FACT: YOU STAYED TRUE TO YOUR WORD. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND ARE SO AWESOME.
BY THE WAY....AS A KICKBOXING INSTRUCTOR, VICKIE BETTER LEARN TO THROW A PUNCH OR TWO BEFORE SHE SAYS "BRING IT ON" CAUSE SHE DOESNT HAVE A PRAYER WITH YOU
I just finished reading the surprisingly long list of support notes Vicki has gotten, and I'm shocked that no one seemed to mention what you did: that Vicki very rudely referred to you all as "stupid people" at the dinner party. Then, when she got in the limo, she called you all "bitches" - including her dear friend Tamra who she was so sad to see talking behind her back this past week! I do see that Vicki has done some changing for the better this past season - but she is one who dishes it out (season after season after season) but says "that's so mean" as soon as something is directed at her! She's a total contradiction! She does work hard, by choice, and I think that she is jealous of you, although she will never admit that. Alexis, I think you are a sweet, genuine person who only has the best intentions. Keep staying above the fray!!!
i wonder how you would react being the one on the outside like vicki--would you too be a little defensive..i am guessing you would...everyone started off this season talking about her--as you said at the beginning you were warned--so understand she is defensive...maybe she took it out on you because simon seemed crazy but get over it...people hurt other's feelings--it doesn't always have to be so heavy--sometimes just a bad day...you obviously all talked about her that "girls weekend" away and made her once again feel on the outside..i am a stay at home too and have tons of friends who work and make comments--be confident to not care!!!
I think you would agree that Simon attacked Vickie that night. He was wrong and needs to apologize. He was the one who set the tone and ruined the evening.
I have watched RHOC since the original season.....it was interesting to see the daily lifestyle of the "Coto" group. Now all I see is drinking, fighting and out of control people! Vickie and Don at least work unlike Tamra, Simon and a few others who need a relity check.......Wake up, snap out of that mess!
Alexis I think that this is a new era of housewives and vicki does not fit in any more. I love vicki and the original girls (lauri,jeana,tammy) i missed does girls and vicki should of left the show when none of the girls were returning. They were true friends and there was chemestry that does not exsist any longer with the new cast. So her comment of calling you guys "stupid people" I think is another way of showing that she has nothing in comment with a stay at home mom like you, a confused lynne, a not even a housewife drama making gretchen and a women that having problems like tamara. She has her own business she his her own women with or without donn. Although you might think other wise I don't think none of the housewives can say they can stand on there own to feet without depending of there husband. You with three kids well you have other priorities and time will grade you has a parent as for Vicki I thing that time has graded her and I think she passed she has two strong educated children and hopefully you will too.
I have been married 6 years and I love my husband so much that it brings me great joy to spoil him. He does not have to lift a finger when he is home. What works for some may not work for others but your husband seems to love it so keep it up.
I tried, I think you are a good person and you have good intentions. But, this is a Bravo show, it's going to have drama. That's why it's successful and that's why we watch.
For what it's worth, I say be you. Don't worry about what people think. Protect your husband and children and keep them off the show as much as possible. Just be true to you. It seems as if you want to make sure you appear in a positive light on the show, no one is perfect and I think it will do the audience good to see you imperfect and real (but still fabulous).
I've watched the show since the beginning and based on what I've seen the show is about women, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Let us see more of you, solo. We want to see what you think minus your husband.
Just a few suggestions...
glad to hear that you are infact working and you and your hubby have opened a spa. would hate to think that the nannies were there for no other reason if you were home all day!
Hey Hot Momma , I am so happy that you love your hubby ,he loves you and you guys enjoy your family. I know that being a mommy is the hardest and most rewarding job ever .Continue to be proud of that.I think Viki is very insecure and she see you and how love being a wife & mommy and she does not get it.Keep up the good work I am happy you are on the show. "Blessed are the peacemakers,for they shall be called sons(daughters) of God".Matthew 5:9 That is what you are a "peacemaker" Take care :)
We have 4 kids, two of which are 14 month old twin girls and I too get nervous about flying with them. I have always said it makes my hair turn gray just thinking about flying with 4 kids.
I think you are great and have added some class to the season this year. Love to see Jim and yours marriage a strong one and your faith is wonderful to watch.
Keep it up!
Hey Alexis, could you tell me how to make the pink cocktail all of you were drinking at Lynn's party... Thanks so much.... KIM
Hi Alexa- One of the primary teachings of Christ is to live with forgiveness in our hearts. If you are the good Christian you claim to be, you will forgive Vicki and forget your PETTY squabbles.
I just wanted to let you know that you are my favorite addition to the show and love watching you. You are true to yourself and your kids and always have fun living your life! I can not wait to see what more is to come.
You are my favorite housewife on the show! Jim is a very lucky man to have you as a wife. You're fit, elegant, beautiful, and above all have class. I don't understand why Vicki has so much beef against you, especially since you didn't really do anything that warrants it. I saw the preview for this week's episode and I'm excited to see someone stand up to her!!! Hopefully, you don't have to deal with Vicki too much for the rest of the season. She really isn't worth your time with the way she treated you at Lynn's dinner.
You are so upstanding and a total knockout! Thanks for being on the show and bringing the Lord to a lot of people who need HIM! Many people watch just because of you!! Thanks!!
Alexis, You are such a strong lady! Take your energy and use it to be proud, strong and great for something worthwhile in your area...you have the resources and you say you are commited to families right? So take that commitment and find some worthy charity because you sure are strong already...marshall that strength to help those in need. You could be a leader in that group like Jill did in RHONYC when she did the charity event! Be a force to be wreckened with, help children who don't have your adventages in life. BE a force...for good. As far as the dinner put it beind you now as a lesson learned, sometimes people don't want to hear the whole story, No biggy.
I think what happened at Dinner transpired due to the fact that Simon interpreted the situation with Tamra and Vicky incorrectly and it all stemmed from there. In addition, Tamra manipulates both Vicki and Simon. However, the fact of the matter is when Vicki is not around everyone likes to talk badly about her. I was very surprised with Gretchen who earlier in the episode went to Vicki for advice! I think you and Vicki are both strong women and have more in common than you think. Out of all the housewives, you two could get along intellectually and as friends. It’s really a shame that you don't.
I'll admit.... I feel as if your husband is pretty rude to you! You are a very bright person and should expect 100% equality in your marriage. The scene where you were fixing eggs and talking to your husband about your lunch plans re: Tamara and Gretchen was the most recent example of his rudeness. I can't recall the exact words that he said but he needs to "be in charge" and needs you to defer to him. He somehow rudely asked you if you wanted his advice and then you apologized for rambling... You didn't need to do that at all. You two should be best friends and I'm sure you would never have that type of encounter with a friend of yours.
He really comes across as needing to be in charge and be "the man". That's what things were like 100 years ago in a marriage! That's not how things are or should be today.
You defer to him quite often and I would bet that your IQ is certainly not lower than his. You two are equals. That is what a marriage or any friendship is about... or should be.
Don't defer to him! Why is his advice somehow better than your own thoughts and gut feelings?
I think the whole "snoring" incident was taken completely out of hand. I really believe Vicki and Donn did it as a joke, i mean your story really was the longest and most detailed of them all. And Vicki's comment about Donn & her working was only to say that Donn had to work during yall "girls" trip, i dont believe she was being offensive at all, and most of the time, people only take offense to something when it has truth to it. But i will say, I love you and Jim's relationship and i wish yall the best of luck!!!
Alexis, you have to much going for you to let what happened at the dinner party affect you. You are blessed in so many ways, beautiful family and a strong belief in God that should be all that matters, do not let nothing get you down stay strong and the positive person that you are. Take Care.
You're a sweet person with great intentions. It's lovely that you adore your husband. He's very lucky to have you in his life. That said, he does seem to inject himself and "his opinions" into every aspect of your life. Since you have a brain, why doesn't he "allow" you to think for youself and express your own ideas? It seems you took what Vicki said too literally. Her reference to working is that she has a 9 to 5 business to run and can't leave on a whim. Thanks to a Nanny, your schedule (& the rest of the OC ladies) is more relaxed. I do agree that Vicki & Donn's snoring was rude. Even though they meant it as a joke, you don't know each other well enough for them to get away with it. Simon's tantrum due to a bruised ego turned everyone against Vicki. You were swayed by that influence.
Vicki does talk about work; but then again, she has to report somewhere during business hours. If my friend, casual or other worked during the day, I'd hold a cooking party in the evening to give her a chance to see I genuinely wanted to afford her the opportunity to attend.
Also, I won't fall asleep on you, but I find your husband's price labeling of things a bit tasteless in this economy.
Degreed Mom too
Alexis, You don't have to explain yourself why you are a stay at home mom.. I am to a stay at home mom and even tho I don't know Vicki she hurts my feelings with things she has said... About people who don't have money or a job are just poor.. WRONG!! My husband works I stay home because right now we can't afford a babysitter to watch my children so listen you don't need to explain why you are at home with your kids.. You should be they are little these are the times you should be with them... You are a nice person don't let someone like her make you think otherwise... Take care!
I STRONGLY AGREE WITH 'coachpursegirl". UR A GREAT PERSON AND UR HUSBAND I LIKE HIS ATTITUDE AS A MAN HE IS TRULY CHRISTIAN MINDED. THIS KIND OF DRAMA DOES NOT SUITES UR FAMILY.
OK to sum it up
ALEXIS AND JIM!!!! LOVE YA BOTH!! U r doing great as a mom, partner, wife, friend, and as a regular person. U r a smart woman who works hard to get to where u want.
Vicki was out of control, but she is a control type. If its not about her, then she gets envious and mad. Let's look back to her relationship with her husband over the seasons. On jealousy, she's intimidated by the fact that you and Jim are more prosperous than her. But hey, as Christians we all are. Deur 28:1-15. Just dust her off your shoulder. Just pray for her.
But keep up the good work, you and Jim are GREAT!!
Alexis, you are so beautiful and sexy. I love your style. You are such a great mother, spending so much time with your kids, and never putting them second. I love that your family comes before everything, even your own self. You are awesome, I want to be like you. Your hubby is so hot, I can see why that girl at the party wanted him. I would love a husband that loved me and provided such a privileged lifestyel, full of lovem beautiful clothes, designer bags galore, workouts galore, i looove it.
Vicki seems to look down on women who make the personal choice to stay home and raise their own children, instead of a nanny or daycare full time. Life is full of choices and many women before us worked hard to give us the ability to choose what is best for our own families. The fact that you don't get a paycheck for raising your children doesn't mean you don't work just as hard if not harder. I wonder what she chose when her children were little. It is my opinion that Vicki will look down on any woman that makes the choice to put off work to enjoy the experience of raising their children. You are so lucky to have that choice financially, not everyone has that luxury. Vicki's ego doesn't allow her to not be in the spotlight. Vicki will never respect you for your choices. Ignore all outside influences and focus on the positive. Some people will never change, so don't waste your energy on her, give it to your family. To each their own, VICKI!!!!!
I think you and your husband are truly in love, however sometimes I feel like he is really disrespectful to you. There's one scene when your in the restaurant and he scolds you for talking too loud and I just felt that was rude of him. You claim to be close with god and part of a health functional relationship but anytime you speak up her literally or figuratively shuts you down..I think you should spend less time caring about what Vicki's saying and more time worrying about what your husband is saying...