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If this all occurred in one hour, I would hate to see what occurs in an entire day with Vicki. The saddest part about it for me is that months ago, at the very beginning of summer, Vicki and I had a discussion at one of our photo shoots where Vicki said to me, "I really hate all the negativity and all the drama..." I looked Vicki in the eyes and said to her, "I promise I will not talk about you. Not on camera or behind your back because I hate the negative and drama, too." Vicki agreed, "I won't either." Well, I kept my end of the deal. In fact, I do not talk about ANY of the girls. If I have a problem, I go directly to them. I do not feel it is necessary to name-call or gossip behind someones back. If you have something to say, by all means, go TO the person! Vicki, on the other hand has bashed me all season, and trust me, it only gets worse from here. She does not treat people the way I treat people, and I WILL NOT allow her to walk on me. If she is going to dish it out, she better be able to take it, because this girl here will give it right back once you cross the line. She thought she was dealing with a dumb stay-at-home mom when in fact she was dealing with a degreed stay-at-home-mom (with a part time career now!) If you question who I am, or the fact that I do not bash people to make a point, please go to bravotv.com and watch the current video clip called "It's Just Good Manners." I stayed true to my goal this season, and despite all the petty name-calling and bashing that occurred on my behalf, I truly did not talk about these girls. They are my friends (with the exception of one), and I will not allow this show to change the way I handle my friendships.
On to a brighter, happier topic. The two day getaway Jim and I took to Palm Desert was UNBELIEVABLE. We needed that time to reconnect, and we definitely did! We stayed up late talking, we laughed the entire trip, we had fabulous dinners both nights, we got massages, we laid by the poo l... It really couldn't have been any better. Our traveling has pretty much ceased since the children. Well, actually we travelled everywhere with James. He's been to Mexico, Oregon, Hawaii five times, Las Vegas six times, Missouri three times. Needless to say, our family has only been on one vacation to Palm Desert since the girls were born. You could say I became a little intimidated to travel once I had the twins. The thought of flying somewhere with three kids under three makes my heart race and my palms sweat! But I have promised my husband that this summer we will take a real family vacation! It should be quite comical! (Ugh, I need a glass of wine just thinking about it!)
On a serious note, many of you are responding to us about Simon. Jim talks to Simon several times a day, and he attends church with us regularly. Please continue to pray for Simon and Tamra during this difficult time.
Many of you have asked questions and I answer them daily on my Facebook fan page www.facebook.com/alexisbellino. Please follow the link and I would be happy to answer of them!
Jim and I own a boutique hotel called "In Vogue" in Laguna Beach, so if you are interested in visiting us here in Southern California, you must come stay with us! In Vogue is walking distance from downtown Laguna, and directly across from the beach! Visit us at Invoguelagunabeach.com!
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I agree that it was beyond rude for Vicky and Don to have that little snooze fest during your time to describe how you met your husband.
I don't understand how she did not realize how that is rude and hurtful or how she could be so dumbfounded about the overall reaction to that behavior - to be so surprised and in tears over it.
I don't like seeing anyone brought to tears, but she has to realize that she was hurtful that night. I don't know if they ever apologized for that. I hope "they" did.
I will say though, that everyone jumped on the - lets attack Vicky bandwagon. I'm sure that hurt her beyond words.
I'm sure everyone has wounds...
I just hope everyone has healed in some way and reconciles...
I agree that a housewife has a lot of work to do, especially with three small children. I am mom to four little ones myself, plus I work part time. But am I confused or didn't you say you also have 2 nannys?? What the heck? What a difference even 1 nanny would be!! All I ever see is you out getting your hair or nails done. Or spending thousands of dollars at the spa. Maybe you should sell that necklace your husband bought for you (that he mentioned about 5 or 6 times had over 7 karats) and feed several hundred children in Africa like a good Christian would instead of worrying so much about your external appearance.
"She does not treat people the way I treat people, and I WILL NOT allow her to walk on me. If she is going to dish it out, she better be able to take it, because this girl here will give it right back once you cross the line." Alexis
Jesus said that we are to pray for our enemies. The Bible teaches us that even though He (Jesus), was FAlSELY accused, he opened not His mouth to defend himself. You don't have to defend youself. Walk in Love. Don't you feel compassion? Is your reputation more important than then showing God's love towards others...in the end does it really matter what other people think? Look, if you want to walk in the flesh...fine. Just please quit talking about being a Christian. If you talk the talk, please walk to walk!
Aexis- It is my hope that you really do read this comments here and also on your FB page...there is a strong message that I am concerned you may be in need of hearing...but are right now too self absorbed and self important to be taking away.
There are a few highlights that seem to ringing true in everyone's feedback:
your own behavior does not show you as a "good Christian" the actions of your past contradict what you are trying to represent...albiet not so well...to have cheated on a husband...with a married man..in search of a "man" with money is not a good representation of a "good Christion" woman...we all make mistakes...you lack the humilty of someone who has...and who is contrite for her transgressions...all of the buttering of your husbands bread....opening coffee carafes for him...show him to be a demeaning and very intolerable man...it is not an attractive quality to behave as a servant...you are coming across as a gold digger who is afraid to speak up and stand up to him for fear of losing everything his money has to offer...for him to openly "quiet" you...correct you in public...are you that materialist and vain...one has to wonder. You have two choices...you can continue to encourage people to only tell you the things that you want to hear....delete and "un fan" those who are honest...or you can take heade....read...and see if this is really the good Christian representation you want your children to grow up and emulate....or for your daughters to think that they have to tolerate being disrespected by a man in order to have a life....one day they will see you in this light... I'd really be worried then...
First and foremost I will just say that I am not a fan of yours. The reason is quite simple and as a Christian you know, do not judge yet ye be judged. The whole Vicki and you nonsense is really exhausting. So what she says she works, that's what she does, why do you take it so personally? People get upset, not about what is said, but in how it relates to them. Are you mad because you don't work, or just started working? Does it intimidate you that she is able to do for herself? I just don't understand your anger in all of this. Yes, Vicki can be abrasive in her delivery, but abrasiveness does not translate into strongness. In a perfect world yes if you dish it you should be able to take it, but what you did was a low blow. Regardless of the invitation to air your dislike/disgust with Vicki, you picked a terrible time to do so with her daughter at the table, in front of the other women, and on an alledged relaxing vacation. Be the Christian that you advocate to be and take the high ground, restrain from needless chatter. Truth be told neither one of you are right in this situation, there is no side to be had. Speak for yourself and allow others to speak for themselves. You do not have to be the spokesperson for every woman in the group. In knowing people you learn how to approach them and obviously confrontation is the wrong avenue to take with Vicki or anyone for that matter.
Be the Christian you say you are. Walk the walk, don't just talk the talk.
I think Alxis' 15 mins are up! unless she is shown in a different light. Team Brianna! Does anyone notice that Lynn is the only one who does talk about the other girls? Alexis, It is obvious you are a young Christian, becareful not to get in over your head. By your behavior, you need a reality check. even from the begining when you say "am I high maitinience? look @ me!" we've seen enough!
I think you need to check your attitude about Viki -- are you really not trying to get revenge -- examine your motives. That's the way it looks to me and if it looks like that to me, it may look that way to others. Why do you care if Viki doesn't like you or anyone else. Our jobs as Christians is to love those who don't care for us. Killing her with kindness might work a little bit better than being on the defensive with her. Who knows, you two may become very good friends because the way I see it, you two are really similar to one another.
Don't worry about gagging and spitting out your food at the 5 star restaurant - I am a waiter in LA and it happens all the time! Seriously, I have had people throw up after eating a chef's special and it is totally not bad etiquette. There is nothing wrong with you!
No worries - stay classy!
I don't agree with BusinessMan. He said that Alexis and Jim are more prosperous. In what way? I don't believe that. Actually, I think that a lot of the men are intimidated by Vicki's independence, she speaks her mind and won't allow anyone to control her. Not once have I heard Alexis express her true feelings with Jim. He always cuts her off (but she also talks too much sometimes). She does seem afraid to argue with her husband even when she feels strongly about something. Vicki can always express her self with Don which is much more refreshing and relaxing.
Vicki and Donn seem to me pretty much dramatic like as if you all don't have any lives or something like that. Simon has the right to defend his wife from her because sometime she runs out of porportion. When I saw vicki crying I just couldn't believe it. Friends are not suppose to be like that or act like that either.
Alexis, I think you keep it real and i like your personality. Keep up the good work and don't fall into the mix of gossip, drama, etc.
Alexis, Can you please reveal some of your diet secrets?
You look amazing and I admire how well you take care of yourself - we should all pamper ourselves so much!
Take care :)
Alexis, I think you should continue to stand your ground with Vicki. What no one commented on is how Simon waved at Vicki and Donn as they were walking to the door and he was ignored. It was clear they were looking up - no way they missed his wave. Vicki came to the party mad, she should have stayed at home. I wish she'd stay home all next season, I'm tired of her games and insults.
Well all I can say is that your list of Vicki's sins somehow got all turned on her.
Fact is Simon started this scenario he was rude and blame Vicki for the issues in his marriage that he can't see or refuses to see. She tried several times to disengage and he continue.
"Called people stupid" Sadly that was a bad comment but I got where she was coming from. I would have used the word "clueless".
Snored during your story. Well everyone told a story but they didn't include every little detail. Your story took twice as long as everyone else and you didn't even finish. I would have snored too. Although I think they did it in humor.
I don't think you are controlled by your husband and to the person who commented that Vicki and Donn are the only ones not going through bankruptcy, your not so what are they talking about?
You represent the midwest well. Love how you don't take crap from any of those gals. Keep speaking your mind.
I think you are such a wonderful example of what God wants a wife to be in every way. Think Proverbs 31. You are happy and secure because you feel loved by a godly man. Please don't let anyone ever steer you away from the Truth. I feel that Vicki steered Tamra in the wrong direction concerning her marriage with Simon. What is right for Vicki and Donn is not what is right for everyone. Vicki should learn that lesson. We need to support our friends no matter what their choices are as long as those choices are not immoral. Who cares if a mother decides to work or stay home with their children? If they decide to breast feed or use formula? We as women need to be supportive with each other. Being a mother is just plain hard. Let's not make it more difficult. I found it interesting that Vicki's daughter even commented that her mother could only think of work when she was scared she had cancer.
Keep speaking out for what is right. God is listening.
BTW I would want someone to tell me if I was doing something incorrectly. Please check your grammar before posting. It makes you much more credible when it is done correctly.
Alexis, I know that your heart is in the right place. But I wonder if you think it's your job to get everyone in the group to like each other. So you and Vicki don't like each other sometimes that happens you're fooling yourself if you think everyone you meet is going to like you and vice versa. You can't click with everyone you meet. I do agree that Vicki says that she works too much, and yes that can get on peoples nerves. We all work outside the home or in home, but nonetheless it's not your place to tell people how to behave. If you don't like how some is treating you or talking to you cut them off.
Never have I commented on a blog, I admit however to watching the program. I have to say it has been for entertainment value. I felt compelled to write on this blog as I have had my fill. Alexis,raising children is the most important job anyone can have. Being a good person and a christian is the way one should live. Gossip is Gossip. I struggle with the facts that being a good christian is the backbone of your own life, yet you stepped out of your first marriage, you raise your children with a nanny sitting by your side, your husband dictates your every move and never has changed a diaper and become irrated when around your children. You speak of others all the time, perhaps watching the play back of theseshow you will see for yourself. Everyone has problems in life, working them out is the basis of being an adult. You and your group spend more time drinking, partying and bragging of your wonderful life and reality based its good entertainment value and not anything close to the real world. Perhaps you should step up to your husband with the same determination that you are saying you will be dealing with the other housewives and I use that term loosely. Does anyone in your group even have a clue what a real housewife does, have any of you ever clean a room, washed any clothes, and raised your own children? You all spend more time in a spa and a restaurant, a trip and parties. You have a very high opinion of yourself. But if it walks like a duck and sounds like a duck, it is usually a duck. I think the one word that incapsulates this whole group is NARCISTIC. Having Money Does not Buy Class, but thinking you do. May God Bless you and Yours. PS I am a real Housewife, raised my children all by myself, Own two Business and have never treated anyone in the manny that you all do, in closing, my bills are paid, my children are happy, and I do not walk around a house that has not been cleaned by myself nor with a drink in my hand.
I'll bet you were much happier when you weren't on a reality show. Is the money really worth it? Look at the big picture. Look how miserable all these women seem. Do you want to be there next? Think twice before you put yourself in this situation again. These women are not happy and you are heading in that direction based on your blogs.
Thank goodness you came along to stand up to the evil beast Vicki! For too long she has gotten away with criticizing and belittling all the other cast members - not to mention her own family. For someone so audacious, bold and self-righteous she sure can't take her own medicine. She withers up and cries when someone dare point out her shortcomings.
I think you are doing a great job in standing up for yourself - there is no need to apoligize for your life.
Hello, I think you are a GREAT example of what a GOOD MOTHER, WIFE and friend is all about. Like my Dad use to say "There is a time for everything ". A time for fun, a time to study ,a time to work, a time to raise a family, and now is your time to be a stay home mom and enjoy every little thing that your babies do and have fun with them. It is a hard loving job and everybody that watch the show knows that you are doing great . Vicky can't compare her life right now with yours, because first she is way older than you, her kids are not longer living with her, and her "husband is only an accessories, she really look like a sad, old and lonely woman . She is the kind of person who only cares about herself, and only cares about money , because with money maybe you can't buy happiness and friends but it give you the power to control some people, like her husband . So, CONGLATULATIONS for being such a wonderful woman. Very funny and real too. KARMA is a big deal , so be good to people and people will be good to you!
Alexis- Love you girl! You are so bright, warm, full of life and have a good heart. I love the respect that you show towards your husband and your family. Sometimes I think Jim can be a bit much but you are the one that has to live with him and it's obvious that you love him to death so who are we to judge. Love the fact that you won't let Vicki walk all over you, you are a little spit fire and you are right to put her in her place. She has some serious issues and for some reason you are her target this season the same way Gretchen was her target last season. Do not let her make you feel less than because you stay home taking care of the kids, you do what is right for you and your family to hell with the rest. Vicki has to realize that not everybody is suited to live the way she lives and not put others down because of it. What works for her works for her, what works for you works for you, who is she to judge. Keep doing what you do and keep your head up.
Love Alexis! She is great! She is a midwestern-girl and a super-model all rolled into one. It's obvious that Vicki can dish it out but she is not used to getting it thrown back at her. Vicki makes nasty comments all the time...under her breath....rolls her eyes....and then acts offended by "the drama". Also, Vicki must feel like a fool now that she was saying "Don't include my friend Tamra" and yet we have watched Tamra for weeks now belittle Vicki. The truth is...you get what you give. The fact that Vicki has friends that would throw her under the bus is not a surprise. Alexis refuses to allow Vicki to treat her the same way she has treated Gretchen and Lynn. You go Alexis! You are breath of fresh air! The Real HW needs you!
You seem like a sweet girl and are obviously quite intelligent. I know we don't see everything of your life, but I get the impression that you live in fear that your husband will "trade you in" if you aren't the perfect trophy wife. Your subservient, almost groveling attitude with him makes me sad for you. I know you lead a fabulous lifestyle and don't want to lose that, but you shouldn't lose who you are to maintain it. If he really loves you he won't care if you occasionally disagree with him.
I think Vicki was being sarcastic at the dinner table.....that's her sense of humor and you should have joked right back at her without getting so offended. And yes, your job as a stay-at-home mom is a job, but you leave out the fact that you have two nannies to assist you. You have a LOT more free time than the average stay-at-home mom, trust me. Nothing you should feel guilty about since you obviously played your cards right and snagged a wealthy man, but don't play the "I work full-time too card." You're not the typical stay-at-home mom.
Hi, I'm trying again.
Alexis, I'm sorry there seems to be so much that you find difficult to understand. First, there was nothing wrong with you using your napkin to dispose of the morsel of food that you couldn't eat. Everyone should have just behaved with some manners and ignored it. In *this* event, Vickie was wrong for making a federal case out of it.
I'm curious. Was that all a huge set up by the producers, your asking Gretchen for a bite from her plate of her fois gras, as if you didn't know what it was? Ifso, then please be warned because it could be the plan to set you up as the fool on this show.
Not that you necessarily need any help in that department, but no one should be "set up" to play the fool.
Dear, the same thing has happened to Lynn throughout the episodes. She joined the group as a very sweet lady willing to be friendly toward the others. She was immediately the recipient of negative comments from Vicki and from Tmara over and over again. Jeana tried to stop it.
Then Grethen became the next victim of such verbal attacks.
Now, you're the most recent.
But the set-ups seems to continue. For instance, why was a Bravo videophotographer lying in wait for a process-server to come to Frank and Lynn's home?
Why did such cameraman follow Lynn to the park to meet with Frank in private?
By the same token, though, why did your husband when presenting you with a new necklace repeat the caret-weight of the diamonds at least three times? To be certain we had all heard? How crass.
Jim has already cautioned you against "elevating your voice" so much when out in public, but you still do it in a way that is extremely irritating to anyone forced to listen. You force others to listen to your thoughts, even your phone conversations, whether they wish to do so or not.
Of course you drove some listeners bonkers while describing how much you drank and what parts of your clothing you removed at the pool when trying to attract male attention. Of course people would roll their eyes at hearing that. Don't attempt to excuse it by saying, "Well a story has to have details." You're only showing your lack of self-awareness. A story does not need your LOUD and endless details.
Try to sit back and be a bit calmer,rather than reactive. You may enjoy it.
Alexis You do seem to be pretty smart. I get the impression that you play yourself down to benefit the "picture" that your marriage is ran by the man being the leader. In this day and age marriages are based on partnerships the man being the ruler are long gone. YOu come off hypocritical if you really want to live by the christian values you would not go through all the beauty regimans that you do to keep yourself young and fresh for your husband. If you two are soulmates you don't have to go through that. I think you do have some insecurities about your marriage that's why you make sure your boobs don't sag and your face doesn't age naturally. You are carrying the "snoring" thing way to far. It was a joke. They were joking. You rambled on and on and they joked about it. Let it go. Vicki is not your enemy.
Don't play yourself. I find it amusing that you were suddenly emboldened and found your spine at the dinner table only when Vicki was gone. Please.
I was incredibly disappointed in your behavior this past week on the show. As a mother, you should know how reckless and hurtful it was for you to start an argument with Vicki while her daughter was present. You have very little respect for people. Even if your points about Vicki are valid, a person with any kind of sense would address them in private, or at the very least when the woman's child was out of the room. Would you like to have this type of conversation in front of your twins in the future? Probably not. Ridiculous.
Alexis, you are my fav housewife. I think Vicki is so jealous of you it's not even funny. Gosh the way she just tries to ignore you at the dinner table in San Fransisco, almost like she had to talk to you, but was not gonna look at you while talking to you, can you say RUDE? She's jealous because, you're beautiful, have a beautiful family, have an amazing body, you're an awesome mom and wife, you dress awesome and she can't handle this young new hot mama coming in and taking her shine, lol. I thought she said she was gonna start being nicer, what happened there, just goes to show you someones true colors will ALWAYS come out. Keep looking hot and goodluck in your future and God bless you and your family.
Alexis...I love the show this season, but am getting just a little tired of all the drama when the housewives get together socially. Sometimes words and opinions need to be left 'in check' for the appropriate time. I will say, I have to agree with Vicki and the other girls that for you to be on the cell phone almost constantly during your dinner at the restaurant was very rude. For you to not understand how rude it is, is typical of someone who is inconsiderate of others; and, usually I don't find you as an inconsiderate person....but, in this case, I think you were wrong. That might be something you have to work on...just tell your husband you are in the middle of dinner at a nice restaurant, and you will call him after you finish. Nothing hard about that!
So far watching you, I am not sure I want to see more of what you bring to the table, you seem a little boring.
"...Within the matter of ONE HOUR, Vicki:
*Got into a fight with Simon. *Called all of us "stupid people" under her breath. *Snored during my story....
Regarding one hour - was that the actual length of Lynne's party? It was Simon who started the fight, then added more fuel to the fire by running back over while Tamra and Vicki were talking. Regarding 'stupid people', Simon made negative remarks about 'those people' twice. As far as snoring - I thought it was funny and from what I saw, you really didn't need to go into all that detail.
The show has changed with you being added, and not in a good way.
I love seeing you on the show! From what I see you are a smart, strong and genuine lady, who really loves God, her husband and her family. I know that Vicki thinks that her life is better than everyone elses and when she sees that you are truly successful and happy with your life (even though it is radically different from hers) then she has to throw little jabs and digs. Some people think their way is the only way, but like I said, you are smart and strong...keep living YOUR best life!
There are so many things I like about you - you seem to have a heart of gold, you love your family more than anything (except God), and you are true to your religious beliefs. BUT (and there's always a but)....you don't seem to have a voice. You are fantastic at standing up to whatever you don't like when it comes to other people, but you turn into a huge ball of gush when it comes to your husband. I don't even think you realize it. During your conversation with Jim about going to SF last night, you seemed all twisted up inside that he was not going to go and wanted you to go and have a good time. I was applauding him and wondering what was bothering you about it? I know the camera edits the crap out of that show, so we may take things out of their true context, but you seem like such a stepford wife around your husband. With the girls, you are a totally different person. Take a stand and be independent - it doesn't make you less of a wife or mother - in fact, it makes you a better one!
I believe not everyone will get along all the time. I have no favorites, I love the show at a whole. There are times you seem too submissive to your husband, you two are partners! I believe everyone is an individual and you're a person that likes to share all the details and everyone is not interested in all the details. Once you come to understand that this world is made up of different people with different opinions,you'll get alone better with everyone.
Hi. Where did you get your monogram necklace??? MY anniversary is coming up, 15 years. I'd love to know where I can have one custom made. Thanks in advance..
Alexis, First I must tell you that you have so MUCH MORE class than any of the other housewives. I'm so glad that you stood up and stood your ground with Vicki. It's about time that someone let her have it.
I also love your family's values and that you spend so much time with your husband. Couples with children always need time to themselves.
Please continue being yourself and don't let the other housewives change you. You're a breath of fresh air in that group and make the show worth watching.
Alexis what is in the skinny girl drink you ordered at lunch with Gretchen? It sounded like you said it was similar to a "cadillac" cocktail which is a very high caloric drink.
Alexis, Talking about Vicki after the dinner behind her back was clearly being a gossip. I was surpised that you would stoop to that level after all your talk about being Xn. Picking a fight with Vicki in front of Brianna at lunch (especially knowing how fragile Vicki is over her daughter's tumors) seems really the lowest blow of all considering you are a mother, too. Vicki should try harder to curtail her comments -- but for the God, spouse, kids mantra you say on the show -- I just say to LIVE IT and don't get sucked in to the mean girl drama.
I'm sooooo glad someone like you is on the show to put snotty Vicki in her place. She "claims" to have changed, but she is still fake and her attitude still stinks. She is jealous of you & Gretchen. I commented on her page, but it never posts. She can't handle the truth. How dare she call you classless trash!!! She reeks of jealousy! Anyway...I love that dress you had on at dinner with Jim! Rockin hot bod woman!!! Good luck on the show..and put that dirty snot in her place (vicki)! Watch out, fake Tamra's claws are coming out.
Hey Alexis, when you first started I wasnt sure about you but now I do your the best one on that show ! I didnt like what you all did to Gina house but besides that your way nicer and real I think your beautiful and elegant . I did feel bad when I saw Vicki in the limo crying BUT she is very unkind to alot of people and that was very rude to behave that way when you were talking there were details but you can tell you love your husband and it is fun to remeber when you first meet your love !!!