Alexis, I love you soooooo much!!!! I also love Gretchen. I thing you are right take cares of you husband. You inspiring me a lot!!

Alexis, I completely get your marriage. Honestly, I hope to achieve that same type of relationship in my future. It's all about choice and when you want that type of relationship and submission (from a biblical perspective), all this "independence" and "controlling" type of comments are taken out of the picture. It's just "love." I just wanted to let you know everybody doesn't think your husband is a controlling man. I get the same thing from my boyfriend and we love each other and we respect our roles in the relationship, he as the man and I as the woman. It's not about not having a backbone or any of that foolishness, it's about following God's will, connecting with a man of God and trusting that now that you have a man of God in your life you can truly submit to him because he has his family as a top priority. Good luck in everything!

Alexis~It is so great to see a Christian women on the show! I am also 32, married with 2 beautiful boys and about to celebrate my 10th anniversary. You and your husband are so correct in keeping your Godly values. No one is perfect and we will all fall short but keep looking to Christ to lead you! I will keep watching and cheering for you and your beliefs...you have the opportunity to impact thousands of people for Christ! Lisa

Alexis, I think you meant to write "vain" women in regards to plastic surgery. Unless you are talking about blood vessels for some reason.

Alexis I would like to say that in all you seem like a wonderful person. I think that all that you do for your kids and especially your husband is mind boogling... I would like to touch on the comment that Gretchen made about you chat at the restaurant. She made one valid point; which is that temptation is everywhere. You can even find temptation at the restaurant that you were at... I think it is a bit dilusional to think that the temptation is any strong with the miles you put between you and your soul mate. There isn't one thing that I would do with my husband not around that I wouldn't do with him right there with me. I think that if it works for you then that is wonderful, but after seeing his conversation with the guys after they got done golfing I would say he is more than controling and Don was being nice when he said that it was controling. He and Simon were talking like you and Tamara are their property. Then he said if Don ALLOWED Vicki to go... She is an adult and there is no allowing I think excepts the way she is would have been a better way to put it... So, anyway I do think your wonderful I just think that those things said were a load of crap...

my marriage is so much like yours! we have only been apart one night in our almost 5 yr marriage. We don't want to be apart!!!! I need a nanny like you have! I have 4 kids and i'm pregnant!!!

Alexis, I understand what married couples mean when we say, "Our marriage works for us." What works for one married couple WILL NOT work for another married couple. My husband and I bicker all the time, we are not fighting, we bicker, but that is our thing. After being together for ten years arguing is what we do. We also enjoy our own space, time away from each other every once in a while makes the heart grow and we realize how much we miss each other. When we reunite, it's like seeing each other on a second date. As much as I understand and would never criticize any one else's marriage or relationship, I certainly am not one to judge, there may come a time when your husband and you decide to do something seperately together. You would truly be surprised at how much you miss each other and the butterflies you have knowing you will see him in a few hours when you're heading back. Often times, in the daily routine of life, things become mundane. Kisses and "I love you's" pour out with out any thought at all, time away (minimal time) makes you realize how much you really mean what you are saying, or the actions you are making. It is nice to have you on the show, welcome, and thank you for allowing us into your lives.

Stephanie Reven

You are very refreshing, there is just something about you that,I love seeing on the show, you are a fresh of air,Sooo sad that I watch the show I know but it is my thursday ritual Its a good look at the life I will NEVER have,unfortunatly. Oh yes and i canot spell sorry. Good luck in your life you have a very pretty and healthy family, GOD bless.

Alexis - What a great motto to live by, "the grass is never greener." I have been struggling to live that motto and your comments are an uplifting inspiration to me. Thank you!

Alexis, it is so nice to finally see someone on one of these shows that isn't afraid to talk about their religion or God. I have to agree with you that while Vicki and Donn's relationship works for them it would not work for my husband and me either. We have been together for 22 years and have never spent more than 1 night away from each other in all that time, and that is also by choice. I wouldn't want it any other way. I honestly can't imagine going on a trip without him and enjoying myself, I would truly miss him. It isn't controlling when you enjoy being with your spouse or mate. I loved the nail salon with you and your girls they are soooooo adorable and it brought back memories of me trying to do that with my daughter who like your girls would prefer mommy do her nails at home. If it is any consolation they will love getting pedicures from mommy in a few years, my daughter is 6 and just loves when I give them to her. They are some of the most precious moments so cherish them. May God bless you and your family and Happy Holidays to you all.

I admire your relationship with your husband, good for you guys! It's awesome.

Alexis, I think you're so interesting; and that's a good thing. I tivo the show and watch it in the morning while I'm feeding the baby; but I think I am so drawn to watching you is because I have 2 girls now; Vanessa Annette & Viviona Anina; 2&1/2 and 3 months. My husband and I meet in the military 9 years ago and life is so great. We were deployed for 11 months together and he has been just so reassuring our whole relationship. I felt exacting what you were talking about when you said you see your husbband as very godly, if not you guys wouldn't have been drawn together. It's not like you were calling him GOD; so don't cringe! The trip to the salon, I thought you were very brave. I look forward to the day when I can take my girls to the salon with me. Feeling good, looking good, and very confident is the way I want bring my girls up to be as well. I think your so down to earth, everyday wife and mom you just want to always do and say the right things and I look forward to seeing you each week. This is the first time I've ever responded to anyones blog so that speaks volumes to how great I think your are. As Wendy Williams would say "Your such a friend in my head." Have a good one.

I think people are going to hate on you and say mean and nasty stuff about your relationship with your husband, BECAUSE THEY WANT WHAT YOU HAVE! I would like to know where you go for your "cosmetic precedures", thank you~Christina

Alexis, I think you are trying hard to convince us and yourself you are happy in your marriage. Its fine if you are happy but most people wouldn't put up with him for 10 minutes, he is lucky he found you. Best of Luck

Kim

He quite clearly stated that he wouldn't "allow you" to go on a trip by yourself.

I love how you refer to what Vicki & Donn have as an "arrangement" where as you and Jim have a "relationship". Pretty telling how you REALLY feel about the differences between your and their marriages.

Alexis girl I just started watching the show & when I saw you & your family enter into the show I said to myself. Oh Lord it's own now. You & Vikki will have your day. I admire your husband he reminds me of mine. My husband calls me the VaBch,Va housewife. I'm just me. 52 and loving this age. Your attitude is strong you look like you have some sister in you. Go girl say what you mean & mean what you say. Your hands are full with your family. God Bless You & your family. Happy Holidays Kaoko 1 VaBch,Va

Alexis, you and Jim are such a wonderful addition. My husband and I run into this his her trip and outings issue quite often. Fact of the matter is... I don't want to go out to clubs and vacations to wherever without him. He is my best friend and we have sooo much fun together and enjoy the same things. That when I have been out without him, I wish he was there and don't have the fun I would have had with him. And yes it would make him uncomfortable having me do go off like that, but not because there is a lack of trust but that there is a need to protect. He has his guy camping/dirt bike riding trip every year. If I wanted to go (and I have been asked by all of the guys to go) I would be, as would my girls, welcome to join them. I just choose not too and I take that opportunity to do something special (girly) with my children. When I look at all of the couples we know that have went on vacations and so on alone on a regular basis, they are all divorced now. Some twice. My husband and I will be celebrating 20 years in January (we got married at 19 and have defied the odds). We have two wonderful daughters (one that will be 19 in April and one that turned 7 this past Sept). Normal and perfect are individual to each person. What works for you guys is far more important than what works for others! God Bless and have a very Merry Christmas!

Yes, marriage is about trust and respect - and that means letting your spouse travel without you. The first year I was married I had to leave town for a two month project for work. I did it and it was no big deal, except of course, we missed each other. I've also gone on numerous vacation trips with my sisters. I couldn't be married to a man who told me that I could not travel, for business or pleasure, on my own.

Hey Alexis, dont' trip off of what anybody has to say about your marriage, Like my husband and I say all the time, what we do may not work for other but it works fine for us and I'm so blessed to have him. Having God as the head of your life says it all for me.

Alexis, Having a godly man as a husband is a true find. I don't feel that by saying this it is self righteous at all but I know that individuals who don't put God first in their life or marriage probably wouldn't find value in such a wonderful trait. I commend you for not shying away from sharing your views regarding marriage and christianity. You and your husband have a beautiful relationship and I think you're a refreshing addition to the show.

I have to admit...I love you and your husband relationship. He reminds me of my fiance. You are Gretchen are indeed my fav houswives. I admire her freespirit and frankness. I admire your positivity. Being god-fearing I understand the comment that you were trying to make with regards to your husband being godly. Nobody is indeed perfect but if your heart is in the right place with GOD and you fear him, then you ARE GOD fearing.

Some people you can just tell they have good spirits and one thing I noticed is you nor Gretchen never say anything judgemental, or negative about anybody. (Well in Gretchen's case unless someone has started w/her) Anyhow... I love you guys! Alexis-Don't change for the cameras EVER!

Che

Jesus said: "It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven:

Hi Alexis, First welcome I love you on the show, your beautiful & honest..that makes a person special. Being loved by your husband also makes you beautiful, this I know cause my husband Steve did that for me. He died on Thanksgiving morn after a 10 yr battle w/liver cirrossis. He made me feel so special the day I met him, I knew he was my soul mate & that during our 14 plus yrs together I am who I am because of his love & faith in me. It seems you have that too, although I am deeply devasted right now I must tell you how the many things you've said on the show remind me of him. The way you two talk about each others happiness is what we always talked about. My life seems over in someway & it is, al though I have 3 kids, youngest is 13. My best friend, my love, my other half, my inner self is gone. That will take a longgg time to heal, so I wanted to say..your very blessed and enjoy every minute of every second because GOD placed you two together and your love will show in your children & in ur heart. My heart hurts so very much andI just wanted you to know that you made me see just how lucky I truly have been..even though hes gone, I have his love & will treasure it until we meet again..Take Care TRACEY

wow alexis you and jim have such a sexy marriage~i just watched the video and of you visting jim and work i thought you 2 are amazing towards each other.. you are fastly becoming one of my favorite housewives of all the seasons Teresa from New Jeresy is right up there to bad you could not be on real housewives of NewJeresy~~ i love your rules to live by i love everything about you it is nice to have someone like you to watch who keeps it so classy it is inspiring!!

I love you Alexis. You are truly adorable, and sexy of course. I am a happily married woman myself, and I am so happy you are as well. The only thing is that I was really sad the other episode when you kind of cut yourself short. You were talking about looking good for your husband and I don't think you give yourself enough credit. If your husband truly loves you then he will be with you no matter what you do to your physical appearance. Clearly he adores you- so go with it! Adore yourself as well!

Alexis stay true to who you are and what you want for your marriage, yourself and your beautiful children. Live your life for you, not the viewers. We love you how you are right now. Please don't ever change for the cameras!

I'm in a relationship similar to you and your husband. We are just engaged not married yet but we've been together for 5 years now and havent been apart for one single day! 90% of the people I know disagree with it, and the other 10% are jealous. I think 100% are jealous! My fiance is not controlling, and neither is Jim. I'm with him because I want to be. He is my best friend, my lover, my soulmate. Why would I get married to someone that I couldnt handle being around 24/7??? We dont do ANYTHING without the other person, we even work together!!! I have more fun with him than anyone I know, or have ever known!! Most people don't understand. People that tell you they could NEVER be in a relationship like that is because they havent found their soulmate, they've settled for someone because they didnt want to end up alone! I just thought you might want to know that there are other couples out there that love each other as much as you and Jim do!! Good luck to you and stay true to yourself and your family! Best wishes and Happy Holidays!

I LIKE THAT NO MATTER WHAT IS SAID, YOU NEVER TRASH ANY OF THE HOUSEWIVES. YOU SHOW TRUE CLASS. PERHAPS THEY CAN TAKE LESSONS FROM YOU.

Alexis,

Run.

Alexis I do appreciate the fact that you believe in taking care of your husband, I think that is very important in any relationship. The problem that I have with your relationship is that I don't feel the love that your husband feels for you on the show he doesn't show it with affection he shows it with things. I think that he should show some of that affection in the way that he talks to you and looks at you.

Alexis, I truly hope that you do believe what you are saying. One thing I feel like you left out of the Biblical principals is the 4th is Ministry and Serving. Hopefully you are connected to a great church that will allow you to serve God's purpose for your life.

Finding your soul mate doesn't mena you have to be around each other 24/7. I think when you have to be around someone 24/7 you have a dependent issue. Being apart (atleast while working) makes your relationship stronger. I've been married for 8 years and when he has to leave on a business trip, I make his return very welcomed. I think some people have "marriage" misunderstood

Alexis! first off your beautiful! it's exciting to have a new housewife on this season i agree with you about not everyones relationship is the same.To each it's own i've been in a serious relationship for over a year and a half we meet at work i had just moved to this town and we spent pretty much every waken moment together for us that didn't work i ended up getting another job and we don't spend 24/7 together which helps us we both like alone time but i understand how some couples love to be around each other as much as possible it's good to see that there are some married couples these days that still base their marriage on GOD it's very hard to come by . I look forward to the rest of the season and hope your relationship with gretchen continues to grow she needs a good friend

Happy Holidays and GOD Bless Allison

I just would like to let you know I am so happy to have you on the show, I LOVE how you let other people know your beliefs and reasons for things and don't care what they think. I totally agree with how you choose to live in a marriage. My hubby and I have the same views and I am really looking forward to finally seeing a Christian, loving, caring relationship on t.v!! Thank you

The misunderstanding (although I think we, the viewers are not mistaken in our views of Jim) is when he uses words like 'allow'. Maybe a poor choice of words on his part but also shows, I think, his true feelings about his husbandly role. He's boss...period.

Alexis, You are by far my FAVORITE housewife! I think it is wonderful that you and your husband are christians and have the kind of relationship you do. It is refreshing and inspiring. I think more marriages could benefit from your example.. I hope you and your beautiful family have a very Merry Christmas! God bless! :)

Hi Alexis! I just wanted to say that i was really excited that your daugther's name is MacKenna, because thats my name too, and its such a unique name that I was more then excited when i saw that.

Alexis, I have never commented on anyone's blog on any show before but I have to make an exception for you.

As a Christian woman & single parent of an almost 3yo daughter, I am SO THANKFUL there's finally example of how a Christian family can function. I so appreciate the fact that you all are so strong in your beliefs despite the judgements you have & will continue to face. As my grandmother used to say, "if they talked about Jesus Christ, they'll talk about you too!" I also appreciate the fact that you are firm in looking good for yourself as well as your husband; there's nothing wrong with that & it doesn't make you any less of a God-fearing woman in my eyes.

I do not view your husband as a brut or overbearing at all; he obviously takes his role as protector & provider very serious & should be commended for that. When I meet/marry my husband, I pray that he adores me as much as Jim seems to adore you.

Keep doing what you do!!!

Alexis and Jim-

I've been watching the show since the very first season and I have to say that you and Jim are my FAVORITE and I completely respect what you guys have and what you live by. As you continue the show and will hear lots of negativity, just remember those are your haters and they want what you guys have and have nothing else better do to than trash your marriage. You and Don said it best "Your marriage works for you" and who are we to judge and say that Jim is too controlling..we can always say Viki is controlling and Donn is a pushover...you and Jim are a breath of fresh air! You the now the hottest housewife! Tamera has been replaced. Keep up the great work and live your life! :)

Susie

Ok so all I've read on here is I love you and your relationship. I do not expect for my husband to give me rules and regulations and treat me as if I was a child. I don't go around telling him what is acceptable so I don't expect him too. I believe every woman needs a girls night or weekend. If you have trust in your spouse then you shouldn't have a problem. All I can say is Jim and Simon need to learn how to trust Alexis and Tamra. They aren't going to speak up for themselves because they have no say over there husbands money. They don't want to lose their money for their independence.

I think you are very vrabe for taking your twins to get a pedi and manicure by yourself at their age. I could see myself trying that if i had a daughter butG two that is a little too much for me.God bless you and your family i really like you. The other girls seem fake to me.

Alexis I think you and your husband are wonderful addition to the show. You are not scared to express how you feel and you don't care who likes it.

Hi Alexis!

Love your orange kimono Dress, can u tell me who it is? Or where you got it! Love it!

Alexis, I totally get you guys. I'm so happy there is finally a christian couple on the show. I really hope the show benefits you guys and doesnt split you like other couples who go on tv. You are totally right with everything you said to gretchen. She doesnt get it because she isnt christian. Your trying to live according to what God would want, and you guys are doing a great job. Gretchens comment about your big boobs and dressing cute,It has nothing to do with it.Its where your mind is, and that your thoughts are always thru Jesus. and one bad thought is opening up to the devils temptation and your right on about that. you guys are great

u wont leave your husband buts it's ok 2 leave this is not clear thinkin. If u can't leave your husband then your husband is not sure in himself. Your men don't like vicki cause she can hold her owne an dont need a man the same as you other women

Thank God I am not married! LOL!

Hello alexis just to let you know you have a beutiful family. I wanted to let you know that you need to keep your head up and protect your family from snakes that are just jelouse of you and your husband!!!!!

Hello alexis just to let you know you have a beutiful family. I wanted to let you know that you need to keep your head up and protect your family from snakes that are just jelouse of you and your husband!!!!!

I'm ecstatic to know that another woman believes in marriage as strongly as I do. I admire your passion for love and family. Be encouraged always, and don't allow cameras and fame shy your focus from that. God Bless.