ps only ever watched short blurbs of the other housewives series but just googled jill zarin's blog out of curiosity because of your post. she said the following about you:

1. "She is everything I am not." (That's a compliment to you!)

2. "As for Alexis' surf and turf dinner, does it matter what surf and turf means? The real issue here is that a husband SHOULD NEVER publicly humiliate his wife, especially in public and on national TV. Period." (i COMPLETELY agree, shame on jim for doing it)

hi alexis! i think you are sweet, funny and adorable, you have a good life, cute kids and a "lifestyle" that makes other women jealous. all the other stay at home moms that are ragging on you are in fact jealous, because while you are getting your nails done, your nanny looks after the babies and cooks dinner, while they are on their third load of laundry and haven't showered yet today because one kid is puking and they haven't seen a spa, salon or gym or had any personal time at all in months or years and their faces, bodies and relationships reflect that! seriously! and not to hate on them either, they are doing the best they can and if they could have your life and lifestyle, they would. but they hate how much easier your life is (and yes, it IS easier than most). you are very lucky.

however, most of the negative comments are centred on "christianity". honestly, this might be the image you want to portray, but it's not working for you. not that you don't have these ideals, but you said that your church is fasting for you (going without eating), it is laughable that anyone will go hungry for you, i am sure that you didn't know what fasting meant when you said it, and just like the bible study thing, it is pretty obvious to us viewers that you're not really that "church-ey" for lack of a better word! so drop it and own your life ... "my life rocks, i have lots of hired help which enables me to do everything i want, including working on a rocking body so that my husband gets to show me off!!" let the jealous people drool if they will, but own it cuz it's true. you don't need to "temper" that with a spiritual angle.

when you had lunch with your hubby and he told you to stop talking so loud cuz you were drawing attention, well, here's my "you go girl!" advice on that .... tamra barney was able to see her relationship on the screen for what it was, i am sure she was embarassed at how it showed/appeared simon controlled her, and in time you may see the same. you looked up and smiled, bit your tongue to avoid conflict and deflect embarassment, but honestly, he should not have embarassed you that way. my guess is if this happens often enough you will also leave your husband. it's one thing to put up with belittling behind closed doors, where you can shrug it off and no one knows, but it's another when the whole world can see and questions why you would allow it. if he is smart, he will curb that or he might lose you ... you are a total catch and could get any man you want, he would be a fool to let his ego be his undoing.

stay smart, sexy, and fun. and screw all those plastic surgery and ducklip comments, your lips and body are hot! men and women BOTH love sexy lips, and only the jealous girls are mad (because their men are drooling)!! xo

Hello Alexis,
I have asked you previously about 2 Dresses you have worn on the show.
one i have found THANK YOU!
the other i did not. it is the dress you have worn on your weekend away with your husband to the place you two have met. the dress was white with pink and orange floral print, it has a Bell Sleeve and you wore it to Dinner one night.

please let me know.

Alexis,
I think you are stunning.
With that said, what makes for good TV may not be good for one's own life.

Whatever works for your family, is your own business, but to characterize yourself as a practicing Christian, means that you need a little more practice.

Your attack on that woman who you seemed to think was coming on to your husband was not one of your finer moments.

Letting Vicky have it when her daughter was there was another not so good thing to do.

I hope all of this was for tv and not you.

Be the Jill and NeNe, say you are sorry to those you offended, that is all anyone really wants, not to be hit back on the other cheek.

Alexis,

To think that your way is the only "right" way for things to be solved is a mistake. These other women are smart and educated and experienced as well. I understand how you and your husband feel about doing things together. We do that as well but have the understanding to trust each other for a break once in a while when it the break is with trusted and true friends. It's not a trust issue as much as it is trusting others in the situation.

Look, lay off Vickie and the other housewives. Vickie is a very accomplished person and deserves respect. Just recognize that. Talk with her in private and share feelings both ways. The big problem here is that you have had no bonding experiences. I am with her as far as how the series has taken a nasty turn. It is not good behavior for anyone to feel attacked.

Do you think the other housewives are not Christians? Are you the only one? Come on, they are all believers and they all want to work toward the same end. No need to advertise here. They know we are Christians by our love. That love should extend to everyone. Hate the sin but love the sinner.

I hope you learn from this season by watching yourself.
Be gracious and kind.

I loved watching you this season keep up the good drama

Alexis,

You did nothing wrong at the Luncheon! Vicki had it coming. I am surprised to read all those nasty comments that were written about you. I like you! I do however have to agree with some of the other patrons believing you have a controlling husband. I thought Simon was controlling but your husband has him beat! I hope that the behavior he displays is editing from the cameras. If not, my prayers are with you because it seems like he is controlling and overbearing, but you seem to allow it so maybe it works for you. I know with men, money tends to rule the roose but that krap now a days is for the birds. Good luck on the rest of the show

Alexis,
I, unlike many others, applaud you rather than berate you for having a nanny to help you with your children! I have two small children under the age of 6 and I'm a stay-at-home mom during the day (but I work part time at a hospital in the evenings) and taking care of kids by yourself is HARD! It can beat you down emotionally and physically. If I could afford help with child care and housework I would totally take advantage of it! Just because you have someone to help you does NOT mean they are raising your children for you. In my opinion, if I had some time to myself and a little bit of freedom to get away from the house and have "ME TIME" I think I would have more energy and enjoyment with my kids and appreciate being a mom even more! And have more energy and time to put into a marriage. So kudos to you Alexis for being smart enough to know how to take such good care of yourself, your husband, and your children and not being afraid to admit you need help in the house!

Alexis love your hair color. I was wondering if you could tell me what colors and what steps you take to have the colors look so good.

Alexis: Why do you think you need to mediate a situation between 2 women that has absolutely nothing to do with you? The drama between Gretchen and Tamra was long before you came into the picture and you really don't know anything about it. There are always 2 sides to every story and then there's the truth. Stop butting in and let them handle it..or not.

I urge you to listen more while you are interacting with other people. You are so high strung and too concerned to have people “see your side” and agree with you that you cant sit back and hear someone else’s views or opinions- that is, other than your under appreciative husband. Why do you idolize everything he says or does? He comes across as cocky and arrogant. Please get over the “you don’t work” argument. You don’t and you are so defensive because you know this. Plenty of women are mothers (single and those without the help of 2 nannys) and have careers. Being a mother is not your job or your occupation, it is your responsibility.

Hi Alexis!! Love you and your family on the show. What brand of sunglasses were you wearing in the episode that you and your husband were driving to Palm Desert?

God Bless

Alexis,i am also from the midwest. and we hope to be headed back to springfield Mo to live. we miss are church it is alot like the one you and jim go to. you are my fav. god husband and children in that order it works. we have been married 28 years.we are 45 and 46 god bless you both.stay strong. i took the quiz i am most like you. already new that one for i took test because all the beliefs etc... by you 2 stay grounded. beverly

U Go Girl!!!!!!!!

Your blog seems very honest. I wish you the best!!!
None of us know how hard it is being scrutinized for all your actions on national TV. I agree with your comments on Lynne and Gretchen and reaching out to Alexa.
It appeared Gretchen had good intetions with Alexa.
All your points on that were right on.

And I just wanted to share this:
If you are an approval addict like myself, go to the cross. You are approved because of what Christ did, not what you are doing or going to do.
You seem very confident, but it's only normal to what approval.

PS. Does anyone else get that Vicki talks about work all the time because she is plugging her insurance business?

Alexis,
I like you and I think the girl's are scared that they put a Strong woman on the show that speaks her mind. You go girl! You remind me of another housewife that speaks her mind Ms. Nene from the ATL! Don't change....

Alexis, unlike other comments, I am not sold on your sincerity in your marriage or with the ladies. Pure drama for sure. Don't get me wrong, I can understand your efforts in your marriage after you informed us that both you and Jim have previous marriages. Jim appears to be a no-nonsense type of person and you jump all over the place trying to please his every fancy; it appears that you try to think of what he wants before he asks. If this works, great but it looks like you're overdoing the dutiful housewife to me. Perhaps Jim needs less attention and those cute kids of yours need more from you and less from the Nanny(ies).

Alexis,

I was glad to read your post! First off, thank you so much for apologizing about perhaps offending anyone from NJ. I am a NJ girl through and through, and it's such a special and unique place. It gets old hearing some of the NJ comments. Your comment didn't offend me--but I just really appreciate that you took the time to say what you just did! I like your style--you're gracious, nice, and real. That's actually the way a lot of people from NJ are and one of the reasons I love my state so much.

I wanted to weigh in on the comments from Jil Zarin and various commentators on these Housewives blogs. Honestly, if your husband said the exact same things to me, in the exact same way...I would feel that he was being controlling. But here's the thing--that's not who I picked out as a husband, so it doesn't bother me. And just because I would react that way towards some of his remarks, it doesn't mean he is a controlling person! I think it's obvious that you don't take the things he says that way nor does he intend to control you, and I think it's a little ridiculous how much people want to weigh in on other people's marriages. Different strokes for different folks! The need to dissect or weigh in on other people's marraiges seems to be a Housewives phenomenon, both with some of the participants on the Housewives shows and with its viewers.

Good luck to you, Alexis! You seem like a really good person.

Alexis, i have wrote you before. i took the test i am most like you which i new i would be before i took test. i do not agree. jim is not controlling. he lets you dress the way and i think everybody is just not use to a man on these shows saying how they think. so many women in the world now days are in control of there husbands. equal is fine. but women need to respect there husbands more. i know i am 45 and have been married for 27 years.we were married at 17 and 18 and we would not still be married if what you say did not work, god husband then children. i think men get left out alot. ladies make them fell good it is not always about us. jim and alexis do not let the show ever destroy your marriage pull out first. do not listin to other people who are judgemental.i believe that is the worst sin of all. keep the faith.i fell bad about simon leaving i think the men on the show makes it more watchable. your my fav.bevy!

hey alexis just keep doing what you are doing and i feel like you don't owe nobody nothing you are such a beautiful person inside and out this is your time to shine and you are doing such a beautiful job at it

It is very obvious to me, you and your husband have had a true conversion in your life. Is there anything else to say? Really? Congratulations to you, your husband, family and friends and thank you for sharing your life with us.
And for reading these dumb blogs! People say the most horrible things when there is an open venue like this. I can't really read them. They are usually full of inacuracies and without any sort of objectiveness.
I never noticed your husband quoting prices but tell him not to let the scolding of others make him stop! I would LOVE to know the cost. I'm nosy like that.
Lord bless you!

Hey, I just wanted to say is that Vicki and Don seem to have their sh*t together. They love each other and yet, the housewives and their husbands talk crap about them. Every single one of the housewives talk about them!!! Why? their marriage is solid. So, leave them be... I am totally team Vicki!!!!!!
She is the show but I have a funny feeling she is going to quit the show... I don't blame her if she does...
She has nothing to jealous of!!!
Maybe Simon and Tamara should have ask her for advice. I really think Simon is jealous of Vicki and Don..
Go Team Vicki

Alexis, I think you need to relax a bit and not care so much about what your husband thinks. This show is about housewives, but not about housewives inthe 1950's. You don't always need approval from your husband or anyone for that matter, just be yourself!

I so admire that you're always true to your God and your family! Funny enough I took the Housewife Quiz and my personality was most like yours which, was GREAT! I feel that you're so genuine to your morals, values, and beliefs. With that said, I love the way you try your best to be helpful to anyone and everyone. I truly admire you and all that you are!
AS for some of the issues that have happened with the show lately...I totally agree with you that Gretchen was only trying to be a good friend to Lynn and do understand that sometimes we don't like to hear that we're missing something with our children. Our daughters are 18 and 20 so, I know from experience that we can't always see what others see with our children....but that doesn't mean we're bad parents. I did see and hear that Gretchen did call and ask and tell her what her intentions were BEFORE she took Alexa so, maybe Lynn forgot about the convo so don't think it was fair to jump Gretchen over it when she knew!
Love you and your beautiful spirit...can't wait to see more:-)

What brand and style of sunglasses was Alexis wearing when she played tennis with Tamra?

Luv Ya but don't understand that you "don't want to let the devil into your life"... so to speak and you're doing this show! Doesn't seem sensible and parallel with your beliefs.

My Mom died in November.
I love the show because it has removed me from pondering too much about missing her.
You have added so much that "The Housewives" needed. You represent what the female viewers want to see and be.
I mostly enjoy your relationship with your Husband. It is the same fiber that our marriage is built on and that's unique- my kind of reality...

The Season ending is sad and I cringe at the NYC H.W. to come. You should have a spin-off show. You and Gretchen??

So grateful and thank you, for whatever it's worth.

Ann

Seriously!!! Praise God for you and your taking such a strong stance on KEEPING God in your marriage and your family, for guarding your marriage at all costs, and for continuously showing love and support towards your husband. What a GREAT example you are! You have added a much needed breath of fresh air to this show and are honestly the only reason I've continued to watch it. With so much harm reality tv seems to be bringing to families today, it is nice to see that when you keep God the focus and the center of your relationships, NOTHING can shake them. Yes, bad things are going to happen. Yes, people are going to judge, say hurtful things, and try to destruct anything that isn't their own. But, you and Jim show that their is a better way! RISE ABOVE and continue looking upward!! You are a beautiful and wonderful woman!
Hey!...Who says Christian women aren't supposed to be sexy or beautiful? Christian women have a beauty like none other!!! Have a WONDERFUL day & continue to be blessed! From one christian woman to another....THANK You for keeping God 1st!!! YOU ROCK!!!!

drama, drama, drama--it seems you are fitting right in with it!! who cares vicki yawned..she felt like she was being attacked by all of you and chose a sarcastic way to stick it you ....be the bigger person and laugh--cause it was funny!

Hi Alexis,
Vicki was just plain rude to you. Pretending to snore during your story wasn't funny; it was mean. I enjoyed your story of how you and Jim met. Really, I enjoy any screen-time that you get. I like you a lot. Just continue to be yourself and don't let that mean girl get you down.

Alexis, I just wanted to let you know how beautiful your dress was that you wore to dinner on your mini-getaway with your husband. Gorgeous!!

You are an amazing woman. You take good care of your children and your husband. You are truely an inspiration. The others should look to you for advice. Vicki is wrong and I think she should stop looking at the work as an excuse to be so mean to every one else. Keep your head high and keep doin what you do girl cuz you are someone special!

I love Alexis' short mini dresses with the full sleeves. She seems to have several of them, and I would love to know where to find them. Does anyone know the designer?

Alexis...I want to have a necklace like yours made with my children's initials...who made it for you and I would love their contact info!
Thanks!

I feel your relationship is being wrongfully judged. You are an amazing mother and wife! Pay no mind to negative people who judge any part of your life. Ok, I want to touch base of a few things. First off, I don't feel AT ALL that you were wrong for telling that flirt to back off your husband. She was wrong not you! Next, Vicki and Don's LAME snoring episode was extremely rude and uncalled for. I really hope they are off the show next season because they are the boring ones!! I'm very glad you are on the show now, you're definitely my favorite housewife!

Alexis,

I like you, your kind and caring and love your family very much, however you do let your husband control you quite a bit. The way it comes across is very demeaning, like he always has a better way and your suggestion get pushed to the side. He has an big issue with putting a price tag on everything too. Hey we know he's got money but to boast like he does is a bit much.

HI,
I THINK BEING A MOM/HOUSEWIFE/MAID/WIFE/COOK/UM EVERYTHING UNDER THE ROOF IS AN EXTRA FULL TIME JOB!!!!IM A NEW STAY AT HOME MOM FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 10 YEARS AND IT SO MUCH HARDER THAN WORKING A 40 HOUR WEEK JOB!!! I LIKE THAT YOU DRAW THE LINE ON HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. ALSO I WOULD LIKE TO SAY HOW GOOD IT IS FOR YALL TO HAVE GOD AND HIS POWER IN AND AROUND THE FAMILY!! GLAD SOMEONE ON THESE SHOWS{EVEN THOUGH I WATCH THEM LIKE CRAZIE} PROUDLY SHOW THEIR CHRISTAN VALUES..I WISH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY MANY BLESSINGS IN LIFE! AMANDA

Get some confidence girl! You are smart, funny, and attractive. Don't let hubby cut you off so much. He is a nice guy but needs to give you room to fly your wings a little.

I have searched high and low for the designer of your coral dress and the retro white dress you wore to the desert with your husband Jim. do tell!!

Alexis you seem to spend so much time on yourself and your appearance. It seems that you coming from a Christian background would be caring more for others than constantly worried if you have a tan, new clothes, manicures, etc. There is a mixed message about your lifestyle and I don't particularly connect it with Christianity. Our family was laughing at your weekend away with each other and how Jim was whinning about how hard things are and that you need to get away. I rarely see him really interacting with the kids, he comes across like it is a pain to hold them or to discipline them. You both have such a easy lives and I hope you are thankful for all that you have.
You say that you value Jim's advice, but what I see is that he is controlling and condesending to you for instance ( do you want to hear what I have to say?) Hope you show in the future how you both give back to others who are not as fortunate and spend less time spending money on yourselves. Maybe you already do! but it would be nice to see a different side.

Alexis you have been a "welcome addition" to the OC team! I find myself looking forward to watching the show again, with you and your husband. I'm sooo happy to see that your faith, has been incorporated into your lives and shared on the show. I'm truly impressed your husband is "laying hands" on your children and yourself every morning. That's a blessing to have a husband of strong faith like this. Bravo!!!

Alexis,

I love you! You and Gretchen are my favorite housewives. You are the only ones who are "real" and seem to truly care about people. I love how you and your husband are so devoted to each other. Please keep it up!

Where did your husband purchase your diamond necklace? It is beautiful.

Hi Alexis! I want you to know that you are BY FAR my favorite Housewife. You are, believe it or not, a role model to me. I am a Christian as well and a college student attending Nyack College in Nyack, NY. I am right next door to Nanuet and was SHOCKED to read that you used to live there! Keep on standing up for your faith, yourself, marriage, and family! God is using you in a BIG way! Know that you and your family are loved and are in my prayers as well!!!

Hi Alexis,

Love the show! Just want to ask where you get your hair color done? I love your highlights.
Best to you and your family!

Gretchen,

I think you are beautiful, and I commend you for your values.
I am a bit annoyed when Jim constantly quotes the price of things. We can tell it's expensive and that he works hard. You all can show your pride without his spouting out numbers; it makes people feel uncomfortable through the screen, not to mention in person.

I appreciate that you seconded Gretchen's advice to Lynn. Perhaps you did it in a more diplomatic way. Either way, it all came from from a very good place. Lynn is sweet, but those girls go a little wild. I am not a mom, so I wouldn't give advice to a mom. However, I am a teacher, and a word of advice I received my first year of teaching is that you can alway loosen up later, but you can never tighten up. Hence, I had to be to mean young teacher. Now I know when to show my fun side and when to be strict, so the kidsrespect me. I see the same thing Lynn. She was so lax with her girls, and now that they are older, she is trying to tighten up. It won't work.

You're a great mom, wife, and friend. You have a likeable hubby, he just needs to stop with all the talk about how much things cost.

Alexis, I am glad to see a wholesome couple on the show. That God is a part of your life especially! I don't know how people feel grounded otherwise, so stick with your values! Thats why I am on here is to ask you to spend much time with Tamra and encourage her alot, time and time again to work out her marriage, especially for her children. It may take a lot of time but will be time well spent. If it should come from anyone it would be best by you, a woman who values family and husband. Please help her, because I agree with you there is no excuse for a divorce, other than beating your wife/kids or cheating. What was the problem, Vicki? Come on even if she told everyone she needs time out to work on her marriage, Vicki would even respect that! Work with her please, I feel like God puts us everywhere for a reason, and maybe thats why your time on the show has arrived, she needs you!!! All those people who are supporting divorce is crazy, there would have to be a huge reason for this, and I don't know the whole marriage thats for sure, but please get in touch with both of them and you and Jim get with them for support, I cant stand to see anymore disposable marriages!!!

OMG..LOVE the show and it's one of my 'guilty pleasures' !! Alexis, you are a breath of fresh air to the group, and love every screen moment you get. Keep it up ! and PS: you have the BEST highlights ( in your hair) of anyone :)

All I have to say is what works for one couples marriage doesn't work for all. Every marriage is different. You can't put your views on marriage on someone else. To each his own. @Jaslene's Mom...as for being a Christian and drinking...the Bible doesn't condemn drinking but it does talk about being drunk. You are probably a reason why the world has issues with Christians because you would rather condemn than build up. Alexis, keep doing your thing girl. I have the same kind of mindset when it comes to my relationship and it works for me. At the end of the day you have to do what's right for you and Jim because he's the one who you come home to everyday.