I love to read your blog and also very excited about the new NY season. I am a little confused on how Tamra could be a favorite of yours? I think she is self-absorbed, self centered and fake!!! She cannot stand having her spotlight taken away. How could you miss the white trash family reunion dinner? Tamra just had to squeeze her breast together and give the chef a "show" and then her creepy cousin hitting on Ryan, who by the way reminds me of a troll or some character from the Lord of the Rings movies. Ok, maybe I am being a little harsh, but Tamra is not someone I would ever want in my circle of friends, she is not trust worthy and has more hurtful things to say about every one. She really should turn that finger at herself. Maybe LuAnn can send her a copy of her book, apparently the classes she took never sunk in!

You read my mind exactly about everything - I love your comments! So truthful and real. No fluff.

I love ya Bethenny, but Girl Please. Whatever arrangement Gretchen may have had with her late fiancé was between them. Tacky Tamra and Porcine Vicki were so envious of her it was palpable. I'm mad you're making me stick up for Gretchen, but let's call a spade a spade. She's young and gets the kind of attention they'll never get again so they sip their Hater-Ade and talk s--t about her all day like the aging, leathery, straw-haired Mean Girls they are. It's not a good look.

Bethenny,

You have been and continue to be 100% accurate about the show. You have the balls to say exactly what everyone is really thinking and have an educated opinion on what these ladies are portraying and what their actions are really saying. Please don't listen to the people on this blog who are telling you that you are wrong for feeling the way you do or writing what you really see because you have hit every nail on the head. You're definitely my favorite of the New York housewives and I love your honesty. Keep it going and don't listen to the haters.

And no, for the record, I'm not "jealous of Gretchen" or any of the other nonsense that people are probably going to come back with.

Wow... so now your season is starting, so it's "make nice" time with the ladies huh? Because it's their turn to blog? Hmmmm. Normally I love your blogging, but I definitely disagree with this one. I loved the ending to this episode with everyone back together. Regardless of if Gretchen truly loved her fiance or not, Vicki was mean and spineless when it came to making fun of her purse gift--I truly think Gretchen wanted to make friends with those girls, and not everyone would spend too much on a Rolex for themselves. Gretchen is intelligent and beautiful, and obviously you're jealous as well---yep, one can look young and gorgeous without fake boobs and anorexia, Bethany. Which is how you looked in the first episode back. You obviously work out, but your face looks skeletal and drawn (and OLDER) because you need to eat something. You look way too skinny, not attractive.

I agree with the thoughts on Jeana, though. Hopefully she appreciates that you'll be sending her your "get anorexic" book though....

I believe that all the OC Housewives are like any other group of women who come together for one reason or other and happen to do what women do best, critic one another to no avail. With your own character and personality, comes the way you leave a signature. Each housewife has done this. So, like them or hate them, we hope to remember this is television and entertaining to watch. I look forward to the new season of New York - Alex and Simone are a bit odd but play great characters!

Bethenny...no. Just, no.

Whatever transpired between Gretchen and the five-times-married-but-still-held-onto-his-fortune-Jeff is their business. The relentless attacks and nastiness towards Gretchen by Vicki and Tamra (who were each also very cruel to Lynne, treating her as an outcast) shocked most viewers, and the blog comments and emails sent to Andy Cohen, if the previews can be believed, were overwhelmingly critical of your 'girls' Vicki and Tamra.

You are not being a smart girl, or an urban-tough cool girl, or wittily contrarian by aligning your sympathies with people that conspire to make others feel like garbage. You're way too long in the tooth, in the face and in the implants to honestly believe differently. It gives credence to the majority commenters here who are speculating that you, like your 'girls,' have envy issues. Please grow up.

Bethenny, It bugs me when you "cut" Alex and Simon for being at the Social Life party, saying, "of coarse any party called the Social Life party Alex and Simon would be at." You're there too, HELLO! Why do you have to keep cutting other people down for exactly what you're doing? Have you ever heard the theory that, what we hate in others is exactly what we hate about ourselves? Why do you have to be so critical of others? Can't you just be secure enough with yourself to let others be who they really are?

By the way I think you're GORGEOUS! and soooo FUNNY!

You're usually right on target but get over your crush on Tamra..she's despicable. What's up with all the Bravo chicks being jealous of Gretchen... et tu Bethany??

Bravo to you... Anyone who sticks up for Gretchen's gold digging/attention seeking, user/abuser relationship/exposure of Jeff and his poor family on the OC wives, should/has had a lobotomy... That girl is the latest Anna Nicole and I just cannot believe that viewers fell for her fake facade!! She took over and ruined the whole season with that buuny/fake sweety crap...and made the rest of the cast look mean.. Maybe they just don't want their kids gold digging a 60+ yr. old man with a terminal illness on nat. TV and exposing his kids and family to such a media circus/her own soap opera. Kudos to you, Tamra, and Vicki for being smart enough to see through her facade and excuses for "acting" the way Gretchen did to get all of the attention this season!! That girl is like nails on a chalkboard and makes me ill that a woman gets away with treating her "fiancee" and friends like that for her own Narcissistic fame/attention/glory on National TV. People will eventually see this and feel stupid that they stuck up for Gretchen.. She's a user/abuser..

I love Bethany.She is the type of person the world needs more of. Honest and to the point without sugar coating it. Gretchen is just in this for the money.When they talk about their life in the beginning of the show, she doesn't say she loves her man.She states she loves the BLING!!! That is what she is all about. Be careful BLING BABY. Life has a way of coming up behind you and biting you in the behind..when it does you get everything your self serving life deserves.

oh no you didnt-- lol -I love it when you say it. I think no one really knows what the deal was with Gretchen and Jeff. I think Tamra and Ms. Piggy oops I mean Ms. Vicki are jealous of Gretchen's youth and vivacity. She is absolutely gorgeous. So what if she maybe a gold digger she makes Jeff feel good and loved. At the end of the day that is all that matters.

Bethenny, you are hilariously honest, maybe sometimes brutally so. While I don't always agree with you, I always appreciate your quick witted humor. I would love to see what you would have to say about Tamra after you were forced to spend an entire filming season with her. Can't wait for Bravo to set that one up! Do you really want to align with the wannabe Bethenny of OC. Seriously?

Love your writing, but your observations seem to be a little skewed. Tamra and Vickie were bitches. Please, dont stand for those bitter women. Youre awesome....dont take a stand for the haters!!!

Hey Bethenny. I am 22 years old, and I love your show. I live in NYC so it attracts me! I totally love Tamra from the OC! I also don't think you are jealous of Gretchen, of course she is hott but you don't seem to be one that is jealous. I absolutely love you, and Jill is right-you have the best one liners! Keep me laughing please!

How can you possibly support Tamra and Vicki? Are you blind? These women are disgraces, and you are truely confused.

Bethenny, what a disappointment this week. I normally I look forward to reading your blog, but this one was a disappointment. It isn't because for the first time I disagree with you, but because I don't understand how you could defend Tamra. Perhaps you know her on a personal level and want to say something nice about a friend...but her discriminating remark about someone looking like a homo was the last straw for me and that you overlooked it truly saddened me.

Bethany just sees through Gretchen's little act, just like Tamara and Vicki does. Gretchen is the perpetual victim/martyr and fake as all get and it's just revolting. And reading the comments she had duped a LOT of people.

Bethenny:

The hottest, smartest and rightest housewife blogger! The best of all the Housewife shows! She's right, Gretchen is a gold-digging attention-seeking fake.

you are hilarious.... i laugh all the time... i loved watching the scene of you reading the article about manhandling! it was great!

just curious what you thought of the reunion show and how mean and cruel Tamra and Vicki were. SO uncalled for. I used to be a big fan and Tamra and Vicki, but after tonight..not so much! If I were them I would dig a hole and not come out!!

Wow... Can't wait to hear your take on the OC reunion show!! It was amazing to see that Tamra is the only one with the guts to call out Gretchen on the fake story she pulled with her Jeff story/exposure of his poor family to get all of the attention from the rest of the cast this season. Many of us saw through her dumb. blond Barbie act from episode one... but, so many young fans fell for it and it changed the tone of the whole cast and story lines for the entire season. She never belonged on this show. She was closer in age to their own daughters and I am sure they felt uncomfortable being forced to befriend this girl. How would they have felt if their daughters came home with a very ill 60+ yr. old man? I didn't blame them for being suspicious of her. But, Gretchen made it worse by being so loud/attention seeking/such a flirt and constantly having to stick her "real" boobs, butt in everyone's face, steal the cameras every episode that she made them look mean/jealous. Then, the "dumb fox", would start with the crocodile tears and gain the sympathy of all by crying over how hard her life was caring for Jeff.. in between shopping sprees...?? It was awful/sad to watch his kids and his poor health being filmed while she was dressed for the bunny mansion and spending his money every other episode. But, she got away with it by putting on that cheerleader smile, or crying, and excusing all of her behavior on "needing to get out" and acting like the victim of the girls who didn't believe or accept this facade. I don't think Tamra and Vicki would have had such a mean streak this season has they kept the cast with women of appropriate age and real housewifes/mothers/career women instead of that awful gold digging role model, Gretchen. It worries me that many young fans fell for this story and thought she was so hot/sweet, that they didn't think there was anything wrong with using an old, rich, ill man for the money/fame...and still flirting/hanging all over other men while she was supposedly so in love with/engaged to Jeff. What does that tell young women to search for in a man?

Bethenny, Loved your blogging this OC season and look forward to your NY season. You called it with Vicki, Jeanna and Tamra; they are the heart of the OC cast. I don't find Gretchen or Lynne to be particularly genuine or interesting. I also think Gretchen is the one clogging up the comment boxes because I cannot imagine that she has that many fans. People who are that fake do not garner that much sympathy which is why she has to holler and cackle every time she sees a camera near her. OK New York, let's see some class! A little east coast seems very refreshing after what we went through on the left coast the past few months.

Hi B - I agree with you about Gretchen...She didn't defend herself very well about that other mystery man. He was a stalker and also a family friend? Yep. She couldn't explain it. I like Tamra and Jeana but Vicki? Vicki has let the fame go to her head. She thinks she is hot and wears daisy dukes going up the climbing wall. Didn't she realize Bravo set her up for the cellulite shots. She honestly thinks she is hot. And so mad at Gretchen for wanting to be the center of attention?? Maybe they had one too many group lunches where they were fighting over camera time. Vicki's angle for getting camera time is being a b****. Gretchen- her laugh and pose. Tamra - she is actually kind of funny. Jeana - She doesn't really care. Lynne - She doesn't notice.

It's about time they are finally posting some of the truth/comments about Gretchen's fake story. Many of us have felt this from the start and all we ever read were the "poor Gretchen" comments falling for her story!! Tamra is the only one who has had the guts to speak up.. No wonder they made Tamra and Vicki look so mean to her!! They had to keep quiet and accept this vixen gold digger and watch what she did to Jeff and his family..and then, they got blamed for being "jealous"??

you are the best!! love the personality.. you know what your doing girl.keep up the good work..

bethany you are a sad case for a woman you stay in other people business and do not have any of your own, i have just this one more thing for you get a life and learn how to talk without singing your words

It really doesn't matter if Gretchen is right or wrong! Real ladies with any class at all wouldn't treat either Gretchen or Lynn as they were.............talk about white trash........step right up Vicki & Tamra!

Bethenny -- MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS! You are the one who wants "FAME" from every show, every season. GROW UP!!

why is bethanny a housewife of new york city. she is not married, was not even engaged and now single. it doesn't make any sense. what qualifies her for that title?

Bethenny, You are my favorite housewife, of OC and NY combined. To me, if it weren't for you, NY wouldn't have a chance. Frankly, watching the other NY housewives, eventually makes one want to vomit.

I love how you are accomplished, yet simply normal. You own yourself, admitting your assets and flaws. You stand up for yourself, as well as others, and say what needs to be said right then and there. Sometimes, that's not an easy thing to do: to come up with just the right thing to say at that precise moment...but, you do it often.

Not sure I'll be watching NY this season...if I do, it will be with one eye, and if you enter the scene, I'll tune in. I'm sure it will be enough to catch up on the whole enchilada.

Take care!

"Ditto" regarding the blog above, which read... I can't believe you like Tamara and Vikki. Just goes to show the character of the blogger I guess.

Who really knows how much of this is scripted or staged - certainly it's all carefully edited. True personaliites certainly have a way of shining through, don't they?

Bethenny, I've watched the NY version of this show. Being a 'real housewife' in Westchester County and a NYer, you're the only one in the cast that has any degree of reality. Seriously, when we get into the royalty / former model / socialite things it starts to get rather nauseating & is very far removed from anything that 99% of us here know to be real.

i wonder if its the same cast working on these episodes, because there is an obvious difference the way they present the housewives (or lack there of) and the children, etc.

"Oh no she didn't!"...haha...love that comment.

Hey B I think your'e hilarious...but..i found your comments on Vicki and Tamra VERY disappointing! I used to think you were the most real and honest one of the bunch but...not so sure now?? These are real super bitches and i personally thought Vicki and Tamra's behaviour was dispicable and very mean spirited...do i detect jealousy rearing its ugly head again?? Hmm sure looks that way Bethany? Looking forward to the new show and watching the countess been brought down a peg or two, a title does NOT automatically give you class? The way she behaved at her charity event was hypocritical and shameful!!

Oh bethany you were doing so great until you figured out Tamara will be blogging about you and your upcoming shows sooooo you turned nice so she won't be "mean" to you- You HAD me till then- she was awful at the reunion show and you know it- you sold out to get the heat off your as*. Man you let us down, the trust is gone.

Don't listen to these stupid people who actually believed the whole "fake" Gretchen saga and her making Tamra look mean/jealous. Tamra's the only smart one who pulled the plug on Gretchen's "fake" sympathy ploy to get attention/cry those fake tears and act (better then Anna Nicole ever did) by dragging Jeff's kids,5 ex. wives, and the cameras in on her every move. But, anyone with a brain had her number, including Tamra, Vicki, and, in the end, even Jeana fessed up to her facade with the boyfriend.. his clothes on her bedroom floor...She's been a total fake since episode one, just a good enough actress to fool the foolish with her "beauty", fake nice tears, etc., while she spent the man's money and dragged his kids into the awful cameras to make her look good/ "need a break" to go out and flirt with any man who would look/party, drink, have burlesque parties, buy sex toys, and spend money on clothes, bling, motorcycles, gym ownerships, a bigger house (episode one), spas, and act "dumb" in Vegas, when talking about "the will", etc., etc. So, before anyone blames Tamra, or you blame Bethenny for not thinking Tamra's so "dumb"/jealous, look back at Gretchen...She ruined the whole season with her fake story and for making the cast look mean/jealous.. These ladies were probably biting their tongues every week when they had to work with this fake vamp and what she was doing to Jeff and his kids for her own fame/glory/ TV time... I was appalled from episode one when I saw that they put a woman like Gretchen on this show.. I immediately saw how awful it would be for Jeff's family and how gross it was to air someone's illness for the fame/glory of some young, obviously gold digging woman. What a poor role model for young women!!!!!!!! And, the sad thing is... so many people fell for her story!!! I just couldn't believe it and I sympathize for the people who still defend her actions/behavior, especially people who have actually had to deal with loved ones with cancer.

OMG Bethenny I love you! You are so right on, I read and agree with the entire blog post. You're hilarious and so much fun to watch.

you and jill together, what a hoot. u two are funny, a lot better then other house wives in different cities. nyc house wives are more down to earth and not so struck on themselfes as Orange county. So u go girl have a great season.

I hope you stop focusing on other people and what is wrong with them and start focusing on yourself. Please try to find positive things in other people because this constant trashing of Lynne and Gretchen shows such a negative side. I don't live my life filled with negativity and am disappointed to see women so judgemental and harsh with each other. No one is perfect and every time you point a finger you have three pointing back at yourself. (The thumb in not a finger in case anyone thinks I'm missing a digit)

Dear Bethanny, Boy has this show been an eye opener. I am a Mid Ohio housewife with a lot of good friends , money and fun. We do seem to lack one aspect of all your lives, it is called envy. You seem to all ! lack the most basic aspect of being a well off, successful women of today's world, morals.

Bethenny, Oh goodness..you like to give yourself the role of the "token" crazy,loud, outspoken urban-type friend right? I have to laugh because in your so called circle of friends they are "wowed" and strickingly "shocked" by all your "ISMS". The thing is most of your "isms" have been around for many,many years. "check yourself before you wreck yourself" "oh no you didn't" " I don't play that" it's comical to my friends and I. In fact I recommend we have an old drinking game..for every old "ism" you use on every episode we must take a drink/shock so maybe we could actually find them funny again . If someone owned the rights to those old sayings..then you'd be in court everyweek. Come on, tell the truth, do you own the urban dictionary of street language/sayings? I think you just might? lol Oh and don't give other people advice on men...now you are just trying to be a comedian.

I like you Bethenny. How do you keep your figure!! You look great. And it's great that you have a great job and can take care of yourself.

You are hysterical on the Housewives of New York! I LOVE this show and I love your spunky personality. You tell it like it is but with CLASS.

I think the reason why you can't find a man is because they are too intimidated by you. And that is okay... The right guy will come and sweep you off your feet.

Love you, keep kicking butt on the show!!!!!

Bethany,

Love you on the show. You are bright, witty, atractive and intelligent. Look forward to your seeing you and hearing your comments each week. You keep it real and look forward to you setting Kelly back on her heels, I know it's coming and can't wait!

Bethenny,

I absolutely adore you! You are a sophisticated satirist, an accomplished woman and a good-hearted friend. I nearly fall off my ass whenever you open your mouth. I think you deserve the best this world has to offer so go out and get it.

xoxo

You're my favorite! I think you're awesome! You and I are very similiar, we tell it like it is whether you like it or not, with a little bit of sarcasm in there too. Keep it real and simple.

it's funny how you found the OC dull bc i find the NY housewives duller. For some reason you guys seem to have a permanet stick up your ass. I just don't understand why everything you guys talk about has to be in "surround sound" you would think everyone in NY was 80 and freaking deaf! I would much rather sit back and watch the OC(cali being a place i've lived and loved) where the women are layed back and down to earth and much much better dressers then watch everyone in NY looking as if they were going to a funeral, with let's not forget! the giant stick up their butts!

Go OC wives!!

B, hope this finds you well , I hope things go well for you, ypu crack me up when your trying to hold the peace down on the show! Jill makes me laugh she is who she is huh? Simon&company are weird best wishes for you. Michelle