Hope everyone's Thanksgiving was wonderful! I got to spend it with my entire family (the best people on the planet) at my Grandmother's home in Las Vegas! She turned 85 on Thanksgiving Day and she is a hoot! I have SOOO much to be thankful this year including all the wonderful fans out there that watch our show. I say this because of all the people that came up to us while in Vegas with such wonderful things to say. It means a lot to me, so thank you fans!
While away in Vegas, Jim and Alexis called and asked if we wanted to go to Vegas for a couple of nights. I said we are already there! We played all weekend in Vegas, and the more I get to know them, the more I thank God they are on the show. Finally I have a really good girlfriend on the show, someone I really enjoy being around all the time! We had a really great time going to dinners and dancing away the night at the clubs. Thanks Jim and Alexis for the fun getaway! The club photographer asked to take pictures of us dancing and next thing we know they end up everywhere! Too funny, except Alexis and I don't like any of the pics!
So we come to episode four! Boy, do I have a lot I want to say, but I also know our viewers are a sophisticated audience and they probably are already thinking what I am thinking. This episode was an episode of closure for me. Obviously staying in touch with Jeff's kids is very important to me. They are my only remaining connection to Jeff and as I said, it truly helps keep his memory alive in me. I love them so much, and sometimes probably too much, because I see how protective I am over them and their decisions in life. Unfortunately, last year there was a lot said by some of Jeff's ex wives about my relationship with the kids and if this doesn't show the contrary to their distasteful words, I don't know what would. I know the kids love me as much as I do them and we have a special bond between us, especially now since losing their Dad. I don't claim to know all the answers, but I have been through a lot in my life and I am the first to admit to making bad choices sometimes, if I can protect them from that or help guide them differently in some areas then I will certainly do so. Of course it concerns me to see them getting into trouble, so I will talk to them about it, but I am not their mother and therefore it is a fine line. I hope they will come to me for advice or help when they need it, because I will always be happy to be there for them.
Gretchen, you rock. You genuinely come off as an honest and real person I the show. I really enjoy watching the episodes and hope everything works out well for you in your life!
Clearly Gretchen you have a big heart...... You are a very nice person........ Stay true to yourself and try not to buy into this whole celebrity thing too much if you can.
You are why my boyfriend and I watch the show faithfully!!!(yes he loves you) I almost fainted when I saw the halter dress that you ware to the cemetery, I bought the same one several months ago at a boutique in Gulf Shores, Al. Keep that great smile and personality...
Our Dearest Gretchen, You are the greatest on O.C. Please do not take note of others. I love your silly-goofy character, that's sweet and innocent....BEAUTY LIVES ON.... I'm impressed with your of concern of Jeff's kids alcohol consumption. Due to my own DWI record. Only to be severely injured by a drunk driver short after. I worked as a modeled. I worked with Jacyln Smith ,Bill Blass and others. My career was building rapidly. It all came to a fast halt!!! I've been disable for almost 20yrs.. I still look good and would love to work. Its a really big step. My look is a lot like 2010 Elizabeth Taylor, without any PS (plastic-surgery). And my face went through the wind shield...xoxox Dawn Cadiz
Dear Grethchen, I faithfully watch "The Real Housewives" every week as I enjoy a bottle of wine, LOL. I generally work a twelve to thirteen hour day on Thursdays; usually I come home and eat chinese or Hamburger Helper. I watch my husband fall asleep after a hard days' work so I can change channels to help me relax and laugh, and unfortunately, cry as real life situations are happening to real people, as those around the country seem to forget. You make me laugh! You and the other lovely women on the show may not be people I necessarily dream myself to be, but I feel so in-tune to your lifestyle and so in-tune to your lives and I thank all of you for welcoming us into it, not that you are doing it all for free :). I can totally understand how you must be feeling with your loss with Jeff, and though I have not personally experienced a traumatic situation myself, I am sorry for your loss. I am one to never get mixed in with the drama, in fact, I often drink to avoid and ignore it, but I am more sorry for any unnecessary drama you may be experiencing which only worsens your most recent loss and situation. I very much enjoy the show as well as all of you. I soooooo wish I could have the chance to have a cocktail with you ladies!!!! I know it would be a blast. Maybe... sometime! Anyway, stay strong, and remember, "God is great.... beer is good... AND people are crazy!"
Well said girl!. Keep moving forward and forget about the haters! Do you happen to be a Capricorn? lol
I'm so glad to see you finally smile and happy!!! I know you've been through a lot with Jeff and now hopefully you'll have some closure. It's not easy going through what you did and it didn't help with what Tamra was saying. You go girl:)
I think your a great person. You have the ultimate confidence and I think you have suffered a great loss. But with that said it is time to move on and I think you are doing that. Life is short and you should enjoy it. I just want to let you know I think your beautiful and you deserve to have a great life.
Dear Gretchen, It was so nice to see how you are still a part of those children's lives. I am also so sorry that you have to deal with people's negative comments about your relationship. Do they even take the time to think how what they say doesn't just effect you? People are so quick to judge. Just remember, people talk smack because of the inadequacies in their own lives. Keep that positive lively spirit. When times get rough remember this quote "God put us on this earth to make each other happy. There's no point in being angry or full of disappointment, because we only have a finite time here." Dr. Eugena Poulin, R.S.M. (In Loving Memory, 1932-2008).
It was good to see Jeff's kids this episode and I love the tattoo his son got! I was looking at the pictures on the blogs and notice that you, Geana, Jill, and Kim were the only ones smiling in their pictures. I was just wondering why the other women all look so scowly - yes I do know that is not a word. I mean, are their lives so unhappy that they can't even smile for a picture? Keep on smiling Gretchen, your joy is contagious!
Oh Gretchen, my heart goes out to you and the children. I know that going to the graveyard was extremely hard on all of you...Just remember that your fans love you and we are here for you.Jeff would be very proud of you!
What a reasonable grounded blog you have written here Miss Gretchen.
By just being YOU, you are gaining more and more fans.
Your parents have donw well in giving you core values and you have taken those and run. Surely anyone who follows you can see those core values.
Keep on rolling.
My 8 yr old & myself Both started Crying when he lifted his shirt and we saw the Tatt!! Someone does Wonderful Tats I know that!! =)
You are my favorite housewife!! You so easily see both sides of everything and I appreciate how un-snooty you are. You're the most down to earth person on the whole show and I enjoy watching you. I can only come to the conclusion that the other gals are jealous of how you handle yourself and therefore need to constantly talk about you...why else would they spend so much time and energy? You have a great personality, sense of humor, energy and style and would make a great true friend!
Keep being yourself and I think you and Slade are awesome together, he's one of my favorite guys of the show and am glad he's back and you two are a couple.
Stay true to yourself and don't let what others say about you bother you too much, they're insecure and need to find alternative hobbies than worrying about what others do with their lives.
Gretchen: As many other viewers have said, you are the reason why I watch the show :) You look SOOO cute and pretty all the time! Would love to know if you ever plan to come out to Indy for the race again. My chances of meeting you are probably slim to none, but I do hang out in the suites and fit the image. Take care sweetie ! ~S
Glad to see you are still there for Jeff's kids. Keep having fun and making the most of life, mistakes and all- it obviously drives Tamra crazy!
Gretchen you are the bomb!!! Slade is extremely handsome and you are drop dead gorgeous so of course you're gonna have people hating on you, just keep being real and ignore the haters! I wish you and Slade the best and hopefully some day you'll get pregnant by him! What a baby you two would make!!
Hi Gretchen, when jeff's son lifted his shirt off to show his tattoo, it was on point I was like WOW amazing. you always make me laugh and you let the petty stuff go. and jeff's kids they seem nice but they to make better choices. Keep it real and remain the sweet young lady that your are, I wish you and slade all the best.
It really looks like jeff's children bond with you? like you said you are not their mother but it is very important that you stay in their lives, it shows they need you! just a hug and telling them you love them and support them will win you all the credit you deserve. just make sure you always give them the one on one time they deserve. (without others) If you say you want to honor jeff? that is what he would want you to do!!! good luck girl!
Gretchen, thanks for your insightful blog! Be encouraged and continue to stay true to yourself. You know you are my girl! You seem like a blast to hang out with and a truly genuine person. Keep your head up!
Once again always fun to watch you ladies. You encourage me to work out. In fact I was on the elliptical last night watching the show.
Hey Gretchen I love hearing about all that goes on. I can't watch. My tv is broke. So nice to catch up this way. You do sound like a girl with a head on her shoulders. And finding someone right under you nose to love and love you back probably seemed strange at first. Spade dosent seem to be a bad guy. I wish you the best.
I am on team Gretchen! I don't have a problem with your and Jeff's relationship Gretchen. If you are what made him happy and you obviously did, then he was a very fortunate man and he can spend his money however he wants.
Thank you for standing up to the kids and FOR them.
Best wishes! duffy1958
I am such a big fan. I couldn't stop the tears when you were with Jeff's kids. I know it must be tough. I am loving this season and very excited about you and Slade. He was always too good for Jo. I am so glad you joined the show. I'm such a big fan. Keep the laughs coming !!
I started watching Real Housewives of OC last season and i have to say that you are my favorite! You are real and your not vindictive and you are so gorgeous!! And way too funny. You are why i watch the show. LOL I just recently moved to the hamptons, im in college and i feel so out of place being the new girl around. Anyway, the episode was interesting to watch. The vickie trying to hook up her daughter frightend me. I mean she just got out of a relationship and she needs time to heal. Tamra idk what to say just dont fight with her. its a waste of time and oxygen. You deserve happiness and you are young. Have fun girl!!
You are the sweetest, most caring, forgiving person, on that show. God bless you and all in your life!
HEY GIRL HEY!!! SO I'M NEW TO THIS BLOGGING THING, BUT I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOUR HAIR, I KNOW YOU SAID 1" CURLERS, BUT WHAT PRODUCT DO YOU USE...I AM A HAIR PRODUCT WHORE AND LOVE THE VOLUME!!
ALSO WHO WEARS THE MOST MAKE-UP OUT OF THE GIRLS??
I love that you are on the show, and now that Jeana has left you are all I have left to watch for really. Seems all the ones I like leave, like Tammy, Lori and Jeana, please do not leave the show. However if Tamra was to leave, GOOD BYE!
Gretchen, great blog! I always enjoy reading your blogs. You are so honest and seem to have a good heart. You and Alexis are definitely my faves. You make the show worth watching. Looking forward to the rest of the season!
Wow it really shows how great you were to Jeff when is kids stick up for you. I feel really bad for you sometimes when Tamara says those horriable things about you. I think you have a great attitude about everything. I'm glad to see your sticking up for yourself more this season. Take Care!
Gretchen I just wanted to tell you that you are one of my favorite Housewives, and that some of the people who say mean things about you are insecure about themselves and therefore take it out on you. You are by far of one the funniest housewives I've seen and the strength you've shown over the last two seasons has spoken volumes. I hope you and Slade are able to get your feet under you again and you guys can live a happy life. I know you are happy now, but happier in whatever way possible. Thank you are being an amazing person
GRETCHEN THAT WAS SO NICE OF YOU TO GO SEE THE KIDS.EVEN IF YOU MOVE ON HAVE KIDS AND MARRY KEEP THAT BOND WITH THE KIDS.I SEE THEY LOVE YOU AND ENJOYED THE TIME WITH YOU.
Gretchen, I have to say that I enjoy the show, but I really enjoy watching you. You seem to be yourself on camera and don't try to play into the camera. I also think that you give very sound advice on parenting. I completely agree with with you as far as Tamra's son, and Lynn's girls. I love reading your blods. I think you are so attractive, funny, and smart. I did not think anything wrong with you dating Jeff, he seemed like a wonderful man.
You are a beautiful person inside and out. I truley believe you have the kind heart that you have on the show. I loved watching you with Jeff and how you made him smile. We all can see the love that was there and still is in your heart for him. The show last night was very emotional to see and I think it's good for you to move on and still be happy and not get depressed. Don't worry about what others think about you or say about you (their just jealous) YOU GO GIRL!!!! I would LOVE TO MEET YOU just to have a glass of WINE and some laughs :)
Gretchen you are a sweetheart but I never get to read your blogs completley... why are they so loooooooooong?!?!?! I do wanna know what's on your mind but I think 2 pages are enough girl. Just a note for you to take into consideration. Best wishes.
Never change...you are gorgeous, caring and respectful...You deserve happiness...Only the best to you and yours ~
I am totally on your team as far as all the housewives go! I am so happy you found Slade! You guys look so happy together and I am glad you have found some happiness finally. I was so sorry to hear about Jeff. I love the tattoo his son got - great job! You rock and keep rockin girl!!! BTW - not to knock anything, but when are you gonna take off your engagement ring - you should maybe just move it to the other hand. Take care!!
While I have not been a fan and have not believed many things you said in the past,I think your decision to be with Slade is a good decision.you seem to be what the other needs at this time. So live for the moment and if it's meant to be it will.I just hope you have learned that to be truthful is so important,without that people will never take you seriously.Also Slade and the sock was not the best choice with minors around.If not for that I would have been yelling "take it off"!Jeffs daughter seems a little lost and with no direction.I feel for them and hope their Mothers are in their life.Did Jeff have other children and can we learn more about them.Don't try to be their Mother because there will be a lot of resentment.Loved Jakes tatoo of Jeff!
Gretchen! LOVE YA GIRL!! What an amazingly strong woman you are. You endure so much on the show from some of the girls and despite it all you stay so strong and true to who you are. Don't ever change. I am a "younger" high school principal in the mid west and in my job I take a lot of shots from female teachers as well as insecure men who have a hard time with my expectations of them and authority position. I work with 4 other male administrators in my building and I know somewhat of what you are going through. However, in the long run it only makes me stand taller and keep my head higher knowing that I will remain confident to what I want and if you are not on board, well hope my stiletto doesn't hurt too badly.HA! Keep moving forward!!!
Good for you for always taking the high road with Tamra.... very classy. However, I was THRILLED to hear you finally tell her "shut the f#*k up!" Long overdue, sister....
Let your light continue to shine:)
Gretchen, you are such a giggly fun girl. You've made some poor decisions, but haven't we all. I cannot believe how mean these women are to you. It's such a sad representation of how women behave. By the way, it's carats not carrots. So funny! Just goes to show you are not as concerned about money and assets as some. :O) Keep your chin up.