Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen discusses her intervention with Alexa, Simon and Tamra's relationship troubles, and more.

on Jan 8, 20100

Simon then ends their conversation by saying, “Someone that is like that is going to do it again and again; it’s in their nature." This is one thing I do agree with Simon about and I will take his advice and remember it when dealing with his wife. Ultimately they brought this on themselves and Simon needs to stop blaming everyone around him (Vicki, me, etc) for his wife's behavior, and take a good look at himself and the woman he married. However, despite all this I will be praying for them and their children because divorce is a very ugly thing and I don’t wish it on anybody ... even my worst enemy.

Next we see me reaching out to Alexa. Wow, how interesting to see this played out. First of all it barely shows what was truly discussed in that moment with Alexa and how much she opened up to me. What I do know is that I had heard her say on three different occasions that she was depressed and felt like she wanted to talk to someone. It was weighing on my heart and I decided to do something about it. Not because I think I am all knowing, but rather to be a responsible adult. I ALSO have a degree in Psychology and a minor in Family Studies and Child Development. I was trained through my schooling to be very aware of signs such as the ones Alexa was portraying and to not sit back and wait for the worst to happen but rather to be proactive and offer to listen.

I do believe I went about it the right way by first calling and ASKING Lynne if it was OK, and then letting her know that I was going to see if Alexa would open up a little more to me because I wasn’t her parent. I had told Lynne a couple of times I was worried about Alexa, but Lynne seemed to blow it off and I just figured she was the parent that didn’t want to see anything wrong. I had noticed her girls acting out by drinking and other sorts of behavior. I never once spoke an ill word to Alexa about Lynne or Frank and their ability as parents, even though I have my opinions about the way they choose to discipline their girls, and please do not be mistaken that I think I know how to raise a child because I do not have any of my own yet. I do however see many mentors out there able to change and help others simply by listening and caring, for example Oprah. I am not comparing myself to Oprah in any way, but I am saying that she does not have any children, but is constantly able to help children in need, young girls, teenagers, etc. by taking notice to their pain, hurt or signs of need. I don’t think you have the ability to be a good parent just because you pushed out a kid. I think it takes dedication, work, heartache, compassion and discipline in order to discipline your own kids. I only hope to be a good parent one day and I sincerely hope that if I have a child that is hurting or struggling that my dearest and closest friends might be able to point out or take notice when I am blind to it.

461 comments
jackie from canada
jackie from canada

Gretchen, I think you should really listen to the housewives where slade is concerned. He may be genuine in his feelings, but come on you havent spent enough time to find gretchen, which is why your mom is hesitant. She is a smart woman listen to her. If slade is the right one for you he will wait, and give you some space to realize that. I cant believe he lied to you about Laurie. She is a woman with nothing to lose Gretchen, she DIDNT lie to you SLADE DID. Leopards never change their spots my dear, once a liar always a liar. You cant build a strong relationship if it starts out with a lie however small it may be.

Samantha C.
Samantha C.

Hi Gretchen i just wana say that i never watched the show until you became a housewife i think that you are a very beautiful girl, everytime i watch you you make me laugh i think your hilarious. I think Tamra is just really jealous of you and shes just a very mean person with nothing better to do than to harrass you and i can't stand her.I also think you and Slade look really cute together and you end up marrying him and that the both of you are really happy together for the rest of your lives!!Sincerly Samantha

classy miss
classy miss

i am a viewer from new zealand,and i think your fabulous gretchen,you seem sincere and the most down to earth,we are not up to date with the series but i look forward to seeing how you develope,my god some of the other women behave like nasty teenagers,All the best with your endevours,you outshine them all,

UKsuz
UKsuz

Hi Gretchen......I just wanted to say I am watching the show from UK and we are very behind here but I have to say I think you seem a really lovely person and I am so glad you have found Slade.I hate to watch the way Tamra talks about you and really think she should stop being so nasty.I was so worried you would leave OC as she said such terrible things.Take care you are so pretty.

floridaHW
floridaHW

Gretchen,in one scene,you and slade were in your kitchen,you have a book on your counter,it was standing up it was called "new york coffee"im looking for a copy,could you or any of you reading this post give me some more info,i nddid a search for it online but cant find it(i dont know the author............please help,thanks :) I enjoy you and alex on the show,you girls are the best(real!!!!)

Very offended viewer
Very offended viewer

Yours Shenequa comment on last night's reunion show was offensive, classless, and borderline racist. You should really be more careful of the things you say on national tv.

Anastacia
Anastacia

Hi Gretchen! You are one of my favorite OC Housewives and I wanted to reach out and let you know that my heart broke for you when Jeff's health was deteriorating. Now that you seem so happy with Slade, I feel like you're in a better place and that is so great! I was on Facebook earlier and I love that your page is informative and fun, unlike Tamra girl. Up to this point, I kind of felt for her and her problems with Simon until I read through her page. I never thought she would make such a racist comment, however we only know what we see on TV. Anyway, keep on doing your thing and being who you are. I think you're a kind soul.

Virginia Beach House Wife
Virginia Beach House Wife

I love your out look on life. You are sweet and caring. If I was your friend I would of been there for you when Jeff passed away. I can truley say Tamra and Viki are not your friends. Instead of reaching out to you when you were at your lowest they just talked about you behind your back. You deserve better then that. Good luck with all your adventures and have fun.

Feliep
Feliep

Here's what I see...being that I have an "insider's knowledge" of how the world of television works, I know that most, if not all, of reality television is a farce. As we all sit here and watch the "drama", or the "divorce" and accusations of infidelity, we must take into account the fact that remains at hand-this COULD all be a huge marketing angle to make people watch the show! Let's be honest here-I watch it. You guys watch it. We all watch it. When they show up on tabloids-we watch more. When you hear more drama-we watch more! THEY WIN!!!!

ArmyWifeyy
ArmyWifeyy

Gretchen, you are the best girl out of all the Housewifes. You have always kept it real, for some reason the others always seem to be jealous of you and spred rumors about you and your previous relationship. You're a smart, beautiful, and strong women. The other wifes feel indimitated by that. But you keep doing what you do and let nothing break you!

JennaRoses
JennaRoses

GRETCHEN! you are by far the coolest chick on the show. It's funny how you're one of the youngest housewives but also seem to be the most mature? Honestly when I first watched you on the show I thought you were a money grubbing phony, but then i realized episode after episode you were just in love with an older man and had a tremendous heart..i have realized that i completely misjudged you from the start!! you are one extraordinary woman..intelligent, compassionate, sincere, hilariously witty, and of course beautiful. You are definately my favorite on the show, and my boyfriends too lol he says you are the only sane one and the only one who looks natural!! can't wait to see more...do your thing girl!!!!

(also you and slade are a great match. Jo was wayy too immature for him!)

frogee19
frogee19

Gretchen, You are sooo cute, don't let any one (Tamara) make your life difficult. Tamara is NOT the hottest housewife! I hate Tamara and Simon. I don't even know them but what I see is an egomanic that feels threatened by you. Keep having a great life! I will keep watching, hoping that Tamara and Vicki get there bs handed to them.

tatty
tatty

Gretchen....you girlfriend are by far the most down-to-earth of all the girls...and in my opinion a fan favorite on the show!! I like Vicki too...she seemed to be the only one that saw herself act crazy last season and really learned and changed from it.

Don't change who you are....

Dawny
Dawny

Im going to make this short and sweet.I didnt enter any contest to shop with one of the housewives,but If I did I would pick you.You are very positive and very likeable.Thank god for you because the other women are downers.Wish you all the happiness in the world.Stay you

whitney
whitney

It's kinda sad that you guy are all grown women and it seems like all of you'll do is fuss and fight with each other like sixteen year olds. Grow up, I'm 22 and I'm more mature than anyone of you would ever be. Who gives a shit. Stay out of other people lifes. To say you just said you don't "care" about Tamra all you do is go out your way to talk about her alot. You girls need to stop putting each other down. You girls aren't really good friends at all but it's great to watch every Thursday. Very entertaining for me. Not so good for you ;)

Misti
Misti

I watch the show all the time. Personally, i admire your outlook on life. You seem to be a truly genuine person and that is rare these days. I don't think that you like to join in on all the drama when it comes up, however you have to defend yourself. I think that most are more than likely jealous of you because you appear to have it all. Great personality, intelligence, witty, kind-hearted. And woman probably feel intimidated by that. Women are just cruel. You just keep your head held high!! BTW i think that you beeing there for Alexa was admirable and they shoud have thanked you for that.

PunkyPoo
PunkyPoo

PS I love your laugh a lot too. I am Team Gretchen!

Nique Young
Nique Young

Gretchen,

actually I seriously think that you are the realist of all the house wives. You call how you see it. I believe Vicki is real also but, she thinks too much of herself. The one is standing beware that you do not fall and Vicki is tilting. I believe you are a true friend, not telling people what they want to hear, but helping them while humbling yourself. The comment lynne made about everyone just looking on the internet at your actions. Well you learned from past mistakes, And I respect that. Hey none of us or perfect, you didn't try to cover up your mistakes. You admitted to them and then tried to help a teen in need. In the words of Ricki Lake "You Go Girl"!

janeyre7
janeyre7

You really have to watch yourself when it comes to other people's kids. I know your heart was in the right place though. And look at what happened w?Alexa after that epsode. You & Jeanna are my favorites. Also, I think Tamra sabotaged you to try to impress Vicki.

1Viewer
1Viewer

For someone that isn't concerned with Tamra and Simon you sure do go on and on about them. You have some serious issues.

Courtneytherapist1
Courtneytherapist1

Hi Gretchen,

I would caution you that although you may have a bachelor's degree in psychology that does not qualify you to act as a counselor. Therapists are Master Degree educated professionals that go through a great deal of training before becoming certified/licensed to practice and they NEVER practice on friends/family members. Please be more careful as you can cause someone serious psychological damage.

vmarlau
vmarlau

Do you have like a fan club r something in facebook!?

Starr
Starr

Gretchen, I thought it took an outstanding personality to reach out for a child cause. My sister, who has no children, reaches out to my children all of the time. She is the young fun Aunt that can put situations in a perspective a child may have a better chance understanding. I love her for it and I hurt for you when I saw you being treated badly for trying to help. Don't let this keep you from helping out in the future!!! Many parents would appreciate you assistance, I know I would! I hope when they saw the show they realized how rediculous they truly acted.

Betty Ann
Betty Ann

I love your laugh..It is infectious and just gets me to smile everytime you burst out with it !!! You Go Girl !!!

Jackie80
Jackie80

Hello Girl!!! Just wanna say that you are by far my favorite housewife!!! All the other ladies are just jello of you because of your beauty and fun loving personality !! Your hair is AWESOME you have the best hairstyles ever...Keep up your spirts and dont let anyone run you down about anything...God Bless You!

Ladyrider
Ladyrider

Really glad to see you took classes to learn to ride, Best thing you ever did, As to all the women, including you Gretchen. Remeber dont do or say anythingabout someone unless your dont wnat it done to yourself. I know they dont show us all the real things that are happenign on tv. It doesnt sell unless it is trash. You know Ladies dont give them trash to show if you dont want to aired on TV

SeattleOCfan
SeattleOCfan

Gretchen,

No matter how Alexa acted after she talked with her mother, you did the right thing! You know it. Alexa knows it. One day Lynne will know it. Sometimes you just gotta roll with it and be satisfied with doing the right thing.

Take care.

Houston
Houston

You and Tamara need to just stop going at one another, take the Blog off, you don't have to always respond to people, just be quite!

mpresu2
mpresu2

Gretchen, You are truly my favorite housewife next to Jeana. I feel you are true and genuine. You are fun and have a great outlook on life. I know you truly loved Jeff and it is something you don't have to prove to anyone. It looks as if you have found happiness again in Slade and you deserve it. Don't waste your time or energy on negative people. It is clear that Karma is real and you can never be negative to others without negativity coming back to bite you in the butt! Unfortunately, that is exactly what is happening with Tamra. Move forward and focus on treating others as you would want to be treated.

Viewer123
Viewer123

You are a hot mess how are you going to date your friend's guy AND talk about Vicki after you went to her for advice! You were cool the first season but I think Slade (whoever) is not a good guy! You can do better!

MissySB
MissySB

Gretchen!!! You by far are the hottest housewife on the show! Your personality is so fun and you make me laugh every time I watch! Who cares what those other heifers are saying! Rock on woman! \m/

T. Krieger
T. Krieger

Gretchen:

I have to agree with some past post. I absolutely did not understand how Lynne could act so stunned and surprised about the conversation you and Alexa had when she was talking with Alexa about you taking her shopping! You had the decency to call ahead and talk to Lynne about it. She was all like, "Thank you, that is so sweet!" Blah, blah, blah..then, all of a sudden its like this smack in the face and she never saw it coming. Whateve Lynne!

You were just trying to be a good, honest and upfront friend. Anyone would be lucky to have you on their side!

KJ
KJ

`Gretchen, it seems as of late, you and `Alexis are hitting it off pretty good, which is great. But,what I would do right now is, you and `Slade start isolating yourselves from them. Don`t worry about what the rest of the girls are doing and/or saying. You and `Slade start enjoying your time together, just you two. In time you and `Slade will really find out who are your `True and Cherished friends and who are not. It is not how many friends a person has, but the quality of those friendships is what really matters. Who is going to stand by you when things get rough, who is it that you really trust and they trust you. You are still young, but very bright and intellegent. You`ll learn.

Shirlene McWilliams
Shirlene McWilliams

Gretchen,

You will always be my favorite on the show! You are a person of great character, and you're always smiling, kind, sensitive, genuine, and NEVER PHONY!

Also, if I recall correctly, weren't you the FIRST ONE WHO WAS A CHRISTIAN ON THE SHOW? Matter of fact, I recall you always mentioning the blessings you've recieved and the gratitude and faith you have in the Lord....I think maybe some people weren't paying attention. Stay humble Gretchen, and always stay YOU! You are the most real and kind housewife on the show! Hang in there Gretchen, and realize that most of the people that treat you so cruelly, are just purely jealous!

Tammi Texas
Tammi Texas

Gretchen, just wanted to drop a line and tell you that I completely understand where you are coming from. My husband passed away a year ago, 13 years my senior. You and I seem to be on the same paths in life! You seem to be such a great, compassionate, and caring girl, and I wish you nothing but success and the best to come! You keep your head up!!! Remember, NO ONE can tell you what you should do, should have done, or what they would do until they loose their spouse and best friend... AND walk, not a mile, BUT just a few feet in your shoes that very next morning. I will keep you in my thoughts in prayers. I am proud that you and Slade are attending church! You take that higher path with Tamra and Simon. And good choice on Alexa. It was a friendly thing to do and sorry for those that can not see it that way. Everyone has a past, everyone makes mistakes, too bad people are defensive and throw stones first before looking in the mirror at themselves. Keep smiling girl, God Bless

PamNJ
PamNJ

Gretchen, You are by far my favorite! You are the coolest Housewife and who cares what you did in the past, we all have a past, you are sweet, honest and well rounded. You speak the truth and were just trying to help your friends daughter....her reaction was guilt and had nothing to do with you! Keep up the smiles!

Cp
Cp

Your my favorite house wife and believe you are very real. I thought it was so sweet of you to open up to lynne daughter. I don't understand why lynne got mad at you, because you called her told her what you were going to do and all she said was okay ya you try getting to her,believe it or not she opened up to you. Your bubbly personality i believe makes the whole show good job Your the best!!!

Tammey
Tammey

Hey Girl!!! Let me start by saying you tried to reach out to Lynne and Alexa. And good for you!! Lynne was totally up for you talking to Alexa, UNTIL.... She felt like her toes were stepped on. My mother thought she knew me. but, she didn't. I was so lucky to have a sister that was my best friend. She totally kept me out of trouble. And thats the whole thing. All Alexa has to do is cry and stomp off crying, annnnd she gets what she wants. Ur children are ur children not ur friends. They have enough friends. Call me old school... Keep been you girlie!!!

Casey
Casey

Hey Gretchen, I honestly love you girl, I think you are the prettiest white girl I have every seen (IM NOT GAY..LOL) But you just keep yourself up and very classy. So what if everyone talks about you, girl Jesus went through that and then some. So keep your head up and please show me that you do have black friendss...lol Stay prayed up girl and keep your head up, because u are loved....

Lisa P 655
Lisa P 655

Gretchen, I cant believe Lynn still does not remember that you called and asked her if she would mind you talking to her daughter. She should be grateful to have a friend like you. If anything becomes of your concerns she will regret her actions towards you. Stay true.

Emily E
Emily E

Hi Gretchen, I think what you did for Alexa was such a caring, heartfelt gesture. I think it is a shame that it was misconstrued by both Lynne and Alexa. I could tell your motives behind it were pure. When I was her age, I valued the women in my life who I could go to and talk about things that I didn't feel comfortable talking to my own parents about. You seem like such a sweet, genuinely caring person!

AEller
AEller

Gretchen! I am so happy for you to be with Slade this season. You two look like you have a lot of fun with eachother and you love eachother. Those are two of the most important things to have in a relationship. So just wanted to say that I am very happy for you!

Kimberly Kay
Kimberly Kay

I agree with you on all accounts... stay true to yourself... you are wonderful sweet natured women.. & not only beautiful on the outside...but very beautiful on the inside.... I have liked you from the first time you came on the show.. you seem like a very positive happy person.... you have alot going for you... don't let all the BS ever bring you down... Best Wishes to you...

Mommy G
Mommy G

Gretchen,

You're my favorite...due tell about the padded bra you wore on Watch What Happens...would like to get one for my barely there boobs...thanks...Have a great season on OC Housewives..

Karen Long
Karen Long

Gretchen, you are a "breath of fresh air" on that show. I love your enthusiam, laugh and sense of fun in all that you do! I truly believe that "you do care" and that the rest of the housewives are "living on another planet"!! As for Slade, I liked him before and I like him now! He was so kind to that "spoiled" Jo, she made my stomach turn, and he really has always seemed like a "nice guy"! Don't change who you are, a real woman can be funny and funloving and still be intelligent, as you obviously are. I am a 71 year old woman who still works full time and "chases" my man around the house. Life is too short to take yourself too seriously! As the saying goes, Live! Laugh! Love! sincerely, Karen Long Brentwood, Ca. (Northern California)

Sherry R.
Sherry R.

This is in regards to Tamara. How you can even look at her is beyond me. Seeing Tamara, I see white trash who took a good road when it was offered by Simon. So if they are going through a divorce, I guess Tamara can move back to her broken down trailor!

I honestly feel that she is jealous of you, period! We all know how women can be to other women when jealous - seriously, she thinks she is the hottest housewife in Orange County? NOT

You are a beautiful, spirited and fun loving person and if ever the opportunity came and we ever crossed paths, we would become best friends and would have so much fun!

Keep your head up, consider Tamara to be the scum of the earth, she isn't worth losing sleep over!

Mommy3
Mommy3

Gretchen- I have watched the show since it first aired. And let me tell you both from a womans and mom's point of view, I think you were just trying to be a good friend to Lynn. I think it is great for anyone to be able to help a teenager out with their issues if possible. And it does not always end up being the parents because the teen may mot feel comfortable to confide in their parents. As far as Tamara, I think she is jealous of you and the whole "Jeff" incident was just a way of trying to hurt you, you can tell you really loved him so don't let someone as low as Tamera get you down! She is just a person that has so much crap in her own life with a lazy, no account son that she wants everyone to miserable with her and if she doesn't get pity then she becomes a enemy!!! Keep doing what you do and don't worry about everyone else!!

Natalie Ware
Natalie Ware

Hi Gretchen

You did'nt do anything wrong. You are my favorite on this show because you are so grounded and fun loving. Everyone else seems to have some kind of agenda (Not Alexis I like her also). I was sad to see what Tamara is saying is hurting Jeffs kids. Stay yourself and say sweet

HeatherN
HeatherN

Gretchen...you rock! Screw Tamara. Not only is she ugly on the inside, but shes completely jealous of you b/c youre hot! Granted those of us that arent in the "Housewives World" dont really know who you all are and how you live your lives, but Tamara has been nasty since the get-go. She was obviously so miserable with her own life, that she had to focus her own insecurities and unhappiness onto you. Thats just what miserable people do.