hi gretchen..i love to watch your show..i think slade is cool..yall are good together...tamera is a nasty slut...tamera's boy-toy is bi-sexual because my former teacher named steve rossi dated him right before he met that slut tamera...i hope you and slade have a happy new year..i think you should have children with slade...oh ive watched every season and i now see reason that vicki always talks bad about slade..vicki wants slade because she said on 1 episode that slade was hot so thats reason she always talks crap about slade..she was jealous he dated other houswives and not her...vicki has always wanted slade and she knows it...happy new year to you and slade and your dogs...bye

Hey Gretchen I no this is one of your earlier blogs but i just had to comment on it. First of all i am truly sorry about Jeff and, trust me, i no what you are going through i lost my papa and my grandad and my little cousin all within the space of 1 year and my grandad also had cancer. Also i am totally, always will be and always have been on your side about the whole Tamra argument. I think you are so head- strong and an amazing person and i love just how bubbly you are as well :) I know I am only a 15 year old but you are truly inspirational to a lot of teens all over the world (i am from scotland so this proves my point), and most of all you inspire me :) i hope to hear from you xxx

Heather :D

Gretchen keep your head up. You are an amazing beautiful woman and don't let any jealous girl bring you down. You know you are taking the high road and hopefully so do the viewers. We love you Gretch, we're so sorry for your loss.

Gretchen, you rock!!! I love that you are real. You do not seem to be phony, and that is rare on all these housewife's programs. It is also nice to see someone who has courage to step up, and not be in such denial about things. The Lord God bless you, and keep on keeping it real!!!! O.

HEY GRETCHEN! .. you shud neverr listen to any of what those housewives say.. they are just jealous because you get the attention and they dont. Vicki shouldn't have hounded you about dating Slade sinceeeee she didnt hound her little frend lori about dating slade.... RIGHT after jo and slade broke up.. as a matter of fact.. they were dating at the same time while jo and slade were still seeing each other so Vicki shud take her mouth elsewhere. =)
im team Gretchen 100%.. keep doing wut u do.
Love. Mysh

Gretchen you are my favorite i hope every thing works out for you you deserve the best i love your song your beautiful with a beautiful voice

Dear Gretchen, I just wanted to say how deeply sorry I am for your loss. I am 38 yrs old and lost my husband in 2008. He took his own life. I watched the episode of where you took your dogs to the beach and you were talking about how you were missing Jeff. I felt for you cause everyday I miss my husband. I know what you have gone through and know what you are still going through. I cry and still cry but I take it one day at a time. I have to for my kids. Jeff is with you and will always be with you in your heart. You take care of yourself and keep on smiling.............

Hi Gretchen,

I just want to say that Tamra's comment at the opening credits of the show really shows how she truly feels. Something about Housewives may come younger but they don't come any hotter... SHE'S JEALOUS!!!!! She's jealous of you because you're young, hot and you have a great personality. She's obvious unhappy with her husband who can't accept her for who she really is and is obviously embarassed of her. It seems to me like he just married her for her looks and the novelty has defenitely worn off! She's jealous of your free spirited nature. You're also very nice and a genuine person, pretty much everything she's not. Whenever it was her turn to talk, in those little monologues that you all get to do directly to the cameras, she tore everyone to shreds!!! That's why I don't feel the least bit bad talking about her the way I am right now. I'm speaking Tamra Talk right now and if she reads this and doesn't like it then she should change her ways!

Oh, and before I forget, I want to address what she did you at that party, (last season?) trying to get you wasted and foisting her young horny son on you to try to stir up trouble. That was just low and disgusting of her! She's a really bad person. Oh and I'm so glad you got to ride your motorcycle....YES they can all SUCK IT!!!!!

Gretchen, Please don't marry Slade. He is not good enough for you.

What brand of rollers do you use on your hair? Love it!

Gretchen you are a very good person in my eyes. and I just want to say keep your head up... all people do things that are bad. an if they say they don't... lets just say they are liar liar pants on fire. I just want to say you are my favorite housewife. I watch it all the time. I wish you an Slade the best. Oh an by the way you look good all the time.

Gretchen
I really like watching you and respect you in so many ways!
You are so Real and I like how you Shoot straight with yourself and with others and seem to have a huge heart for others....I respect your honesty and the way you communicate!
Especially, the way you handle situations when others are offended by you!
You know your true intentions...remember....if your heart is in the right place and you mean well for someone..just because someone becomes offended doesn't mean you were out of line or have done something wrong...it may mean that person has some unresolved issues that are distorting their perspective and keeping them from receiving Truth!
Just somethings i'm learning from dealing with criticisim myself...I'm very careful before I get involved with others or even being careful to not let others be too involved in my business...just because...most times..things seem to always get twisted into something it's not!
You are my favorite...I also miss Geana....hope I spelled her name right!
I loved how she stood up to Tamra at Lynnes jewery party at the dinner table....Geana was right on when she told Tamra she was wrong for judging you and being extremely critical as well!
It's not anyones place to judge a person!
I hope you stand ground and remember.....don't let anyone steal your happiness or your peace!
And remember....don't respond to Tamra's accusations....the enemy is the accuser....he wants us to react to what others say about us....but as believers we know that we are to live by what God says over us in his word!
God is your Judge and He will fight your battles and He will Vindicate you in any situation!
Like you said....just because someone says something about someone....Doesn't mean it's True!
I wouldn't give Tamra anymore control and I would take the high road and forgive her....that way you aren't allowing others funk to make you toxic!
Keep your heart right and turn your cheek when condemnation comes your way!
God will Honor your life!
Love you girl!
You are the best!
Keep your bubbly cheerful self out there for others to see Gods good works in you for the world to see!
You are my Favorite!
God Bless you in a great way!
Danna Anderson
Fort Worth Tx

Gretchen, I was watching "Watch What Happens", saw that you made a single (song), so I purchased and downloaded it from ITunes. I have to say, I was pleasantly surprised! I loved the voice and your singing talent. Why have you not pursued that talent? You could go far, in my humble opinion. It was also a lovely tribute to Jeff.

December 10th, 2009

Gretchen:

I have been watching your show since its inception. I ABSOLUTELY adore you!

Stay strong and keep true to who you are. You are not only a beautiful woman on the outside but, more importantly, so beautiful internally with such a huge heart.

You are a role model for all women that struggle with the God given attributes of just being "born" beautiful and, yet simultaneousely subjected to a community that condemn (us). In addition to your intrinsic beauty, you are so intelligent and incredibly witty. You crack me up with every episode I watch.

I pray you continue to stand up to the negativity in "that" circle.

You a have such a huge fan group at Realis Medspa!!!
YOU ROCK!!!

p.s. I took the "which housewife are you," and was absolutely sure I would be told I was like you. I nearly died when the result showed I was like TAMARA!!! I call bullS%$! on that.

Peace be with you,

Carin Johnson, Medical Esthetician
Realis Medical Spa
Houston, TX 77065
281-955-5282
realismedicalspa.com

Hey Gretchen,

I lost my mother a year ago and surely understand what you have gone through. I just wanted to tell you that you have crossed that desert and survived. It will always hurt when you think of him but I find that remembering the fun times gets me up in the morning. Much sympathy going your way sweetie.

Well, you certainly told Tamara off didn't you? Atta Girl!!! It is so obvious that she is really jealous of you, I find it amusing that she reverts to a four yr old when she is around you, to the point of childlike immaturity. The green eyed monster bit her in the butt and seems to have not let go of it.

You hold your head up because Tamara might not like you but I bet her husband does. Ha!Ha!Ha!

Amy Hoffmann
Airway Heights, Washington (The State)

Hey Girlfriend.

I would so love to hang with you Gretchen. You are so beautiful and genuinely a nice person. I am so sorry for your loss. I feel you honestly loved Jeff and made the best out of a horrible situation. I hope his children are well.

I was SOOOOOO excited to see you and Slade together. OMG. That is the best. You two are so cute. I hope you find peace. I have been the victim of jealous women so I totally get it. God Bless Girlfriend. You Go Girl. I am so happy for you.

Vermont Mom of 4 and married 20 years.

Dear Sweet Beautiful Gretchen,
I just wanted to tell you that God only tests us that are the strongest with taking someone that is so special to us with cancer. My Father died of the same type of cancer that Jeff had when I was only 17 years old... just beginning to start my adult life. And that's something only someone that has been through can understand. That sometimes you have to remove yourself from normal life. Sometimes you do get lost or have a hard time finding your way back from that place you have went to so you can feel something... anything... but when you are strong like you are you will begain to come back to life... and each and everytime you see Jeff's face remember his smile and the sound of his voice when he always told you he loved you... and you will know that he always will. I know you will still cry... as I have while I wrote this, but remembering that smile always warms the heart enough to slow the tears.

GRETCHEN
FIRST I AM SO SORRY OF YOUR LOSS OF JEFF... HE WAS YOUR LOVE AND ALWAYS WILL... I WAS VERY SHOCK TO SEE YOU ARE GOING OUT WITH SLADE... HOW DOES HE EX'S JO FEEL ABOUT IT? CAUSE I KNOW YOU TWO WOMEN WERE FRIENDS... ARE YOU NOW? BUT YOU DO SEEM YOU ARE VERY HAPPY AND THAT WHAT COUNTS... DON'T WORRY ABOUT OTHERS WHO JUDGE CAUSE IT MEANS THAT THEY ARE JEALOUS.. BEST WISHES I DO HOPE YOU SLADE DO WORK OUT.. JEMA GUTH THE REALHOUSEWIFE OF ALLENTOWN PA

G -

I think that you are doing an UNBELIEVABLE job of maintaining your sanity during this crazy time in your life. No one but you and Jeff know what really transpired. I cannot believe that there are people on this earth that are so jealous and evil that they would judge you for your choices in life.
Who cares?!! You are a totally beautiful, funny, goofy, awesome person. I will continue to watch the show...however you are the only truly interesting story worth tuning in for!

-Lana

(BTW...way to go on landing your hottie, Slade! He seems to be just the right medicine for your heart AND soul! :)

Gretchen -
You are very brave to be going through what you are. Three years ago I lost my fiance of 8 years a few weeks before we were to be married. I started dating about 6 months after his death and we ended up getting married a few months ago. We lost many friends once we started dating, but just know that nobody, especially the other girls on the show, has been in your shoes. It's so easy to judge from the outside, but unless you have actually been there, you just don't know. Who says how long you should be single?! I know the drama that started once I started dating again, there is just no way I could have done that in the public eye. Again, I commend you and I think it's great that you have found happiness once again.

Emily

Dear Gretchen
You are my favorite housewife by far.. But may I ask why do you still wear your engagment ring while your with Slate?

Gretchen,

You are my favorite housewife.....you are beautiful and funny and smart. Don't ever regret things you have done in your life, if you learn a lesson from them, then they served their purpose. Only regret the things you didn't have the chance to do and opportunities missed. Keep doing your thing girl :)

Gretchen,

Congratulations and blessings are sent your way. You deserve to be happy and should not let anyone guilt you into being anything less. If Slade makes you happy, and fills a void, then be happy! Your ex wouldn't want anything less as devoted as he seemed. You are so lovely and young, that women will speak hatefully of you. However, it shouldn't be accepted or tolerated.

You are in a position to make choices that the other housewives have already made. To find a young, virile, compatible person who can be devoted and loving! Someone who looks to you with love, passion, desire and humor. Not disdain, anger, hate, resentment or even envy. Hopefully he'll be well off, but if you've got the money that'll work too.

Gretchen be free, and young until you get shacked up and pregnant. In that order please. God willing, once a pregnancy and children come you'll have to stop partying for a minute!

Good luck!

Gretchen...you obviously filled some void in Jeff's life and he did for you as well. He was clearly a very smart man and you were a burst of energy and life he needed. The next time any of those girls start their hen-kackling your only response should be: Call Jacqueline in NYC... she has something to say to you!
I got your back girl!!

hey grech,
you are a wonderful person. just pray and ask god to give you the strangth,and what path he wants you to take, and he will answer you. i've been where you are having girls talk about you and just being kattie. now i have a family and a loving husband that adors me because i got stronger and got thoughs people out of my life. you will find that your life will be a lot easier. my prays are with you. sending hugs and wishing you all the happiness

Gretchen you are my favorite housewife keep jeff in your heart and move on with your life everyone deserves to be happy!

Dear Gretchen,
You are my favorite housewife on the show!!! I love you! Just keep being your fun-loving self and don't let anybody bring you down with negativity. You are such a strong and beautiful young woman! Don't let those jealous haters get to you. When I see you on the show, you pretty much have the same personality as I do...an outgoing girl that just likes to have fun and live life to the fullest! I'm so glad to see that you are happy with Slade and that he his helping you move on after Jeff by bringing so much joy, happiness, and just bringing out the best in you! :) Ya'll make such a cute couple!! If a man makes you laugh and smile like Slade does when ya'll are hanging out with each other, then he is a keeper! :) lol! But like I said, just let all that unneeded drama roll off your shoulders, because you have more class unlike "some" people..and I think you know who I am talking about lol! I have to keep telling myself that when it comes to dealing with drama..especially in the college world. Anyway, God Bless and love ya lotz! :)

I am going start a campaign to 'Get rid of VICKI, and get Jeanna back!"

Gretchen, you're amazing - for your honesty, genuineous, and thick skin. Enjoy your life to the fullest.

gretchen,

you are great and i am sorry you have to deal with the ugliness of the other housewives...they are so green...funny how all the money they have cannot buy them class and true beauty...your true beauty is obvious...don't let them bring you down...they are tired!

best wishes with your endeavors

GRETCHEN!!! Dont listen to those 2 haters...I cant stand them, their real colors show through all the time when they have the individual comments. blah...I think you are awesome...you seem like you are a fun person and blast to be around!!! You rock!

You go girl! You are my life-size Barbie doll! Enjoy Life and live it as you want. Dont let anyone tell you how to live your own life.

Gretchen,

All I can say is YOU GO GIRL AND SHAKE THOSE HATERS OFF!!!!!!!!

You are the perfect in your looks and you will find that there are people who will hate that. Live life to the fullest and don't worry you have one person to answer to about your actions and that's GOD.

Hello, I know this post is a couple of days old but I wanted to put my thoughts into what had happened. I don't think there is anything wrong with you dating Slade you loved Jeff and you always will. Don't listen to the other housewives they are just jealous of your life. You keep doing what you do. You are a strong woman don't let anyone get you down.

Gretchen,Gretchen, my dear sweet Gretchen

wow what can i say i watched the whole season and u guys are drama queens....why in the god's name would you let vicki or tamra talk you that way? is the no-way in hell that they would ever treat me that way! they were never your friends the only true friend that you have on the show jeana

Gretchen, I lost my Dad a few months ago and we (mom, me & my 9yr.old daughter) all took care of him, my husband had to work to pay all medical bills. You know how that can pile up on you. Between Tamera & Vicki you finally handled yourself. I was very pleased to see Jeana take-up for you and happy you had plenty of family to lean on. I just want to say we are not the only ones who feel these loses. It just feels like it because it is happening to us. I am in my late 40's and still feel the need to say what is on my mind. Make sure you stick to your guns when it comes to people like V & T. Stay strong we will keep watching. We are still gonna miss Jeana alot too.

Gretchen ...you have the sickest hair !!! Your amazing i watch every episode and keep on having fun....dont worry about Tamara she just mad cause your young and beautiful and she broken down ha ha :)

Gretchen,
I think when/if you have children someday maybe you will understand Tamra's perspective. I agree while you are young without kids to have as much fun as you can, but be careful if you have kids.... Good luck with the show!!

I love you so much Gretchy!!! I think that Tamra needs to get over it. I don't get why she doesn't want to move on. Nobody is perfect there is time in life where we all did crazy stuff but that doesn't make us bad ppl. Gretchen keep real girl!!!

Gretchen, you are gorgeous! you are definitely my favorite housewife and you make the show more interesting for the younger audience. keep strong and keep being real. i look up to you,

We all love Gretchen. Not only are you beautiful on the outside, but you have a tremendous amount of beauty on the inside as well!!!!Those negative, JEALOUS, women(Im not going to mention their names) are just evil hate mongers!!!!!! I hope we see a show on just you!! the real woman of the OC.... Gretchen!!

DEAR GRETCHEN..
HI GRETCHEN MY NAME IS LOUISE FROM NEW YORK ..I WANT TO GIVE YOU A LITTLE WORD OF ADVICE...YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMAN THAT WAS INVOLVED WITH A OLDER MAN THA WAS VERY SICK..AND LOST HIS LIFE TO THE WORSE SICKNESS POSSIBLE. I LOST A AUNT AT 43 FROM IT AND I TOOK CARE OF HER TILL THE DAY SHE DIED....YOU SHOULD GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND ENJOY IT WITH OR WITHOUT SLADE..HE IS a cutie but if its a fling or the real thing just enjoy it..and know in your heart that jeff would want you happy..GOD BLESS YOU AND HE REALLY WILL BECAUSE you have a gooD HEART..LOVE LOUISE FROM NEW YORKI..

Tamara Im your big fan!!! love how your personality is so strong and independent seriously you have alot of class and only reason tamara is lost and needs help with her issues yet needs to really grow up and the fact that you have a great personality... i think your independance and your great personality will defintaly get to meet great people rather then this housewives who need to get over there looks!!!

Tamara Im your big fan!!! love how your personality is so strong and independent seriously you have alot of class and only reason tamara is lost and needs help with her issues yet needs to really grow up and the fact that you have a great personality... i think your independance and your great personality will defintaly get to meet great people rather then this housewives who need to get over there looks!!!

Gretchen.......you sweet beautiful spirit. You were placed on this earth for a definite purpose and GOD is oh so proud of you. Jeff is looking down on you and He is smiling. The negative people that is placed in ones lives is for a purpose as well. We are to pray for our enemy. We are to find forgiveness and love for those who hurt us. Life is NOT a dress rehearsal so please dance, live, laugh but most of all LOVE to

Gretchen.......you sweet beautiful spirit. You were placed on this earth for a definite purpose and GOD is oh so proud of you. Jeff is looking down on you and He is smiling. The negative people that is placed in ones lives is for a purpose as well. We are to pray for our enemy. We are to find forgiveness and love for those who hurt us. Life is NOT a dress rehearsal so please dance, live, laugh but most of all LOVE to

Gretchen,
I think that you have added an excitment to the show that just did not exsist before you came aboard. I think that you are the prettiest, most fun and have by far the best personality of any of the woman. (Not to mention a smokin hot body!) As far as this mess with Tamara goes.....girl she has nothing on you! You are beautiful, single, fun sexy as hell and just an all around great personJust don't swaet that bitch. I am happy for you and Slade and you deserve all the happiness that you have coming to you. Your awesome!
Keep up te good work and don't let those jealous gals get under your skin.

Best Regards,
Melony Erice
Berlin, NJ

P.S. I would of come to your yard sale!

Gretchen, I am so proud of you for your candor and class that you have shown under the attacks on you by both tamara and vickie.
Now let me go to your loss. I lost my husband 6 years ago and I still get angry at him for leaving me. And I was left in a terrible finacial situation I still have not recovered from. There are still days I cry and just sleep my way through a sadness so deep I feel numb inside. On a happier not I have found love again with a man is totally different then my husband. We plan to marry next fall. I hope you can find that happiness with Slad, But please be careful. You are still in mourning and vunerable to anything that masks that pain.If slade is the one go for it, just think with your head too do not rely just on your heart.
Keep stand up for yourself.
!

Hi Gretchen. I've been hooked on Housewives for a couple of years, and You (along with Bethany from NY) are my favorite housewife. I don't typically blog but I feel compelled, for some strange reason, to share my feelings with you. I usually don't meddle in people's lives; but you (or your "character") fascinate me. Typically, I live by the old rule that if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all.

Anyhow, I watched the reality show with Jo and Slade and I have to tell you, I don't think Slade is right for you. He treated Jo like a baby and he was a whiner. He doesn't even talk normal; instead, he is condescending, and you are WAY better than that. You could easily hook up with a younger, better looking, fit, and nice guy. Stay single for a while and see what happens.... Thanks for listening.

Gretchen I love your vitality and zest for life, I wish it could be bottled and girl you could make tons of money. I am so glad you let Tamra have it. So have fun with Slade and I wish you all the happiness!