Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen talks about her confrontation with Lynne, the sleepover, and her psychic reading!

on Jan 15, 20100

 

Hi Guys,

Hope everyone is well. We all should stop and take a moment to pray for all the people and families hurting from the tragedy in Haiti. May God bless every person that is hurting or who has lost a loved one.

To be honest every week I struggle with my blog. I feel like no matter what we (cast members) say, someone will misconstrue it at some point, whether it is a response from a fan or someone else from another blog world that picks up our words and puts it into their stories. This for me is a place to share behind the scenes if you will. A place to give you a little more insight to the very small percent of our lives the show airs. It is impossible to share all aspects of our lives in the short hour we are on every week. In writing the blogs I have realized that no matter what you say, someone will have something to say about the way you said it. For instance one week everyone will be saying, “You should stick up for yourself and say something to her for the way she treated you.” Then when you finally do, the next week the consensus is, “You should take the high road and not say anything.” When we give behind the scenes insight into what took place in an episode it’s, “You don’t need to explain yourself so much” or “You're being defensive” etc. So you can understand how difficult it is sometimes to write our blogs. It truly makes me laugh to see how up and down it goes. This is why I have committed myself every week to writing from my heart, and more than likely it will be long because I have a big heart!

I am the kind of person who hates to see people hurting, so no matter how many times it might bite me in the ass I will always extend my hand, it’s just the right way to be. We start out this week with Lynne and I going for a walk in the park, with a very interesting metaphor of her and my dogs in the park. It sets up the scene for our talk together and why I have concerns for her daughter. I remember being very concerned about her dog possibly running into the street as she was chasing her around the park, and it was just making my stomach turn. I wouldn’t want to see that happen to Lynne or her dog. As I stated in my talk with Slade on the couch when I got home, I was very taken back by Lynne’s demeanor towards me in the park that day. I really felt Alexa and I had a good talk and that she shared some things with me that day that I know she did not share with her mom afterwards (the footage did not show all of our conversation in the store that day). I sincerely was concerned about her and all I wanted to do was communicate with Alexa that I had heard her crying out for attention on three separate occasions and therefore I was there to let her know someone was listening. I never once spoke an ill word about Lynne or Frank and who they are as parents. I never wanted to give Alexa advice either; I wanted to let her know someone cared and was there to listen if needed because I had been there before. A few episodes back Alexa even said herself that her mother never listens or hears her and that they don’t communicate. So for Lynne to pretend that they talk about everything seems very odd to me. Thank you to all the fans who wrote me e-mails supporting my concerns and intentions.

 

615 comments
Viewer from Canada
Viewer from Canada

Gretchen stay the way you are. You have managed to rise above the low-class bickering and back stabbing. With some of the things I have seen that went on i.e. the racetrack snub, the dinner party where Tamra got you drunk and hope you would make a fool of yourself, it could not have been easy. I hope you can remain the unselfish, caring individual you are. Those of us whom were given external beauty will always be forced to face those who are not as lucky and resent it. Those are the dues we have to pay to be beautiful.

Tonya Dixon
Tonya Dixon

Gretchen ~ I think you are a beautiful person. Stay true to who you are! I admire your spirit and how you never stoop to the other housewives level. Especially Vickie!!!! She is so judgemental... and has the audacity to cry when she's criticized, but she is so quick to criticize others. I wish you much success in everything you do!!!

sasiesas
sasiesas

I think your hot and such a lovely housewife. Your concerns for Alexa were so right and Lynn is in denial. I dont see why you have to have had kids to offer advice and help someone in need. I think you are awsome. You look great too and I am sure that is a BIG reason why the other housemates seem to pick on you. They are so jealous. Good luck with all that you do and I look forward with catching up with the show. But just be carefully of Slade I do not know him but just make sure he takes good care of you and does not hurt you as you do not deserve it.

Lydia0001
Lydia0001

Gretchen, I dont know if you ever read or respond to these, but this is what I have to say. I will start with Jeff, it drove me nuts when the girls gave you a hard time about his passing instead of supporting you. I realize it may have played out differently on the show than it did in real life, but from what I seen they were quick to judge just because it was something to talk about. The way I see it is, even if the accusations about you and Jeff were true (not saying they are)atleast he died happy, and thats all that matters. Second is the drunk night, LOL that was hilarious, if I were you, I would do the same to the girls who participated in getting you wasted. I dont know many people who can stay classy while consuming copious amounts of tequila haha. It drove me nuts that people kept saying you dont have kids, your suggestions and concerns dont matter until you have them. Sooo does that mean that the mother doing crack in the house with her children and prostituting herself out does have a say, because she does have children? It doesnt make sense??? I guess its really annoying having to deal with emotions and situations over and over again, since all this happened a long time ago haha.

M Ceu W
M Ceu W

You looked amazing in that blue and white monokini that you are wearing in the opening song of the show. Do you know where I can find one? Thanks!

floridaHW
floridaHW

WONDERING IF YOU ANSWER QUESTIONS THAT WE ASK YOU IE.WHERE TO GET THAT DRESS, MAKEUP , ETC I REALLY NEED TOKNOW THE NAME OF THE BOOK ON THE COUNTER,''''NEW YORK COFFEE OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT, THAT WAS IN YOUR KITCHEN,YOU WERE TALKING TO SLADE AND GETTING READY FOR LYNN AND HER HUSBAND TO COME OVER FOR DINNER.YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT YOU WANTED TO CLEAR THE AIR ABOUT HER DAUGHTER

PLEASE SENF INFO.........THANKS

crowe26
crowe26

I THINK LYNN IS A GREAT HEARTED LADIE. BUT I HAVE HAD A HARD CHILDHOOD AND WISH THERE WAS SOME ONE LIKE YOU THERE FOR ME... I ENEDED UP 16 AND PREGNAT AND I KNOW HAVE 3 GREAT KIDS... AND I AM MARRIED TO THE FATHER OF ALL THREE.. BUT SOMETIMES I THINK HE IS JUST WITH ME FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS..(KIDS) I JUST LOST MY MOM AT 18 AND LOST MY DAD IN NOVEMBER.. I AM DISABLED AND CANT BUT MY KIDS MUCH AND I WISH I WOULD HAVE SOMEONE LIKE YOU TO TALK TO. I WANTED TO GO TO COLLEGE BUT NOW IT IS TO LATE I AM 28 AND I THINK YOUR HEART WAS IN THE RIGHT PLACE . I DONT LIKE YOU WITH SLADE I THINK YOU CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER LOVE YA

rocio matta
rocio matta

i want the strapless yellow dress Gretchen wore 4 d tupperware party, where do i buy it?

deanna  Toland
deanna Toland

gretchen!!! where did you get that blue dress that you wore to the dinner that was fancy when alexis spit out the food? i want to wear it for my schools homecoming next year(: let me kno

deanna

Danielle K
Danielle K

Even though I don't agree with some of your choices, I do see that you are good hearted & mean well. Especially when talking to Alexa. (Who by the way needed someone to step in) I believe Lynn over-reacted because you saw Alexa's pain & took the initiative, instead of Lynn taking that opportunity. Her motherly instinct made her believe that you were attacking her by addressing the situation. Unfortunately, Alexa looked too spoiled to appreciate your efforts. Also, I am so glad that you do stand up for yourself when it comes to senarios with Vicki. Yes, she is one of the "original" housewives. She is the kind of person that fights change. She needs to realize that this is now the end of season five. It's sad that she is too busy being snarky to develope friendships with the "new" girls. Her obvious jealousy toward you & Alexis continues to make her look like more of a jerk. And that is putting it nicely. Keep up the blogging. It's always great to hear from you girls. And remember people want to hear what you have to say, so screw what the so-called haters think. Your fans believe in you. Stay sunny and sweet girl!!!

Saleena Kincade
Saleena Kincade

Dear Gretchen,

so when i took the "which housewife are you?"quiz i got you!i just want to say that from what i've seen, people think that u havent been in their shoes and are quick to jump ur throat for not having their experiences. But sometimes it doesnt take experience to simply state ur opinion or advice on the topic. You're young but i can tell that you have this quality where you're a genuine person. It doesnt matter who they are, what they're going through,if its somebody you know,you just dont want to see them in a bad situation. I'm the exact same way. Regardless of my past with someone or how others look at them, it doesnt matter,a person is a person. I truly think you're genuine person for wanting to help others.You have a great way of talking to others.You're strong for putting up with the other housewives' behavior towards you,yet you dont try to bring anyone else down for doing it to you. And of all the people in this world, that is what makes a genuine person.Hope you're doing well. Keep up with the good work =)

Sincerely, Saleena Kincade

rea
rea

I have nothing against you. I lead a busy life and dont watch a lot of TV. But I like this show because I like watching the type of clothes you guys wear so I can get it off ebay hopefully. I also love your hair. I know its extensions but the style is suitable to what I have been looking for. The thing is the only thing I dont care for is that your not married or have kids so giving advice when you dont have that experience makes no sense. I know they throw in a single person in to stir up the pot and that works for your show. So I guess this is just that.

monicanapavalley
monicanapavalley

I think you are awesome and had only the best intentions with Alexa...and I think Alexa has major problems with lying, I've heard her contradict everything she's said. As harsh as it may sound I think that Lynne was right when she said Alexa is acting....She lies and it's kind of weird. In every situation/scene she's in she lies/contradicts herself.

Mia P
Mia P

Gretchen,

I watch the show all the time. At first I like you because you seemed to have a light fun loving way. As episodes went on I found myself constantly annoyed by your condescending 'holier than thou' attitude. You think you can spew judgments just because you prelude it with "I'm not perfect but..." The episode where you and Slade lay into Lynne was horrible. You have no experience parenting and had no right to preach or judge. "Those who can't, preach"

Mary Kate
Mary Kate

Gretchen ~ I love watching you on the show and fully support you. I think all of the housewives are way too hard on you, for absolutely no reason, and over react constantly. You did nothing wrong in wanting to help Lynn's daughter. I'm sorry you have to constantly defend yourself against their nonsense, but hope you continue to do so. You have character, courage and a great sense of humor. Stay strong and know that you are loved by many viewers and for some reason the rest of them have to misconstrue what you say and do. Oh well if they don't get it. Cause a lot of us do. Bless you and stay well.

Gretchen Was Right to Reach Out
Gretchen Was Right to Reach Out

Gretchen - No matter what Lynne says, you were right to reach out to Alexa. Looking at previews of the finale, this girl is pushing it, and is more and more out of control. I feel for her; her parents have created an incredibly unstable situation for years, and at 17, it seems to be coming to a head for her. This is what happens when parents don't place any boundaries on kids. Apparently the parents didn't place boundaries on themselves either with their spending, and it has created total chaos for their family. I hope and pray that Alexa and Raquel don't meet with a tragic end. I don't believe that parents should be dictators, but surely they bear more responsibility than trying to be their kids' buddies and never saying "no."

In reality, it would have been so much easier for Gretchen to say nothing and not take a risk, but she reached out anyway and took whatever criticisms came her way for speaking up. Every parent should be happy to have a friend like Gretchen, who didn't take the easy way out, and was *supporting* Lynne's role as a parent, not challenging it. It is people like Gretchen who help form the "village" we increasingly need to raise a child.

The suicides this week of Growing Pains star Andrew Koenig, 18-year old Michael Blasil (Marie Osmond's son) and in the Philadelphia area, two girls, 15 and 16, who committed suicide together in a suicide pact -- and were waiting for a third girl to join them -- show that teen and young adult depression and its effects are very real. Neither Gretchen nor anyone else should ever feel bad for embarrassing a parent when they see a kid in freefall. They could be saving a life in the process.

YouGoGirl75
YouGoGirl75

Gretchen, Watching these last couple of episodes have been making me crazy! Lynne totally overreacted and was so mean to you for ABSOLUTELY no reason, about you talking to her daughter. If she even took the time to watch the episode when you were talking to Alexa she would see that you were only being there as a friend or a shoulder to lean on if she needed someone. Just letting her know that people love her and will always be there for her. You were there for a friend to Alexa and never once did you put down Lynne or her parenting. If Lynne even went back and watched the episode when she hired a therapist and watched what Alexa said, she would see that she felt like Lynne wasn't always there for her, and didn't feel that she always listened to her. If I had a friend that love my children enough to let them know that they were always there for them, what hurt would that do. You never once put down Lynne's parenting you were only extending an olive branch to Alexa letting her know that you cared and would be there for her she needed you. Kudos to you Gretchen! I think you are great! You are one of the most down to earth housewives on the show. Why Lynne became so defensive about what you said is completely beyond me. I'm thinking the only reason why she got mad is because Alexa herself kinda of twisted the conversation you had with her and implied you said some things to her that you never did, when she told her mom. Keep up your caring, honest and fun filled ways girl!

Mr. Pants
Mr. Pants

G- About the cosmetics line- who is the actual manufacturer of your line? How difficult was that connection to make?

Nicholeb
Nicholeb

Where did you get your green jumpsuit (appeared to be a cotton material) in the episode with your makeup friend. It was/is SO cute and would love one!

Thanks!!

Theresa Fetterolf
Theresa Fetterolf

Gretchen, you're a sweet person. You did absolutely nothing wrong with Lynne's daughter. She took it the wrong way and too personally! You never told her how to raise her child, you were just there to offer a hand and for her to be able to talk to someone besides Lynne. You are right, she would not have said anything to her Mother, teenager's are that way and this is wired into them at birth! Lynne got defensive because she has never disciplined her children since they were born and now she can't because they are too old to ground them. Her kids are way too pampered & I'm glad their not mine. They should have more respect for their parents. Anyway, kudo's on your makup line. Too bad you didn't have more women there, but I hope you do well in your future endeavors with it.

judy gressViewer
judy gressViewer

I just want to tell grechen that i no what she was talking about to lynn about her daughters, Grechen was only trying to help and give her an opinion where Lynn was just to dumb to see. Lynn is so into her own world that she does not no what is going on around her. Poor Frank, Lynn spends money like no tomorrow and wonders why she has none. She pampers her daughters so much with clothes, nose jobs, and plastic surgeries that no wonder Frank can't pay the rent. She blames Frank for all there problems, she better take a good look at herself and her spoiled rotten kids before she looses out, because Frank is to cute and nice to be hanging around single.

Honest & French
Honest & French

Gretchen, Please keep being the way you are. Honest and carrying. I love to see you laugh about the drama that goes on between the others, even when you are in the middle of it and sometimes painfully affected by it, you know how to make fun of dramatic situation. Only very smart people are able to reflect on themselves and smile at their own mistakes. It just means you understand. You are not embarrassed anymore but only grown up. I believe you are the most grown of all the Orange County Housewives. Peace.

Gayle Grady
Gayle Grady

Gretchen...Kudos to you!! You so hit the nail on the head, when you confronted Lynne about how she handles her daughters. Children do need and want structure!! Honestly out of all of the housewives she drives me CRAAAZZZYYYY!!

You ae my favorite and the most "real". Oh I could go on and on, but I am not going to waste my energy on nagativity! Keep up the good work and I hope your life stays on a positive path!

cole
cole

I luv you gretchen. Don't worry about what those haters have to say because the saying is i must be doing something right that's why they talking. So keep your head up and do you. And the other housewives are very jealous of you. I like your style and the way you dress and your hair is so beautiful.

Rich C
Rich C

Hey Gretchen, I think you are actually the only real person on the show the rest are fake. I admit you may have made some bad choices in the past but, you own up to them and you are up front about it. I think the other ladies take you the wrong way. I do truly feel you are caring and sincere. I feel they should leave your past in the past as well. I think you were honestly just trying to be a friend to Lynne and she blow it out of proportion and took it the absolute wrong way. Keep being real, sweet and sincere as you are and I think a lot of viewers will be on Team Gretchen. Good job Gretchen show them what class and realness is all about girl.

FollowYourHeart <333
FollowYourHeart <333

Gretchen... First of all, I give you kudos for all you've been through and what you've allowed us, the viewers to peek into your life. I've lost two men in my life whom I've dearly loved and feel for you, having been there, I know it's difficult when you are left to your thoughts about life, purpose and circumstances. You are so brave to get up each day and be with others and to put up with words that were spoken to you from the other women. Now that's said and done... I commend you on being there for Alexa. I do wish that Lynne weren't so hard on you for talking with her. I'm a mother of a teen as well and I do feel fortunate for having friends talk with him when he needs someone other than myself to talk with. (As you can see, I strongly disagree with some comments about mothers not liking people to "go around them" when it comes to their children)... Well, the statement has truth in it, but you didn't go behind her back with an agenda. Fortunately, I have a son who is well-rounded, not spoiled and has ultimate respect for others. *whew!!!* You showed love, compassion and friendship for her... For this part of you I saw, I have respect. Now, I am not saying Lynne is a bad mother, but she and her husband ought to look at it this way: You care/love your friends enough to see a child who is hurting (albeit, a bit of a drama queen, but we all know many kids today are! lol) and be happy you showed much concern to offer your friendship and a shoulder to their daughter. What a wonderful thing, to have a friend who cares as much as you do! You didn't do a thing wrong, but watch, one day they will recognize the reality of the situation and see some light shed on them that your heart was in the right place. Egos were hurt and pride. They are loving parents, just blindsided to the fact they are like most parents... With kids who don't tell them everything. You remember when you were a kid, and that point was clear when you said this... I hope Lynne see this. I do admire you, you are more down to earth and not jaded. Now... That was pretty long, eh? ha ha You have to come back and blog some more, we do miss your lovely blogs (you aren't the only one who writes long!) lol (((hugs)))

AC
AC

Gretchen, you seem like a very sweet person. I believe that you just want to be positive and have fun. What you and Slade said to Lynne made a lot of sense. You never told her how to raise her child. It was obvious that you just wanted to be there for her and were right to trust your instincts. Its a shame that Lynne doesn't see that. I think you just hit on something that bothers her because of the way Alexa is acting. Alexa should have stuck up for you too, instead of pitting her Mom against you. This just shows how she has her Mom and Dad wrapped around her finger. Don't take it to heart, and help someone that will appreciate it!

Oud Oud
Oud Oud

I was so annoyed with Lynn for getting angry at you when you were just trying to help her and I believe that you were sincere Lynn most have felt defensive because she doesn't know how to control her kids...

rreidhaar
rreidhaar

I don't think you anything wrong.... Alexa made you sound like a creep and once again was a drama queen. I would have done the same exact thing you did and have. Lynn had no reason to get so upset with you, I just wish you had told her exactly what was said to Alexa and what she said back. Then maybe things would have been more clear. Gretchen you are my very Favorite housewife. You make me laugh constantly. My Favorite clip of you is when lynn said " oh yeah and your such a good example" you handled that soo well, and i think that all the women were quite shocked, keep being you and stay fun!!! The other women are soo superficial and shallow. Not you you have the most character and depth!!

looloo1182
looloo1182

Gretchen- Where did you you get your monokini that's shown on the intro of the show?!

KerrK
KerrK

Gretchen,

You have so much going for you and I wish you the best of luck. Just dump that loser Slade. There are much better men out thre for you.

Other side of the tracks
Other side of the tracks

Hi Gretchen, Your one of my favorite OC Housewives. I thought that that we were poor but after seeing a few episodes of OC Housewives, It's like were are in the same boat, living beyond our means.

Only diffrence is that over here In SANTA ANA we have a lower cost of living here, which leaves us more money to go out and eat at nice restraunts, go to events, have nice cars, ect.

M1chelle
M1chelle

Gretchen where are you??? I look forward to your long blogs and you haven't blogged for the last episode yet. What's up with that? Hope all is well. Michelle

NWMom
NWMom

Gretchen,

Not a criticism, but maybe a suggestion.... I think you had very good and noble intentions for Alexa, and your concern for her was very selfless. I think the real reason for Lynne's defensiveness is the feeling of someone else stepping into her Mom role. Even though it is clear she needs some advice in that, no Mom wants ANYONE else, no matter who, to 'go around' them to their kids. I really think if you had first approached Lynne and opened up about your childhood and compassion for her daughter (she wouldn't have needed to know about what Alexa had told you) then she would not have had such an issue with you extending your hand to Alexa. I know Alexa is not a little kid, but she's not an adult yet, either. I think Lynne has the best intentions for her kids too, but she's gotten off track trying to keep up with all the stuff that really doesn't matter instead of slowing down, looking her daughter straight in the eye, and really listening to her. All the money and stuff in the world won't make a great childhood if there's not love, time, and some self-sacrifice.

Rebecca Johnson
Rebecca Johnson

Gretchen ur a fav, but I see you going their (Tamra) way some moments. I think the best thing u could have done for Alexa was tell her u were there to listen and give her some insight on being a teen cuz YOU are closer to her age then anyone hehe 1 up gurl! but....I dont think I would have mentioned the talk u and Alexa had bcuz it did'nt seem to be an issue. Teens at that age need a listener true enough but they need someone they can trust and keep secrets. I think Alexa told her mom the conversation ONLY to get her mom wild up so she (Alexa) could get the attention she so badly craves.

Tex's Beauty
Tex's Beauty

LOVE Love LOVE You !!!

Your awesome ... i like the fact your doing your own makeup line. By far i think your the only one with the best face and hair to do so. Some of the other women look so over DONE !!! (tamara)

Love what your doing keep it up!

Angie G
Angie G

You rock stay encouraged. I think your one the most balance people on the show. You have made wise choices in your friend selection and your attempt to intervene, and the world is seeing that. I pray that your love life brings you happiness. Oh and by the way where did you get those two pearl drop earrings they were so cute.

Viewer44
Viewer44

They are normal crazy teenage girls. I don't get the issue. Parents now a days are too overprotective. Give me a break these girls are 17 and 19 they are not babies. Ah new topic.....

LisaDooley505
LisaDooley505

Gretchen, you are my FAV housewife. You are so fun, and beautiful and dont care what people think about you, its great to see you cut up and laugh and some of the things you say are just awesome. I think you are the most real and honest person on the show, and you dont try to pretend to be all snotty like all the other girls. Keep it up, keep true to yourself because no matter what anyone else says, you rock!

Amy MN
Amy MN

Gretchen...You have really grown this year. Continue down the path you are on, taking charge of yourself and your potential business prospects. It is unfortunate that Lynne took your help and advice regarding her daughter the wrong way. You did everything as a friend should have.

Brenda from Texas
Brenda from Texas

Gretchen you are definately my favorite housewife. you are cool, funny, beautiful, not stuck on yourself, cuz ofcourse you don't have too, unlike what's her name..Alexis.. won't even go there.. just be yourself like u have been. u are truly genuine and it shows. That's why the other housewives hate you, because you need no effort to make yourself beautiful. and they on the other hand try too hard. and their attitudes suck. maybe not Lynn. I think she's cool a lil strange. or innocent to a lot of stuff. I felt bad when u tried to help her out with her rotten daughter and it blew up in your face. I wanted to jump in the tv and help you. But you did great. you a very selfless person. i like that about you. although no one sees that. Hey that's there loss they are missing out on a great friend. I would love to be your friend. keep up the good work!!

Jesus
Jesus

You are the most beautiful housewives of all i love u i hope u make a lot of money with your make up u are my favorite good luck with your life bye

Teenie42
Teenie42

I would love to know where to get the bathing suit you wear in the opening of the show it is so pretty. I love all you housewives I believe you all have kind hearts and playful spirits. Just enjoy your lives and families and all will be well. God Bless

JENNIFER SHAY
JENNIFER SHAY

I love you on the show- mostly your style! Where did you get that adorable red/burgundy cloche hat that you wore in San Francisco! I loved it! You really should do a blog that lists where you get all of your beautiful clothes and accessories- you are meticulously put together! Wishing you health, wealth and happiness!

ViewerLisa
ViewerLisa

Hi Gretchen:

I love all your dresses. Would you please tell me where you shop?

Thank you Lisa

davina
davina

Gretchen, I applaud your attempt with Alexa. However Girls at that age are very manipulative. Obviously Lynn will never win Mother of the Year but Alexa wants attention and then doesn't want the restrictions her actions bring. She needs some serious pimp hand upon her backside. As the mother of two girls it only gets worse.....

ANGELICA PACHECO
ANGELICA PACHECO

I THINK U ARE DOING A GREAT JOB AND I WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME AND TOLD ALEXA SHE HAD A FRIEND IF SHE NEEDED ONE U DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG AND WHEN I SAW THAT LYNNE TOOK IT WRONG I WAS KINDA MAD ABOUT THAT CAUSE U DIDNT DO OR SAY ANYTHING WRONG I THINK THAT OUT OF ALL THE GIRLS U HAVE A SWEET HEART AND PEOPLE JUST TAKE IT WRONG BUT UR DOING GOOD SO JUST KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK...

LuC
LuC

Gretchen

You did the right thing with Lynn's daughter. It was very uncomfortable to watch her take it the wrong way, when all you were trying to do was help her. I think it was very kind of you to reach out to her. Everybody should be so fortunate to have somebody like you to reach out to. I thought when you reached out to Vicki's daughter in San Fran was also a class act. I believe Vicki also thought it was very caring of you also. Unfortunately when you are as naturally beautiful as you are - you are open to many jealous or envious people. Hope your cosmetic line is going well for you. I hope as each day goes by the loss of Jeff gets a little easier for you. You are lovely and the real deal. I wish you well.