Jeff really wanted me to do the show, but I was very hesitant. It's scary to put your life on display for public scrutiny, but Jeff really felt we had a special story to tell, that people who have dealt with having cancer or knowing someone with cancer could relate to. He really found it important to show that life can be great with money, but that is not what life is all about. Watching the first episode was very emotional for me — I really, really miss Jeff a lot. It put a smile on my face to see the love we shared and the commitment we had to take care of each other during a very trying time. Sometimes when you are in the mist of it you don't really stop to smell the roses and now having documentation of that time together is very special to me.
It bothers me that it looks like I wasn't physically attracted to Jeff at all - the question that was asked of me was, When I FIRST met Jeff over four years ago, was attracted to him?" I answered honestly and said, "I really didn't see him in that way. Jeff was a client, not someone I was considering dating at the time, and he actually looked like Kenny Rogers or Santa Claus to me when I first met him." Once he and I got to know each other and he was "smitten" with me (about two years later) I fell in love with him on every level - including the physical. But my point was that the physical is really not what was important to me, or why I fell in love with him. I fell in love with Jeff because of the way he treated me and others.
It was really hard to relive the circumstances of Jeff getting diagnosed with cancer, but I almost feel lucky to have a video journal of my emotions and feelings during that time. It helps me remember what life is really all about. I was honest when I said that there were days that I questioned what I was doing, but ultimately my priorities changed because of the circumstances and my love for a wonderful man.
Gretchen - I am so sorry to hear about Jeff- you were so wonderful with him and his kids. Everyone wanted a happy ending for you and Jeff. Please accept my sincere condolences.
I am a Mom and Grandma and I just love you. You are the most beautiful woman, inside and out. I have been a big fan of this show (I am a California West Hills woman!) a long time. Vickie had her good points - can't stand her now. Tamara is pretty but pretty ugly now- JEALOUS women-UGLY WOMEN. Stay the same sweet beautiful woman you are.
Gretchen, I was very saddened to hear about the loss of Jeff, and extend to you my condolences. You made this season the best yet and without even trying, dethroned Tamra of the hottest housewife title, due to your sunny optimistic attitude about life and others in it. It showed a lot of your inner beauty as well as the outside beauty you are not just about. Stay true to yourself and keep that great attitude you have about others and their tactics to try being something they are not. The Camera don't lie! and you have a huge amount of viewers who love you for who you are, not what you are to haters sippin' on the Haterade!! You are Loved!! See you next season!!- Sunny in Solana Beach!
Gretchen, I really enjoyed watching you every week. Just as the above others have stated, you truly are beautiful inside and out. Where as Tamara & Vicki are the complete opposite. Their clearly so jealous of you they cant stand it. Looking forward to seeing you next season. All the Best!
I am so sorry about Jeff's passing. No matter what anyone thinks you took care of him and were there for him and loved him cause you wouldn't have put yourself through all you went through just for money. I hope to see you on next season! God Bless you
Gretchen, I am a housewife junkie from the beginning. When I watched the finale this season and saw Gina come on at the end to announce to us the viewers that Jeff lost his battle with Cancer I cried like a baby and all I could think of was YOU!!!! You were so in love with him and maybe the rest of those jealous women on the show will see it for themselves. The jealousy on that show especially Vicky and her kids oh my if she only knew what her kids really do behind her back . Gretchen Im so glad you came on the show but now my heart is sadden by Jeff's death but you do have your memories now and do keep in touch with Jeffs kids they really care for you I know thats what I saw in the show the times they were on. Then there is Tamara what she did to you at the dinner party at her home she had all that Tequila crap planned you saw here telling Vicky lets get her bombed and they did. Tamera and Vicky are so jealous of you and it shows. Vicky and her Husband he needs to leave her NOW Lets talk about the watch she bought for herselve and shows it off and everything she does..... Flirting needs to stop VIcky . Gretchen my best to you see you next season. OC Biggest Fan...Thanks
Gretchen- I loved you on the show! You are the sweetest girl...so full of fun and warmth. I hope that everyone sees through Vicki and Tamara after this season. I really didn't dislike them until they treated you so badly and showed their true colors. I am so sorry about Jeff and can tell that you did indeed loved him very much. I hope that I see you on the show next season but would understand if you didn't want to be associated with those women again. Good luck in the future and keep your head held high.
Gretchen: I admire the way you cared for Jeff. I went through the same thing with my husband for over 3 years and lost him 4 years ago to the same thing Jeff had. You feel so helpless and acting strong and putting on a good front is very difficult after awhile, but you did an amazing job. It is awesome that his children get along so well with you,but I can imagine that you would bring out the best in anyone. I don't think you have a fake bone in your body, and as far as Tamara is concerned, she is so jealous of you, it's like a neon sign. Best of luck to you.
Gretchen I hope this comment finds you well. Let me give you a male perspective. No matter what your relationship was with Jeff -- it was between the two of you. Tamara and Vicki are two aging women that are probably jealous (in competition actually) of your youth and beauty. And Tamara I think is what I call PWT that married a dude with a decent paying job then popped out a few kids for security. Her son Ryan is a loser, the product of PWT love and I think you nailed it, she put her son up to seducing you after she delibirately got you drunk (she was not drunk herself). I think Simon is the one who should be careful -- Tamara is nothing more than a modern day "Ma Barker." Hell think about it, her son was flirting with his elderly cousin? Now on to Vicki, she is a social climbing, ungrateful not-so-attractive 40 something woman that wants to be young again, but jumps into mother mode when its convenient. You dont owe them or anyone an explanation or details about your relationship with your deceased fiance. Stop trying to understand them and be their friend. Final thoughts, Simon nor Don can afford the type of life and things Jeff was offering you. In short, Tamara and Vicki wished they were in your position. Simon is always trying to keep up with George and Don is a cool dude that has nuveau riche wife (Vicki) that tries to keep up with Simon. Grieve and get on with your life, Jeff would probably want it that way. God Speed!
Gretchen - You were so right when you said....no one can predict how they might respond or act if in the same situation as you had been with Jeff. My best recommendation, especially for Tamara and Vicki is to remove their "seasoned judgement hats". There is a big part of me that has to wonder how much of what is said on the show is staged or somewhat rehearsed, primarily from Tamara and Vicki. For two women of their age, to be acting and saying the things that come out of their mouth, I hardly find possible. Unless the Ego's they portray on the show are in fact "real". If so, their time will come. Unfortunately, the bigger the Ego, the harder the fall. For the first time since I've watched this show, I have actually found myself laughing instead of rolling my eyes.... and it has been because of you Gretchen. You are extremely funny and have a great, contagious laugh. I can only imagine how much joy and fun you bring to those whom you are close to. Hope to see you next season and may your life always be filled with wonderful memories of Jeff.
The reunion show made you look amazing and yet again Tamara like the jealous old hag hater that she is and always will be. I wanted to tell you that I lost my father to cancer, and for you to have fun at Bass Lake is what Jeff needed. He needs to know that you are able to smile when he is gone,,,, not fall apart! Like you said he needed to know you were okay before he left you. As for Tamara that girl is the gold digger,,, only her hubby is a no job having ex car salesman or manager or whatever he thinks he is. But most of all he and she are as ugly on the outside as they are on the in.... and you my doll are amazing, funny, and gorgeous,,,, and please date and move on that is what Jeff would want! xoxoxoxo
I just wanted to let you know that I'm sorry for your loss. I watched the reunion show and I couldn't believe how nasty these women were not only to you, but to Lynn. They are sooo jealous!!! You showed such class and I'm so glad you didn't take any of their crap. Good luck and best wishes. Can't wait until next season.
I am sadden to hear the passing of Jeff. I know you two loved each other very much. I'm a big fan of the show and like many others agree that Tamara and Vicki are JEALOUS of you! You are truly a beautiful person. My deepest regards to you and Jeff's children.
I have stage 4 cancer and I'm soon-to-be 60 (ouch) but I can see through people like nobody can, (my 4 kids tell me that all the time) YOU are the sweetest and most believable and most "credible" woman on this show. Tamra and Vicki are just pathetically jealous of who you are and the authentic person that you are and you need to move on to a better show than Housewives of OC because you deserve better than the way these mean-spirited women treat you. Pathetic, wow. I wish you the best ... you are a gorgeous woman and I hope the best for you.
Gretchen, You rock! You are totally a great and sincere person. We all have our obsessions. Tamra is a botox using sex crazed fiend. Vicki needs a real man and is a work crazed fiend. You are the reason I watch Housewives OC. I could see how sincere you were with Jeff. I saw how obvious it was that you were in love with EACH OTHER! YOU ARE the hottest housewife! You are a good person, and it shows all the time. I am 12 yrs. old. I would be flattered if you would consider having lunch with me. I would totally love to meet you. Please answer. Stay the beautiful person you are, inside and out! Thank you, Tyler
ohhhh My Sizzlin Gretchen! Me and my daughter are gonna miss you so much!!!!!!!!! She does her GRETCHEN HAIR,,, and her GRETCHEN CLOTHES!! lol your our best gal pal...We love you and Jeff.. God Rest his tired body.... You are smokinnnnn with your flirttty sweetie pie self.. Let your haters be your motivators.... Vicki is a wilted flower.. She should of got her acne face taken care of then the watch she bought for herself. Tamra craps on her own parade being so jealous of you..... I really think she honestly stays up at night trying to out do you... I new you would never wear that pink hat to the races!!!!!!! YOU DID IT BECAUSE YOU COULD... and you knew it would chap her hinney!! lol... ( great silent insult!) God Bless the girls that know how to BRING IT!!! You are the true BOMB SHIQA BOMB BOMB!! GRETCHEN IS THE TRUE QUEEN BEE OF OC! We love you Gretchie all the way from Kansas!!!!!!!! Lisa
Hey Gretchen, Your adorable & fun. Don't let the few jealous ladies get you down! Your love for Jeff showed honey, sorry your journey with him was short.
Hi Gretchen, I am so sorry to hear of Jeff's passing, I was so hoping that he would beat the cancer and the two of you could live long, happy lives together. My father was also 23 years older than my mom. After 2 abusive husbands, my mother met my father and he was her Prince Charming. I was the apple of my dad's eye and so was my mom...he treated her like a queen and expected my sisters and I to do the same. He died of cancer when I was 20 and my mom was 46. She was too young to be a widow and it happened just as they had us girls raised and could do things by themselves. I am so happy that you and Jeff got to spend what time you had together, you are an angel inside and out. I was going to stop watching the show if Laurie wasn't going to be back but after "meeting" you on the show, I knew that I had to watch. You were the best thing the show could have happen to it because you are real and women can relate to you. Stay just like you are and if others don't accept you, it's only because they are jealous and PETTY!!!!! God Bless you Gretchen!!!!
Gretchen I hope that you do come back for another season and I really hope you don't feel the need to justify yourself to the two bimbo's who obviously aren't mature enough to understand anything rational. Geesh! I wish they would loose Tamara and Vicki but they won't because they need the ratings. Do us all a favor and when they do feel the need to control your every move and thought, I feel you should look at them with total disgust and a complete understanding for ignorance! You and Lynne should team up! LOL! and put them in their place for the whole world. Whatcha think?
Gretchen, please come back next season, if not to shake things up, then just because I like watching you and Jeana together. I really think that she does like you, and really does not feel threatened by you. I like you, you are funny and goofy and brighten a room by entering it. I have many friends are much prettier than I am, and I am relieved to say that I am not jealous of them, but love them for who they are inside. Anyway, come back next season, at least this time you would be ready for the "battle of the blondes".
Gretchen, I think you are an amazing woman and happy to see that you held yourself proudly while Tamara was trying to tear you down on the reunion show. Tamara has made choices in her life that clearly show she is 1) not always happy with what she has done and 2) she is judgemental and petty. She has chosen a different road than you but instead of being supportive she is petty and small minded and has to voice her less than intelligent point of view.
Tamara and some of the other "Housewives" (Vicky) have had little education, no cultural exposure, and it shows in their reactions to anything outside of their "bubble world" in the show. Obviously having money does not include people getting smarter or more wise, it has the opposite effect on some.
You do whatever you want and what works for you. You will go far in life. I'm sorry that Jeff passed away, regardless as to his role in your life - you were devoted and lucky to have each other.
Hi Gretchen! I have posted alot on here not to sound weird but I have been waching the show and every show since it started! I have seen jealous things but never this BAD! I is sickning and they are ALOT older and trying to stay yound and ya Tamra 30 is younger compared to 40's!~ Sara/Milw, wI
I never once thought of you as a Gold Digger. Keep smileing and never forget your poise and great energy! Jeff was right; You both had a story to share and how wonderful it would have been to see the Love story continue. I wanted Jeff to get better so badly so others could see what we as oc-viewer friends saw; a tender couple who repected each other tremendously. Thank you for making life brighter and be strong, for Jeff will always be with you.
Im very sorry about your loss, my condolences to you and jeff's kids and thankyou for sharing your story.
your my favorite in the show. I think your doing great puting up with those fake jealous housewife you are the light of the show keep up the good atitude.
Gretchen,I hope this letter finds you well,I am deeply sorry for your loss! It was so obvious that you loved Jeff deeply so with that said I would just like to say that i loved you on the show,youre spirit is amazing and youre fun to watch! Its a shame the other ladies hate you so much especialy Tammy! Please come back next season dont let them win come back and make them hate you more.Youre fab,
Grechen' I'm the BIGGISt FAN i watch the show all the time .I'm very sorry about your loss of jeff . I like you the most on the show .
Gretchen, You are BY FAR the best Housewife! I am so sorry about your loss of Jeff. Despite what Tamra said, I know you were not paid to take care of Jeff. It was obvious of the love between you two. Do not let what Tamra said to you about going to Bass Lake get to you, because you were constantly taking care of Jeff and deserved a vacation! I am very excited to see the next season! :)
Gretchen - you were aces on the show and the only one with class. You did't engage in the eternal girl smashing and I admire you for that. Helping someone through and illness is difficult and you did need to vent. Tamara needs to get a grip - she is out of her prime and far to jealous of you... And vicky don't even get me started on her. She is so immature and I cringe that she does not know how foolish she looks... You rock gretchen - enjoy your life... You gots nuttin to worry about...
Gretchen I am not sure why I even watched the show as I am kind of taken back by the whole idea of lifestyle/values that some of these women live by, however watching the show with you brought back some reality for the rest of the women that are not represented in this show. I am talking about women with integrety, intelligence, common decency toward others, a love that goes unexplained and understood and a strength that allows one to show true self despite her flaws and be very ok with it. I don't care about the drunk episode at Tamera's dinner-how many of us women have made a poor choice-everyone! The whole show reminded me of middle school girls trying to get in with the right group and you Gretchen, you held your own. You be-friended everybody and was true to yourself-Good for you.
I probably won't watch the show next season as it was kind of depressing and not sure I want to be reminded of how awful people are or can be. I just hope you can move on, take care of yourself and continue to be the strong woman that you are!
G It is apparent that you have a beautiful heart. Don't ever loose that because that is what truly makes you beautiful. I love that you could find a moment to steel away and have fun in the midst of so much sorrow. My thoughts are with you and know that many people out there saw a really good person in you. Keep your chin up and keep smiling!
Gretchen, I loved watching you because you have a true and good heart. What the people on the show don't know is that despite editing, we at home get a pretty true picture of the person we're watching. It doesn't take long either. We may not see all that takes place in the lives of the different women, but we see how they behave, what they say, what they do.
You are a loving, classy, wonderful woman. Ignore T and V, they were jealous of you from the moment they saw you. No matter what your life was like they would have found reason to hate you. God bless you. We love you.
Gretchen!!! All I have to say is You are my favorite. Put aside everything thats happened, you're beautiful kind hearted and a joy to watch. I only have one to thing say about drama between you and Tamra. Pure JEALOUSY! You rock G!
Gretchen,sorry for your lose,I could see you loved Jeff very much.I know from just watching you last year and this year you have got tough,stay that way and don't take No crap off Tamra.I think she is just jealous of you and that is why she is such a B.Just be your self and let what everyone says about you just roll off your back.Take care and be strong and you will get through anything.
Gretchen, I think you rock on the show, you are my favorite. You remind me of myself when I was your age. You have a very kind heart and have alot of beauty inside and out. I would have loved to hang out with you in my hay day! Stay strong and don't allow those other housewifes to mess with you.